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Facing the Terror and Threat of Change!

Updated on September 30, 2010

Ah...change...let me off...

            We get use to experiencing someone a certain way – use to “seeing” them behave in a certain manner. However, we must let them change, in fact there is not a whole lot we can do if the other person is intent on change. But there is a tremendous amount we can do to either hinder or help the change that their change is affecting in us. Yes change, no matter where it originates from, will causes ‘change’ in us, in me. And often we don’t like or are comfortable with outside influenced change.

Change is frightening and sometimes downright dangerous until it’s complete work is done. It’s this aspect of change that frightens so many. The unknown, the vulnerability, the struggle that accompanies change. The confusion that will so often creep up on us when we can’t see the end from the beginning. 

Seasons of Change

No matter how we look at change or try to redefine it…it still comes up as change. The

thesaurus gives us these alternative titles to this frightening event: Alter, modify, vary, transform,  convert; renovate, revolutionize, adjust, amend, revise, rework, conform which equals = match; agree with; correspond; fit; be consistent with; coincide; match up; measure up. No matter how you look at it…it’s change…and no matter how anticipated the change is it brings in the unknowns and thereby fear.

God gave us a number of examples in nature that shows how He looks after all His creatures as He has placed change into their life

-a snake shedding it’s skin

-a crab shedding its shell

-a deer losing its antlers

It’s a struggle as skins, antlers, or shells are shed and replaced with a new one. But without the struggle the old one cannot be lost or shed. If the old is not discarded the new cannot grow in it’s place. Often the new must be “hardened” which can only be accomplished by time. But this vulnerable process is necessary so that the skins, antlers, or shells are able  to do it’s job of protection, defense and/or housing.
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...Proverbs 23:7
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...Proverbs 23:7

Each one signifies change and/or growth. With each loss we “look” different – its aspect this that challenges us when it happens to others or challenges others when it happens to us.

We want things to be the same…I’m used to it this way; I’m used to you this way – I’ve already developed my coping mechanisms!


Do I love enough to fully, gratefully embrace the change in another even when it demands we change?

It’s one thing to “want” change for another…and then to actually begin to see it, and experience it…it may not look or feel like what we expected!

Now what?

Do we take the place of God and try to control or manipulate the change in another to suit us – our comfort level or pride?

Maybe as God is changing them, He is incorporating a change in me along with it?

Am I willing…

Everything is deeper than what it seems…

Everything has ripple effects…

Everything has roots, arms, tentacles which reach farther than we ever imagined; even into generations beyond us.

Do I trust God with your change? With my change?

Will I let you change…

Will I learn alongside of you although its you and not me…

Will I stand with you and/or support you even though I do not understand the process or the change or foresee its ramifications? Even though it’s not what “I” expected?

 I liked your “horns/shell/skin”

 I was use to them

 Yes, they often got in the way and were nuisance

 But, we adjusted

 Now, they are gone

 You look different

 You act different

 “I” don’t like it


from Birth
from Birth
To under Mama's feet
To under Mama's feet
To Head of his own house
To Head of his own house

It comes back to pride. Wanting to control the circumstances, the people, situations around us – so we are comfortable – regardless of the “good” this change will or may be for or in another. This is NOT love.

For a snake, a crab – with the loss of their skin/shell comes a vulnerable season – a soft shell season – they need  to be in a safe place – a place of acceptance and shelter until they get “hardened” again or grow into their shell, antler or skin, whatever it is. Are we friend or foe? It’s called grace. What happens when our spouse does start walking in their God given role – the very thing we have been praying about – and now it’s finally happening!!! But hold it…it doesn’t “feel” the way I expected…all of a sudden I have to let go of some control, or some mind sets…all of a sudden the spouse “acts” different…Now I have a choice…let them be different and grow into/with the change…or hinder, satisfy my comfort level. It’s a ripple effect…change demands change demands change…no matter what…

A person “thinks” they are staying the same but they are not…

Nothing – stays the same…except God!

Because…He is already perfect…He cannot be anymore perfect…there is no need for growth…so…in Him I am perfect…BUT in myself will always be change for better or worse…

What do I want…and if I want godly, holy change for me…will I accept it and even desire it…embrace it in all its upheavals…in another?

Embrace the Change God brings your way

2 Corinthians 3:18: And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect (or contemplate) the Lord's glory, are being transformed into His likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.
2 Corinthians 3:18: And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect (or contemplate) the Lord's glory, are being transformed into His likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.


