How to deal with hatred, prejudice and violence

Defence mechanism

The Penguin Dictionary of Psychology defines hate as a “deep, enduring, intense emotion expressing animosity, anger, and hostility towards a person, group, or object.” Because it is “enduring” it can be seen more as an attitude than a short-lived emotional state.

In the psycho-dynamic view we tend to project onto others what we cannot face in ourselves, what we reject in ourselves. We tend to split off from ourselves the bits of our personality or psychological structure that we do not want to acknowledge. This leads to blaming and scapegoating – “it's not me, it's them.”

In this way we are able to protect our self-images and avoid knowing ourselves and at the same time we can denounce another person or group for being what we cannot face in ourselves. This is called a defence mechanism.

A Poison Tree by William Blake

I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

And I watered it in fears,
Night and morning with my tears;
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.

And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine.
And he knew that it was mine,

And into my garden stole
When the night had veiled the pole;
In the morning glad I see
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.

Blake's plate of this poem from "Songs of Experience"
Blake's plate of this poem from "Songs of Experience"

The denial of death

In close inter-personal relationships I can, for example, project my feeling of anger onto my father and say, “He hates me. He doesn't even try to understand me.” In this way I avoid having to look into myself and confront my own feelings of anger. Then my wife might innocently ask me why I am so late home from work and I lash out at her, without understanding why.

We are all mortal. This is a truism, so obvious, and yet it something that every human being struggles with. It is very difficult to face the certainty of death. We deny it, we fight against it, we believe at some level that it won't happen to us. And yet it will, absolutely and inevitably.

In our attempts to avoid accepting the inevitability of our death we tend to look for certainty in other things, most often the cultural group to which we belong.

This group gives us security and comfort and we identify strongly with it. But there are still within us things that we would prefer not to acknowledge as being part of ourselves, maybe sexual urges, maybe murderous urges, or anything else that makes us feel bad. It is quite easy to project these things onto people who are not part of our group - “they” are murderous, “they” want to rape our women, and so on. And so prejudice is born.

Prejudice at an intellectual level is quite easy to deal with. If I believe that, for example, Indians cheat, and I then meet an Indian who is transparently honest, I can no longer maintain my belief that Indians cheat.

The problem is that prejudice is not just an intellectual thing, it is deep seated and rooted in enduring emotions, so that even when I meet that transparently honest Indian, I will modify my prejudice just enough to accommodate this individual Indian, but I will still hold onto my belief that Indians cheat. Because letting go of that belief somehow threatens my self-image, my self-esteem, and I will not allow that to happen.

I will continue to project the cheating part of me onto the generic “Indians” so that I don't have to face the fact that I want to, or in fact do, cheat in monetary matters. This is a deeply satisfying thing to us because it allows us, when we meet an Indian who does cheat, to say with a kind of gloating triumph, “See, I told you Indians cheat.” This is great for our self-esteem – we are affirmed – and also further entrenches the prejudice.

When prejudice becomes hatred it usually results in action. The hatred fuels action against the object of our prejudice. This is the start of the spiral of violence, which can so easily spin out of control and pull into its vortex people who were not part of the original situation.

The Spiral of Violence.
The Spiral of Violence.
The Spiral of Violence stopped by the use of empathy. Graphics by Tony McGregor
The Spiral of Violence stopped by the use of empathy. Graphics by Tony McGregor

An act of imagination

This can happen in a family, in a clan, in a country. A group of people is dispossessed of their land and their family structures are shaken. In this situation it is so easy to look for a scapegoat to blame. The fact of the matter might be that another group has done this, but instead of negotiating or reasoning with that group the dispossessed project their hatred and incomprehension onto the other group – it's because they don't care, they are unfeeling, they have no respect for our traditions.

Then the dispossessed group might find some way to get back at the group which dispossessed them. Now the roles are reversed. The group being attacked will now have the opportunity to project their feelings onto the group attacking them – see, we told you they were violent and didn't deserve that land in the first place! And so it will go on until someone takes the risk, dares, to do something to stop the spiral.

The risk that is needed to stop the spiral of violence, and it is a big risk, is to use the imagination, to use the quality and attitude of empathy.

Heinz Kohut defined empathy as “the capacity to think and feel oneself into the inner life of another person.” It is to stand in the other person's shoes. And empathy is an act of the imagination.

In her June 2008 Harvard Commencement address Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling said: “Imagination [...] is the power that enables us to empathize with humans whose experiences we have never shared. Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people's minds, imagine themselves into other people's places. Many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally. [...] Those who choose not to empathize may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.”

