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Updated on November 11, 2013

Control your destiny

I was speaking to my colleague who is working as a secretary. He is in that position for about 10 years and getting increment every year. But his designation is not changing. It remains the same for over a decade and there is no hope of changing it in the near future and he hate that designation. When we come to this subject, he told me that "it is my destiny and I cannot change it".

That words caught my attention. It made me think about it for a long time. I remember that I heard that phrase from different people. In different times. A shop keeper, who runs a small grocery shop in our area told me that running that small shop is his destiny, he cannot change it. I talk about a student, who told me about his B grade, "It is my destiny, I cannot change/get more than this."

By saying "It is my destiny, I cannot change it" we are limiting ourselves in a self made cell. We are building walls around us. Let me introduce you to one of my other colleague, who was joined in the same organization as a secretary. He worked as a secretary for around three years. But he was more interested in IT (Information Technology). After few months of his joining, he discussed with his IT colleagues about his interest and they advised him to do some IT related course. After doing the IT course, he requested for a transfer to IT department. When there was an opening, he got the transfer to IT department. He loved his job and done few more courses related to IT. Now he is the Head of the Department of IT. Both are working in the same organization for a long time. One controls his destiny, and the other limiting himself where he is.

One took a short term pain for a long term pleasure. Many of us are not willing to take a short term pain in order to get the long term pleasure. Taking a course can increase our chance to get a better job. A student can spend a little more time in his studies and get an A grade. By saying "It is my destiny" we are limiting ourselves. We are building walls around us. We are making a self made block in our path of growth.

It is time to give a careful look at what is limiting us from growing. The shopkeeper can expand his business by investing some more capital. If he does not have the capital, He can make plan to save some money by cutting some expenses. Or take a loan from a bank or look for other options. He is not destined to be a small shopkeeper. He can grow his income potential.

I am not talking about natural calamities. We cannot control them. It can come any moment. But there are certain things which we can control.

Every one can improve their situation by careful analysis and adoption of suitable strategies.

Believe in yourself.

First you need to remove the limiting belief and say there are lot of opportunities to grow. Stop saying that limiting words like "It is my Destiny". Believe and say there is opportunity to grow and improve. Say that there is scope and hope. I can grow and there is lot of opportunities.

Look for the blocks

Secondly you need to find out what is limiting your growth. Is it a degree or some courses?. Is it wrong choice of your career? Is it Capital? Is it a little more study? (You cannot say that you are too old to study. Read the story a woman, named Rose. it is very inspiring) Is it your habit of spending more time watching TV than studying? Is it the habit of playing computer games. Is it the lack of knowledge of a particular language? Examine it. You know it better than anyone else. You cannot say, it is your destiny.

Correct it or Take Action

After you find out what is limiting you, you need to correct it. It could be spending more time in your studies, or arranging capital for expanding your business or joining for an evening course or starting a new business or income source etc. Find out a way to grow. No one can stop you. Find out where you missed out, go there and start anew.

There is nothing to loose but the chains that locking you.

Control your destiny.

Even when Jesus was questioned about the blind man, Jesus never told them "it's his destiny" or something like that.  Let us see what Jesus told about this blind Man.

As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, "Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?"  "Neither this man nor his parents sinned," said Jesus, "but this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life. As long as it is day, we must do the work of him who sent me. Night is coming, when no one can work. While I am in the world, I am the light of the world."   Having said this, he spit on the ground, made some mud with the saliva, and put it on the man's eyes. "Go," he told him, "wash in the Pool of Siloam" (this word means Sent). So the man went and washed, and came home seeing.

See even someone born physically handicapped, his disability isn't his destiny.  There is a purpose for everything.  Find out your purpose of your life.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose

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      jacobkuttyta 5 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks DarkDisOrder for visiting my hub and your comment.

      Thanks Sudeep for sharing your thoughts.

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      sudeep13582 7 years ago from Howrah

      I dont think you can change your destiny... no one can..

      coz what you get after you think you changed.. itself your destiny...

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      DarkDisOrder 7 years ago from B.A.D. (Beyond All Dimensions)

      An inspirational hub indeed...

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Ezhuthukari for your kind visit and comment.

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      ezhuthukari 7 years ago from Kerala

      Very inspiring!

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks FuzzyCookie

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps.

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      FuzzyCookie 7 years ago

      Your hub has inspired me today, I dont say that "this is my destiny" but I suffer from an evil habit called procrastination and laziness for which I have paid a high price. This hub has given me a ray of hope to work against the odds and get out of the mental block thats slowly killing my life . cheers!

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks kaltopsyd

      for your visit and comment.

      Blessings

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      kaltopsyd 7 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      I completely agree with you. You CAN control your destiny, especially if you read this Hub. hehe. Good points made!

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Mr Nice,

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps.

      Thanks to you all

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      Mr Nice 7 years ago from North America

      Hi jacobkuttyta,

      Your hub is really full of inspiration & encouragement. The biggest reason why people can't think of change is fear of change, once they can come over that fear, change is easy.

      “Destiny is not matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” ~William Jennings Bryan

      “Dreams are like stars...you may never touch them, but if you follow them they will lead you to your destiny.”

      Keep writing great hubs like this one, I really enjoyed your hub. Have a wonderful day.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way this week. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

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      fucsia 7 years ago

      I agree with you. Many times we are prisoners of our "destiny" but only because we are afraid of being responsible for our lives. If is the life to decide for us, we can not blame ourselves for our failures.

