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Psychic Medium Night - My Husband Came To Talk With Me Through A Medium

Updated on March 6, 2017
Sunrise from our home
Sunrise from our home

2002 - We Moved To Spain To Start A New Life And Adventure

My dear husband and I waved goodbye to the UK in 2002 to start a new life in Spain. We just decided to "go for it" Before we got too old.

Neither of us being near retirement age we needed to make an income and so we had planned to rent out our Villa, and try to find whatever work we could to supplement our income.

My husband had been a professional musician for many many years and we thought if push came to shove he could do a bit of teaching or maybe even look for work at one of the coastal resorts south of Valencia.

We were full of plans and very happy to be in Spain , in the sunshine.

On arrival we hit the ground running so to speak as we had to get the house ready as soon as possible in order to start renting it out to tourists.

We were both working really hard and hardly taking any time off to enjoy our new life. But we were happy enough just to be here.

I did notice one day that my hearty was losing weight, but just put this down to all the physical exercise he was now getting with all the manual work, and also the good diet we were enjoying, until one day when we had been invited to our neighbours house to enjoy a fiesta and lunch with them and their friends and Hearty told me he couldn´t stay because he couldn´t stand all the noise any longer. Of course I asked him what was the matter and he then told me he had a headache, I was absolutely gobsmacked when he said it had started about a month previously and he´d had it every day since. He hadn´t said a word before this day, and hadn´t even taken an aspirin, mind you not taking medications was nothing new for hearty as he firmly believed in mind over matter and therefore thought he could get rid of this headache himself eventually.

The headache was investigated but no clear cut diagnosis was presented and it eventually went. But then he developed other symptoms and I began to suspect there was something sinister going on, especially as he was still losing weight.

More tests revealed he had terminal lung cancer.

Despite undergoing chemo and radiotherapy for 18 months, and putting up a brave front and a supreme fight, I lost the love of my life just three weeks before our second anniversary of being in Spain.

Devastation doesn´t even begin to cover what I felt during his illness and at his passing.

A Visit To Listen To Psychic Mediums

I decided to visit our daughter and granddaughter in the UK for the first anniversary of Hearty´s death. I needed to be with family for this and also it was our daughters birthday the day after Hearty died. She was also missing her dad and I wanted to make sure his death didn´t stop her from enjoying her birthday.

I arrived to a wet and cold UK, but was more than happy to be there on this visit, I knew I had to be with family so we could support each other. I was also looking forward to going with Sarah, our daughter, to a psychic night, where mediums would be giving messages to the audience. It just so happened it fell on the actual anniversary of Hearty´s death.

To be honest I had never attended anything like this before as the thought of what my imagination told me went on at these things scared me, but I had always wanted to visit a medium to see if my Mum would come through, she died when I was only 6 years old.

Now I had no fear of going because I clearly felt Hearty´s presence all the time, and occasionally he had come to me in dreams or there had been signs to let me know he was about. I had felt and sensed him and that had dispelled any fear I had of the spirit world. Besides, I wanted so desperately to get a message from him.

Before he died he had promised to come back to me if there was anyway he could, and I needed a psychic´s help to hear anything he had to say.

For some reason I had managed to stay strong for the whole day of the anniversary. I was no doubt in denial, but also I had given myself a big talking to , I had to " Be there" for my daughter on this day and also her birthday the following day.

My resolve started to crumble though as we walked to the club on a very cold and wet, windy night. All of a sudden it hit me where we were going and why and I could feel myself getting upset. As soon as we had paid our admission fee and got inside the door, I started to cry and it took ages for me to stop. I was now wondering if it was such a good idea to have come to this place full of grieving people desperate to have contact with their loved one´s on the other side. However I was determined to see it through.

Sarah pointed out a man to me and told me his name was Mick and he was a medium , but she didn´t know if he would be doing his thing that night. Then she pointed out a lady who had just come in and was taking off her coat, and said she was also a medium and her name was Jackie. Immediately I had a feeling I knew this woman but couldn´t for the life of me think where I knew her from.

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Anything we can do to help get us through grief has to be worth trying. I believe in the psychic world and have first hand experience of getting messages from the other side. Here a medium recounts some of her connections with departed loved ones.

