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Facebook, should we stay away from this social networking site?

Updated on July 13, 2012
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Facebook, should we stay away?

Most of the world is on Facebook nowadays. It’s been around for years now, and you can look up anybody, or pretty much anything on Facebook. Company’s are on Facebook, big corporations, clubs, schools, anything and everything is on Facebook. While it is useful to connect with anything and everything you would like, is it a good thing? Well let’s really look into it and find out…!

Facebook and tagging. Your friends put up pictures. A lot of them. Hey, even you put up pictures. It could be from the night you went to your friends wedding. So what, you went to a wedding, big deal? But you let yourself go that night and got so trashed at that wedding; you look like a mess in all the pictures! So you quickly untagged yourself! Oh my god, your co-workers will see, maybe even your boss! AND you were so trashed, you smoked a cigarette and its in the pictures! Okay, this scenario isn’t that bad, all you have to do is untag yourself! But…who knows who saw those pictures while you were still tagged in them.

BUT…everyone else that is friends with my friend can still see the picture I untagged! You can always report the picture as spam, which I think does nothing anyway. I’ve tried it with my friend and sister’s Facebook’s. They still had pictures up of my ex and me, I had to get rid of those horrid things, and I did but no one else would! I tried telling them to take the pictures off, and they obviously never got to do it, so then I tried reporting them. Nope, nothing happened, I still see the random pictures up sometimes on the side of the page, and I’m like darn it!


Since everyone can see pictures of you, even pictures your friends have you tagged in, random people you don’t know can stalk you out. Yep, its true. Some people forget to put their profile on private, or they just don’t care and low and behold strangers will stalk your profile and pictures. Your friend’s friend can look at all your stuff. It doesn’t sound that bad, but it kind of is. Do you really want a stranger ogling at your pictures, and then possibly finding out more information about you? Be careful about this and try to privatize your page…!

You think your relationship with your best friend or sister is so close since you Facebook them everyday. Well I got news for you, it isn’t! Just because you Facebook them does not mean anything! You think you are being social but you are actually not being social whatsoever! Not in a real way at least. What happened to the good old telephone call or seeing each other and having coffee to catch up?! Instead nowadays, people feel better and closer to people just because they are keeping up to date with them through Facebook and looking at pictures and sharing pictures with each other. Pictures don’t mean a thing! We can all look happy and dandy in pictures and really be going through some tough problems, so if you really care about your friends or family, don’t just communicate with them through Facebook!

EVERYONE will be in your business. I think this applies if you let it. Don’t put up statuses of where you are every 5 seconds and then no one will know! Simple as that. And don’t start complaining that everyone knows everything about you, if you’re the one putting your business all over your statuses every 5 seconds! Be careful of what you put on your Facebook, you must pick and choose carefully what information you want to share with people. There are plenty of stalkers out there that can easily access your information if you let them as well as scammers trying to steal your information for identity theft use! Don't let it happen to you!!

Be careful of what email you use for Facebook. I say this because people can look you up through your email, if you allow them to. I don’t like this idea, because that means your employers can find you, and do you really want them looking at your pictures and all the fun you have? I use an email that no one knows and I actually have 2 Facebook’s! I don’t want any of my co-workers and bosses looking at my pictures of me going out with my friends!

Be wary of who you friend. My last job, TWO people got fired and tried to get unemployment. Even though they weren’t friends with their boss, they did friend other employees and because of that they couldn’t get unemployment. They posted nonsense on their statuses, saying stuff about how they quit their job and were happy without it and blah blah, so my boss found out and somehow used it against them and it worked! I don’t even think until this day those 2 people know that they didn’t get unemployment because of their own Facebook usage.

Employers are now asking their employees for their Facebook passwords, and if you refuse it or even give it you may lose your job! I couldn’t believe it when I heard about this. That’s why I’m so happy my Facebook is so private, you can’t even look me up! People also don’t get hired sometimes because of their Facebook, so you really have to be careful nowadays of what you put on the Internet!

