Slow Down Time and Start Living

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans. ~ John Lennon

Warning, life happens. Limited time only. Act now ~ Winsome

I don't remember when I ran out of time. It happened gradually. In the beginning I was bouncing around in a big empty box of time. Then little by little things started to fill it up and the more I tried to empty them out, the more things replaced them. It was like Lucy in the chocolate factory. What could be better, spending your time watching delightful things come by and you observe and deal with them one by one. Then they start to come by so fast that you can't deal with them all and you try to fit them in any way you can, with disastrous consequences.

You know what is in the box, you have one too. Maybe yours is a file cabinet, or a bunch of boxes, or files in your computer or just maybe it is a list in your mind. It doesn't matter, they are all the same--hidden within the urgent, but not really important daily demands are the things you really want to get around to doing when you find the time. You have been putting things in there all your life. Important things, needful things, things you would like to do, things that could be what you were destined to do, but they have to wait until the other stuff gets done.

Little by little you start to speed up. The more things in the box, the more the sense of urgency, the unsettledness, the vague feeling of guilt that you are somehow on the wrong path and so you hurry to get the things done so you can find your way back to what is really important. You have exchanged peace of mind for speed and a frantic need to do more and more until you are exhausted.

I once saw a personalized license plate that should have been mine--it read JEHU2.  It is from 2 Kings 9:20  "...the driving is like that of Jehu the son of Nimshi, for he drives furiously.” That was me.

I recently bought a Honda Accord Hybrid to force myself to slow down only to find out it was not like their Civic, they accidentally created a screaming acceleration machine. Those of us who own one from the two years they made them cannot take our feet off the pedal--it is irresistible.

There has been only one time in my life when I did not speed. I took seven months off my regular job to volunteer for a very worthy non-profit organization that was in international development. I was one of a dozen or more volunteers--there are thousands today--and was given the title of Director of Development. It was not a career builder. It was not economically profitable but I found myself driving 35 mph for the first time in my life. I was completely content to plod serenely through traffic to work. For me, time slowed down.


Life secret number one: Time is a function of your own sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

If you are not doing what you love, you are wasting your time. ~ Billy Joel

Taking time for the things that make your heart smile is what makes you truly alive. ~ Winsome

Your attitude and the way you feel can make a tremendous difference in the perceived speed of time. If you want to see time slow down, simply make more room in your day for the really important things. "Slowing down time" here means to honestly look at your life and ask yourself the question: "Am I really getting what I want out of life with my current schedule and priorities?" If you feel like life is passing by much too quickly and the less fulfilling things are crowding out your dreams, maybe it's time to make the mundane wait while you really begin to live your life.

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. ~ Henry Van Dyke

What is Really Important

Whether you are young or old, rich or poor, successful or struggling, you will never be happy until you answer this question for yourself. Answer it for your life's goals and answer it every day. The video on the right above is from "The Bucket List" in which Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson realize they only have a small amount of time left and want to make the most of it. After seeing what the world has to offer in terms of places and things to do, they each realize that the most important part of life is family and relationships.

It might help to imagine yourself being told you only have a few months to live so you get out a piece of paper to write down how you are going to spend it. One of the most compelling scenes in the Bucket List movie has Freeman asking Nicholson the two questions which a story says will be asked in heaven--Did you find joy during your life? and Did you create joy in others?

Making a bucket list will help answer the "what" to do to make the most profitable use of your time, but knowing "how" to do it helps you spend your time as efficiently and as effectively as possible.

Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of. ~ Benjamin Franklin

Basic Tools for Slowing Down Time

Surprisingly, in order for your day to go as you want it to, sometimes the best thing you can do is spend a good chunk of your time resting.

1. Sleep. Do not underestimate the effect on your day of a good night's sleep. Ben Franklin's "Early to bed, early to rise makes one healthy, wealthy and wise" is echoed by some experts. A recent study at BYU on 184 freshmen found that those who slept in late had the poorest GPA's. The hours before midnight have almost twice the value of those after because of the production of melatonin and the reduction in the production of cortisol. (I put this to the test this week and found that I was the most productive in writing the morning after going to sleep before Midnight.)

