Addiction And Relationships

Living With Addiction

In this day and age, many people find it hard just adjusting to a new relationship, never less living with someone that has an addiction.

Addiction and relationships are running high in our society these days and I see no end in site. It just seems to get worse as each year passes.

Why do I say this? The simple reason is that in our world today, we are experiencing and living in one more depression like back in the 1930s and see no let up in the future.

This is one of the main reason so many people may be turning to drugs or alcohol to try to ease the pain of the financial worries. Just let me tell you, this is not the solution to your problems.

By turning to drugs and alcohol it just makes things worse with your relationships and will make you feel as if you will never get your head above water.

Both Share An Addiction

There are so many couples in our world that possibly both share an addition whether it be drugs or alcohol or in some cases both.

This is by far an unhealthy relationship when both are addicted. How can a family even survive or live each day with a clear mind when they share their own misery?

It is bad enough when one of the two has an addiction, but when you have two suffering from similar addictions it will never work in the end. There may very well be a mass majority of these people that fight and argue continuously not really even knowing why they are even arguing. The addiction is mostly talking and acting in their behalf.

When there are two addicted to drugs or alcohol and they decide that they want to surrender to there demons, they both must do it together and share there road to recovery as they shared their addiction together.

It will never work if only one person decides to quit drinking or using drugs. The temptation of watching and knowing your partner is still using or drinking alcohol will have such a negative effect on you finding your sobriety and I can see it never working. You must do this change in life as a team effort and help each other throughout the days and weeks and years that go by.

You must give each other moral support and praise each other every day you make it through one more sober day.


Finding Sobriety Together

If you work together and truly want to become clean and sober, then finding sobriety together is 100 % a go.

Learn to comfort each other, because both of you will definitely need lots of love and support in order to get through and overcome your addiction together.

If the two of you really want to try to become clean and sober again, you must sit down and take a good hard look at your life and were your lives will be in the upcoming years. If you are totally honest with each other, you will realize that your life may well be shortened due to your substance abuse and addiction and you both will miss out on what true life has to offer.

I don't think anyone wants to live a short life and possibly becoming ill due to your addiction, when all of this can be changed if you have the willpower and the desire to do so..


Believe in Yourselves

Alcoholism In A Family

In many cases only one spouse or partner has an addiction, but they are not the only one suffering with this. Their spouse is suffering as well with watching, preaching, begging and praying for their spouse to become clean and sober again.

When there is alcoholism in a family who really suffers?

When one person is addicted and the other is sober and wants the addicted to give it up is when the problems begin in most cases.

The person that is addicted to drugs or alcohol really doesn't want to hear about quitting drinking or stop using. This makes for a rough relationship as well with continuous arguing over quitting.

Always remember what you are doing to yourself along with ruining your relationship, your family and cutting your life short all due to an avoidable addiction.

Is it really worth the pain and suffering you put yourself and others through because you are not able to surrender to your addiction?

SUMMARY

If you or your spouse or the both of you have an addiction problem, talk to each other and make plans to seek Professional Help so that the two of you can lead a long, healthy and happy life together.

If you set your mind to it and focus on having a Positive Attitude along with a strong desire and willingness to come clean, then you are on your way to finding sobriety.

With Sobriety comes Happiness, Fulfillment and Love for one another. it is a totally different feeling then when you are high or drunk together. You will see things in a all together different way. The way that would never be seen being addicted.

So, have that chat between the two of you and just surrender to your demons, ask for help, work together as a team and grasp the life of Sobriety together and start enjoying your lives.



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chenderson00 6 years ago from South Carolina

Very insightful hub. I have family members who are addicts and what you speak is definitely the truth. Great hub on a touchy subject for many.


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ chenderson00, Thanks so much for your kind words. All I want in my writings is to help people realize there is hope and it's never too late to change their lives.


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carrie450 6 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

A wonderful hub you have posted. I know of a couple who are working together to come clean of drugs they have been on. So far so good. Their lives were so chaotic before and now they are determined to change. I will show them this hub, thanks


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@carrie Thanks, Please do show your friends this and I hope it will help them to come clean. Tell them (from me) it will be the best thing they could ever do in their lives.


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VioletSun 6 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

A very wise hub! I think I have said this before, but you are doing great work in the service of mankind by writing the articles you do. I think almost everyone encounters addiction, if not in their immediate family, then with friends, co-workers, a neighbor, and articles likes yours make a difference.

Happy Thanksgiving!


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ VioletSun, Thank you so much for such kinds words. By me writing about addictions all I want is to touch someones life so that they can too become clean and sober as I did.


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psychicdog.net 6 years ago

Turning your back on an addiction is one of the hardest things you can do - like saying to someone you can never have chocolate again - many of us would find that tough. I lived with an alcoholic for many years and it drives you insane - the constant focus on the addiction. I have to say I commend you for your great courage the Clean Life - you have done what many others are still struggling with and it fills me with hope to read your hubs where you keep putting the bad stuff behind you. Thanks again.