Facebook can ruin your relationship and any relationship! With all these stupid likes and pokes and stalking of people’s pictures, Facebook can cause many fights and jealous rages among you and your partner, so if your taken, you should try to respect your partner by not participating in stupid-ness on Facebook. Don’t go liking every girls picture with a bathing suit on, if you have a girlfriend. Don’t comment “sexy” on someone’s picture if it’s not your girlfriend. If people flirt with you on Facebook tell them you are taken. Don’t put half naked pictures up on Facebook if you don’t want attention, and the list will go on. Basically respect your partner, even while using Facebook, because if you’re not respecting them, then they will eventually find out, and why are you in a relationship anyway?

You can also get into fights with your friends through Facebook. I know someone that posted a picture of herself and someone commented "nice cellulite" on it, imagine how embarrassing! They don't talk anymore. Or people blow up others spots on Facebook for some reason, it is so stupid but be careful what kind of friends you have and if they would write about you on Facebook. Some people like drama and don't care, so watch yourselves!

Facebook can be addicting, almost like a drug! This is for those crazy Face-bookers who check it every 5 seconds. It can be addicting if you check it constantly. In college, all I used to see on the students laptops while the professor was lecturing, is people on their Facebook! Even me, I used to check my phone all day whenever I got Facebook notifications, until I realized that it wasn't right and interfering with my college studies, so I deactivated it. Now that I'm back on, I check it every once in a while, not nearly as much as I used to.

It can be a MAJOR distraction! Forget about school, even while you are with your friends or family and your constantly checking Facebook, that's a problem. Don't do it! Forget about it for a while. I's annoying when your checking your Facebook and your friends or family are trying to spend time with you, and it's not right on your part, so stop!

Interesting and informative video on the dangers of Facebook!

Facebook dangers from the News!

There are probably a lot of other downs about Facebook that I didn’t cover, but now I will cover some ways you can avoid problems with Facebook.

Private, private, private! It is very simple to privatize your Facebook, but you have to really make everything private. Only allow your friends to see your pictures. Make sure the settings are not set to your friend’s friends as well.

Make your name and e-mail unsearchable. When I found this out, it was like god’s gift to me. No one can search me if they know my name, and I love it.

Change your name! My real name is not on Facebook. I changed it years ago. I couldn’t have my real name on Facebook if employers were going to try to look for me. Now, my Facebook is not that bad, but I do have pictures of me at bars/ clubs and do I want my employers to see these? NO way! So, it’s a miracle they can’t because I tell them I don’t have a Facebook and therefore even if they try to search for me they can’t!

Don’t put too much information on your profile page. You’re description on your page may contain too much information which may come up on searches. If you don’t want people to know you have a Facebook at work, yet you put down where you work on Facebook, then you better take it off! Like I said a billion times before, be careful what you put on your page!

OH! AND DO NOT PUT YOUR PHONE NUMBER OR ADRESS ON YOUR PAGE! I will never understand why anyone would do this in the first place...

Facebook does have its perks, though! You can connect with people from all over the world, long lost cousins, old friends, etc. You can promote your business through Facebook which many people do. You can find out a lot of information on Facebook if you take the time to browse. Facebook can be a fun site for all sorts of connections, if you use it right!

So, Facebook isn’t really all that bad, it’s just important to know that the world can see your Facebook so we all should be careful of what we put on there. We have to live and work, and if Facebook were to affect whether you got a job or not, then we all better be wary of this and try our best to minimize the possibility of not getting that job. But, otherwise the Internet and Facebook can be great things, if we know how to utilize them correctly!

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    • Johnathan L Groom profile image

      Johnathan L Groom 4 years ago from Bristol, CT

      excellent job!

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      If we know what we want in social media, i think we can utilize them effectively, i agree with you, over exposure of someone's details can bring more harm than benefits. Voted up and shared.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Euroninila....Hello there....you're fairly new to HP, I see. Welcome! Your Title drew me to your hub (that's a GOOD thing)......Although I do not have the "intimate relationship" with FB, that is, without question, the rave of all raves, (so I hear).....I will share my little tale with you.

      About 3 years back, I lost track of a good friend due to her moving, changing jobs, new phone, etc.....I knew I could catch her on FB to at least get re-connected. I made, what I now know as, a fatal error of signing on. My intentions were totally innocent. I left her a message ......backed out and immediately CANCELLED my connection with FB.

