Online Dating on Craigslist or How to Drive Yourself Insane!

Single in New York City

So here I am in New York City where a plethora of men await me. Dating has never been my forte but surely in this sea of men, provided by Craigslist, Match.com and Myspace I would find my one and only, my soul-mate, if the idea of a soul-mate really does exist. I put an ad on Craigslist, get 60 to 100 responses, initially feel good, then overwhelmed, like I have a never ending stack of paper on my desk that I have to sift through one by one. They all start sounding alike. I start to think we should have relationship resumes complete with references and current telephone numbers. It sure would cut through the crap. I had started to make a list of all the men I had gone out with and why they were incompatible. This list justified my lack of a relationship if not to my family and friends at least to myself. It made me think I wasn't crazy.

OK here it is:

  • He had cats and was allergic to dogs (I have a dog and am allergic to cats).
  • He loved the country and hated the city (do I really have to explain this one?).
  • He was an ex-Catholic priest who didn't like to argue (enough said).
  • He was a psycho vegetarian who had posters of old women and stuffed animals strewn throughout his apartment. I am not kidding nor am I exaggerating (more about him later).
  • He was obnoxious and could not quit talking about himself to save his life.
  • He didn't like it that I was a Christian, he was Jewish but didn't practice...go figure!
  • He was 100 pounds overweight and about 15 years older than his picture. I couldn't have picked him out of a line-up!
  • He was 6'5", I'm 4'10"
  • He was very small and tiny, unusually tiny, like freakishly tiny, (for some reason that bugged me).
  • He was poor and wanted to smuggle store bought beer into an already cheap bar.

Ok, so having gone over this list in my, beleaguered attempt at editing, it might sound as if I am a little picky, just a little mind you. But, in my defense I would counter that argument saying that this is New York City, there are more men here than say Boise, Idaho, there are more varieties of men and therefore more varieties of incompatible men. In Boise, Idaho (and I am not picking on Boise for all you Boisians out there, it could be anywhere outside of New York) you might have a choice between A. The poor guy who wanted to smuggle beer into a pub or B. the 6' 5" guy. But, here in New York City you have A through Z to choose from and they are all just a computer ad away. You can see my dilemma.

Talking to men online is like talking to the Velveteen Rabbit before he becomes real. They are all so anonymous, sometimes they are anonymous even after you meet them but it's really bad beforehand. I remedy this with note taking, it doesn't have the power of the Blue Fairy to make them real but it helps. The only thing that makes them real is "The Connection". Sometimes the connection can take one meeting or date, sometimes it takes several, but once the connection is made they become real. If you go out on a date and they don't become real, then that's it, no second date, no Blue Fairy magic, no nothing, just another Velveteen Rabbit. Oy, I could open up a toy store!

So what is a girl to do but close your eyes and pick one out of the hundreds of suitor/ads and go with it. Of course you will want to get a look at the all powerful and all encompassing PIC. So I pick one and go out. If I am lucky enough to meet someone who even remotely resembles his picture I am fortunate. Then comes the initial meeting. This is when you calculate in your mind with the wizardry of a top-notch computer whether this guy sitting across from you has any potential whatsoever in making your life better or whether you've just wasted another perfectly good evening, cynical I know but nevertheless. This is not to mention all the guys that you didn't pick that could have been the ONE. That concept alone drives me crazy. I mean for every guy you do go out with there are 100 that you don't go out with. So the odds are 100 to 1, they are not in your favor and it's maddening to think about.

Not that I think that I am Miss Wonderful. All the while my insecurities are whispering in my ear "you're too fat", "you are having a bad hair day", "you're too short", "you're talking too much, slow down", etc, etc. It's a wonder they don't have specialty nut houses for the terminally single!