The Empathy Poster

The first step

To true peace and harmony

In our families

In our schools

In our places of work

In our neighborhoods and our communities

In our countries

In our world.

Reach out to people of another race, another nationality,

Another gender, another age, another religion,

To “an other” of any kind,

and

Open up to their experiences,

Their feelings,

Their uniqueness

And their universal humanness.

Because you can’t hate,

And you won’t want to hurt,

Someone you know as a human being,

Someone you understand and respect.

With Empathy comes appreciation, acceptance, love and peace.

- from "The Empathy Poster"

The risk in empathy

Empathy effectively stops projections and prejudice. I cannot continue to project my unacknowledged and unacceptable feelings, the split-off parts of me, onto the other person when I try to see the world from where they are standing.

A huge risk in this, of course, is that I might change. I might have to revise some of my prejudices against a particular person or race as soon as I start to understand the world as that person or race sees it. I might have to let go of some of my defence mechanisms, like projection, if I use my imagination to get into the other person's reality. Dropping defence mechanisms can be very scary.

That is why it is so much easier to carry on holding onto my defences, believing things in spite of strong evidence against my beliefs. It is not rational, but it is more comfortable, easier, than the alternative.

The alternative, though, is really what makes us human. As Rowling said, it is the quality which humans have that no other creature has. It is the power of our potential.

Looking at the world around us we can see the effects of a dualistic, us and them, point of view is leading us down a slippery slope.

To stop the slide, to break the spiral of violence, we need to help each other use our imaginations to start the process of seeing life form the “other's” point of view. We need to help each other because we cannot do it alone. The system of projection and counter-projection is too big, it is too powerful, for anyone to do it alone.

How we can hep each other is by making the effort, every day, to understand a little more, how other people feel. We can help each other by sharing information and experiences. We can help each other by showing respect to each other. We can help each other by refusing to sign on to the hate campaigns, by refusing to be complicit in the spreading of disinformation about other people. We can help each other by refusing to put labels onto other people and then relating only to the labels and not to the people.

It won't be easy, but if we don't start with ourselves, it won't ever start.

The alternative is to stare down the barrel of a very large weapon and hope like hell that it won't go off and take us all with it. And that is a very slender hope.

One resource I recommend on the Internet is the “Empathy Symbol”, a symbol which is an attempt to show the inter-connectedness of all that we can start to understand through empathy. The link to the site is below.

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bingskee 6 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

this is very beautiful. hate, prejudice, and violence are such strong words which are indeed borne by our deep seated anger, disappointment and rejection of ourselves. they are manifestations of what we are. but it's a good thing there is conviction. the right amount of which to conquer these negative feelings vary though from one individual to another.


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msorensson 6 years ago

It is beautifully written and presented, Tony. Thank you for sharing.

That you project your feelings to others is true.

Empathy, without self discipline can be very dangerous, Tony.

One empath I know took on the diseases of her clients until she realized what she was doing.

I experienced it. It was good to experience as it was a pathway to uncovering layers and layers of imprinting and conditioning.

To understand others, we must first understand ourselves. As easy as it sounds, it is not.

Be still. For only those who are themselves still can impart stillness unto others~ unknown.


"Quill" 6 years ago

Thank you Tony for all you have done here...great Hub and one worth the bookmark..

Blessings


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JOE BARNETT 6 years ago

you covered absolutely every aspect of the dynamics of this problem. everyone can see when this occurs,except the person or group that's guilty of it.excellent hub tony!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Bingskee - your words aqre very true, thak you.

Melinda - empathy in fact means being able to separate the feelings of the other from oneself, and still be able to understand. Understanding is the key, not taking on. But you are right, it takes discipline, certainly, and congruence, being who you really are. Which in turn implies, as you say, sefl-understanding.

Quill - thank you for you kind words. I appreciate them.

Joe - I am really honoured by your words! Thank you.

Thanks everyone for dropping by and commenting. Much appreciated indeed!

Love and peace

Tony


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JON EWALL 6 years ago from usa

Hubbers

Some hubbers expose themselves to writing in a way that breaths hate and resentment of wall street CEO's, big business AND EVEN WHAT IS HAPPENING IN OUR GOVERNMENT IN WASHINGTON.

Is it possible to educate those hubbers to the truth instead of the propaganda that the government and the mainstreet news media are delivering to the people?

Comments about hatred in our society.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Jon - that is at least in part why I wrote this Hub. Hatred and prejudice seem to permeate all societies and they cause untold suffering and harm. They are also very often based on false information.

