One service I found everywhere available.  The thing is that it is not only available everywhere, it is absolutely free. It is available 24 hrs a day & 7days a week.  It doesn't matter whether you are young or old, rich or poor, educated or non-educated, intelligent or unintelligent,  male or female, this service is available for you free of cost.  This service is available from parents, teachers, siblings, coaches, relatives, spouses, co-workers, enemies, friends, rivals and other people you encounter in your day to day life. It is available for your whole life.  You may be wondering what is this service.  It is none other than the Criticism.

Generally accepted psychological research statistic says by the time one reach the age of 18, s/he was told "No" about 150000 times and continually told them that they are not good as others, too tall, too fat, stupid, ugly, lazy, too slow, careless, too skinny, too short, less smart than others etc.  It makes them to think that they are exactly same as told over and over again.

We often expect far more from others than we expect from ourselves.  That is why we criticize others.

Even though we do that exact mistake in our own life, we hide it.  Because we never want it to be exposed.   But when someone else messes up with the same mistake we did, we are ready with the jeers.

When you are having happiness or success or feeling good about yourself, what do many people do?  They are there to knock you down.

When you are having bad times or feeling bad about yourself, they'll do the same thing. They are there to knock you further down.  They will remind you all that you done wrong in the past. 

I read about a story of of a women who met her childhood friend after a long time in the bus stop while she was returning from her work.  They were very happy to meet again.  Her friend was in a short visit in that city and will be returning back to her city the next day.   So they decided to spend some time in the coffee house as they have many thing to share, which happened during the past years.  They seated comfortably in a corner of the coffee house to share good and bad things happened and their life.  They were talking about many things and was ignorant about the time. They spend few hours in talking. When they realize they are late, they decided to leave and exchanged their telephone numbers for keep in touch with.

The next day when the friend called up to know the reaction of her husband when she reached late last day,  She replied "He was very angry and got Historian" 

The friend thought that her friend got mistakenly said "Historian" instead of "Hysterical". 

To clarify that her friend again asked "Has he got Hysterical?"

Then the replay came.  "No,  I said he got historian and he started to remind me of all the bad things I did from the first day of our marriage.  and they both laughed.

Many times in our life, it will happen.  People who are close to us,  constantly remind us the things that went wrong. 

We don't get a pat on our back for a job well done, no good feelings for your success. No encouragement.   Only hits where it hurts.

That is why many of us feel bad about ourselves.  We take all that "No's" and "you can'ts"  and "you are not good enough's",  which  we've heard in life and internalize them.  We believe it.

Then, even though we are doing good, we  don't feel good about ourselves. 

Then, when we get a pat or a compliment, we immediately think either "I am not that good" or "what do they want from me?"  Something is up, that is why they are appreciating! 

The negative appreciation that we received in the past made us think like that.

Television increase the damage.  In every scene we see impossibly good looking people living or working in amazing places.  And we believe that there are people who are faster, productive, smarter, stronger, better and more beautiful than us.

The end result is the low-self esteem. 

How many of us are happy about ourselves. Happy about the way we live, the way we talk, the way we behave, the life we live, the relationship we have, the work we does.

A shift in what we listen and see can boost our self-esteem.

Encouraging words, appreciation, love etc. can make us feel good and comfortable.  One of the best way to boost your self-esteem is to repeatedly say to yourself self empowering words like:

~-* I'm doing what I love and I love what I do
~-* I look for fun in everything and I find it
~-* I am fueled by the desire to be the best that I can be
~-* It is natural for me to set and achieve my goals.
~-* My creative mind is the foundation to my success.
~-* I recognize and use my strengths and skills to reach all my goals.
~-* I enjoy taking daily steps to turn my dreams into reality

These are some examples.  You can create your own words according to your needs and repeat that words.  Saying these words to yourself will help to flow the energy into your life.

Let us regain our real self esteem.