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The Learning Journey

Updated on December 22, 2010

Everyone has to start somewhere


3D Characters

Spent most of yesterday in my book “Elizabeth” – editing – or re-writing, I “think ” it is starting to take the shape of an actual book – oh my.

Except I will have to go through some again and 3D certain parts. You see it has been too flat. Why? Well, because I haven’t wanted to engage my protagonist – Why, you ask again? Let me tell you…

I didn’t like her… in her learning stage and kept wanting to make her more acceptable (palatable) But I had to come to recognize that learning is just that… learning … and during the time of learning we make mistakes – so it may get ugly or messy.

I remember the very first time I made our families traditional tomato sauce, (I was 13 years old I think); it was a disaster as well as a huge waste. Mom ended up throwing it all out! In addition my brothers teased me for weeks about it. But after that, well let’s just say the sauce turned out much better; at least it was edible. However, I had to go through a learning stage. Moreover, this is important , my parents and siblings had to go through that stage with me. There is just no short cutting this stage .


Learning Curve


A Need to Start

Someone, (I can’t remember who now), once said to me, “We don’t know what we don’t know.” If I embrace the learning stages in my life and humbly accept the mistakes as part of the learning process it will make it a much more pleasant experience with victory or success in the skill or craft at the other end.

If I would have quit crocheting after my first project because of the many mistakes there were in it, I would have had a lot less gifts to bless my friends and family with. I had to walk, live, work through the learning stage. There is no getting around it, and as I live in community – family, friends, co-workers etc., they get the privilege of walking through the learning stage with me. We all have no choice in this matter.

How I react to my learning curve will influence how my community reacts to my learning curve. Do I make it harder or easier on them? On me? Do they have to deal with my attitude as well as my learning curve? How do I deal with other people’s learning? Do I walk with them encouraging and supporting, being – expressing – showing love and patience, kindness – acceptance of them through their errors in learning. Or do I expect them to know before they have even learned?!

Learning in Community

Help One Another
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Allow Learning

Often this is a stage in life where parents may miss it. Parents will often need/want/demand their kids to know. They sometimes showed their kids something once then expect them just to know.

But as I have learned skill takes practice. And practice takes time. Practice by virtue of its very name also produces mistakes/errors before there is skill. No one gets perfectly skilled at any craft. Anything in life is an on-going process of practice. Anything.

So, back to my book Elizabeth; I need to patiently let my protagonist live and walk through her learning stage. It’s what makes her real, makes her a person, growing, walking through a life in process. I have to be sure to not make the same mistake with her side-kick, Alex. He is not perfect! Nobody is and so I can’t present them as such or expect them to be perfect no matter how uncomfortable I am with their learning and all its subsequent errors.

The thing we forget as individuals is even though we are individuals we live in community. So we also learn in community. Therefore, as I am walking my personal journey of process… someone else is also walking their personal journey of process. We need to be aware of and compassionate of each other’s journey, even as we are going through our own messiness or ugliness of learning. We are not the only ones. We must realize and understand that the world does not stop just because we are going through learning.


Learning is Messy
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Continual Process

It is something that happens continually. If I am alive – I am learning – to one degree or another. I will never get to a stage where I am no longer learning anything – maybe not the same thing (hopefully not) but learning something and with that… will always come the potential for mistakes and messes. I have to accept this! I have to in fact embrace this for myself and others!

This is important in life and I think I have missed this part of awareness. We/I need to be aware this happens – always – and for everybody. Nobody just knows – we learn, we experience, we make mistakes, we grow. And again we need to remember; mistakes can be ugly and/or messy!

It is just the way it is. But mistakes are not deadly (for the most part) except when we back away and say see…I cannot do this! Fatality comes when we use mistakes as an excuse to stop what we are doing because we can’t be perfect at first shot!

This is either pride or fear of response. If others have looked at you as stupid because of honest growing mistakes and not helped you through them – then the tendency or temptation is to quite.

So… how am I with my own mistakes?

How am I with other people’s mistakes?

Do I let them learn or do I demand perfection; expect perfection?

Good question to mull on.



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    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      I too have experienced what you and Dave talk about. I am learning that this is exactly what the learning curve is all about and I need to trust God that He has all things, including my writing projects, under control. Thanks for stopping in and having a read and leaving a comment. So much appreciated. Blessings Ulrike Grace

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      8 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

      I agree with Dave. I spent time and put my heart into writing a children's book only to have it rejected. I'm not saying I won't, but for now,no book efforts.I'll just write articles.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      Raymond Tremain, Thanks for your comments and stopping in to have a read...even in this kind of exercise we are learning, in one way shape form or another. I think it is how God made us, and to do so we often need each other. Blessings to you

      Cedar Cove Farm, thanks for popping in, blessings to you

      heart4theword...ah yes, but how wonderful if we didn't have to make mistakes that would affect others! Those are the really hard ones. Blessings to you and thanks for the encouragement!