So I agree to go out with this guy, yeah, yeah, yeah another Craigslist guy. We talk on the phone and he sounds a little nerdy but intelligent and I like guys who are a little nerdy but intelligent. So we talk on the phone a bit and yeah there isn't any chemistry but he lives close by and he's a writer and writer's are cool right :). So I agree to meet up with him. He is passing by my apartment and he wants to meet and I just happen to be making brownies and invite him in for some brownies. He stops by for a few minutes (enough for me to see if he is a horror or not) and he seems nice enough and looks good enough and I can hear all my friends and family in unison (can you hear them?) telling me how picky I am so I figure what the hell, I'll give him a shot. So, he asks me over to his place for dinner. I don't think too much of it because previously he said that he didn't like to go out to eat, so I said sure.


I arrive at his place. I knew that we were not a match when I spied out of the corner of my eye a furry gorilla, the size of a real gorilla sitting on a chair in his living room. I noticed another animal of the same stuffed species kind sitting on another chair, this one was a full-sized German Shepherd. The antenna is rising, the red flags are scrambling to reach the mast of the ship, full sail ahead! He then proceeds to show me the rest of his apartment, complete with more stuffed animals on his bed, in his bedroom, on his couch and in the closets. On the walls were life-sized cardboard cutouts of celebrities. The coup de grâce was a bigger than life-sized cardboard cutout of an old woman in a wheelchair located in his bedroom where you could see her upon first waking up in the morning. Immediately, I regret not bringing a weapon and start talking to myself. You know the words: "just get through the night", "make a mental note of all exits", "make sure to mention you have a communicable disease of some sort in the dinner conversation", you know the usual fare.

He proceeds to make dinner as if he were a normal person. Dinner consists of steamed kale, millet and a veggie burger with onions, not your usual first date dinner, but why should anything be usual at this point? Two of the three items I had never consumed in my life. At this point I was trying to think of ways to become unbearably unattractive, if I could have manufactured a burp or two I would have gladly have done so, unfortunately I was not blessed with that talent. During dinner he is looking at me and telling me how beautiful I am. Under most any other circumstances I would have eaten that up, here and now I am considering telling him I have AIDS and only have 6 months to live. But, lady that I am I can't do it. So we finish eating and we go and sit on the couch with a nice liquor that didn't have nearly enough alcohol in it to make the night tolerable (do they make alcohol that is 200% proof ?). He then starts to tell me that he has a massage table in the back and how adept he is at massage. At this point I stand up and tell him I have an early morning appointment and quickly make my exit. Considering the way I left you would think that it was quite clear that I was not interested. But no, a couple of months later he called and asked me out saying that he thought that we had chemistry. I told him "no, no, there was definitely no chemistry, sorry", and that was it another Craigslist date in New York City.

It never ceases to amaze me how a potential partner can be so picture perfect on paper and yet so irreconcilably wrong in the real world. My qualifications or expertise in making this statement is my lifetime membership in every single matchmaking online singles dating site known to womankind. I should have an honorary degree in dating by now, instead I have another 6 months free membership to continue walking the purgatory known as singledom in your 40's. You know you are getting jaded when you look at your latest wink, nod or kiss with the focused objective of trying to figure out if the man who just winked at you might possibly have spent time in prison, is running a scam or has actually buried his last wife under the floorboards. It's difficult to remain open at this point. But, open-minded one must remain otherwise you might as well exchange your vacation spot in purgatory for a little convent in hell!


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Will 7 years ago

Greetings from a New York transplant in Boise Idaho.Believe it or not there are a lot of transplants here ,we can even get Progresso in the stores now!Alas I do miss the city ,especially the Italian,,,all the different ethnic deli shops,cant get a good sausage pepper and onion sandwich here.


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Hi Will:

Hopefully the dating scene is better in Boise!


Diana 7 years ago

There are a lot of great guys here in the city and women too, but for whatever reason, (age, weight, employment status or even dare I say race) many people CHOOSE to be single.

What I have found is when I opened up to people my friends wouldn't give the time of day I did find someone! And I found him on craigslist. We have been dating for a year now and things are really great, we have disagreements like any other couple but we both know what makes a relationship work is getting past the quirks and different way of looking at things and concentrating on our love for each other or for someone still looking, trying to get to the point of loving each other.