In addition to when to sleep, there are studies that show that those with a routine of 7.5 to 8 hours live longer than those with less and longer than those with more than 8 hours of sleep. Even one night of 4 or 5 hours of sleep impairs your ability to think clearly. The Institute of Medicine has confirmed definite links between sleep deprivation and increased risks of hypertension, strokes, diabetes, obesity and depression.

The bottom line is that sleeping consistently seven and a half to eight hours starting at least a few hours before midnight slows down your heart rate, increases your metabolism, gives you clearer thinking and will give you a few more years of life.

2. Learn the value of doing nothing.

We search for happiness everywhere, but we are like Tolstoy's fabled beggar who spent his life sitting on a pot of gold, under him the whole time. Your treasure--your perfection--is within you already. But to claim it, you must leave the busy commotion of the mind and abandon the desires of the ego and enter into the silence of the heart. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)

When you find yourself busier and more stressed than usual, do the unthinkable--go on strike!

I'm serious, just stop. Just leave it and go find your quiet place. It may not be a physical one, it just may mean locking yourself in the bathroom or walking outside or even just closing your eyes and be still for a few minutes. If possible, don't think of anything.

3. Center Yourself in the Good Things of Your Life

If you can't stop thinking, start visualizing the things you are grateful for and be thankful silently or out loud if you can. Nothing slows down time like gratitude. The more you find to enjoy about your life, the less likely you will obsess about making it different.

Think about your favorite quote or poem. I have a sign in my office that says--"Live Simply, Expect Little, Give Much." I find when I practice any of these three time slows down for me and I find myself living life more fully and with greater satisfaction. People like Jesus, Goethe, Pascal, Martin Luther King, Norman Vincent Peale or Helen Keller have said many positive, life affirming things--if you don't already have one to center on, try one of theirs.

Every day we should hear at least one little song, read one good poem, see one exquisite picture, and, if possible, speak a few sensible words. ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

And we know that all things work together for good for those who love God and are submitted to His purposes. ~ Romans 8:28

4. Stretch Yourself so You Won't be Wound Up Too Tightly

Ever watch a dog or a cat wake up? The first thing they do is stretch and prepare their muscles for activity. One sure way to slow down time is to find a place to exercise and prepare your body and mind for your day. I can exercise anywhere, but my favorite way is to escape to the mountains on my bike and meditate upon the beauty of nature as I slowly force myself up the incline. If you aren't so fortunate, find a way to stretch before you get up or on the way to work--I put my arms behind me and press against the roof of the car at intersections. I often put the seat back so I have to hold myself upright and do drum routines to music when I stop. Ok I know the other motorists think I'm crazy, but the little endorphins are coursing through my veins and I don't mind.

5. Try Living More Simply

I have been a hard worker all my life. Working my way through college and graduate school and then building a business in a competitive field has demanded exceptional concentration and energy. Surprisingly, one of my most rewarding years was when I made a four digit income. We lived in a guest house at minimal rent and knew we had to be extremely creative that year. I scoured the newspaper and found free festivals and art exhibits and all kinds of community and park activities that were totally free and many included food. I found upscale restaurants that offered five course meals for almost free to get people into their poker club. As I look back on that year, I enjoyed more culture, more fine meals, more family time and camaraderie than any year before or since.

Jesus poked fun at our cost of living worries by giving us an image of lilies with pick axes and flowers sitting at spinning wheels. He said to concentrate on the really important things and the rest would follow.

Try simplifying the way you live your life by getting rid of things others could make more use of and find less stressful or wasteful ways to travel or do your everyday chores.

6. Expect Little and Give Much

One of the most wonderful words in our language is grace. An act of grace costs the giver everything and the recipient nothing. It is more than the "Random deeds of kindness and senseless acts of beauty" movements. It is even more selfless than the "Pay it forward" impulses that have you paying for a meal or hospital expenses of someone who must then pass the favor on to someone else. Grace is doing something, often anonymously, for someone who does not deserve it and may never thank you and will probably never reciprocate.

Spending your time with your loved ones is often more valuable than spending money. When you can expect little of them and are content to give much in relationships, you will find that time slows down and life becomes fuller and more meaningful.

How many times have you not had someone over because the house is too messy or you don't have the right furniture or you may not have enough of the best things to offer them? True hospitality is being open to entertain with whatever you have. Put the brakes on the ever increasing need for more and more things and try using what you have to bring joy to others.