Two Mediums Passing on Messages To The Bereaved

Mick´s Readings

Mick took the floor and started passing messages around the room. He was very calm and quiet and went to a lot of people before turning in our direction. I was willing my Hearty to come through, I so needed something from him.

Mick brought up a couple of names from family of mine who had passed away,and also said there was a motherly figure with me, wow this was impressive. He also said we had a gentleman with us too, and for some reason he was showing him a pair of shiny shoes. He was certain this was meant for me, but it just didn´t fit Hearty, who was a denim jeans and trainer type of person, not a shiny shoe man. I said this didn´t fit with me, but Mick was insistent that the sign was for me and if it didn´t mean anything now, it would at sometime in the future.

He then went on to talk to my friend Sue and gave her an exactly perfect description of someone she knew who had died, and he also brought a Yellow rose into the reading which he said the man had brought with him. He was insistent to say it was a yellow rose, not a red or white one because this held a significance. Sue later told me she had taken a yellow rose to her friends funeral, and the description of him was correct in all aspects, so Mick was spot on. Except for my shiny shoes.

Jackie´s Readings

The moment Jackie took the floor and started talking, it fell into place where I knew her from. Before leaving the UK both Hearty and I worked in a university on security and Jackie had been a mature student attending courses at the university. I remembered her particularly as she used to bring her young son in when she came to study at night, and he was such a lovely lad and so well mannered that I remembered him and likewise his mum.

Jackie looked in our direction a number of times during her first stint on the floor, but didn´t offer any messages. I was willing with all my heart for a message from my darling, but nothing came and I did feel a little disappointed. Please come through Hearty was the chant going through my head.

The half time break then came, the mediums had done a lot of talking and needed a drink, and so did the audience.

A Private Reading Just For Me

During the half time interval I decided to go and say hello to Jackie. We had chatted often when she came to study and I knew her lad had a health problem. I hadn´t seen her or him for years and felt the need to catch up, and see how her lad was doing.

I introduced myself and she did remember me and said her son was doing really well, and was over his problems. Then she asked me to sit down as she wanted to talk to me on my own. I protested a little as she was after all on her break, but she said it didn´t matter, she needed to pass messages on to me but sensed I was " too raw " to do this in front of a room full of people.

The moment I sat, Jackie said there was a gentleman with me and he had been there all night. Then she started to rub her chest and said he had trouble breathing, and not just when he died, before that, she asked me if it was lung cancer that killed him. I nodded yes and started to cry again.

She explained to me that sometimes the deceased present symptoms of what killed them, but also that he wasn´t suffering now, it´s just a form of letting you know who´s coming through. She made sure it was Ok for her to continue, was I alright ? I said I wasn´t really but to please go on.

She said this man, was coming through with so much love it was incredible, and also she could tell he had a really good sense of humour. She then went on to tell me that it was OK for me to move on, I had his blessing. My reply was that I already knew this but the fact was I didn´t want to, I loved my Hearty as much in death as I had in life and didn´t want anyone but him. She nodded her understanding and then carried on.

Next she told me that he didn´t like taking medications for anything. This made me laugh as it was so true. I told her getting Hearty to take even an aspirin was as hard as finding a snowball in hell, and that it used to drive me mad that he wouldn´t take anything for headaches or whatever. I told her he totally believed in mind over matter and if he did take a medication I always knew he must really be suffering as he was so against taking pills and potions. Even when he was riddled with cancer in his last few weeks he would tell me to wait half and hour before giving him his morphine and if he didn´t feel any better after that he would take it. Of course I made him have it as I knew he must have been in considerable pain.

She then told me the same thing Mick had, that for some reason she was being shown a pair of shiny shoes. I told her this just didn´t fit with me as Hearty was not a shiny shoes type of person. She asked if it could be a symbol that he loved to dance or was a good dancer. I laughed again and said he had two left feet. The only thing that I could come up with was that Hearty had been a professional musician, had worked with a ballet company, had played on come dancing, and of course other than that had also worked in lots of other places where people did dance, but all the same it just didn´t sit properly with me, and I don´t think with Jackie either. She again said the same thing Mick had earlier in the night, that if it didn´t make sense to me right at that moment, it would at some time in the future. Then her face took on a bleak expression as she quietly told me how much he didn´t want to go. This was something I knew in my heart already as he had fought death right to his very last breath.