When you talked about the guy who had the stuffed animals in his apartment did you ask him why he had so many? Maybe he has them because he simply likes them, was that a reason to cut and run??? Many times we as women overlook the decent guy because of what we would call a quirk. Suppose you had a date over at your apartment and after seeing all the books you have on your bookshelf he was intimated and cut and run... What would that say about him? To me it would say that, as soon as something went wrong or things got bad should there have been a relationship in the future you would cut and run.

Anyhow I hope you find your match, I am happy as an irish gal with her african american man, he looks so much like Barack Obama! :)


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for writing Diana. I guess the idea of a man in his late 40's with a huge number of large stuffed animals, not to mention the card board cut out of the old lady in a wheel chair is a deal breaker for me! Glad you found someone :)

Brie


Brian 7 years ago

Being 6'5....I'd be disenchanted if I showed up to a date, and a woman was 4'10, so I can feel your pain.


Jeff 7 years ago

Brie,

I can understand your frustration but to be frank, I think women hold the key on the dating sites. As a general rule, they are the ones who get contacted and then make the determination of whether they would--or would not--like to continue the conversation/communication. Somehow, men have to try and distinguish themselves from the multitude of responses that women get and that can be a difficult task. For purposes of this response , I will use myself as an example: I'm 52, look much younger, recently divorced, from what i am told very good-looking, very hwp,multi-degreed professional. I don't really find it particularly easy to talk about myself but try. From my perspective, none of this stuff is amazingly distinguishable from what would be a number of similar responses---so very few, if any, come my way. Yet, I know that IF I was able to meet some of these women, there is a chance an attraction would be present. So, it's similarly disappointing on this end as well


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Hi Jeff,

Thanks for writing, it might also depend on where you live, have you tried match.com?

Brie


Jeff 7 years ago

Hi Brie,

It may be dependent on location but I live in a metropolitan area of greater than 3 million, so that is not exactly applicable. Haven't tried Match.com yet so I guess that's an option although I cannot see it being much different. Am I wrong about that?


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Well, you usually get what you pay for and Craigslist is free so the people are a bit more cavalier. I would try it for a month, really what do you have to lose?

Brie


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goldentoad 7 years ago from Free and running....

I would look for a job or some work out equipment on craig's list, not a date.


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

It's a method, simple and sweet, it works sometimes and sometimes it doesn't.


Another Jeff 7 years ago

In your case, it sounds like it doesn't work more often than not...


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Actually, I have had very good relationships from CL, I just haven't written about them :)


bev 7 years ago

Dating from Craigslist is suicide. Are you guys crazy. He/she could be pscyo waiting in the wings.


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

It's like anyother blind date.


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Jellyrug 7 years ago from AR USA

Brie

I'm the old fashioned type, life is short, way too short and there are so many things to do and simply not enough time. Explore what you enjoy most, such a sport or a hobby, by doing this, mingle with people who enjoy the same things as you do, make new friends and soon you will develop a relationship naturally.

I know online dating is a big thing, but personally I believe there are much more fun ways to meet people, become friends first and then develop into a relationship naturally.


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marklangston 7 years ago from San Diego

Thanks for sharing.


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Anna Marie Bowman 7 years ago from Florida

You seem like such a great person, I can't imagine that it is that hard to find someone...


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Anna, unlucky in love I guess. But, I still have hope.


geri 7 years ago

couldn't have said it better myself. i can totally identify with your experiences and opinions. having no solution ,all i can say is good luck.

btw,there's nothing wrong with being selective.

ciao


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks for writing Geri, I agree


TudorCityGirl 7 years ago

OH my! Thank you for the laughs!!! I see I am far from the only one in NYC having more than their fare share of crazy dates. Your story was hilarious!

As for Craig's List - that site attracts the weirdest of the bunch. I'm sure you know this but keep to meeting them in a public place the first couple of times.

After all the bad experiences, it is easy to understand why so many people are now choosing to be single.

Good Luck!

TudorCityGirl


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Yea I'm starting to think that a dog might be the better choice!