He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will reward him for what he has done. ~ Proverbs 19:17

Ask for Help

One of my time wasters is a BBC series called Doctor Who. "The Doctor," as he is called is the last of the "time lords" and travels through time in an old fashioned Police Box. He is often called upon to help others by manipulating time.

In real life, if you've done all you can do to slow down your life and still need help, a little prayer and restful meditation never hurts. God, the real "time Lord," can slow it down, turn it back or even stop it. When Joshua, the leader of the Israelites needed more time, this is the biblical account of what happened:

The day God gave the Amorites up to Israel, Joshua spoke to God, with all Israel listening: 'Stop, Sun, over Gibeon; Halt, Moon, over Aijalon Valley.' And sun stopped, the moon stood stock still until he defeated his enemies … the sun stopped in its tracks in mid sky; just sat there all day. There's never been a day like that before or since ~ Joshua 10:12-14, The Message

When a king named Hezekiah wanted more years of life, God gave it to him and showed him a sign of turning back time to prove He could do it.

Watch for this: As the sun goes down and the shadow lengthens on the sundial of Ahaz, I'm going to reverse the shadow 10 notches on the dial.' And that's what happened: The declining sun's shadow reversed ten notches on the dial. ~ Isaiah 38:8, The Message

I hope you never have emergencies this big, but......I'm just sayin......

Turning Time Wasters into Quality Time

Now that you are physically and mentally prepared for a slowed down day, it's time to empty the box of time wasters. One of my favorite maxims is "Whatever you have to do always fills up the amount of time you allot to it." In other words, if you have an hour to get something done it will take an hour. If you have two hours to do it, it will take two hours. Our objective is to stop allotting any time to time wasters.

1. The first and perhaps biggest time waster is a negative or unmotivated person. Spending time with the ones you love is one of the most rewarding ways to slow down time, but there are people who kill your soul--people who are either negative, mean or just simply drag you down. Schedule time with the ones who inspire you, stimulate you and are fun to be with.

Your family are obviously part of your schedule, but they sometimes can demand so much of your time that there is nothing left of you. If this is your situation, it is helpful to find a way to divide responsibilities and to encourage older children to develop more skills at problem solving. Agreeing on a schedule of chores and times for routine errands is extremely helpful. On the popular TV show "House," House makes up conflicts or concocts incredible schemes to avoid spending time with people who are unstimulating. Unlike House, however, we want to preserve friendships and our marriages so tact and honesty is the best way to protect our time.

2. The second is related to the first--phone conversations, emails, texts, tweets and even snail mail. Give yourself a limited time during the day to check all your communications. Program your phone with a particular ring tone to identify emergency or very important communications and ignore everything else until the allotted time.

3. Waiting. One of my favorite things is observing the faces of those who have to wait. All of the pathos of a soul comes out when your life is forced to be on hold. Lines at the bank, post office, Disneyland, at intersections and airports or bus stops consume huge portions of our time. The good news is that waiting or unexpected delays can be a tremendous resource for slowing down time. This is where we can get to those things in the box we are wanting to do. Keep a journal handy for those things you have been wanting to write, a book you have been wanting to read, letters you've been wanting to send, knitting or woodcarving--whatever you've been wanting to finish and use your "down" time for catching up on the really important things. Life can truly happen while you are waiting for other things.

4. Overextending yourself. If you are like me you want to help anyone who asks. Unfortunately, there are people who have a never-ending supply of needs and problems and can easily take up all the time you have available. When you have sorted out the priorities of your goals and plans, weigh these requests and don't say yes when you really feel you should say no.

Volunteering for committees and social concerns can be equally time consuming and you need to take an honest look at how they measure up to your well considered life schedule. Sometimes, the best service you can do may be to resign or say no and use your abilities in ways that can do the most good for everyone. I'm not saying be selfish, I'm saying give and do all you can, but work from your strengths and in projects you believe in most passionately.

5. Television, movies, pulp fiction, video games and the snacking that accompanies them. If you want to increase the possibility of creative and productive time, limit yourself to an hour a day doing these activities.  Save the two hour movie for the weekend and use your fiction book reading to help you drowse off at night. If possible, wean yourself off the shallow reading and try some exceptional fiction authors or even a non-fiction offering. (I can just see you biting on your fist with that last one.)