Thanks for the visit and the comment.

Love and peace

Tony


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Hummingbird5356 6 years ago

This is a very informative hub, as ever. Ignorance causes hate more than any other emotion. Ignorance of other people or races and also fear, which is created by the ignorance. It is a vicious circle which can only be broken by the wish to learn on the part of individuals.

Living in Germany and coming into contact with people from many different countries, cultures and levels of education taught me that in fact there is not much difference between any race in the world.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Hummingbird - I thank you sincerely for your insightful comment. Indeed knowledge is a grat antidote to fear and hatred. My point though is that it is not enough to know - we have to take the trouble to really understand for there to be realy change.

Thanks again for dropping by and commenting. I appreciate it very much indeed!

Love and peace

Tony


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ainehannah 6 years ago from Dublin

Love "We can help each other by refusing to put labels onto other people and then relating only to the labels and not to the people." especially. Great hub.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Aine - I love that name! Thanks for the wonderful comment. I deeply appreciate it.

Love and peace

Tony


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK

I absolutely agree with every single word you have written here. There is nothing to add. Well done.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

DG - thank you so much. I am truly honoured by you words.

Thanks for dropping by and leaving such a wonderful comment.

Love and peace

Tony


chasingcars 6 years ago

We need more of this topic. The whole process of overcoming our baser and weaker instincts, because hatefulness is a protective instinct, begins with learning to assess our behavior. In my brief study of Greek philosophy, one phrase has stood out above all others: Know thyself. I see a great many people in this country who seem not to realize that they are, indeed, acting hatefully. They, as you say, project their own fears, prejudices, and hatred on others. When you call them on it, they blame something or someone else. They are frightened to face themselves and lack the courage to listen to their consciences. It takes courage to be a good person in this world, and, as you and Rowlings so aptly put it, empathy. As she also says, empathy requires a great deal of imagination and the courage to face your own misdeeds and commit to change--every day. As the poet William Blake points out, hatred waters a poisonous tree, and its fruits are deadly. We can get angry, but we cannot survive hating.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

As always- very well done!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Thank you Chasingcars. You are so right - we cannot survive hating. And too many people seem to think we can.

I love that quote about hatred watering a poisonous tree. Maybe I should add it into this Hub somewhere?

Love and peace

Tony


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Micky - thank you my friend. Coming from you that is a great compliment.

Love and peace

Tony


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Tammy Lochmann 6 years ago

What a fantastic hub!...I hope lots of people read it...I am going to share this one I know you won't mind...Some people cannot empathize they do not have that capacity...I often wonder if it is a mental disorder or a missing gene. Sad really.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Tammy - thanks for your kind words and of course I don't mind. Indeed I would love it if it was widely shared. Also I feel honoured that you would want to do so!

Love and peace

Tony


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LRCBlogger 6 years ago

Wow, a lot of thought and research in this. I wish everyone would read this.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

LRC - thank you so much for dropping by and commenting. It means a lot to me.

Love and peace

Tony


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liswilliams 6 years ago from South Africa

amazing writing, Tony, keep on reaching out to the masses.


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Lee B 6 years ago from New Mexico

I've got to agree with LRCBlogger, I, too, wish everyone would read this. Thank you so much, tonymac04, for writing this and providing the link to the Empathy Symbol. Love it! Your devoted fan, Lee B


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Lisa and Lee - two of my favourite ladies on HubPages! Thanks so much for dropping by and for the kind words. Comments really make the writing feel worthwhile.

Thanks again kind ladies.

Love and peace

Tony


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amillar 6 years ago from Scotland, UK

A vicious circle Tony, yet, empathy works best coming from all sides. I imagine some people could squabble about who’s the most or least empathetic.

Another excellent hub.


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York

Great Hub! If I feel hateful, I ask myself, "What about this person is me?" It's a good way to realize things I need to face or change.


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Storytellersrus 6 years ago from Stepping past clutter

tony, i feel so... chastized, lol. i am guilty of all that you state as negative yet i am also striving to create that imaginative place where i come from empathy. it is not an easy task. thank you for helping me see more clearly.


loriamoore 6 years ago

Some people don't realize how much energy they spend on hate when they could be putting it to much better use.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Amillar - indeed we do get caught up in silly games like who is the most, who is the best, etc. When what we really need to do is to get on with life and stop wasting energy on unnecessary things.

Cecilia - that is a great learning for me also, to ask myself that important question. It is sobering and growthfull.

