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Not Being the Right Person
Teens and young adults routinely make the mistake of looking for and praying for the right person to come along while giving little or no attention to being the right person. The young person who is not surrendered to God, who is not obeying the parts of God’s will that have been revealed. Instead of praying and working to become a young man or woman who is ready to make lifetime commitment before God, many frantically look for mate in every date – and so set themselves up for disappointment.
Looking for the Wrong Person
Similarly, some young men and women look for “the right one” without realizing they’re actually for the wrong one. They paint pictures in their minds of what “the right one” will be like. The list often starts with stunning physical beauty, self-confident charm, and impeccable manners, and may also include spiritual and social characteristics.
Having the Wrong Motives
Mistakes in dating and marriages are often the result of unwise even ungodly motives. Even Christian teens and young adults often seek a mate for the wrong reasons.
Nobody like to be forced into a relationship. Being “set up” for a date, or being continually hounded about one’s romantic life by since overbearing family members and friends can be unsettling, to say the least. And even though a person may want to be married someday, the often awkward process of finding the right person can seem to more bother than it’s worth. Add to that the risk of making a life-altering mistake, and the decision making process can be paralyzing.
In many parts of the world, a single youth do not have a choice about who to marry. Marriages are arranged by the family (usually the father), and brides are treated much family property.
Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. Abraham knew that. He had his servant travel a great distance (over 400 miles) to find a spiritual compatible bride for his son. It was simply that he was protective and controlling father – he knew the lasting significance of marriage. Genesis 24 helps us to understand why. Abraham gave strict orders to his servant “ You will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; but you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac” Gen 24: 3-4.
Who are today’s Canaanites? The person you are planning to marry doesn’t go to church that promotes human sacrifices or sexual rituals and doesn’t worship fertility goes. The issue, though, is who or what is that person worshipping. Does the person in whom you have a romantic interest know Jesus Christ as Savior? And that Person living for him? Modern-day Canaanites are not always so obviously pagan. They can appear religious in a positive sense, but being religious is not enough. 2 Cor 6:14-15 states “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers…” If you are a believer the person you marry must be a believer too. Look for a person who knows Christ as Savior, and who gives evidence of spiritual growth.