Building Time-Treasure Memories

Now that you've prepared yourself, established goals and priorities, and eliminated time wasters, it is time to start living your life.

Every day, maybe for the first time ever, TAKE time. Time no longer is your task master, but you take control of it by investing your time in ways that you have decided is the most valuable use of it and that you have allotted to people and purposes you love. When I go to another country, I am most happy discovering that country away from the tour bus. No one should ever have to experience life from someone else's agenda. As the Isley Brothers said in 1969: It's your thing, do what you want to do.

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howcurecancer 5 years ago

I am spending each day like there will be no other.

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rebekahELLE 5 years ago from Tampa Bay

Winsome, you've written another beautiful, helpful hub.

Time belongs to no one, it is something we all use with hardly any thought as to how precious it truly is. I like the quotes. I try to spend my first and last moments of the day outside, somehow it puts everything in perspective.

Thanks for sharing.. I wish you would have entered in the HP daily writing contest. This reads like a winner. :)

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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

This is a totally brilliant and awesome hub. You have packed this hub with so much great advice. We all need to live for and experience the moment. Each moment in our lives is just so precious never to be lived again. Voting up and pressing your buttons.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hello HC, that is a wonderful decision you have made. I hope you have made a bucket list of joyful and joy sharing activities. Thank you for stopping by. All the best. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Rebekah, I can just see you out there sipping your Mint Julep as the sun goes down, listening to the wild parrots and letting the tension slip quietly away.

As in ebay, when we near our time expiration date, the value of it grows exponentially and we will bid anything to have more. I've decided to "buy now" and use my time as if it was more valuable than whatever it takes to purchase it....because of course, it is.

Thank you for your thoughtful and gracious comment. =:)

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sunflowerbucky 5 years ago from Small Town, USA

Fabulous hub and advice. If there is any good that can come from the financial crisis our country is in, it might be that we are forced to slow down and take stock of what's really important. I loved your story of the year you made the least amount of money! My family, too is discovering new ways to explore the hidden treasures around us. Delightful hub!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

AC, you are so kind and I agree with you completely. We only get each moment of life once. My goal is to live each of them and help others to get as much out of them as possible. Thank you for reading and your lovely compliment. =:)

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Simone Smith 5 years ago from San Francisco

Winsome, I seriously need to take your advice. This is a fantastic Hub- and an important message, too! Voted up.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hey thanks Bucky, you are right about the country. When times are tough, we appreciate the people around us so much more and we find alternative ways to enjoy life without the high price tag. I wish we could step back to the time when everyone got together on a weekend and built a house for young couples.

Reading about how you and others in HP use the resources you have in thrifty and creative ways is very encouraging to me. Thanks again for the visit and kindnesses. =:)

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mysterylady 89 5 years ago from Florida

As always, you have given some excellent advice. I also enjoyed the quotes! Thanks.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Thank you Simone, I know you have a very full plate and I hope these ideas can help. As Ben Franklin said, if we love life we have to love time because you can't have one without the other. I really appreciate the positive words. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Greetings M'Lady, your good opinion is always worth the earning. I am happy you found it helpful and enjoyable as I always find your comments. =:)

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Shalini Kagal 5 years ago from India

Another awesome hub, Winsome!

I've always felt that old Simon and Garfunkel song 'Slow down you move too fast...' was written for me. I was always in a hurry, always multitasking. Then my husband came along and taught me how to stop and stare and smell the roses along the way.

I love the way you've put down practical points on how to go about doing just this.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Greetings Shalini, yes S&G knew what they were talking about and sounds like your husband has it down too. I was going for a little different approach in this--that a lot of our "speed" is because our lives are not aligned with our real goals and dreams. In other words, just stopping to smell the roses may not be enough if we are heading in the wrong directions.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful and gracious comment. I look forward to your viewpoint always. =:)

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saddlerider1 5 years ago

What a box full of goodies you have given us here my friend Winsome, packed with so many reasons. Life passes by to quickly and before we know it old age creeps up and settles like a mist on a quiet morning lake.