Story - my intention was not to chastise at all. My goodness, I fail at these things too much. And empathy is a hard choice and I just hope to become better and better at it as I grow.

Lori - hating is indeed a wasteful attitude, because in the end it brings us nothing good, only exhaustion and more hate. Better to concentrate on things that bring joy and fulfilment, like empathy and love!

Thanks everyone for dropping by, for reading and for leaving such wonderful comments. I appreciate it all very much.

Love and peace

Tony


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ocbill 6 years ago from hopefully somewhere peaceful and nice

All I can say is great hub. very well done. The comments following it continue the intellect. It just proves to you that not everyone in the group runs with the herd.

Some will be different and begin their own critical and creative thought process to come to a conclusion.

Glad you shared this to people and helping to change or remind people that your "signature" is the best option.


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projectmaster 6 years ago

great post really lik this part

"In our attempts to avoid accepting the inevitability of our death we tend to look for certainty in other things, most often the cultural group to which we belong."

its so true however I believe we are all spiritual beings as-well, and this life is really only a short viewing for what is to come after all we are energy and energy doest get destroyed but transferred..death should not be seen as an end but more the next step in life : )


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Bill - thank you for you kind words. I appreciate them very much.

Project - thanks to you also for teh kind words.

Thanks for dropping by and commenting.

Love and peace

Tony


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blackreign2012 6 years ago

your skill is unbelievable! Great Hub something for ALL of us to consider and dialouge about ~hugs~


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electricsky 6 years ago from North Georgia

I once asked what political correctness was and was answered it was speaking without making reference to one's race or nationality.

I think that this erases prejudices. Thank you for your hub.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Blackreign - your words are too kind. I thank you sincerely.

Electric sky - I appreciate your comment very much indeed.

Love and peace

Tony


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Kaie Arwen 6 years ago

Beautifully written and much to think about! Thank you for this!

Kaie


A.M. Gwynn 6 years ago

Great article Tony!

You know, I am reading "Worse than War: Genocide, Eliminationism and the Ongoing Assault" by Daniel Jonah Goldhagen; previous author of "Hitler's Willing Executioners".

Hate, prejudice, et al., abominations start with those emotions... your article mirrors my recent reading.

Thanks for this one!


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Lynda Gary 6 years ago

Excellent article! Professionally written, balanced, intelligent ... This is my kind of hub. :) Will bookmark so I can link to it from a future hub of mine, when appropriate.

Thanks!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Kaie - thanks for your kind words.

A.M. Gwynne - thank you too for the kind words and the heads-up about Goldhagen. I shall have to look him up.

Lynda - your words do me great honour indeed!

Thanks all for dropping by and commenting - your words give me great encouragement.

Love and peace

Tony


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kirstein.peter53 6 years ago from Maseru

A great hub thank you Tony. I've recently read a book entitled "The Anatomy of Peace" by The Arbinger Institute. A wonderful read! Have you come across it? The Arbinger Institute is an international training, consulting and coaching firm that specializes in conflict resolution and peace building - whether in families, in organisations, or between communities or nations. Check it out at www.arbinger.com


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cameciob 6 years ago

Great work Tony. If I analyze my self using your hub, I can see that I'm guilty of all of them, maybe less of hate but planty of prejudice. I think some of these emotions come from education and cultural environment. I just hope to raise my child free of any of these.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Pete - thanks for the heads up about the Arbinger Institute. Been to their website and signed up for their Ning site also. Will look out for the book.

Camelia - thanks for your kind words. I'm sure youn will raise your child free of hate and prejudice. And I wish there were more parents like you who see the importance of this.

Thanks for dropping by, good people.

Love and peace

Tony


Anneofwords 6 years ago

Tony,

Your words of wisdom and eloquence obviously touch many of us. Thank you.


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queen cleopatra 6 years ago

The message on this hub is quite touching and enlightening. Lives have been wasted due to baseless anger. Road rage crimes are getting rampant because some people do not have self-control. Why can't we contain our anger? Sometimes, it's better to avoid any confrontation, especially when emotions are still boiling hot. Let's hate violence--not other people. Thanks for letting me share once again, tonymac04 :)


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Anne - thank you and welcome to HubPages!

Cleo - let's hate violence and not other people indeed!

Thank you friends for dropping by and for your words.

Love and peace

Tony


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JON EWALL 6 years ago from usa

tonymac04

ALL THE HUBBERS WHO REPILIED TO YOUR HUB SEAM TO recognize the difference between love and hate. The real question should be '' what creates hatred in our society today ?''