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MattUSAF2525 7 years ago

Did you ever find out why he had a wheel chair lady cutout in his room? By the way you're very sexy. And at 4 feet 10 inches..even sexier. Short women are hott to me. Maybe the reason you may be "too picky" is that you have millions of men to choose from in NY. Where as in other places with less choices you wouldn't be. Im 27 and i feel the rush as you do, but you're in your 30's right? No worries gorgeous. :)


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

No, I never did. And, thanks for the compliments...by the way, I'm 47.


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MattUSAF2525 7 years ago

OMG you look incredible for 47. Never would have come close to guessing that. And YOU can't find a guy? I think maybe theres just something wrong with the men you meet..nothing wrong with you though..not..at..all.


ottogrimes7452 7 years ago

Haha a very funny read :) And yes a shocker that you are 47.. Tempted to make some compliments but neh.. will make me look bad more than it will make you look good :)

Keep on writing, you definitely have "the skill"!


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Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks ottogrimes7452


Gigi 6 years ago

Be selective and very careful. I have given a few guys a chance, just to be very badly disappointed. I am 42 have been married for almost 4 years and about to get a divorce. It is tough to find a partner make no mistake, but do not settle for someone, it will not work!


foreignpress 6 years ago from Denver

You're trying to push it.

Relax.

Pray, and let the Lord handle it.


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

To Everyone who has commented in the last 2 months: For some reason my email notification was off so I wasn't notified when you wrote your comments. Thanks for commenting and I'm sorry I wasn't able to respond in a timely manner.


Saul 6 years ago

I'm a 30-year-old professional working in a Fortune 100 company in Midtown and living in Greenwich Village. I'm 6’1, very athletic (played sports through high school and college), have an advanced degree, and am well traveled. I volunteer 2-3 times a month, go to church regularly, and LOVE dogs.

It’s not a gender issue. I know lots of great guys that can’t find a woman that wants a relationship. I’ve met plenty myself that after dating for a couple of months and wanting to define things more formally would give me the, ‘I’m just not looking for anything serious right now’ speech.

I’ve dated plenty in NYC, but I’ve only had 1 relationship (with a Dr that I met on eHarmony and went away to do Drs w/o Borders).

The reason it’s hard for both men AND women is precisely because of all the choices. It’s like going to a great restaurant and not knowing what to eat even though our stomachs are singing an opera.

And even when you open yourself for the unexpected, it becomes difficult to find someone who would be homogeneously compatible in such a sea of variety.

So when so many men AND woman say they just want to find a descent person to find a relationship with, and can’t seem to find it, one wonders what external forces might be at play.

I’ve lived in NYC on and off for about 15 years, and have only met one couple that met and married in NY. I’ve never done research on this, but it would be interesting to see how many married couples that weren’t originally from NYC met here.

My guess is not many. At least the problem of choice gives us the benefits of lots of restaurants :)


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Saul, Saul, Saul, now I'm really depressed!


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NickSimpson 6 years ago from Jacksonville, Illinois

I didn't even know you could date from craigs list...Interesting.

Nick


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Funny! Nick!


Saul 6 years ago

See? Now there's research to confirm my observations!!

http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20100423/sc_li...


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Saul: As a rule I usually don't allow outside urls but that was very interesting. Thanks for sharing, I think it is totally spot on!


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the pink umbrella 6 years ago from the darkened forest deep within me.

maybe you should have grabbed the gorilla on the way out, seems to me he might make a better date! This was too funny, and i think you should just date and hub about it. I am picky too, and i think that people dont give us picky people credit when we see something that is actually bizarr.

What a wierdo, and how selfish to not ask you about maybe what kind of food you like...he was cooking you dinner. Stuffed animals and cardboard cutouts? wow. Your lucky you got outa there before you were a lampshade.


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

LOL...yeah but at least I got a good article out of it...it was so weird you have no idea! New York breeds them I think.


Heather 6 years ago

I found my soulmate easily and naturally.