      HA!! Fat chance. I have since learned that once you step over the thresh hold and onto FB territory.....YOU ARE THERE FOR ALL ETERNITY....off to the side, but THERE......labeled "INACTIVE" (much like DISABLED) but THERE.....Out of touch, but not really OUT.....your name is engraved in stone.....in MARBLE. I am FB marred and scarred, never to be pure again. Thank you for reading my rant.....I appreciate your shoulder. I've wanted to cry for some time now.

      btw......EXCELLENT hub....voted UP ++.......Peace, Paula

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      IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      Hi Euronila. I agree with what you've said in here. People must be careful on what they are posting or friending in facebook. many people died or sabotage because of the misuse..

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      I love Facebook myself, but for more of the groups than for my personal relationships. I don't like posting status updates anymore just for the sake, because I hate the comments so people leave that have nothing to do with the price of tea in China. That said, I loved this article questioning if Facebook is good for certain reasons. It does have its bad, but I think it also has its good and if you have it you need to make it work for you. Voted up and shared too.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      I am probably one of the few people still in existence that has yet to cave to Facebook.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      @Jonathan, thankyou!:)

      @dwachira,yep your right, it's all about knowing what you want out of the social media site in order to use it right! Thanks for the share!

      @fpherj48, Thank you for the warm welcome! And very glad to hear that the title drew you here:)!! I've deactivated my Facebook many times, but your right, all your pictures stay there and unless you delete everything you put there from the beginning, you are kind of stored in the Facebook world forever! Thanks for your little rant, I enjoyed it! Haha

      @unkownspy, thank you for the comment! Yes, teenagers have been bullied through Facebook in which teenagers then proceeded to commit suicide. Stalkers are on Facebook as well, there have been people meeting up through Facebook which is really dangerous! You really have to be careful!

      @Janine thank you for reading and thanks for the share :) I love Facebook too, but it does have its ups and downs!

      @shiningirisheyes, ah! lucky you, don't do it! You just made me remember another reason why it's a no-no, its addictive! I will add that now, thanks! haha

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      ib radmasters 4 years ago from Southern California

      You literally can't put all your friends in one room. A friend of a friend aren't necessarily friends of each other.

      Between Twitter and Facebook you really give up your privacy. I can see the contact benefit of finding old friends and acquaintances, but that is all.

      Google has a better idea with their circles. This is more of what you do in real life.

      As for picture posting and tagging, I am not a fan.

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      Thomas Silvia 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      This is all great information in this well written hub, yes you must be very careful what you write on facebook and what type of pictures you post as well .

      Vote up and more !!!

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      KathyH 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      People can really be hurt on Facebook due to others feeling free to say and do whatever they want without having to face the person IRL (in real life). It happened to me. I de-activated my page and haven't been on it since last September, and I don't think I will go back on there.

      A totally different thought...I "Friended" people from work and when I'd see them in person it was sometimes "awkward" because I knew about fights they had with ex-boyfriends, fathers of a child from a previous relationship. TMI... TOO MUCH INFORMATION!! I felt awkward around these co-workers, like I knew too much from their personal life. I like life much better OFF of Facebook! I wrote a hub about it, too, about Avoiding Social Networking sites. Great hub! :)

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      @ib radmasters yes I agree with your comment. I like Google and their circles, I just started using it because I've been a Facebooker all this time but only for personal use. Thanks for the comment and passing by!

      @kashmir, Thanks for the vote up :)

      @Kathy, yes Facebook is annoying when people put their life stories up, sometimes I just want to tell people WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!! but I guess they don't care so it's not my problem! Sorry you had such a bad experience with fb! Thanks for reading and for the insightful comment!

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      Suelynn 4 years ago from Manitoba, Canada

      Hi EuroNinila: Excellent hub. You covered and explained the topic really well and most comprehensively. Great points that you made and very important to realize not to "put it all out there!" Voted Up ++

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thanks Suelynn! These points are from my own personal views and experiences on fb, because surprisingly some people don't think of all these points, such as coworkers!!