It was now time for Jackie and Mick to start the second half of their night passing messages on from the other side. I thanked Jackie very much for missing her break to pass on Hearty´s messages to me. She told me he had been so insistent to let me know he was there she had no choice, and she also knew how much I needed to get them. I gave her a hug and then joined my daughter and friend for the second half of the psychic night, knowing that indeed my Hearty had kept his promise and he had come back to me from the other side.

Matt Fraser Giving Psychic Readings

5 Years Later Shiny Shoes Made Sense

It was the early hours of the morning, and I had gotten up out of my warm bed to visit the bathroom.

Still half asleep I sat there on the loo, and completely out of the blue the thought "shiny shoes" suddenly popped into my head and it was like a light bulb suddenly came on.

I had made the connexion at long last.

The reason that both Jackie and Mick had told me Hearty was showing them shiny shoes was because I hadn´t taken shoes to the undertaker to put on him before his cremation. He was dressed in his best suit and therefore would have worn that with " Shiny shoes" . But his feet had swollen up before he died and daft as it may sound to some, I didn´t want anyone hurting him by forcing them into shoes.

After the funeral I felt bad that I had sent him off without shoes and socks and it bothered me occasionally for a long time. I worried that I hadn´t done my best for him at the last, and this was him telling me that it really didn´t matter.

It´s now over eight years since I lost my Hearty, the love of my life. I still miss him every single day, but at least I know without a shadow of a doubt that he is still with me in spirit, and will remain with me, dropping in from time to time until we meet again on the other side.

Until that day comes I will continue to go to Psychic nights and hope that My dear Husband will come and talk to me again through a medium .

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If you are grieving the loss of someone you loved, my thoughts are with you.

This hub is dedicated to Hearty the love of my life. I will love you forever and then some. Miss you love xx

Your comments and votes are always really appreciated so please do feel free to leave some. Thank you for reading :)


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      Lana Adler 

      3 years ago from California

      I finally got a chance to read your hub! it's been bookmarked since before I had a baby I think :) what a heartfelt beautiful story! You must have had a very special love connection to feel your husband so strongly after his passing. I can't imagine a loss of that magnitude but I do believe in life eternal and that love never dies. Thank you for sharing!

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      3 years ago

      Dear Anita.

      Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me. It's nice to hear from others who have felt what I have, and just know their loved ones have been back too. X

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      Anita Hasch 

      3 years ago from Port Elizabeth

      Thank you for sharing Anne. I lost my husband 12 years ago. The very next morning when I walked into the lounge, I forgot for a second that he was dead. There was a strong smell of his tobacco. About 2 weeks later, I was sleeping when I woke up in the early hours of the morning. I was then half awake and half asleep when I heard my husband coming slowly up the stairs. I then felt him sitting down next to me on the bed and I fell asleep. I agree with you that your husband is with you in spirit.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Spain

      Hi B Leekley.

      It certainly was, even though I cried through most of what Jackie was telling me. She could not have been more accurate had she been married to my hearty herself.

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      Brian Leekley 

      6 years ago from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA

      Such a beautiful experience of contact.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Spain

      Dear Sweethearts2.

      I am so very sorry you lost the love of your life and soulmate too, but pleased that you found my story helpful.

      In my opinion when you feel the prescence of a loved one you just know they are with you. Continue to enjoy knowing you are never really without him and that he will always be there beside you when most needed.

      A lady contacted me after reading another hub of mine called " Do our loved one´s stay with us in spirit-I think they do" She was also beginning to question if it was her imagination playing tricks and that hub helped her . She now writes for HP and has also published one of the books I promote on this hub through Amazon, it´s called A Breath Away, her name is Lynda Matthews and maybe reading of her experiences will also help you realise that what we sometimes brush off as imagination is indeed our loved one´s letting us know they are there.

      I wish you well Sweethearts as I know how hard it is to carry one without one´s other half for support. Sending a big hug your way too :)

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      7 years ago from Northwest Indiana

      I as well found and lost my soulmate. I often feel his presence but have no proof, so I often wonder if it is my mind tricking me. This hub gives me hope that my husband is still with me in spirit and it's something not to fear or dismiss but to enjoy. Thank you for sharing this hub.

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Hello Lady E. Thank you for your wonderful comment, and I am so pleased this hub helped you. I have written other hubs on the same subject which you might enjoy, and those may also help you if you are grieving the loss of a loved one, if you are my sympathies are with you along with a great big hug. You are not alone my dear.