Is poverty a source of hatred ?

Is having money a source of hatred?

Is social justice a reason for hatred?

Is having a political position on an issue a reason to be hateful?

Is jealousy a reason to be hateful?

Is racism a reason to be hateful?

Is religion a reason to hateful?

There are many things in today's society that cause one to be hateful.

Wouldn't it be a wonderful world for all mankind if we practiced peace and love. Respect for each other by extending a helping hand to the misfortunate and standing up against the greed and the corruption in our government.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Jon - thanks for your interesting and insightful comment. I believe respect and understanding are the ways to deal with hate. Greed and corruption are forms of theft - they take from people what is rightfully theirs. I don't think government has any monopoly on either. Corruption especially needs to be opposed wherever it occurs, as it saps the moral fibre of people and societies.

Thanks again, I really appreciate your dropping by and commenting.

Love and peace

Tony


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Storytellersrus 6 years ago from Stepping past clutter

I know you didn't mean it. The hub wasn't written with this type of response in mind. That was how I felt because I was guilty, lol. I appreciate feeling thus, because I went ahead and corrected a mistake I was making in pointing my finger outward instead of inward. I feel grateful for the hub and for the feeling of chastisement because it was healing. Sometimes it is okay to feel not okay. Hugs!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Story - you are so honest and a tonic to me, thank you most sincerely!

Love and peace

Tony


kimberlyslyrics 6 years ago

Tony the information here should be on laminated cards for our wallets as reminders. What a great way to start my day

I thank you for clearing my head this morning

[big smile]

kimberly


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

And a big smile back to you, my dear! You have made my day with your kind words.

Love and peace

Tony


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Ah! Projecting what we know lies within ourselves. You're a wise man and you explain this difficult subject with such clarity and wisdom. I nodded in agreement many times throughout the read. Great food for thought (and for future hubs). Thanks tony... rated 'up'.


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saddlerider1 6 years ago

Tony the Noble Peace Prize is within your grasp. This is a wonderful study in human behavior and man's inhumanity to his fellow man. What a different world we would enjoy if racism, bigotry,name calling,violence against the color of ones skin were all put aside. I think self evaluation is important, like the great Michael Jackson sang..about the man in the mirror, it's always a reflection back to US..we can make the needed changes. Great post big UP from me.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Lotus - your comment has had me nodding also! Thanks so much for the kind words.

Saddlerider - wow! You make me blush! Thanks so much. And that song has often struck me also - the man in the mirro. It is a great message. Because peace and acceptance do start with that man in the mirror.

Thanks for dropping by and making such kind comments, Lotus and Saddlerider. I appreciate it very much indeed.

Love and peace

Tony


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

My Brother Tony...

You know, when I read about these types of things, I shiver. I love people so much and I love to be able to help anyone. Violence is so out of place, for starters. Hate it´s a saddening trait, because the one who hates is craving for love but it´s using the wrong approach; and prejudice? For goodness´sake...Is it so hard to understand that above color, race, language, skin color, status quo, we are all human? We come from the same Creator? In every true and serious religion, mankind is one, and only one! The Beatles were never more accurate in their messages when they sang: "All we need is love"

Great hub, Brother! Thumbs up! Bookmarked and Stumbled!

Warmest regards and infinite heavenly blessings,

Al


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Al, my brother - thanks for your wonderful comment and for adding value to this Hub with them. I deeply appreciate your words and your actions.

Love and peace

Tony


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Sally's Trove 6 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Empathy comes to you and it comes to me easily. Perhaps it's a matter of how we were raised by our parents, what our genetic structure is, or who knows what? We are gifted with the ability to put ourselves in others' shoes and understand the world from someone else's perspective.

It is estimated that 1% of the general population can be diagnosed or categorized as psychopathic. Psychopaths are not able to empathize, and there is no way to change that. Since they can't empathize, they are free to act in any way, without remorse.

I think hate, prejudice, and violence are behaviors that for most can be changed, given the will and desire and the influence of positive role models. But for that 1%, there will never be a change.

The frightening thing about that 1% is that they are not always criminals; they may be respected community leaders, corporate executives, and politicians...supposed role models but with agendas that have nothing to do with anyone but themselves.

I'm going to guess that 50% or more of the people who read this Hub have no concept whatsoever of projection and the power it exudes on their own lives. Hopefully, you've opened some eyes.