I have chased so many goals and dreams in my lifetime and guess what, it all comes down to meaningless drivel. No matter how much money and material things I accumulated, I am still getting old.

Yet LOVE of life and staying healthy is the PRIMARY reasons to live. Without it, one is dead. No matter how much STUFF we have. Thank you sir for this beautiful jolt, it will help many see and appreciate the REAL important things in life. Peace not WAR, save our planet and stop the children.

I live to write and share my life experiences and sip my glass of red/white wine and dream.

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Phoebe Pike 5 years ago

Very interesting hub. Intelligent, realistic and honest. A down-to-earth hub. It really is true. We never have that second chance, because time will not stop for us. I live life with a smile because it is too short to be bitter.

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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

HP has once again neglected me to send an e-mail with a list of hubs by my favorites authors (another glitch), so I have to go prospecting yet again.

"Expect little and give much." I can't choose which segment I like the best as they are all remarkable; however, this one is so profoundly true, and has much wisdom. It carries some hard-learned lessons as well.

Thank you for this throughtful and candid hub. This should be bookmarked for everyone.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ken, thank you for the gracious words. You have found a way to slow time by doing what you love and we are the beneficiaries. Some change the world by protest and action and others by the written word. May what we do tip our world's use of time towards peace, love, justice and joy. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Genna, thank you for the kind compliments and I agree with you about the expect little, give much. The idea of giving without expecting anything in return is so foreign to us most of the time. It reminds me of the Peanuts cartoon where Sally is writing an essay: "Christmas is the Joy of Getting," and her brother Charlie says: "Sally, that's not right, Christmas is the joy of giving!" She stares at him for a moment and resumes writing saying: "I haven't the slightest idea what it is you are talking about."

I hope we (myself included) can clean out our box of the unnecessary and start living our life with the important ones that are left. Thanks again for stopping by. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

A very wise philosophy Phoebe--living life with a smile and no time to be bitter--they say that letting go of slights and practicing forgiveness is one of the best ways to increase your time on earth.

Thank you for your comment, I am glad you found it interesting.

Fun conjecture of the day: Is time like electricity or nuclear energy, an incredible source of power when you learn to control it? =:)

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rebekahELLE 5 years ago from Tampa Bay

Winsome, that mint julep sounds perfect.. it's beautiful tonight, but a glass of chilled cabernet hits the spot as well. I forgot to mention how much I love the images you've used. That looks like the PCH? I'll always remember that trip fondly. I don't know where you're at in SOCA, but my sons will be in Newport Beach the end of the month for a film festival. I would love to go also, but can't leave at this time. I'm excited for them, because neither of them have been to California.

cheers, I don't want to distract from your hub! You know I love reading your hubs! :]

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Rebekah, your sons will have a wonderful time in Newport this time of year. The weather should be perfect then and I'm told this film festival is one of the few worth the admission. They'll have about 300 films this year and all kinds of activities so their days and nights will be full. I live in the foothills above LA and can see Newport on a clear day when I'm on my mountain bike. If they are visiting the Huntington Library I'll be happy to show them around. =:)

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rebekahELLE 5 years ago from Tampa Bay

:D I don't think the library will be on their agenda! But thanks for the offer. Actually, my youngest worked on the music score for an independent film showing, Night Club, so he wants to be there for its showing. Nice, you live in the foothills! I spent a winter there once when we were traveling the US. We even got snowed in at a cabin in the San Bernadino mountains when we took a weekend trip. Now that was fun!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

I used to have a cabin in Arrowhead and being snowed in was the best. I will try to make the screening of Night Club and say hello to your sons. Is one of them Jonathan? =:)

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Feline Prophet 5 years ago from India

Now you know why I think Garfield is the greatest - he's managed to slow down time perfectly! :)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

You are so right my favorite feline--as he said:

"Odie, let's talk effort versus return here. You know, you can still lead a pointless life without all that running around."

