Exploring the Past to Heal the Present: A Forgiveness Meditation

We are often told in school that history is a very important subject; however, there is much more to history than the memorization of significant dates. History can teach us a lot about ourselves: Where we have come from and where we are heading. It can also reveal to us important clues to what issues we need to work on. We may wonder why certain patterns keep showing up in our life, or wonder why we are drawn to certain type of people over and over again? It is important to know that there is more to our reality than we currently know. In truth, all is connected. We are literally One. Therefore, what we do for another we do for ourselves; what we fail to do for another we fail to do for ourselves. This truth has been shared in our spiritual traditions:

“We reap what we sew. Do unto others as you would have others do onto you.”

We are also reminded of this truth in songs. It is brilliantly stated in the song “You Get What You Give” by the pop group, the New Radicals. The spiritual author, Gary Zukav, also states that this Law of Cause and Effect can be seen in the 3^rd law of physics:

“For every reaction there is an opposite and equal reaction.”

Gary, then, puts this same phrase into everyday language: “Hatred intended for others is experienced from others. Love intended for others is experienced from others.” Now, let’s take a look at our childhood, because this period of our life offers important clues to what we need to work on.

As a child, I was jealous and insecure. I would constantly make fun of my sister. We also found ourselves fighting with one another. It also didn’t help that my mother and father were at each other’s throats. At the age of 9, my parents got divorced. I know that this had a negative effect on me, but it seemed to affect my sister much more, as she hated my mom for many years. I eventually convinced my sister to reconnect with my mom, and she eventually did. Thank God! When my sister and I became teenagers, we stopped fighting with one another. We became good friends. She would introduce me to different music groups, which has positively influenced my life today. I enjoy listening to music from around the world. I am very grateful for the gift of sharing. We also have to be aware that our current issues may have roots in our past lives.

Both my friend and I revisited a past life in which we were siblings in Egypt. I was the brother, while my friend was my sister. We were both jealous of each other and competed for our father’s favor. We were supposed to work in cooperation, but we allowed our Egos to get the best of us. In my current life, I was jealous of my sister. However, the jealousy that I felt ended when we worked in cooperation with one another. It is also interesting to note that my friend and I have come together in this lifetime in cooperation for the betterment of society. We both enjoy writing inspirational articles as well as offering spiritual counseling. We fully support each others work.

I also conducted a past life regression on myself and viewed my previous incarnation. I was female. I was 25 years old and was a professional dancer. I was married and had a daughter. I used my husband’s status to become successful. He was very jealous of me and would beat me in front of my daughter. I felt guilt and dishonor. I dishonored myself and daughter. That explains why I have engaged in self-sabotage behavior in this lifetime: I believe I don’t deserve it.

I also want to share that in this lifetime I set it up so that I would grow up in an unsupportive environment:

It was my lesson that I had to do it on my own. I also had to learn that I couldn’t use people to become successful.

I had to depend on myself to make my dreams come true. However, this proved to not be easy for me, as my father and step-mother put down my dreams; and at the same time, I sabotaged opportunities left and right. It was due to the fact that I carried the guilty memory with me and would sabotage myself in order to punish myself for what I’ve done in my previous life.

When I was revisited my previous life, I sobbed when my husband beat me in front of my daughter. She kept crying, “Daddy No! Daddy No!” I kept telling my daughter that I was sorry. I asked for her forgiveness. I also asked my husband to forgive me. The hardest part was forgiving me, as I felt very guilty. But I did it anyway, and the tears are flowing, now, as I type this. After the hypnotherapy session was over, I sobbed again. I told my daughter that I was sorry. She told me, in my head, that it was okay. “It is okay momma.”

I also want to share a powerful story of forgiveness that my friend from work shared with me the other day; it will help clarify the importance of forgiveness and how it can transform lives:

My friend, like me, was a troubled youth. She got into all sorts of trouble. And one day, she committed the ultimate crime. She decided to steal a car and ended up taking it out of state, crashing it. Many, many years down the road, she saw the lady that she stole the car from at work. My friend felt the need to speak with her. She told the lady, “You are not going to believe this. I am the person that stole your car.” The lady immediately broke down in tears, and replied, “I prayed for you. I prayed that you were okay and safe.” Both the lady and my friend hugged each other. And both were transformed from this experience. The tears are flowing, now, as I type this. This was a beautiful and powerful example of how freeing forgiveness is. Before, I share the Forgiveness Meditation I like to include a list of essential oils that can assist in the forgiveness process.