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada


      Blessings to you sweet one, I thank you for stopping in and having a read during such a busy season! I really think there is never a time when we are NOT learning. It just depends what we are learning...may it always lead us toward godliness. Love U

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      8 years ago from Canada

      Saintatlarge, a Christian Community house! What a blessed idea (though I am not satisfied with that word. To have a place to go where spiritual parenting can happen. May God enable and fulfill such a dream you have. There cannot be enough of those. Blessings to you L.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada


      Bless you for your encouragement along the way. That is what makes learning easier, or gentler, the encouragement of friends and family. The rest works its way out as skill is acquired. Blessings to you.

      Dave Mathews,

      Bless you that you have found your way and purpose in the world of writting! It is so easy to get sidetracked and pushed of course with the delightful but false promises of "worldly success!" Blessings to you.


      Thank you for taking the time to read and sharing your personal comments. I'll bet that if we were truly honest with ourselves we would find that a lot of us are "cranky" when learning a new is disconcerting and that brings anxious reactions. Bless you my girl.

    • heart4theword profile image


      8 years ago from hub

      If we didn't make any mistakes, we could never of gotten things right:0 Creative way, you put this one it! Great job:)

    • Cedar Cove Farm profile image

      Cedar Cove Farm 

      8 years ago from Southern Missouri

      Good questions to mull over, indeed.

    • Raymond Tremain profile image

      Raymond Tremain 

      8 years ago from Metro Manila Philippines

      Ulrike great story you have here, well most times or should I say all the time at some stage we go thro a learning period, there is nothing that we can get straight into it with out some learning first,

      to learn gives us a start, in what we want to achieve.

      may you be blessed with your book.

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      8 years ago

      Ulrike Grace, you are awesome..I feel i am always learning and growing and I know my Creator wants me to be so much you dear

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      Saint Lawrence 

      8 years ago from Canada

      UG Merry Christmas Blessings.

      I think I either heard or read this somewhere, "When you stop learning, you've stopped living!" I've been working on the area of intercession for around 15 years, still learning, and the action of walking in the Spirit, still learning... living in community, that's a tough one for everyone. I lived in a Christian Community house during a very difficult time in my life. It was a learning experience of great value, so much so that with the Lord's help I would like to start my own. Love ya sis, L.

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      8 years ago from Sequoia National Forest, CA

      UlrikeGrace, love the hub. As I read, I was pondering my own learning style and then came to your reference about attitude while learning. When I'm learning new technology I'm an old crank. Poor community! Gonna work on that. Thank you for the insights!

      Merry Christmas to you and yours!

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      Dave Mathews 

      8 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      UlrikeGrace: Thank you for the encouragement, I found in this Hub. By the way Joyous and Merry Christmas, to you and your family.

      20 years ago, hungry for money and all of its trappings, I had no problem sitting down and writing two novels, that never got published cuz I couldn't find a publisher who would accept them. Never got the dream of money fulfilled, nor the trappings. Thank you God! and I say that lovingly not sarcastically speaking.

      Now I write for the love of writing and to help share God's thoughts to those on Hub Pages who choose to read my hubs.

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      8 years ago

      Thankyou for your encouraging words Ulrike Grace. I can realate very much to your messages importance in my family history. It seemed that parenting a generation ago brought a lot of performance expectations on children that were probably quite unrealistic. These kinds of life experiences, especially for the meek and gentle, tends to drive them even further back into the shadows. Not a good healthy place to be. Thanks again for these encouraging insights that are very applicable to my marriage and ultimately in all my/our relationships. Let's be a blessing as God blesses us! Have a joyful Christmas with family and fullness of God's blessing in all He gives you to do in the New Year.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      Thanks Vladimir and blessings to you this Christmas season as well...Ulrike Grace

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      Vladimir Uhri 

      8 years ago from HubPages, FB

      Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Vladimir.

    • UlrikeGrace profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Canada

      Thorine S. Hey, it's good to see you here, and I am glad that this hub was so encouraging to you. Yes, to love others as we would have them love us is a challenge to all of us! But one that the Holy Spirit works in us to accomplish, Praise God for His grace. Blessings to you this Christmas Season you, Ulrike Grace

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      Thorine S. 

      8 years ago

      What a great encouragement. I am all too aware of my shortcomings and am always hopeful that others will be patient with me as I learn and grow. But, am I as patient with others who are learning? Hmmm... need to think on that one for sure, family, friends, and children. I pray for patience and encouragment for others who are on a learning curve. Bless you, thanks for the great message.

      Love you.


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