For you, however, the object of "slowing down" time is to clear it of both physical and existential clutter and to harness it to achieve goals worthy of a prophet. =:)

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Feline Prophet 5 years ago from India

I don't aspire to goals...they come with too much pressure to do things on time! :)

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cwarden 5 years ago from USA

I really enjoyed this hub. It slowed me down a bit tonight. Excellent advice. Thank you!!!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

FP you are so in character. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

CW, good to see you and thank you so much for your kind and generous comment. I'm pleased to know it was helpful. =:)

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attemptedhumour 5 years ago from Australia

Hi Winsom, I missed the e out to give me more time. At least you have found the time to be a wise philosopher. I have been self employed since 1986 so i have a lot of control over my work schedule. I work hard, but rarely past 5pm. Staying physically fit and healthy is an important factor in finding extra time, as you can do a lot more in the alloted time, then rest to balance things out. A great comprehensive hub on this subject. Cheers mate from Oz.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ha ha, I'm even worse because I call you AH, good to see you and thanks for the encouraging and thoughtful comment. I have been self employed for about the same amount of time and made a decision never to work on Saturday and Sunday so I could have a life. I've never regretted that decision.

Kudos for holding to your schedule and for the discipline to exercise and eat sensibly. It shows in your writing and humor. Best regards from bungalow heaven. =:)

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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa

Wonderful Hub. Of course HubPages does nothing for my sleep patterns!

Thanks for a great read and I will certainly take note.

Love and peace


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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Tony, it's the least I could do to return the favor of many a splendid read. Thank you for the visit and warm words and if you catch a cat nap before midnight you'll knock our socks off with your next hub. Pax to the max my friend. =:)

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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

Wonderful hub. Such true and solid advice. We could all do with taking note of this.

Thank you for sharing.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Thank you Dim, it is my pleasure. If we can get a handle on this thing called time, we just might start to enjoy ourselves. So good of you to stop by. =:)

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Laura du Toit 5 years ago from South Africa

Just the advice I need right now - this hub was really a wake-up call for me! Great hub and advice worth taking!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Laura, so glad it was helpful. Thank you for the kind comment. =:)

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katiem2 5 years ago from I'm outta here

Everyone, All of US truly do need to slow down a lot! This is a beautiful truth and we all need to be more realistic about our health, our minds, bodies and souls, slow down and relax, very good! :) Katie

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi friend Katie, thank you. We who spend a lot of time sharing the good stuff with others should just take a pause sometime and let life catch up with us. Jesus said (and I'm paraphrasing here) where's the profit in achieving all your goals if your soul is starving. I appreciate you coming over and your warm words. Live well today. =:)

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Christopher Price 5 years ago from Vermont, USA

Having recently retired, I find I have naturally embraced much of the tactics and tools you recommend. If I slow down much more I fear I will have to suffer my wife poking me to see if I am still breathing.

Thanks for the justification though!


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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ha ha, Chris I added a cartoon above just for you and Feline Prophet. You both have homed in on the relaxation section and skipped the exercise and focus sections entirely.

What they have discovered is that the same abilities which in an emergency allow you to slow down time and see all your options, is available to you with the proper training to use in fulfilling your goals. I hoped that the hints I gave above would help--little did I know that Garfield and friend would use their extra options for a couple of extra cat naps. =:)

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cvanthul 5 years ago from Florida

Fantastic hub, Winsome. That is some awesome advise. Slowing down and spending more time doing what is most important - spending time with my 7 year old - is why I'm working really hard to be self-employed again. Thanks for a wonderful hub.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi CV, so nice to see you here, I was in the back yard sitting in my adirondack chair (enjoyed your article by the way) watching the geese flying overhead, sipping sassafras tea and didn't notice you'd come by.

Thank you for the kind comment--I'm happy to see you've included your 7 year old in your work plan, both of you will be glad you did. =:)

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wendy87 5 years ago

i slow down myself and read your entire hub beautifully written !!!!!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Thank you Wendy, one of the benefits of reading the entire hub is that you get sleepy enough to take a nap. I hope yours was restful. =:)

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mtsi1098 5 years ago

This is one of the best and collective experiences on using time. I act on most of these things and do like your Bill Joel quote. You are correct in that it is not just about filtering the negative/stress but allowing time for the positive/non-stressful things which ultimately gets you that peace - a win-win hub...thanks

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Thank you M, you are most kind. If we can't perfect time travel at least we can learn how to make the best of the time we have. =:)

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Money Glitch 5 years ago from Texas

Awesome hub Winsome, It contains some of my favorite quotes. I recall being younger and listening to the old people always talking about how fast time was; however, that was before all of the modern gadgets that we've gotten within the last ten years. Now I feel on some days that time is moving so fast that I need to say, "Beam me up Scottie." But, within the last two years have learned to slow down and smell the roses. Thanks for the reminder. :)

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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Great advice winsome! I'm all about slowing down Winsome - I'd like to try it some time:) lol!

