Finding Comfort When Losing a Parent
Coping With Grief
The most devastating day of my life is when my mother passed away on July 18, 2008. I never felt hurt and pain at such a deep level that words could not explain the over whelming feeling of shock, disbelief and numbness from the loss of my mother. I described my mother as the Queen Bee. She was the one who nurtured her flock, gave us guides before we went out into the world and love us all unconditionally. All that is left now is her foot prints in the sand where she once walks.
There is now an empty space where before there was a living human. We have to learn to adjust to life now without that person. So what do we do? I found comfort when I talked about my loss to close friends and family. We talk about all the good and positive things about her life. Each time I would talk about her I felt very comfortable about my loss and it allowed me to release a lot of emotional feelings. Even now as I write this article about her, I feel at peace.
People never get over loss, they just get used to it. It's ok to grieve, that's all part of the healing process. Crying serves as an emotional release as well. It’s good to know that recovery is possible. However it may take some time. Just as a severe physical wound would take to heal, so it is with bereavement. It may take months, a few years or even longer to recover from grief. The acute pain in the beginning you felt will lesson in time and life will gradually seem less meaningless.
Writing also helps me to release feelings. I took on an attitude of gratitude which gave me a total different out look on life and my expectations. I express how grateful I was to have had my mother in my life to the time she left this earth.
You can also find comfort in the scriptures, because God is the God of all comfort.
Psalms 34:28 - "Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves".
James 4:8 - "Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you." One of the principle ways to draw close to God is through Prayer.
2 Corinthians 1:4 - “(God) comforts us in all our tribulation that we may be able to comfort those in any sort of tribulation through the comfort with which we ourselves are being comforted by god.