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      7 years ago from London, UK

      This was so heart - warming to read. I took time to read it so slowly as it also helped me. I am so so glad that you were given that private reading and you worked out the connection with "Shiny Shoes."

      I am sorry that he left. (I don't want to say FOR your loss). He brought a lot of happiness to your life or I could re-word that to, you shared so much happiness together and most important, lived your dream together to go to Spain. Many people never find that kind of Treasured Love.

      Your beautiful heart shines through in your Hubs and I have no doubt you will find deep happiness again.

      Take Care and thanks for sharing. Keep strong.

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      7 years ago from London, UK

      This was so heart - warming to read. I took time to read it so slowly as it also helped me. I am so so glad that you were given that private reading and you worked out the connection with "Shiny Shoes."

      I am sorry that he left. (I don't want to say your loss). He brought a lot of happiness to your life or I could re-word that to, you shared so much happiness together and most important, lived your dream together to go to Spain. Many people never find that kind of Treasured Love.

      Your beautiful heart shines through in your Hubs and I have no doubt you will find deep happiness again.

      Take Care and thanks for sharing. Keep strong.

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Dear catgypsy. Thank you so much once again for reading and another great comment, dab those eye´s now love and smile:) This reading totally blew me away, Jackie could not have been more right if she had been me, there wasn´t anything that she said which didn´t fit to a T or was in any way vague, except for the shoes and then at last the penny dropped, all be it years afterwards. She didn´t prompt me in any way either, just talked and told me things, no questions no prompting no looking for answers, just total facts that no one but me could have known.

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      7 years ago from the South

      All I can say is, what a beautiful story and I have tears in my eyes. I have been reading a lot about mediums lately and do believe there are some legitimate ones out there. I'm glad you found them and that he came through for you.

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Hi Bob. I know about as much of quantum physics as I knew about Australian thongs LOl. However, I have believed since I was 6 years old and my Mum died that it´s impossible for someone to be there one day and gone the next, some years ago I began to take an interest in spiritualism but it was only after hearty died that I actually felt brave enough to be in the company of mediums and I am so glad I took the plunge. I knew well before having this reading that Hearty was with me still, but this was a nice affirmation. You should read one of my other hubs Bob, it´s called " Do our loved one´s stay with us in spirit - I think they do" I think you may find that equally interesting. Many thanks for reading this one Bob and also taking the time to comment, I appreciate it :)

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      7 years ago from UK and Mexico

      Hello again. I decided to read this hub after reading what you said about the thongs and you husband. I don't know whether you keep up withn quantum physics but there is a lot of theory to suggest we never leave this universe and that we may one day return. (Not anything to do with religion, but atomic theory). I have believed for some years that the only form of reincarnation possible would be of this type (based in infinity and matter). It's good you are still sustained by a great love and i know you will adjust your present life to accommodate how you - and I'm sure your Hearty- would feel.

      Bob xo

      PS I don't know why my comment shot to the head of the queue!

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Hi CR. Many thanks for the follow and for taking time to read and comment. It does sound as though you have the gift and the heart to use it correctly. I don´t know if the entrance fee charged at Psychic night actually went to the mediums to cover their travel costs or to the club for the use of the room, whatever it is a very small charge and no one minds paying it at all. Have you heard of the English medium Doris Stokes ? She filled large venues all the time and had to charge entrance fees to pay for them and also her travel costs etc as she became so famous she travelled the world, however she only took what she needed to cover her costs and despite the fact she could have become a very very wealthy woman she knew that her gift was not given to her to profit from others.

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      Pamela Hutson 

      7 years ago from Moonlight Maine

      I am so sorry for your loss but what a beautiful story! I am so glad this happened for you. When you can get this kind of help from a genuine medium it is priceless.

      I pick up these things, but I would never charge for it or put myself out there because I can't do it consistently and I feel it should come from the heart, not the pocketbook. I really appreciate your willingness to be open about your experience. I have had these experiences first hand with people dear to me who have passed and they can be so comforting. There IS a life after this one. We might not understand it yet but we will, by and by.

      All the best to you and thank you again for sharing this.