After going through "relationships" and "dating", I realized that I was only putting myself into an immobile situation wherein I would "have to" see this or that person exclusively until we "broke up". Like tiny, little promiseless marriages!! Haha!!

Then I took charge of my own life and stopped making any kind of unwarranted commitment(s) to whomever I was seeing. I would not agree to see anyone exclusively, because it seemed too much like marriage, but without any of the benefits.

I felt so much happier with my life. If a guy stood me up for no good reason, I simply wouldn't see him again. No angst or worry, no chasing my own tail. It was HEAVEN. I felt smarter. I got more stuff done around my own house, literally and figuratively.

Then I met a somewhat shy, soft-spoken lad at my work.

I met him as myself, and vice versa. He knew/knows I'm a handful. We shared ideas. He introduced me to Law & Order (I know, right? AGES ago!!) We played Alien III on Playstation for 24 hours at my place. We cooked stuff. Went out for cookies at 3:00 a.m. just because we saw a commercial for them on t.v. Well, they looked good, so...

He asked me to move in.

I said no.

But I found a perfect, beautiful place a block away from his house. I paid my own bills. We visited each other. We took on the restoration of my father's drafting table together. I wanted to paint my apartment, but he suggested that I "wouldn't be there long enough to make it worth it".

Reluctantly, I put the cans of primer away.

That Christmas he posted a huge banner at my family's house, asking me to marry him. The movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" was about us. Except I was the guy.

We love each other still. 14 years later and two bambinos.

I never went looking for this fellow. I lived my life as if I were getting ready to be single forever, which at the time, I was. I had no absolute expectations of how my romantic life was going to go, other than the decision to be mindful of my own heart, which deserved my own respectful protection, let go of the "should's" and to otherwise enjoy the adventure.


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Heather, what a wonderful story.


Heather 6 years ago

What a nice thing to say! Thanks! :)


Rene 6 years ago

Hi Brie,

I'm having a little trouble trying to understand why you're resorting to CL to find a date/mate? You're a very attractive woman and I've always been of the opinion that any attractive woman can just go out and pick whatever man she wants. I'm not saying you would do that, but at least you have that option. Most men don't have that option. I know I don't. If I had the nerve, which I don't, I would certainly ask you out, but because of an extreme case of shyness, that would never happen. Even if we were in a room alone, I wouldn't approach you. But that's my problem, you shouldn't have a problem at all.


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Rene, but you aren't from New York City are you?


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BDazzler 6 years ago from Gulf Coast, USA

Hi Brie!

I gave up internet dating after discovering that one woman's idea of "very close relationship to God" really meant "uncanny ability to separate me from my money." Physically ... like wow! But not exactly my idea of spiritually mature.

I was DONE with internet dating after that point. One of the problems I ran into was women who, as you say, suddenly had all men looking alike. To many times, I felt like she wasn't seeing me as anything more than "just another guy on the list to be checked off".

Don't know what the answer is, but God was putting people together before the internet, and He can do it for me if he wants, but I am D O N E with internet dating!


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Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan Author

Yea I'm done too.


twentydollarsanhour 6 years ago

its all about control, or at least thinking ones in control


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arb 5 years ago from oregon

You are one funny lady! My sister is trying on line dating now. Her ad was getting the same result so she let me write a new one for her, it reads, IF NOBODY ELSE WANTS YOU GIVE ME A CALL. The humane society brings her a dog everyday, but, she's dating the guy that brings them! Go figure.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Takes one to know one Arb...you're a funny guy too!


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Informative article from my pal Brie.Thanks for sharing this.


tamy 5 years ago

Yeah, haven't found anything worth while and I'm here in the SF bay area. I use craigsdate.com since it's easy to poke through the ads, but come on...there's only so many old dudes posing as a young pup I can take. :)


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

SF can't be any better than NY!


Aweandlorder 5 years ago

First, much props to ya for actually inviting the guy to your house on a first "casual" date, secondly, yeah, the guys seems to be weird, but just as one of the guys here mentioned earlier, I wouldn't go panicking over a person's odd habits and determine he's a psycho, maybe if you spent enough time chatting, talking, asking questions you would have a better understanding if he's sane or not. You seem wise enough to draw a conclusion, maybe overly wise.