      The worst thing we can do ourselves is not accept our strength to fear: this immobilize us, like your collegue

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks David 471

      Thanks Ann Lee

      For your kind visit and gracious comment.

      May God Bless you.

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      Ann Lee 7 years ago

      There is an old saying: "Work like everything depends on you. Pray like everything depends on God." That is how we accomplish our destiny.

      Proverbs 3:5-6

      5Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

      6In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

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      David 470 7 years ago from Pennsylvania, United States

      Great hub. I believe that even if we do have a destiny it does not have to control us if we are determined enough. Who knows? :)

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      thanks all for your visit and comments

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      awcase 7 years ago

      this is a great hub. if you believe you can achieve. thx for sharing.

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      Dr irum 7 years ago

      Its so inspiring stuf ,you are such a good writer .Awesome .

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Research Analyst for your visit and comment.

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      Research Analyst 7 years ago

      As they always say, it is not WHAT happens to you its HOW you respond to what happens.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Valerie for your visit. I appreciate your stopping by and leaving a comment.

      Thanks

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      Valerie P Brown 7 years ago from Jacksonville, FL

      Very Good Well written, similar in content to the on I just wrote on the inner child and God. We do each control oure destiny amd know in our hearts what to do yet often we are afraid to take the one step that will propel us into our future,

      Well Done

      Go with God my Friend,

      Valerie

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks 2besure for your kind visit and comment.

      Thanks once again

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      Pamela Lipscomb 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Great points on controlling your destiny. We can't wait for others to do it for us.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks soumyasrajan for your encouraging and insightful comment.

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      soumyasrajan 7 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

      Nice hub jacobkuttya! Very inspiring to any one to try best. Your own story how you changed after moving to Delhi shows that you also follow what ever you preach.

      Our Karma Philosophy in India (which, I think in some form, is followed by people of all religions in India)- "Do your Karma (work) without expectation of fruits" is one of the biggest tool to control the destiny. Lot of times people wrongly analyze and claim that it teaches to work less ("if you do not expect fruits why should one work" is their argument). While what it really teaches us is - to do work without worrying about fruits or success. In other words one should not fear the failure.

      Such ideas help one a lot in becoming more ambitious (if you do not worry about failure you will want to do more and more ) and trying to achieve one's goals through proper means (after all if you are not just for blind success why get carried away) as well as putting all efforts into one's work and control of destiny (when you are not worried about failure - you will try your best).

      Another aspect it teaches is not to have too much proud (sanskrit word garura) about success (when end result is not important, why will you take pride in small successes, you will always have bigger goals in mind). Absence of garura for what ever one has achieved is an important tool to do more and helps one to become more ambitious and there by controller of the destiny.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Itech, for your visit and comment.

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      Krishna 7 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Interesting and inspiring, Gained some more knowledge from this article,

      Thanks jacob...

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks valeriebelew for your visit and comment.

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      valeriebelew 7 years ago from Metro Atlanta, GA, USA

      Very good thoughts and advice, jacobkuttyta. Many give up too easily, and often we only fail because we don't even try. Thumbs up on this one. (: v

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Theirishobserver for your visit. I appreciate your stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      theirishobserver. 7 years ago from Ireland

      excellent hub....great writing...hope you are doing well...I have been busy publishing my book so sorry for not dropping by more often....Irish

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thank you so much stars439. I appreciate you stopping by and leaving a comment

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Thank you for a very nice hub. GBY

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Dreamreachout for your visit and encouraging comment

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      dreamreachout 7 years ago

      Wonderful words of wisdom!! I liked it more because I follow whats really the content here!! Wonderful hub!!

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Amber Allen, For your visit and valued comment

      Thanks Dr. Cherie - for your visit and valued comment

      Thanks H P Roychoudhury - for your visit and valued comment

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      H P Roychoudhury 7 years ago from Guwahati, India

      Yes, you are right to say that one can change his destiny by dint of his endeavor in certain cases but I am sorry to say not in all cases.

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      Cherie Santasiero PhD 7 years ago from Hamburg, NY

      You are so right. When we find our negative thoughts that are mostly habitual, we can change them. When we re-frame negative beliefs into positive ones, we do attract more positive people and opportunities. Also great to define in writing, which you showed people how to do. Right on!

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      Amber Allen 7 years ago

      Much of our destiny is in our own hands, if we realise this and then do something about it we can achieve so much. An inspiring hub. Amber:)

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Pisean282311 for your encouraging comment

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      pisean282311 7 years ago

      you are absolutely right..nice hub..

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Drbj for your visit and comment and the nice quote of Henry Ford

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks samboiam for your vist and comment

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      drbj and sherry 7 years ago from south Florida

      Excellent thoughts, jk. Very true. We all grow old but not everyone grows up. I think it was Henry Ford who once said, "If you think you can or you think you can't, you are right." In other words, it is what we believe that guides our destiny, not some unknown external force.

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      samboiam 7 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for the encouragement and inspiration.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Jandee for your visit and comment

      It is great to know that you have decided to change your destiny.

      Great!, Keep it up

      Thanks once again

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      jandee 7 years ago from Liverpool.U.K

      Enjoyed reading jacobkuttyta and you touched a nerve ! I am struggling with french and now must commit to more studying so thanks for the nudge.

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      jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

      Thanks Suny51 for your visit and comment

      Thank you very much

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      suny51 7 years ago

      Thats very inspiring jacobkuttyta,yes growth is a continuous process and for that there is no limit,a systematic approach can do wonders.