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Hello AMFredenburg. Thank you for your lovely comment. There is no doubt in my mind that it´s real either, the medium was spot on in everything she said, and Hearty´s prescence is so strong there is no denying he pops in from time to time. Many thanks for taking the time to write me your comment, it´s really appreciated :)

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      Aldene Fredenburg 

      7 years ago from Southwestern New Hampshire

      I am so glad that you managed to connect with and get messages from your beloved Hearty. I am convinced that this phenomenon is real, and that your own experiences sensing Hearty is real. I am sure he is with you always.

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      7 years ago from Spain

      Hi Toknow and Mizjo. Thank you both for reading and your very wonderful comments. I still feel heartys prescence from time to time, and our love has not diminished in the least, I feel it wrapped around me like a comfort blanket.

      It was lovely to read you feel a bond with me Toknow, and I know exactly what you mean, it does happen here on HP and it´s a great blessing.

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      7 years ago from New York City, NY

      Being from an eastern country, where superstitions abound, I would be terrified of any sort of contact with the spirit world, and being able to 'feel' a dead one's presence would scare me witless.

      Yet, in my pre-retirement profession, I always felt such a peaceful aura around the newly-departed to whom I gave after-death care. I can't reconcile the two me's.

      You are very blessed with your timeless love. It's not the majority of people who have such an experience.

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      7 years ago

      Your story, so compelling and so beautifully told has actually left me feeling a bond with you, even though we have never met. My words are inadequate to offer you the comfort you need for your great loss. But it was reassuring to read that he contacted you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful love story, cut short in your lifetime, but not for eternity.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Spain

      Hello Spirit. Thank you so very much for your wonderful comment, it is really cheering and something to think about. :)

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      Xavier Nathan 

      7 years ago from Isle of Man

      I thoroughly enjoyed reading this beautifully written hub and commend you for spreading such a relevant message in today's materialistic world. We are so much more than our bodies and dying doesn't really mean death of who we are but simply taking off an old jacket. I believe we keep coming back by just replacing the old body with a new one. How could anyone believe that we could learn all the lessons we need to learn in just one lifetime? I will be visiting again , thank you.

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Rustic. Thank you so much for reading and your wonderful comment. It´s a blessing to know he is still about and always there in an instant in times of need. Have a great day :)

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      Liz Rayen 

      8 years ago from California

      Anne, this is an amazing story. I know exactly what you went through and could feel your loss and pain. I love the fact that your Hearty provided a confirmation that he is always with you. To have the great love that you two had (and still have) is something so wonderful and treasured so much. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story! Namaste ♥

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Maj. So pleased to hear from you again I missed you but knew you were off on your travels. I hope you had a really good time.

      Yes it´s very sad that I lost the love of my life and I still miss him so very much, but he does drop in in spirit when I am low or in need of help, it´s a comfort indeed but I wish he was here properly.

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      8 years ago from australia

      This is an amazing and sad and moving story - how glad I am that you found hearty and gained the comfort so dear to your heart. Oh dear, sometimes life is so sad. But you demonsrate that in the sadness is always hope. Cheers Anne - just back hubbing after a long spate of travelling - hugs and best..

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hello RRose. Thank you it does, along with many other things that remind me we are never totally parted from those we love. Thanks also for the follow :)

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      Riviera Rose 

      8 years ago from South of France

      What an amazing story! Such a painful and extraordinary experience for you, so thank you for sharing it with us. I loved the shiny shoes revelation, and hope it continues to bring you comfort.

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hello Azure Sky. I am sure he will be the first one waiting for me when I leave this body behind, There will be others too but he will be the one I wish to see first. Many thanks for taking the time to read and comment and click, I appreciate it all so much.

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      8 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

      What a beautiful love story! I am so glad that your Hearty comes back to "visit" from time to time....and I have no doubt that when it is your time to leave this Earth, your Hearty will be the one to come and take you by the hand, and then you two can stroll away together...into the Everafter. Thank you for sharing your story with all of us. Upped it and clicked away like crazy! Very inspiring!

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hello Graham. Yes I was blessed to have met and married my soul mate, and so very glad I can still feel his prescence in spirit when he pops in from time to time.

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read and your very honest comment. Keep well dear, I know it´s perishing in Lancashire most day´s now :)

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      Graham Lee 

      8 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hello again Annie. Tha's brought a tear t'eye o' this Lancashire lad lass. Love is a blessing.


