I Won The Lottery When I Became A Dad

The Dad Lotto

There's been a lot of hubbub (get it bub? hub... bub, I digress...but what a pun!) around the U.S. this season regarding the MegaMillions jackpot lottery which topped over $380 million! That's some sweet dolares as the U.S. funded Mexican drug cartel would say! Anyway, turns out two people won and divided it equally. This got me to thinking, how in my own way I've won the lottery becoming a dad.

Now my daughter, who would love a shopping mall buying spree, can't see the value of my metaphor I'm sure, haha. But I do. Given enough time, I think my daughter would agree. It's sentimental to say so, it's a bit saccharin sweet I know, but it's true: becoming a dad is little like winning the lottery.

But Ben, you say, becoming a father costs money, you don't receive any! Bozo!

Hey! Who are you calling Bozo hypothetical reader? You're the Bozo. No you're not, I love you, hypothetical reader. I like your tie and/or pantsuit too.

Before I was a dad I was (and still am of course) the oldest brother from a Catholic litter of six. This was the boot camp of fatherhood to me, having to take care of my brothers and sisters once in awhile. This is also where I made plenty of mistakes, which makes me a lucky guy, and my children luckier still I suspect. All of my brothers and sisters are, or are positively going to be in the future, great parents too. I know it sounds like I'm tooting my own horn here but I'm only repeating what others have described to me. I am humbly honored to be placed in the great parents echelon.

Whenever my daughter or son smile because of something I said or did, it's as though I just won a million bucks to me. It really is. When my kids laugh, it's like I just went out and bought a Ferrari Testerosa and took it for a spin. When your kids are happy, the feeling you get is kind of an intangible thing, but nonetheless, it's potent and ebullient. Sometimes I can't believe how lucky I am!

Both of my children are healthy and both of them are normal. Oh! Ladee frickin' dah! You say in your best Chris Farley impersonation. Ben Zoltak you're such a ham! Indeed kind reader, I am honey baked. But sincerely, when I say my kids are normal I mean they have all the easy and difficult attributes that come with kids. Sometimes they're cranky (as am I) sometimes they are angry (as I can be) and sometimes there's no pleasing them (just as... wait a minute, usually I can remedy this for myself with a braunshwager on rye) but again I digress. I am just happy my kids are normal in this regard, otherwise I'd suspect they were Disney robots or some such drivel.

I get why people stay single or without kids. It's not for everyone, and I certainly am not encouraging anyone without kids to go get some to straighten out your discombobulated life! You should really undiscombobulate your rancor first, then copulate for breeding purposes second, if you catch my drift.


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The author and his progeny smiling at their winnings.
The author and his progeny smiling at their winnings.

The pricelessness of being a dad

It really is a priceless state to be in for those of us who enjoy the role. I am reminded of my own dad who used to play football and "500" with me, my brothers and sisters, and a gaggle of neighbor kids. Back then I just figured most dads did that sort of thing. Later I realized most do not. Some of my old school friends even recall playing football with my dad and let me know that they thought he was really great for spending time in that way. I've come to find out, that my wife's dad, my father in law, also had a reputation for building snow forts or playing catch with his kids and their friends too. The story goes that one of the neighborhood kids even came over and knocked on the front door and asked if he could "come out and play?"

So yeah, perhaps it's a bit cheesy, this whole "I won the lottery when I became a dad" thing. There are trials and tribulations with fatherhood that test our mettle to be sure. But it all lends character to the experience. For those who regret becoming a parent, maybe you need to do some soul searching and figure where you went wrong. From my point of view, and my children are still young, months old and a teenager, but we try to make good decisions for our kids, and then the chips fall where they may. Pontificating about some sort of perfect formula for every kid seems to be a recipe for disaster to me. But not giving up is a good platitude to hold up I think.

The winning part of being a dad isn't something that comes in stacks and rolls I'm afraid. It's more something experienced in fleeting moments sometimes, or long weekends others. Sure there are moments of adversity, but they are peppered by delicious existential bisques of understanding. Take heart, no matter what your money situation, you really have won the lottery if you've become a dad. Now what will you do with all those winnings?

