Capricorn's 2nd Decan Influence: "Faithfulness" (Dec 31st - Jan 9th)
The second lesson of Capricorn is "Faithfulness" (Dec. 31st - Jan. 9th). "Faithfulness" is described as "knowing you can do something, and the trust others have in you to get it done." The word "faithful" is an adjective describing one that is "true to one's word, "loyal", and "constant". Under the umbrella of Capricorn's two key ideas, "I use" and "I serve", let's examine how faithfulness plays a role in empowering us to be a more functional, capable being.
Faithfulness to ... Ourselves?
Perhaps most prominently, the term "faithfulness" conjures ideas of God and religion. But throughout our society, our everyday in-our-face reality, in newspapers, magazines, on television and the internet, the word "faithfulness" is most closely used alongside the idea of "unfaithfulness". Thanks to the overwhelming penetration of today's mainstream media, particularly political and entertainment news, when we hear the word "faithfulness" we often immediately associate it with "adultery". It is hard to get through a day, and almost impossible to make it one week, without hearing of someone's questionable, or usually by then obliterated, faithfulness to his or her partner. Not only does this constant bombardment of infidelity news heighten our suspicions of each other, but it cunningly persuades us to make exceptions for our own. "If he can do, why can't I?" Even if we conclude "no, I shouldn't", we've already wasted your own energy, time, and mental capacity thinking about something unassociated with our daily goals.
If we are to use "faithfulness" as a tool for empowering ourselves, we must relearn it. The idea of "faithfulness" is a gem that has been buried under the garbage of broadcasted gossip and it's time we, as wise and thinking people, reclaim this idea for our own capability and functionality. First we must relearn what the word "faithfulness" means, and then we must use it to examine OURSELVES!
Identify Faith Through Quiet Contemplation
The word "faithfulness" is a noun used to name the capacity we have for staying true to our word. It can be small, it can be deep, it can be altered. Faithfulness is our reliability, and an unmistakable part of our personal character.
Let's shine the light of our awareness square on this idea and reiterate. Faithfulness is OUR RELIABILITY. It has much less to do with the character of others and much more to do with our own. And as a dynamic part of our character, isolating our reliable strengths and exercising them increases our capacity for possessing a stable, stronger, more defined version of this character trait, the characteristic of faithfulness. When we come to know to what we are faithful through quietly examining our words and actions, we can speak and act in ways that continue to serve that purpose. We take stock in our faith, drawing upon it to lead us well, and consequently others come to discover that they can take stock and faith in us.
Faith Throughout the Day
How Much Faithfulness Do I Have?
The answer is as much as anyone else, but to what?
If we have little faithfulness, we are not well trusted by friends and family. We can sense that, and it is depressing and frustrating to believe others think we're useless. Not one of us is useless. But if we continuously fail to delivery what we have promised, both we and others can believe we are.
If we have too much faithfulness, we are heavily relied upon by friends and family. We can sense that, too, and it is overwhelming and exhausting to be at the service of others. We are all useful. But if we continuously answer the demands of others impulsively, we become a servant to the goals of others.
It's interesting to recognize that the end result of both of the above situations is oftentimes a feeling of despair. When enduring the same lack of satisfaction in our day over and over again becomes routine, it may become habit to just drink, drug or gamble the rest of the day away. Both situations are overwhelming, and we need balance to maintain.
Remember from the article of Capricorn's key ideas, "I use" and "I serve", (which can be found here), this month is about bringing an awareness to HOW we use and WHAT we serve. We are examining the balance between use and abuse; to use without abusing, and to be of use without being abused, in order to become more capable and functional in our reality.
"Faithfulness" is one tool we have to maintain this balance.
Our Ability is Our Worth
"Faithfulness" as a Tool
To use the tool of "faithfulness" effectively and empoweringly, we must perform three steps:
- Identify What We're Faithful To: Where do our allegiances lie? Not ideally, not theoretically, but actually. Tracking our actions and reviewing them at the end of each day can account for where our energy and resources are used. Are we using them wisely? Efficiently? What greater purpose is all this effort serving? Regardless of the person we think we should be, our actions reveal what we are actually doing in our day and which ideals we are faithful too. If our actions align with our ideals, and we are faithful to that which we are serving, we find feelings of stability, satisfaction, and accomplishment. If our actions do not align with our ideals, we may find feelings of anxiety, shame, or exhaustion. Bringing a conscious awareness to what we are faithful to, giving it a name and keeping it in mind, broadens our ability to tangibly work with it towards our greater goals.
- Recognize our Abilities and Limits: We've all kept promises. We've all broken promises. Now it's time to get over feeling sorry for ourselves and put all this experience to good use. Which kinds of promises do we keep? What gets us excited to help? Where do we often run into trouble when trying to help? Take an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses as they have played out in the past. Identify which situations you are most reliable in, and keep aware of opportunities to step up more in these kinds of circumstances throughout your day.
- Speak Accurately: Being good-natured is great - short term. But promising more than you can deliver does no good. We fall short, others are disappointed, and the relationship between the two is often weakened. We can resist the need to impress others by staying true to our actual strengths and abilities, and keep in mind how much actions speak louder than words. Along with speaking little and accurately executing our the actions we've promised, we should remember also to give ourselves plenty of time to deliver on our actions.
We can begin to form a more functional ideal of faithfulness with this last step, step 3, right here and now by cultivating a faithfulness to the words we speak. If we learn to rely on our words, others will too, and our own faithfulness will grow.
Faithfulness Builds Trust, and Trust Builds Bridges
Contemplating the idea of "faithfulness" is the first step towards building a network of reliable relationships, not only around us, but within us. When one-offs and impulsive actions aren't enough to keep us happy and satisfied for the most part day-to-day, a network of relations identified in their actual weights and proportions is a bridge we can build to get from point A to whatever point B we define. For this bridge to sustain itself though, the weight must be evenly distributed. Being faithful and true to ourselves in both word and deed paces our promises, distributing our energies both efficiently and wisely as we aim them towards our bigger goals. If we keep our promises modest, our words accurate and our actions aligned with our goals, we create the bridge, we participate in its functionality, its support structure, and we have an active hand in building the path, from design to direction, that leads to our tomorrows.