The best way to instill aggressiveness in your child is to ensure they have learned the proper skills to be aggressive. This is not an easy feat because while aggression is a vital part in most physical sports, it must never become hazardous. Therefore, the proper approach to aggression comes from advanced skill training in any sport requiring aggression.
The better the skills, the more aggressive action will occur. This in fact is simply an increased perception of aggression, but when a child is properly skilled, they then overcome the fear of an aggressive encounter. And when the child finds themselves challenged by another skilled opponent, they soon begin to utilize the advancement of skilled experience to overcome any hesitation to engage in the proper aggressive action necessary to challenge such an opponent.
Many coaches incorrectly teach the child as they yell at players that do not appear to be aggressive. This is due to the coach misunderstanding that aggression is not merely a mental attitude about play, but the combination of skill training, competition experience, and positive game coaching.
When speaking with your child or a young player about aggression, you must seek to identify those areas of physical play that confuse or scare the youngster. You must seek to find what is motivating the child or young player to hold back. As you entertain the discussion with the child or young player, you will then capture the essence of their needs for better skills, physical understanding, and motivation for the sport.
Breaking it down into understandable parts is often the toughest part when coaching your child or a young athlete. However, with frequent discussion the player soon finds that you are not trying to make them something they believe they cannot be, but attempting to improve them through skills, experience, and self-employed motivation. Enabling the youngster through their own respective achievements becomes easier as the skills improve, the competition advances, and the experience is elevated to knowledge gained in the sport.
Most young athletes lack an understanding of the aggressive play required in any sport until they have had time to dissect the need for it. Through education in the rules of the game, skill drills, and proper competition, the young athlete will advance positively when provided positive feedback concerning the adjustment of their game activities.
Even pro athletes advance better through positive enforcement