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hey MG, so glad you stopped by. I have noticed the change in your writing. Thank you for the generous comment, I feel that time is also generous if you approach it from the right direction. Maybe we all need to learn to be time whisperers. =:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ha ha RH, for you that would be virgin territory. Maybe what you need is to imagine that time, like the spoon in the Matrix, doesn't exist. Then you can bend it or slow it at will. What exists is what we create. Go ahead, sing it in your mind: "And in the end, the love we take is equal to the love we make. Ah ahhhhh ahhh ahhhhhh." =:)

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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Winsome - you sure are inspirational! You make it sound so easy:)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Thanks RH, but I didn't say it was easy, even Neo had to practice before he could stop bullets. It's ok to start out dodging them. =:)

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Ana Louis 5 years ago from Louisiana

This is a hub I can truly appreciate and relate to. I am infested with Time Eaters, but I see you have discovered some very good repellents. :)

My Time Eaters are dear to my heart and the time well invested, so I may moan a little as I get older, but I will continue to give away what God has given me. In turn He makes time for me. Funny how that works.

I wrote a hub "It's About Time" and a silly poem called "Tic Tock" in a humble effort to sort out my own battle with time management. Some days I win...some days I loose.

"Understanding is a wellspring of life to him who has it." bless you for sharing what you have been given.

Proverbs 16:22

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Ana, it is a very great privilege to give, especially when it is from your talents and things you truly enjoy.

I love to share the experience gleaned from a host of mistakes, inappropriate detours, and times of occasionally getting it right--even more so with such a gracious reader and fellow writer as you. Wrestle that time eater to the ground and delight us some more. =:)

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Ranzi 5 years ago from All Over

Winsome I totally love this! I love the metaphor of the box. Also thanks for giving us goals, advise and solutions on how to achieve things and embrace the time we have.

Voted up and awesome :)

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ranzi, good to see you, I'm really glad you "took the time" to read and even happier that you enjoyed it. My box is looking more manageable now that some of the unnecessary things are thrown out or recycled.

I've written some target articles to help me know how to do it right if I get the chance to do it over again and I realize I've covered a lot of my own nemesises (nemesi?) like motivation, creative thinking, habits, self-image and now time management.

Thank goodness my next one is a high tech "old-fashioned" murder mystery.

Thanks again for the visit and kind words. =:)

cariouweneel 5 years ago

Thanks for this post. I think it's absolutely critical - I like to ask, "We've all got 24 hours in a day, how are you choosing to spend it?" Because it really is a choice.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

You are welcome Cari and you are so right, we either take control of time or it controls us. The sooner we see that even inaction is a choice the sooner we can start making better ones.

Thanks for stopping by and for the great comment. =:)

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DjBryle 5 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =)

Hey! Thanks so much for this very inspiring, eye opening and wonderful hub. Everyday, we are always too busy doing things, always rushing and at times we fail to realize that we are too busy to remember the most essential things in life. This hub made me feel really good... and as I look at myself at the mirror I looked good too. You just made my day with your eloquence... thanks for reminding me that life is beautiful! God bless!

- Jen

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Wow, that made my day too. Thanks Jen, it is a pleasure to write when it is so well received. I have had a very good day as well and part of it was just taking time to enjoy the beauty of the small things and the joy in the magnificent ones. Blessings. =:)

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nikashi_designs 5 years ago

Hi Winsome, it is 1:00 am exactly, just finished reading another fantastic hub. Feel inspired to take control of my time. Lately just seems to be flying by, not by the hour, but by the week. This was a good read before bed. Thanks again.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

My pleasure ND, life is too precious not to take time to live it. Thanks for the kind words and friendship. =:)

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2patricias 5 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

Wow, this is packed with good advice. I am going to have to come back and read it again.

