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Drunken Facebooking, is it the evil of society?
Is Facebook to blame then?
My mother, Father in law and other technophobes have been heard saying " I hate Facebook, I am sick to death of the trouble it causes!". But how can a forum and base with no cognitive awareness of its own be blamed for your own personal behavior and decisions? It is a software program.
My belief is, if it was not Facebook then it would be drunken mobile phone texting or phone calling. Have people forgotten that before Facebook there was Bebo and My Space amongst other social online meeting sites?When are people going to take responsibility for their own actions and blame themselves instead of technology?
Here is a revolutionary idea. Maybe the common factor is alcohol. I will not stop drinking, it is my way to relax once a week. But in future I may disable the Facebook tab to keep the peace.
Is it Facebook and alcohol that do not mix, or alcohol and you?
Facebook in its very nature of being a social networking site means the minute people feel they are having a good time or having something relevant, or not to share, is the place they go to share that information. This is averagely harmless, if not a little bit tedious, predictable and boring, as most of our lives are really.
It becomes dangerous at the point when in an inebriated state from over consumption of alcohol, someone is let loose on Facebook. You can guarantee this will either end up in bloody and unnecessary warfare between friends and family, or someone just out right embarrassing themselves.
This could be avoided by simply staying away from Facebook whilst having a drink, it is too easy to let others upset or annoy you when you are drunk. I have even been a culprit of this a few times myself. Not so much the arguing and embarrassing issue, but I have a tongue like a cat and nine tails when I have had a drink and you will get my hard and blunt honesty. But that is good I hear you think. Not when it lacks tact, which alcohol tends to strangle first. You suddenly find yourself compelled to tell people they are annoying you or that you think they are fake. You end up letting people know that most of the time they bore you to tears or that you hated them at school so what they added you on Facebook for you will never understand.
These same people then wake up with a vague memory of falling out with someone and have to rush out of their nice cozy bed to switch their pc or lap top on and check their Facebook account for any bad behavior. Only to find out it is too late and the damage is irreversibly done.
I have like I said been guilty of doing some of these issues as I am quite an emotive person by nature. Add alcohol to this and I am either extremely bubbly and enjoyable, or a rampaging loon wanting to put the world to rights. Now this is not to say I become physically violent as I do not. But the tongue can sometimes get you in to as much trouble, or this case your fingers. ( I wonder how many people have been arrested for libel whilst drunk on Facebook?). So what have I been guilty of? I have told my brothers that they are selfish and need to grow up, put people straight on treating others correctly. Mainly family issues that I would have done anyway, but with a bit more tact sober.
The good points about Facebook
Facebook can keep you in touch with family and friends that live too far away for you to just go and visit regularly.
Facebook can keep you in touch with friends that are close, but you just do not want them in your house all day.( How annoying is it when you have uninvited guests on a regular basis? I am sure etiquette is not taught to the masses any more, wait to be invited!).
Facebook means you can keep family and friends updated with pictures of your immediate family. My sisters love looking at photos of my kids now she lives 200 miles away. It keeps her close.
You can keep in touch with what is happening in your local area. When the large snow fall happened or the boiler went down at school, it was Facebook that kept me in touch with all other parents etc.
You can promote your business and fan pages, or if you are a writer, which you probably are if you are here. Then you can share your articles.
The bad points of Facebook.
Well I think it is safe to say that the biggest bad point is the one already mentioned. Drinking and then Facebooking leads to embarrasing photos, fallouts, texts and naughtiness.
Facebook can also imply things that are not there, because the natural tone is missing. What is humourous and jokey to one person, could come across as insulting or offensive to another.
It could ruin your professional career if you have a profile, as it may be deemed as unprofessional and that you are irresponsible. Some places of work now ban Facebook or even block it in the work place.
It has caused a lot of arguments by spreading gossip. But is that really Facebook to blame, or the big mouths running and telling stories in the first place?
Trolling is another bad side effect of Facebook. Anonynimity seems to make some people act like Osama Bin Laden online. They are not as anonymous as they think. As in the fool who was imprisoned for 18 weeks in Britain for Facebook trolling this week.
People are not always who they seem to be.Not only in the vague sense of a friend may not be a true friend. Rather, a 14 year old friend who has befriended your daughter, could be a 45 year old Pedophile.