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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Tara. Thank you so much for your kind comments. I miss him so very much every day even after all these years. But just have to keep on going the best way I can. I know he is with me and that is such a blessing. Have a great weekend and all the very best with moving forward :)

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      Tara Carbery 

      8 years ago from Cheshire, UK

      Anne, I found this hub so moving and beautiful. It is wonderful that you had this experience and know he will always be with you. You were lucky and blessed to have found true love but I appreciate how traumatic and devastating it must have been to lose your soul mate. You are a wonderful woman and I wish you all the best in everything you do. Tara:)

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Barbara. I never had any doubts that my Hearty was with me, he lets me know loud and clear in many different ways that he is still with me in spirit. Jackie and Mick just let me know he was there by my side on that particular night, and they couldn´t have more correct if they had known us in person, they just confirmed what I already knew. Thank you for reading so many of my hubs, I really appreciate it :)

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      8 years ago from Philippines

      Amazing! My salute to Mick and Jackie who had been so coherent with their messages, as messages from the other side are sometimes fuzzy.

      I do hope by now you don't have doubts in your heart that your hearty is still with you, and will always be with you.

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      Girish puri 

      8 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      He is always with you, he is such a pure love, God bless

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Nell. It was amazing, neither Jackie or Mick got anything wrong, it was just that I didn´t get the significance of the shoes for a long long time. it´s a funny thing Nell, but over the years I have had many different people staying here, and quite a few have said they can feel the love we shared all around. I don´t know if it´s because I talk about my Hearty a lot, or if it´s a genuine psyhical feeling, I bet you would pick him up right away if you came. Thanks for the hug Nell..I´m sending one right back :)

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      Nell Rose 

      8 years ago from England

      Such an amazing thing to happen Anne, I am so glad that Hearty came through, and isn't it lovely that he mentioned shiny shoes, and now you understand what that meant, his love is still there as is yours, hugs nell

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Shelby. Thank you so much for reading and your blessing. Much appreciated :)

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      Shelby Diotte 

      8 years ago from Central Pennsylvania

      What a wonderful memory. Blessed be you!

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Violet. You are very welcome. Good luck with everything you have coming up. Hugs. Anne :)

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      Violet Flame 

      8 years ago from Auckland, NZ

      Thank you so much for the link Anne, you are so very sweet! I am definitely going to do the same!

      I've got 7 weeks of school and an end of year exhibition to go through, after that I am hoping to get to read more of your hubs because i am sure i will like it a lot. Talk to you soon xoxo

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Dear Mary. Thank you so very much for your kind words. Even after all this time I still miss my love every single day, and still cry for him sometimes too. So yes, any feelings that he is still with me, or messages from the other side do help a lot.

      Some people tell me that I should think myself lucky that I knew such love. I hear what they are saying, but what they fail to realise is that because we shared this " special bond" it´s all the harder to be without him. Keep well Mary, and thanks again for your caring and blessings. :)

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      Mary Craig 

      8 years ago from New York

      Oh heart aches for you and your loss. What a wonderful love you two shared.

      Everyone has their own beliefs and feelings about mediums but I too believe it is possible for them to actually be wonderful Hearty got a message to you. Any closeness we can hold onto helps.

      Blessings always dear one.

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      8 years ago from Spain

      Dear Lynda, Peter and Penlady.

      Thank you all for your love and support. We are all on the same page believing our loved ones do indeed whisper to us from the other side. peter, your advice was very welcome. Yes there are charlatans out there I know. I was lucky enough to meet 2 mediums who are genuine. No one could have been as accurate and fake. My daughter goes quite often to this club to hear what they have to say, and also sometimes to spiritualist church. She has heard the mediums Jackie and Mick give out correct messages time and again to her, and everything Jackie said to me was really really accurate. I shall try what you suggested though, but with care as you advised.

      Thank you all Anne :) sent with love and hugs too xxx

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      8 years ago from Sacramento, CA

      I thoroughly enjoyed your story. I'm glad you can feel your husband's presence with you. I'm quite sure he will guide you throughout the rest of your lifetime.

      He's your true love, so you will meet again someday when the time is yet.

      Voted up, beautiful and tweeted.