      Thanks for the vote up :)

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      cheetah786 4 years ago

      you hilite real drawbacks of facebook.. tagging feature is one of most ugliest feature..

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      yes, @cheetah786 it is an annoying feature, especially if you don't check your Facebook a lot and someone has had you tagged the whole time in a horrid picture, lol, not cool! Thanks for reading :)!

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      mecheshier 4 years ago

      Great Hub here. I have been telling my FB friends for years to delete all personal info on their profile including birthdate, hometown, high school, etc (an invite for Identity Theft) and never, NEVER post about what you are doing. Many people will constantly tell all their FB friends and acquaintances where they are going e.g to the baseball game at 5pm, the movies tomorrow at 2 pm, etc.

      Thanks for the share and wonderful insight. Voted up for very useful and awesome.

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      Nathan Bernardo 4 years ago from California, United States of America

      I've thought about all of these things you mention about Facebook. It's probably not a good idea to put too much information on there, like you said. I never put work information on there. So much is broadcast on the Internet now, even our daily lives. And you're right, it can be addictive and take the place of a real life out there among people, face to face! Fun and informative Hub!

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thanks mecheshier, and yes you are right too much info is perfect for identity theft, stupid to put your info on the internet for everyone to see. Thank you for your comment and for the vote up!

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thank you NateB11 for reading, everyone knows not to put their information on the internet, but once you get involved in a fun site like Facebook you may forget the reality of the situation and all the dangerous things that can happen. Thanks for swinging by my hubs!

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      sumanmusky 4 years ago

      I agree with you EuroNinila that you should keep your so called social life private and restricted. It's good to socialize but not at the cost of your personal information, job, or something else that may prove risky to your personal, professional, or social life. Nowadays you can find anything on Facebook just by accepting friend requests from known and unknown people from any part of the world. Facebook is a real addiction I must say. Though I am not addicted to it but yes sometimes I feel so for myself too. Anyways, good post!

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thanks sumanmusky, glad your not a Facebook addict! Yes, Facebook can connect you to anyone that has one, I have all my Greek friends on my fb. They found me and I didn't even think that they would be on Facebook. Thanks for reading and commenting! :)

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      An interesting look at the pros and cons of Facebook. I think we need to limit the time we spend there; it does good for social networking for business but you're right that it can be distracting.

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      The-Quietwarrior 4 years ago

      Wow.. Besides the fact they want to take over "everything"... Finally..someone who feels the same way I do. And all you stated were the true facts...Awesome article.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thanks TheQuietwarrior, Facebook and I are frenemys, its a love/hate relationship, lol.

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      jellygator 4 years ago from USA

      I'm cautious about FB for the very reasons you describe here. It's a bit creepy in some ways, and cool in others.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Yes, jellygator, unfortunately FB has its ups and downs and we gotta watch ourselves. Thanks for the comment!

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      Cathy Nerujen 4 years ago from Edge of Reality and Known Space

      Facebook is useful and can be a good network for some things. If you are a social person, then socializing is essential and facebook has some nice features. I do agree care should be taken about friending the right people.

      One thing, if a boss or employer asks for your password, warn them you can sue them for invasion of your privacy, and warn them that you will have the backing of Facebook itself. Warn them that the company name will be published in a public listing if it attempts to threaten or abuse any employees who own Facebook accounts.

      And remember that if you treat it like a property, then the parts of it that you own are yours, not anyone elses. No one can truly fire you for refusing to give over your private and confidential information. They have to have a reason for wanting to access your account password. So unless it's National Security, ignore them. Facebook forbids users giving their passwords to employers.

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      Fotinoula Gypsyy 4 years ago from NYC BABY

      Thank you for clearing that up Astra and for the useful information. I remember when I heard that employers ask for pwd's I got nervous, even though no one I work with knows I have a Facebook. You just made me feel a little better about having my FB, lol. Thanks for reading and commenting!

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      Randy McLaughlin 4 years ago from Liberia, Costa Rica

      Lots of good suggestions. Nice coverage of the potential risks and abuses of fb. I wrote about social networking vs actual relationships for those who may rely on virtual networking too much, or have an apparent addiction. Nothing substitutes for real relationships.

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