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Does anyone ever play the 'what if' game with themselves?

  1. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 6 years ago

    It is such an easy game to get caught up in playing. What if my mom had not been an active drug abuser? What if I had had a 'normal' childhood? What if, What if, What if!

    I always find myself getting outa that game by telling myself I might have been one of those vapid pretty girls with no substance that really annoy the heck outa me! lol And this reminds me that everything, including the really bad, painful and dark moments are a part of who I am today, and really if I don't like me I am always free to change and become something more, someone I can hold in the highest respect. When I do that those painful moments will still be a part of me being the dynamic person who can command my respect.

    The what if game when left unchecked just turns into a big ol pity party. I do serve good nibbles at  a pity party big_smile but the drinks suck! lol

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      Justine76posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      what if.....
      then you wouldnt be you, and I would be sad.  I wouldnt have someone to think about when I listen to Tori.
      ps, the drinks at my pity parties rock....we should have one together  smile

    2. Georzetta profile image80
      Georzettaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Sure, the trick is not to live there. Playing the game mindfully can give you some insight into what you think you missed so you can see about adding something to your life. For example, if you keep wondering about all the men you left behind then maybe something needs to be done about your current relationship.

      If you wanted a situation to turn out differently then taking a look at what you could have done differently can give you some direction for similar situations in the future.

      I think it's destructive when it's not useful. Replaying old arguments or old failures or even old successes without considering what you're trying to tell yourself is a mind trap.

  2. Hokey profile image61
    Hokeyposted 6 years ago

    One word. Acceptance.

  3. wyanjen profile image89
    wyanjenposted 6 years ago

    I don't get caught up in it.

    This will sound silly, but I was watching football with my dad when I was a kid. There was a penalty that called back a touchdown and the team lost. I was blaming the guy who got the penalty for screwing up the game and costing a win.

    But my dad said, If he didn't get the penalty, how do you know that the other team would not have gone ahead and scored another touchdown anyway?

    I look at things like a tree branch, not a straight stick.
    Cause and effect are only clear after the fact. If you could take back that bad thing, who is to say that another bad thing would not have happened anyway?

    cynical yes, but i believe it is true. This is why I don't do the "what if" game.


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      Justine76posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      This is part of what STOPS my what if game

      1. Sara Tonyn profile image59
        Sara Tonynposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Same here. I've tried to play the 'what if' game but it comes to a halt for one reason or another.

        I'd have to change so many things to create a 'normal family' scenario I honestly can't imagine what it would be like.

  4. WriteAngled profile image91
    WriteAngledposted 6 years ago

    No point in what if. I am what I am now because of everything that happened to me, bad and good. I accept my present and would not have it to be something else.

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    hamstersmessiahposted 6 years ago

    what if?  i wouldn't have had all the wonderful people in my life that i have now if i changed one single painful moment.  life is an opportunity to grow, i try not to dwell on the past.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 6 years ago

    I find that an idle mind is truly the "devil's playground." So I stay busy with positive and fullfiling activities both in my busines and personal life. No time to play what if.

    1. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That is probably the best advice, besides how else am I going to catch up to you in amazon sales? lol

    2. Mark Knowles profile image59
      Mark Knowlesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      What if you managed a 15% amazon conversion rate? big_smile

      1. kirstenblog profile image78
        kirstenblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Mmmm.... Forward thinking what if's, I think those are probably just fine....

        What if my latest hub gets great traffic and makes a few sales (big ticket items)..... Ahhh wonderful daydream big_smile

  7. Jane@CM profile image60
    Jane@CMposted 6 years ago

    I use to play it all the time & I stopped!!!  Its amazing how much better one feels after the games have ended smile

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 6 years ago

    My Amazon sales have been bizarre but good lately. Someone bought 50 yes FIFTY! copies of the same self-help book.

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      Justine76posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      smile  OMG really wierd, but awesome for you. Maybe they are teaching a class?

    2. Sara Tonyn profile image59
      Sara Tonynposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      WOW! Good for you! big_smile

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 6 years ago

    soooo - why aren't those pinkie, adorable girly-girl product hubs linked to each other? did I miss the link? You get SEO benefit from that. From daydreams to reality!

    1. Rochelle Frank profile image90
      Rochelle Frankposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      When you talk about linking hubs together-- do you mean just like mentioning the other hub and adding a link directly to it, maybe at the bottom of your article?
      Or is there another better way?

    2. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am not finished writing them yet! Every item I find leads to an idea for another yikes
      It's really fun to feel as tho I am on fire just now!

      I do want to group them but am not sure what groups to create for them yet as I am not sure how close to done I am with this trend of products that got me feeling inspired. big_smile

  10. rebekahELLE profile image91
    rebekahELLEposted 6 years ago

    never ~~
    many do and waste a lot of their lIFe wondering... hmm

    life is now. big_smile

  11. skyfire profile image73
    skyfireposted 6 years ago

    To be honest, i played this "What if i get 100$ Kontera earning check" game, and after 1 year i'm still playing it.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 6 years ago

    I mean mentioning it and providing a direct link, so if a shopper clicks it they end up there. Where these two hubs are closely related, I'd provide the link in the middle.

    Where these are such high ticket items, I'd create other hubs to link to it as well.

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    Nelle Hoxieposted 6 years ago

    You don't have to create a group. Just put the link on the hub. Doing it with just 2 hubs gets the google juice flowing that much sooner.

    1. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      grrrr, annoying hubby distracting me mad

      Ahhh thats what I was going to reply.....

      I might be a bit frazzled now (end of the day for me) but I could go have a look at where to link em up! Thanks for the idea big_smile

  14. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 6 years ago

    Thx Nelle, just went to link hubs and noticed the summary text was not done! Glad to be reminded cause I know summary text is very important to attracting visitors big_smile