What Have You Got To Do And What Does It Mean To Get It All?

You can't be all things to all people.

At least that's how the saying goes and as true as this statement is, most of us still persevere to attain to have it all. We want to be great parents and good role models for our children, good housekeepers with spotless homes, reliable friends, amazing lovers and as if that were not enough of a challenge for us, we all so strive to look amazing as well as be super fit. Then of course there is all the effort involved in trying to please the boss at work and cooking for the family at home, to name but a few of our many daily tasks.

To have it all increasingly feels like your have to do it all. You can not please all people all of the time, so why do we continue to put ourselves through the rigmarole, stress and leave ourselves exhausted in the attempt?

Money is far and beyond the biggest barrier that most of us face, paying bills keeping a roof over your head and keeping everyone fed. When you get round to shopping that is and then of course you have to find time to sleep. When if ever do your needs get met? When do you get time for some all important me time?

With so many responsibilities put upon our shoulders it's an ever increasing burden to carry. The inclination to quit is all to tempting but guilt, pressure and expectation will not allow you a justifiable get out clause. Working hard, juggling frantically and suffering mild bouts of resentment can become a frequent occurrence.

Child care can be a major issue as well as general support, maybe you feel that you get sympathy but never empathy, because you may feel that no one else understands your plight and the feeling that everything is just slipping away, it can really knock your confidence.

Delegation is an option but only works to the extent of can and will. Partners, children and co-workers may refuse point blank to help you out or may quite simply be unable to because of commitments and restrictions of their own. If they do help, chances are they will fall pretty short of your usual standard and the expectation that you will do it because you usually do, can lead to them conveniently forgetting.

You start to wonder whats worth fighting for and choosing your battles very carefully, which ones do you stand up to and which do you surrender too? In a bid to keep everyone happy it can come as a consequence that you have to in turn sacrifice your own happiness and no matter how much you give people seem still want more. Where do you draw the line? When do you stop being amiable and easy going? Is it ever to late to implement changes at work and in the home?

If you can identify with any of these issues, know that you are not alone and that this is not the way it has to be. You can make effective beneficial changes and a real difference to your life and the way you feel about yourself. Having it all does not necessarily mean doing it all but I guess the more important question is do you want to have it all anyway?

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wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K. Author

It's so hard to be a working parent, I bet those three years were tough.

I have a shall we say, a variety of interests, thanks for your comment.


Justine76 7 years ago

Hey, that was a really good hub. Its the whole reason I became a stay at home Mom. I worked for the first 3 years of motherhood...it was hell..some days now are hard cuz no matter what you do you feel like no one understands sometimes. But its way easier to do the dishes when I havent been at work for 60 plus hours allready. I must go checkout your links now, I wasn't expecting something about medical maryjane to be there...hmmm


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wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K. Author

Thank-you Tina V, I am glad you enjoy my articles, I very much enjoy yours.


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TINA V 7 years ago

you are a good writer wrenfrost56. a lot of of us will learn from your articles.


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wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K. Author

I could not agree with you more CMHypno, thank-you for your comment.


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CMHypno 7 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

Nobody can do it all, and we all need days when we do nothing and relax!


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wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K. Author

Thank's mtsi1098, prioritizing is so important, life can get pretty crazy at times.


mtsi1098 7 years ago

well said...You can only do what you can do...As we all juggle with multiple hats, including hubbing, :) we need to prioritize life...thanks

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