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      Peter Geekie 

      8 years ago from Sittingbourne

      Dear Anne,

      We all maintain our contact in different ways. Don't let anyone tell you it is not possible but equally beware of the many charlatans who may lead you the wrong way.

      As a Devon child with, a now deceased spiritualist Grandmother, contact with the dead is common and quite comforting. Find your quiet place, relax, bring to mind a beautiful memory or situation and chat away with your loved one - you don't need a medium. You can talk about all subjects, your loved one no longer has pain or stress of any kind. Don't be afraid, they will not try to draw you into their beautiful world, that will happen when the time is right and when it does it is not to be feared. The only word of warning is that on the "other side" are some who are lost or sad. They are not your problem and apart from a kind word do not allow yourself to become involved. They will find their destiny.

      Set aside some time for a chat but do not become obsessed, time has no meaning or substance and your conversations can continue even years later as if they were yesterday.

      Kind regards Peter

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      8 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      A beautiful story Anne. I am happy to hear that you finally figured out the shiney shoes. The same thing happened to me from a reading. Something didn't seem to make sense, but you know that they try very heard to help us to finally understand. Hearty probaby whispered in your ear about the shoes and his funeral. I believe it. Big hugs and voted way up.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi CrisSp. Thank you so much for reading and all the rest. I was so pleased you added a PS. Hearing you and your hubby were having a cuddle as you read to him, made my day. Love is a precious thing, so you two hang on to it for all you are worth.

      I send love back to the both of you as well. Thank you again. Anne :)

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      8 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      What a very touching story of you and your hearty. Mediums, psychics and whatever we call them--fascinates me. Thank you for sharing this sad but beautiful story of yours. You have my vote up, beautiful, interesting and definitely sharing.

      Love from the sky~

      P.S. Reading your hub with my hubby and like a child he was passionately listening to me while we cuddle on the couch on this lazy Sunday afternoon. Again, thank you.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Hi Effer. I send you a big hug back too. I know what you have gone through in your life, it has been tragic at times just like mine. Go and have a reading if you feel the need. I am going to visit my daughter in a couple of weeks and hope to catch a psychic night whilst there . Keep well dear Effer and thank you so much for your very kind words. :) I´m just going to follow your suggestion now and google Lillydale.

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      8 years ago from Carson City

      bac2basics.....I am sending you a hug of comfort and understanding. I too, lost the love of my life, think of him and miss him every single day. I have not seen a medium (or spiritualist) in several years.

      I can relate quite strongly for your need to hear from your departed love and to somehow connect with him. At my last reading, which was not at all planned on my part, btw.....I did get a message was that had incredible realness to me and made an enormous impact on me.

      At the time, I can't honestly describe my feelings....except that I was emotionally moved. Since then, however, I do believe that my love was insistent for me to receive his message and there could not have been any other reason for the accuracy and descriptions this woman gave me.

      Now, you have prompted me to perhaps seek out another reading at this time. I live only 20 miles from "Lilydale," which is an entire Spiritualist's Community....(you may google, Lillydale, N.Y.)

      A very touching story.....thank you. and Peace to you, dear woman.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Hello Again Violet Flame. I just read your hub and it is so awesome I have put a link in to it from this hub.

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Hello Violet. Please never ever give up on love, it really does exist. I know we had something very very special, but everyone can meet the right person for them, don´t let bad experiences from the past stop you opening your heart to let someone else in. Good luck in your future, I hope you find that special someone. :) Hugs to you too my dear :))

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      Violet Flame 

      8 years ago from Auckland, NZ

      thank you for sharing your heart, your love and your precious memory with your wonderful man! Yours is such a special strong bond, it almost makes me believe in love again. At least it helps me believe it is possible to love and to be loved so deeply in a relationship. My own experience and that of many people I know are so flawed that I hardly dare believe in love anymore. I am happily single, but your story taught me that even so, I can still believe in love. I've shared an experience of mine with my best friend in spirit in my hub "Angel Fish". I hope you'll like it. Thank you once again darling, you are so blessed and a blessing xoxo hugs xo

    • bac2basics profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Spain

      Thank you Mazzy. We already did it in life after a long separation and I know for sure we will do it again on the other side. :)

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      Mazzy Bolero 

      8 years ago from the U.K.

      This is such a moving story. You were lucky to have found such a love in your life, and one day hopefully you will find each other again.


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