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Zsuzsy Bee 5 years ago from Ontario/Canada

Ben, what a perfectly perfect hub. My son-in-law is of the same mind as you. Having been a single parent to my three I can understand exactly where you're coming from, although as their mom and not their dad. My children have been and are the riches of my life too.

This hub needed to be voted up and as beautiful, so I did.

loved the hub

kindest regards Zsuzsy


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Alladream74 5 years ago from Oakland, California

Beautiful perspective on things Ben-It is a lottery indeed


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spicyhealth 5 years ago

How beautiful. Congratulations.


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Peggy W 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

CONGRATULATIONS on your lottery win! Your proceeds are living and breathing beauties and you are one lucky man!


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Zsuzsy Bee so kind. I was a single parent for awhile too, long story but my daughter's mom would have been there if she could have, but being a single parent is certainly a struggle in it's own right. Glad to hear you've got a good son in law, it must be heartwarming to watch it all from afar. Funny how talking about all this paints me as sentimental, which I am, and I suspect Zsuzsy you might be too, it's okay to be that way a bit eh? It's taken me a long time to learn what you said above, that my children are my riches in my life too.

Thank you my northern peer!

Ben


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Peter Dickinson 5 years ago from South East Asia

Great Hub Ben, from the heart. My kids are the most important thing in my life but I rarely see or hear from them. I reckon one of the proudest moments of my life, a few years back, was when I discovered that they had both named me as their hero on their social network profile. Thanks for sharing.


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Alladream. I get that perspective mostly from lessons I've learned from, brace yourself...the women I've know in my life! Though they tell me I've taught them, I think it's been a mutual exchange.

Cheers man.

Ben


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Hello, hello, 5 years ago from London, UK

Congratulation for your lottery win. It was for me the moment in my life, although I struggle ever since, I wouldn't miss for the world. It is the hardest job I ever done and I did a few.


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks spicyhealth! You're my favorite chili pepper!

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thank you kindly Peggy, I remind myself how lucky I am a couple times a day.

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

@ Peter Dickinson, boy your comment really hits home. I wonder all the time if my kids will stay in touch when they get older, life has a way of bumping it's way in-between doesn't it? Thanks for sharing the social networking comment, that's heartwarming. You are a cool dad Pete, you gotta have some of the best stories for grandkids too I'd think!

Cheers man,

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Hello, hello, I hear you on the struggle, that it can be! Hold on tight to the good moments my friend, pursue those times and ride out the rest!

Ben


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gksquire9 5 years ago from America

Terrific Hub.


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mojefballa 5 years ago from Nigeria

Good and very big congratulations for you.Am really happy for you at least this is a sign that once a woman inform of a wife comes into a guy life something great begins to happen.Maybe,you wouldn't have won the lottery if you had not married.So happy for you once again.


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Beautiful and wishing you lots of congratulations on your great achievement and thanks for sharing with us.


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thank you for the kind words gksquire9, I appreciate it.

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Mojefballa, I'm sure my wife would agree with your statement as do I! Being married for the second time, I realize how lucky I am this time, to be with someone who appreciates being a parent, as much as I do!

Ben


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Aw thanks crystolite for noticing! I am a lucky dad.


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sunchild28 5 years ago from Nigeria

congratulations on your lottery,the presence of a woman in any family is to help the man in all aspect of his life.


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks sunchild, it's true about the presence of a woman in a family, thank the great spirit for women! Also, the same thanks for the healthy spirits of my children and our laughter...what would life be without it?

Ben


Joshua526 5 years ago

I am not a dad yet, but I can see that my father is really happy!


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thanks Josh, and for giving your dad an easy time of it too!

Best,

Ben


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Patty Inglish, MS 5 years ago from North America

Rated Up and Awesome!


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Ben Zoltak 5 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA Author

Thank you kindly Miss Inglish~!

Ben

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