The essential oils for forgiveness include:

• Myrtle (forgiveness and acceptance)
• Rose Moroc Absolute
• Spikenard (forgiveness and resolution)
• Carnation (release)
• Hyacinth (Absolute) (forgiveness and trust)
• Lavender (for compassion and reconciliation)
• Melissa (for past life lessons and assistance in moving forward)

Now, it is time for the “Forgiveness Meditation.”

Note: The Forgiveness Guided Meditation audio is below this script.

I want you to sit back and make yourself comfortable…Begin by taking in some nice deep breaths…Allowing the days stress to just fall away from you…It feels good to relax…So pleasant…So nice…Just allow yourself to relax and continue to use your breath to relax you…You are sinking deeper and deeper into relaxation…Deeper and deeper into relaxation…

I want you to imagine that right above you is white golden ball of light…This light offers protection and love…It loves you unconditionally…It is your friend…It is here to relax and comfort you…Now, I want you to imagine…and pretend if you need to…that this beautiful white golden light turns into a liquid light as it gently touches the top of your head…It, now, gently flows down your forehead, eyes, and face…down the back of your head…down your neck and shoulders…down your chest and back…down your stomach and lower back…down your hips and thighs…and down through your legs, feet, and toes…feel it work its way down your arms, hands, wrists, and finger tips…It feels good to relax…You are sinking into a deeper and deeper state of relaxation…Deeper and deeper into relaxation…Good…You are doing a wonderful job…

I would, now, like you to imagine that you are in a beautiful forest…There are beautiful trees, bushes, and flowers that fill the landscape…The beautiful scent of pine and flowers are very soothing to the Soul…You know you have come here to do healing work…You are very much interested in healing the past…And this beautiful surrounding fully supports you on your journey…You feel a nice soothing wind as it makes its way through the forest…You are also aware of the soothing creek, as well as the chirping of birds…You enjoy their beautiful songs of love that they lovingly share with you…Breathe in this beauty and allow it to further relax you, deeper and deeper…Deeper and deeper into relaxation…Deeper and deeper into relaxation…

In front you, you notice a path that leads into the distance…And feeling curious, you decide to follow it…You know in your heart that this path will lead you to a place of healing…to a place of forgiveness…You begin walking down the path, taking in the beautiful scenery, as well as the soothing sounds of nature…You know that she lovingly supports you on your journey…She has nothing but warmth and love for you…

You notice that as you reach the bend you see a small cottage in the distance…And you find yourself drawn to this beautiful place…You can see a nice fire burning inside…And amazingly, you can feel the love and warmth of the fire from where you are…You know this is the place where you are supposed to be…This is the place where healing takes place…This is a place where you can release the past…

You, now, find yourself on the porch of the cottage…You know it is time to forgive those you have hurt…those that have hurt you…as well as to forgive yourself…This will free your Soul…This will release the energetic ties to the past…You are a Beautiful Being of Love…You have come here to love and forgive…

As you walk inside, you are immediately drawn to the fire…The fire is a representation of Divine Love…It is also a beautiful reminder of the love that is within you…And you notice that in front of the fire are two chairs…You know that one of the chairs is for you, while the other chair is for the person you need to forgive…You sit down and invite the person you need to forgive to sit in the other chair…You are both aware that the time to let go is now…This something that your Souls want…They know we are all connected…We are One…Now, I want you to take a moment to forgive one other, as well as to forgive yourselves…You know it is time to heal these old wounds…

It is, now, time to say goodbye…You have come together to heal these wounds that have stopped you from living your full potential…They have stopped you from fully loving…Your Soul, now, feels light and free…You, now, understand that love is the answer…Forgiveness unifies…

And in just a moment, I will count up from 1 to five, and you will wake up feeling aware and refreshed…1, feeling returning to your fingers and toes…2, things that used to bother you in the past no longer bother you…3, you are a Beautiful Being of Love that has come to do wonderful things for the world…4, eyes bathed in cool clear water…5, eyes open, fully aware…