- Mental Health
Power of words construction and destruction
Raghavan was returning from his work on his bicycle as usual. He was
planning in his mind what to do in the coming week end, He wanted to
take his daughter and wife to the city to show them the new film
running in the movie theater. He was riding his bicycle in a pleasant
mood. He was just started to go ahead to a bus which was stopped at
the bus stop for getting passengers. Suddenly he heard the sound of a
speeding bus coming from behind. It was about to overtake the stopped
bus. Before he could realize what was happening, the driver of the bus
which was stopped saw the other bus started his bus also to prevent the
other bus from overtaking him as he will lose passengers in the next
stop. It took a right move and the other bus which was coming from
behind was also in a great speed. Before realizing what is happening,
both the buses crushed Raghavan.
There was life in him when the people gathered around seeing what had happened. They took him to the hospital. Doctors did their best to save his life. But due to the injury, his body paralyzed and he could not move his body below his neck. His wife Geeta took good care of him as well as her daughter who was 8 years old. Since Raghavan was the sole bread winner of the family, owing there is no other income, Geeta had to find a job as well to meet the ends. It is not forgotten that help came from many sources, but it was not sufficient enough to ran the house.
Since then Geeta had to go for her day job and took good care of Raghavan and her daughter as well. She stopped having lunch in her work place as her husband won't be able to eat himself. They eat their meals together in the evening when she return. The other day Geeta was about to go for her work. As usual she gave him a farewell kiss. Seeing her love, Raghavans eyes filled with tears. Seeing his tears, Geeta thought he was having some pain or something like that. She asked Raghavan, about the reason for his tears. He said, "You are doing many things for me. You are working in the day time, in the evening and morning you does the work of the house as well, more over I am not able to help you, I am a burden for you. I don't know how to repay for your love and care."
Geeta, with tears, replied "It's ok. You have done more than enough for us before you fell down. You loved us and took good care of us. Now it's our turn to return the love and care. You are alive. That is what we need. It gives us courage and strength to continue. Your presence is all that we need."
There is love in their life and their house.
Just opposite Raghavn's house, there is the house of Rajan.
Rajan is an accountant, working with a multinational company. His wife Miny is a housewife. They have a daughter and a son. They have car, investments in different sectors, bank balance for many years to live. Still they don't have time to do the thing they need to do. They have complaints about many things like - work place, Son's school, Colleagues, traffic ... there is no end for their list of complaint. They used to have fight about silly things. Rajan is not happy with the way she cook food. There is no taste in the food she prepare. Also he accuse here for the poor performance of their children in the school. Miny is also not happy with Rajan. He is not helping. In the evening after retuning from his work, he eat and then watch TV till midnight. Not helping their children to study.Not helping in the house work.
When she wake up early in the morning to send their children to school, it is a disturbance for him and he complain that she is not allowing him even to sleep. When children make noise, she is not controlling the children. Miny had to drop her children to the bus stop in the morning and she complain that he is not bothered to drop the children to the bus stop. She had to prepare his lunch as well. They both are not happy with the partner's way of doing thing. He demand his dress for office ready which includes his underwear and soaks. Even though he is getting everything readily available, he often said in her face "there is no use in having a wife like you" That words are painful than anything else in the world. Painfully she cry when she is alone. There is no meaning in their life. There is no love and peace in that house.
From the time we get up till we go for the sleep, we speak many words. Knowingly or unknowingly, consciously or unconsciously we utter many words. To have a peaceful surroundings in and around us, we need to control our words. Our words can provoke people around us. More stress given in controlling our words in the bible. James says that : (James 3: 3-12) When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
There is power in our tongue. Power to destruct and power to construct.
Let us examine ourself, for what we are using our tongue, for construction or destruction?
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