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Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Aweandlorder, I've been out of the game for awhile but who knows when I'll make a come back.


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blake4d 4 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings

Interesting Hub. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks blake4d.


catwomaninstl@aol.com 4 years ago

So did u find love/marriage at long last, Brie?


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

No, I never did, but I haven't given up yet :)


catwomaninstl 4 years ago

Oh man is that depressing! Sorry you haven't found Mr. Wonderful yet - me either :-( Keep the faith GF :-)


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Brie Hoffman 4 years ago from Manhattan Author

I'm ok with it catwoman, thanks for commenting.


budd 3 years ago

Is it me or does something about this just not quite make any sense? You're saying that you summarily judged a guy to be unworthy because of a few stuffed animals, etc. Several people commenting here have inquired if at any time you ever asked the guy what it was all about. Each time you respond by changing the subject, and at one point you finally say, "No, I never did". Yet from all of your other descriptions of the guy, you seem to suggest that he was ok for the most part - it was just the over sized stuffed animals, and the life sized cut out that you can't handle. What if the guy was designing oversized graphics for a billboard campaign? What if the oversized cut out was just there temporarily - he may have put it in his room because that was the only space for it. Maybe the stuffed animals also had a legitimate purpose for being there - may be they were part of some display, or maybe they were going to be given away as part of a contest. Who knows? You never bothered to ask - you just judged. Since you only went to the guys place once, all those items could have been shipped out of there the next day.

There is a problem with this story that is as big as the cut out and the stuffed animals... I think you are lying quite frankly. I think the whole story is fabricated. Do you really expect us to believe that you went over to this guys house, took a tour of his entire apartment, sat around while he made dinner, then ate dinner, then sat on the couch and had a drink... or was it a couple of drinks, and during all that time, you never once asked this guy, "So what's up with all the stuffed animals, and the big cut out"? Talk about pretending not to see the big elephant in the middle of the room. Also, you want us to believe that during the time he was giving you a tour of his place, and he would be aware that you are seeing all these things, he never once, not once, ever offered you as much as one word, to tell you why those things are there. Essentially the both of you are walking through what would just about amount to an exhibit at a museum and neither one of you mentions all these oversized or larger than life things. Does this make any kind of sense at all? No it really doesn't. I call your bluff. I think that you are making this all up so that you can have something to fill up your hub, or whatever these are. I call your bluff, I say you made this up - this story makes zero since. If this really happened, then it would suggest that there is something not quite right. You're saying that this guy brings you into his room to show you his room, and this is where the wheelchair cut out is, and he sees that you are seeing this... and you pass act like it is no big deal ( you act like this is normal to you), and he also says not one peek about it. Does this ring true. No, not in the least. I call your bluff!


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Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan Author

Welll Budd, you can call my "bluff" all you want but it is true and he never offered an explanation and I never asked because, quite frankly, I was shocked. I was shocked and I was being polite. Also, there were hundreds of stuffed animals..not just a few. It was twilight zonish.


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LeslieAdrienne 2 years ago from Georgia

You are absolutely Hysterical!!! I am still cracking up!!! Be encouraged... The right one has no date stamp.... He will find you :)


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Brie Hoffman 2 years ago from Manhattan Author

Oh I am so happy you enjoyed it, thanks so much.


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Esenbee 2 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida

This had me laughing and I really could see myself in this situation!! I'm personally not of fan of on-line dating and I'm glad that you pointed out how awkward and incognito the potential daters can be.

Very iinteresting and funny story lol!! I hope you end up finding the right person for you though...maybe not on-line lol. Keep us posted!!


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

Oh my! I can't stop laughing, but at the same time I remember what it was like on match.com. Thank God those days are behind me. I'm just not cut out for the dating game. Great read, Brie!


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Brie Hoffman 2 years ago from Manhattan Author

Thanks Billy, it was an adventure that's for sure!

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