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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi Pats, thank you for the visit and you are welcome to come back as often as needed. I have arranged it so that time stops while you are here and there is always enough time to get everything else done when you get back to it. =:)

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GClark 4 years ago from United States

Absolutely wonderful and awesome hub that made me feel you were inside my mind. Talk about timely - I just completed a short article on things are just "stuff" and what's truly important in life.

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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hi G, how nice you are. Thank you, as I re-read the article I found myself saying "What grand advice, why am I not following it?" You've helped remind me of the joy of celebrating the meaningful. I enjoyed your article--my challenge is to uplift stuff to things and transform things into relationships. =:)

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Doctor Kristy 4 years ago from Australia

Hey Winsome =)

What a brilliantly written article! It touches on a lot of things I've been thinking about recently actually... my Year 12 exams are in less than a month and I still need to figure out what I'm doing after that. At the moment I'm torn between going to uni for a big business career, or just working for a few years until I can live off the investments.

I think it's simple to live simply if one is thrifty and unmaterialistic, and it frees up a heck of a lot of time.

I know I'm guilty of reading bad books... I think they're even starting to stunt my vocabulary. Any recommendations for some exceptional fiction? =)

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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Hey Kristy,

Thank you for your warm support. One of your phrases caught my attention: "...until I can live off the investments."

That is the answer to life in a nutshell. Whether we want to admit it or not, we are all living on the investments we make every day. The question for you is not which road of business to take, but do you even want to take one. Whatever you would do after you make enough to live on it is what you should do right now. Say Confucius' adage a different way: Never work a day in your life. (Just spend your time doing what you really love.)

I know you are saying what most everyone has said, what if I can't live on what I would make doing what I love? I have an easy answer. We are given a love for something because we need it and others need our talent in that area. Pursue what you love and the money will follow. If you never make much money, but have spent your life doing what you love, who really is the wealthy one?

I am so glad you asked that question about good fiction and vocabulary. I find most good fiction I love is written by writers with vast vocabularies. One who constructs the most fascinating characters is Orson Scott Card. His "Ender's Game" trilogy plumbs the depths of human motivations as well as furnishing nail-biting action.

Scott Turow and Michael Connelly both write crime or legal thrillers and I sometimes just pick a page of Turow's prose and savor the way it is written. These, however, are just some contemporaries. These blog articles feature the greats of literature:,Greatest-American-Writer...

Someone I want to read, but haven't is Flaubert (Madame Bovary)

Human speech is like a cracked kettle on which we tap crude rhythms for bears to dance to, while we long to make music that will melt the stars-Flaubert

Sorry for the long response, but you ask great questions. =: )

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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Kristy, one more--the Pulitzers for fiction (and nominees)

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Doctor Kristy 4 years ago from Australia

Thanks Winsome for all those suggestions! I think I'll give "Ender's Game" a try first.

Also, thanks for your advice. I haven't stumbled across something I truly love doing yet, but hopefully I will.

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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

You are welcome Kristy, you will absolutely love Ender's Game. I'm so excited that they are making a movie finally. The kid from Hugo is doing Andrew (Ender) and Valentine will be Abigail Breslin. That's a great start. Who knows, you might end up working with animals in Papua New Guinea and be "Doctor" Kristy after all. =: )

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Ana Louis 4 years ago from Louisiana

Hi Winsome. A great hub and a great subject. I think that too often most of us use time like a credit card. We spend what we don't acutally have on things we don't really need, and then frantically struggle to stretch our allotment as we are faced with a debt we can't afford to pay. Of course I am speaking from experience...ongoing...probably never ending, but definitely diminishing...always a work in progres. Alas the human condition - such as it is - "To be or not to be" the eternal question hiding in the closet of every mind - complicating the simple, and leading us in the wrong direction more oft than not. I hoped to address this same subject - subtly, in my last hub, The Passenger. I will shut up now. Love your work as always.

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Winsome 4 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas Author

Ha ha Ana,

You can wax eloquent as long as you like it is always a pleasure. I'm mulling over your simile. It reminds me of the tough guy phrase: "You're writing checks you can't cash."

I'm thinking more these days about how I can invest time rather than just spend it. Trying to create things that last, relationships that endure and changes in others that have generational effects. History is made by those who are time savy, not by those who are merely using it up.

Thank you for the visit and thouhgtful comment. =: )

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