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    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Canada

      Good for you takes some of us years to get long as you are a gypsy for the Lord then you are on safe ground, our peace and rest comes from following closely in His footsteps, thanks for reading and commenting...

    • Pollyannalana profile image


      8 years ago from US

      I an very use to change, it is sameness I would wish for. I have been called a gypsy for going however God pulls me and and changing my will to get me where He wants me.


    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      Thanks for the comments parrster...I had never conciously thought of change being indicitive of fruitfulness...a very encouraging thought as we seem to be having one of those years of constant change and movement...bless you parrster

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      Richard Parr 

      8 years ago from Australia

      I enjoyed this Grace. Change is challenging and faith testing. And yet I find the opposite even more alarming. Lack of change in my own life has so often been indicative of fruitlessness. So tempting to take life overly easy, remain within my comfort zones, shrink my expectations down into a selfish bubble. Thankfully God rarely let's this occur for long before shaking things up. Appreciated your thoughts on this, and those who have commented before me.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      rls4Immanuel, you put so succinctly the essence of my hub. Well said. Although change is still scary for me, it is less so as I continue to recognize and understand God's gracious hand in the process. His grace is sufficient for all even the mess of going through change. Blessings to you my brother. Ulrike Grace

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      8 years ago

      Sing a new song unto the Lord! Shout aloud with the sound of gladness! It would seem that our Lord is very pleased with our change as He is the only One capable of working change in us that brings glory to Him. However, we must be willing and if we do not "kick against the goads" then we find joy in the process of God changing us more and more into His image. You are absolutely right Ulrike Grace in that our God loves us so much that He will not leave us where we are and yet He is so loving, kind and compassionate to us in the process. He knows our weakness and He has experience the pains of the human experience. All we need to do is look at Him on the cross to know change is good, that God works all things for good and for His glory. Excellent hub Ulrike Grace. I look forward to your continued writings.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      coffeesnob...oh how sadly right you are...why do we fight God on things that ultimately are good for us??? Praise God He is faithful and hugely patient with us all...AND that He is increasing in us the knowledge that it is He that is at work in us...blessings to you sweet one, and thanks for dropping in to have a read

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      shannon b...thank you for the feels good, have missed the chattering of the hubs as well as the challenge...

      comfort...yes that is what our natural man craves is it not...that and pleasure...but our faithful God knows what is needed and He never gives up regardless of the fight we put up...thank God for that! Thanks for reading and stopping in to leave a comment. Appreciate the encouragement. Love Ulrike Grace

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      shannon b 

      8 years ago

      welcome back!!!!

      Love it, and oh so true hey.

      Indeed, change can be painful for us(love to be comfy!!).....for many emotions, wounds, etc open up. But only the unchanging Healer God can deal with us. It is so comforting that no matter what we WILL be okay.

      Sigh, ah, the refiners fire!!

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      8 years ago

      I like change as long as I am the one who institutes it..I guess because I am prepared for it..but when it comes my way with no warning I fight it! That is until I settle in to know that God is at work through it.

      Many blessings

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      *Vladimir Uhri - we certainly do need renewing...bless you..and God's grace brings it to us whether we always realize it or not...

      *RevLady - Bless you kind lady for your encouraging comments. Father is so merciful in that even as change is always with us, regardless of what kind of change, He is right there with His consistency. Amen.

      Love and grace to both of you, thanks for hanging in there with me and now giving this a read

      Ulrike Grace

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      8 years ago from Lantana, Florida

      I enjoyed this hub because it finds us right where we are, in the midst of change. We are living in a rapidly changing world and it seems as though everyday we are called upon to make some type of change; other times, radical changes.

      "Nothing – stays the same…except God!" AMEN!! AMEN!! I rejoice that as we believers find our peace and stability in our Lord.

      A lovely hub that I am glad I took the time to read. I was truly edified. Thank you UG.

      Forever His,

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      Vladimir Uhri 

      8 years ago from HubPages, FB

      Very interesting. We also need renewing, right?

      Bless you sis.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      Amen Quill...I hear you...what has been so startling of late is the need to embrace the change of others around me...and let their change in them do its healing and complete work in me as well...even though it's theirs! What a God we serve nothing is wasted and nothing is for nothing.

      Love and blessings Quill...Ulrike Grace

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      8 years ago

      Change is always something we all struggle with as we get comfortable in our own worlds yet we are called to be transformed into the image of God.

      It is something which we need to learn and accept as life passes, unable to run a country mile anymore, well maybe try walking it and enjoy all it has to offer.

      Blessings in your travels


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