Fabulous Hub.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Sherri - I really appreciate your thoughtful and interesting comments. Psycopathy is indeed a frightening thing and as you so rightly say it can be there in so many people without others even realising it. The power of the hidden agenda to sabotage good efforts is amazing.

Your comments have added value to this Hub and for that I really thank you.

Love and peace

Tony


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ALL4JESUS 6 years ago from USA

Never heard of the empathy symbol - off to that site. Another great Hub! You are fantastic!


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

All4Jesus - thanks for the comment. Hope you enjoy the empathy site and find it as useful as I have.

Love and peace

Tony


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Wealthmadehealthy 6 years ago from Somewhere in the Lone Star State

Bookmarked....this was an excellent hub...you know God tonymac...you just described all the things God really wants us to do in connection with other human beings. If the whole world had THIS point of view, it would be a better place to live in....

May God Continue to bless you and yours, and guide you in your writings This gave me a lot to ponder on....


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

WMH - thank you for a really wonderful comment. I deeply appreciate your kind and thoughtful words.

Love and peace

Tony


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mulberry1 6 years ago

Excellent work here. Sometime after reaching adulthood it struck me that hate is the most dangerous force on earth and that our individual psychological weakenesses/instability are at the crux of almost all of our problems.

How soon can we get everyone scheduled for therapy? ;)


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Christine - thanks so much for visiting and commenting. I think that hate is indeed the most destructive force on earth. Wouldn't it be great if we could get eveyone into therapy! LOL!

Thanks again

Love and peace

Tony


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ahorseback 6 years ago

I watched an interview of Morgan Freeman , when he was asked this question he said. "We've got to stop talking about it" ,he said the natural relationships will take care of themselves , to paraphrase , he said essentially , we talk too much about race. Let it be .


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

I'm afraid I don't agree. I think that if left the unchallenged racism can take over. In South Africa certainly the effects of racism over nearly 5 centuries are just too deep and we have to find healing and reconciliation. Ignoring the wounds will not heal them. And I recognise my responsibility as a white person to take some initiative towards that healing and reconciliation. It won't happen by itself.

Thanks for sharing your comment, which I deeply appreciate.

Love and peace

Tony


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ahorseback 6 years ago

There is a difference between ignoring an issue and beating it to death constantly. We tend to over-anylize everything in America until it becomes a revolving issue,

for instance , the reparations debate , enough is enough, no one today was a slave or a slave holder .


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

I see where you're coming from and would tend to agree. Thanks for coming back and commenting again. Much appreciated.

Love and peace

Tony


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ahorseback 6 years ago

I can tell by your picture that you "teach your children well", remember that song ? Stay well.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Horseback - thanks and yes!

Love and peace

Tony


Juhi 6 years ago

WOW :) that's all i can say right now :)

Good job Tony :) I totally support this hub, and it has helped me with tips for an essay i am writing :) I just hope i get the marks i want :)

Hating is totally worthless, and haters dont get a cent out of it .. i wonder what they think they'll 'achieve' from hating and discriminating .. nothing at all from the way i look at it. Its amazing, and keep it up :) I would love to be able to write like you soon :) wow wow wow !!! :) x


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa Author

Juhi - thanks for your wonderful comment. I really appreciate that you took the time to read and leave such kind words! Keep writing!

Love and peace

Tony


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justmesuzanne 5 years ago from Texas

Words that we are certainly in need of these days! Thanks! :)


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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Suzanne - thanks so much. Glad you found it helpful.

Love and peace

Tony


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katiem2 5 years ago from I'm outta here

Amen and Amen again, anytime I need inspiritation I know where to come. I'm in agreement to refuse the anti love campaigns and let love ring, speading love at every opportunity and believing in the positive of our great and vast universe. Good over powering the counter. Love and Peace :)


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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Katie - thanks for the big "thumbs up"!

Love and peace

Tony


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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

tonymac04~~ Thank you for this powerful and informative HUB~~ Voted UP & AWESOME...!


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tonymac04 5 years ago from South Africa Author

Marcoujor - thanks for stopping by.

Love and peace

Tony


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BullyReform 4 years ago from Worldwide

Hate and prejudice are issues that we are unfortunatly going to have to face forever but it is something that can be avoided in some cases. We have to spread knowledge to those who hate so that they might realize the intensity of their actions. Great hub I voted up.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

What a great hub. I so agree with what you say here, change always starts with us. It may be a cliché to quote Ghandi, but if I want to see change I have to be it. Not always easy, as you say, but in the long run neither is holding prejudice. And letting go is so much more rewarding in the long run, and even in the short!

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