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Finding Self

  1. marinealways24 profile image59
    marinealways24posted 7 years ago

    What is self? How does a person find themselves?  If a person continually lies to themselves, can they ever find themselves? I think the definition of self in short = honesty. Your thoughts?

    1. donotfear profile image90
      donotfearposted 7 years ago in reply to this


      You answered it. Honesty.

      1. marinealways24 profile image59
        marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Is it really that simple to a question that has been unanswered as absolute?

    2. rebekahELLE profile image89
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I think it's more a process of learning to BE ourselves once we unpeel the layers of whatever we've knowingly or unknowingly put there since birth. not accepting that our thoughts define us, but something beyond thoughts. a thought may influence our actions, but thoughts are not who we are. it's more an awareness of being a living being.

      learning how to empty the thoughts of prejudices and judgments,the noise of the world, that's where we may start to discover ourselves.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      in the overall scheme of things, finding your self, is finding your happiness

      physical self is you, touched it, feel your heart!

      1. Greek One profile image79
        Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        ... but please be careful where and when you touch yourself!   I got in trouble for doing that here at work recently sad

        1. Obscure Divine profile image62
          Obscure Divineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          LOL!  Was that a desk job or something?  wink

          1. Greek One profile image79
            Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I work for the Boy Scouts of America in the pubic relations department

            1. Obscure Divine profile image62
              Obscure Divineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Ouch!  ...And you did what to yourself while on the job?  Yikes!   neutral  No further comments, here...  Ha-ha!

              1. Greek One profile image79
                Greek Oneposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                sorry.. i meant "Public" Relations

                1. Obscure Divine profile image62
                  Obscure Divineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Same difference...LOL!

  2. Rafini profile image87
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    You cannot find yourself unless you are honest with yourself.  I agree, the answer is Honesty.

    1. marinealways24 profile image59
      marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      If it is so easy to find the answer to finding self, why do so many wonder around in others illusions lost with little consciousness of who or what they are?

      1. Rafini profile image87
        Rafiniposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        a person who is brought up to deny the self will not find the self until they are honest with themselves.  there are many who are taught to live in denial

        1. marinealways24 profile image59
          marinealways24posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I agree, much more dishonesty is taught than honesty and it is much easier to believe everything than to question everything.

          1. rebekahELLE profile image89
            rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            and why there is a huge status quo in our country. we are taught from birth to do rather than be. children should be taught how to think, not what to think. too many adults live in denial and wonder why they are unhappy. they were never taught how to think and question and make their own decisions.

            1. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
              Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Well Said... smile

              The herd mentality is easier to control, so we are taught to be 'a part of' ... the herd. (through peer pressure and social acceptance/rejection)

      2. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        who said honesty is easy.  hmm

  3. Shadesbreath profile image89
    Shadesbreathposted 7 years ago

    I think honesty is a good start.  But I believe it involves the continuous seeking of self.  We are perduring objects, and as such, the new "whole" being is always different from the whole being of a moment ago, a year ago, in childhood... etc.  Honesty focused inward at any given moment only examines the place we are shining its beam, but that place, that "piece" of us, has a context in a moment and a stream of thought based in a present that may not reflect the totality of the larger self; it's like studying one note in a long song.  Plus, you can be honest and still be "wrong."  The way to truth is through comparison of alternatives, through models, analogies and enthymemes. I think "honesty" means not that you are truthful so much about who you are, but about being honestly open to rexamine and recontemplate through the lenses of an ever widening inquiry over time.

  4. Hokey profile image60
    Hokeyposted 7 years ago

    Honesty and acceptance.

  5. Obscure Divine profile image62
    Obscure Divineposted 7 years ago

    It is good to not be banned anymore, so I'll reply to the OP:

    Finding 'self' is to find clarity without the influence of others, and without outside thoughts & beliefs from others; it is to come at terms with being atomically connected to the universe and to reach a higher level of awareness. ...And to other 'simple minded' folks caught up in the material world or to the ones with narrow minded thoughts, finding their 'self' may simply mean that they know their name and have eventually learned how to spell it... LOL!

 
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