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fucsia 6 years ago

Beautiful message... I think that the couple that together overcome this great difficulty becomes very close.

But there are couples who are united by the dependency. Are relationships unhealthy that serve to hide each other the own condition. In these cases find the way of sobriety together is impossible. At least that is my reflection on what I see happening in couples where there is an addiction.


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ fucia,, You maybe correct in that many couples I think like the way their lives are being addicted, but if one of them decides they have had enough then hopefully they can work on their addiction together and both quit at the same time.

Thank you for your comment as always :)


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ psychicdog.net First off thank you for your kind words to me and you are so right. Many people turn their back to their addiction maybe hoping it may go away, but they are just prolonging the chance to find their sobriety. If they face their problem head on they have a great chance for a new a clean life.


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Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

You have a lot of wisdom in this hub, Mark and it shows. Good points and hopefully well heeded.


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the clean life 6 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Denise, I hope that is Hub will be able to help someones relationship where there is an addiction in their family. Thanks for your kind words Denise.

God Bless you!


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frogyfish 5 years ago from Central United States of America

Truth and insightful words here. The 'symptoms' and 'cure' are broadly true in any addiction, but as you indicated, there is always hope when change is really desired. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!


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the clean life 5 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ frogyfish, I try to stress to everyone I know and that is never ever give up hope. Thanks so much for your kind words.


lala504 4 years ago

**Must Read** My mom has been an extreme alcoholic for as long as i can remember & her mom died from an opiate addiction. So needless to say addiction runs in my blood. My fiancé & i started dating almost 4 years ago & about 2 & a half years ago, we decided to buy vicodin off the street, once in a while, here & there for fun.. Before i knew it, we couldn't go a day without it, and at our worst point, we were buying 30-40 pills a day, every-single-day(not an exaggeration); the cost of about $4 a pill was catching up with us. At the age of 20 and 23, we weren't making enough to support the habit so we tried to stop. That was when we realized we were physically addicted. The withdrawals were unbearable after 48 hrs & we relapsed. A few months later we heard about Suboxone (buprenorphine/naloxone). It was a miracle drug. No more withdrawals! or so we thought. We then got hooked on that! We thought "this is what you use to get off pills... so it's fine." We have both always been very focused on school, sports, work... We both had a good head on our shoulders. The addiction lead us to both stop going to college, had left us with no friends, & we called our dealers more than our own families. FOR THE UPSIDE, We are now on day 14 of no pills at all. The withdrawals of the suboxon weren't as bad as the vicodin, but it was still one of the hardest things my body has ever been through. Days 1-3 seem fine, but when your body begins to FULLY clear itself out, that is when you will need eachother more than ever! We both really wanted to stop, and we did. Thinking about ending up like my mom scared me to death.. We are both looking towards building a future together. It feels like we just started dating again, everything feels new & we go out and do stuff again. I seriously was wondering if a couple could go through an addiction, withdrawals, and stay sober together, which is why i searched the topic... And have decided to share my story... I will never tell people it was easy, because its not, but it is possible, and trust me, IT IS WORTH THE 2 weeks of hell for a lifetime of happiness!

To sum up the last two weeks, our symptoms of suboxone withdrawals varied day by day, insomnia, intestinal discomfort, extreme sweating, deep depression, suicidal thoughts (no joke) headache, ....many more too, but TRUST ME..after day 13, its almost like a magic trick...YOU WILL FEEL GREAT! sorry about the length, but that is an experience i JUST went through, not a memory from years ago. IT GETS BETTER!!!! stay strong!


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

lala504 , Thank you so much for commenting on my article. I was upset in the beginning for you and your boy friend and what you have gone through together, but you pulled it off and decided (together) to get sober which is such a wonderful thing. I am so glad for the both of you that you both had the strength to stop the drugs, You both should be so proud of yourselves.. I don't even know you but I am happy and proud of you both for taking that first step to sobriety. Stay strong and never let anything get you down enough to start back using. Believe and you will achieve is what I write about and believe in. Stay positive and it will get easier and easier to stay clean and sober. Great Job!!!

Mark


lala504 4 years ago

Thank you so much. If my story helps give even one person the strength or courage to stop and change their lives around, it will be worth it. Your article really helped and answered a couple questions i had. thank you again.


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the clean life 4 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

lala504 , I am glad the article helped and you are very welcome. Feel free to email anytime if you need to. Check out others hubs for they may help you also.


floridabeachlover 3 years ago

I have already surrendered to my demons. lol. I am free at last.

On a serious note, this is another one of your good hubs. Great advice, tips and suggestions for anyone struggling with alcohol or drug addiction. voted up, awesome & useful.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

floridabeachlover- i an glad you and I have no more demons.They can really mess up ones life big time. Thanks for commenting

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