Single Motherhood and Dating PART 3: So I'm Ready to Start Dating Again....Now What?!

Ready to what?!
Ready to what?!

Part 3 in Single Motherhood and Dating Series

You now have decided to get back out there and start dating again when you pause and go okay now what?! In this entry we are going to talk about various dating options out there in hope to give you that little push you need. We all know going to a bar or nightclub may just not be your thing anymore, if it ever was.

Speed Dating/ Mixers

- If you are not familiar with these two Speed Dating is a gathering hosted by an organization usually where you have “mini dates”. Speed dating usually requires a registration or sign up and sometimes costs a fee. You mingle with each other for a bit then the announcer calls times up and then you move on to the next person. Mixers are gatherings as well usually hosted by a sponsoring organization. In short it is like of like going to a bar (sometimes it is held at one too) for singles only. There are also mixers designed just for Single parents.

Online Matchmakers

- Another option to choose from when getting back into the dating scene. There are many out there so be very leery of your choosing and some usually charge a fee. E-harmony and are the most widely known ones as well as trusted. I only checked out e-harmony and and I say e-harmony is the best and you can really narrow your choices down to where you get a list of guys that fit what you are looking for.

Meet ups

- Meet ups seem to be another hip thing. There is where you can find local groups in your area with specifics in mind like knitting groups to yes single parent dating! You may be surprised your local area may have a meet up group there for single parents searching for love.

If you really are in a stumped there are some other costly options

Hire a Matchmaker/Dating service- Yes this still exists anyone watch the Millionaires matchmaking show? Dating services are still around too and popular mostly with the successful business people who want a little discretion.

Put out a singles ad- I used to read the wanted ad’s when I was a teen just for fun and they are still out there. So here you go: SM (single mom) seeks SD (single dad).

 My Method

While I listed all those options none of them fit me. I thought I was doomed and I really did not do anything. They say you find love when you least expect it and I find that is true. I really as not looking for love or a relationship, but I remained open to receive it and that’s when as the Weather Girls sang it was raining men! Or perhaps there is another not well known dating option out there called Social Networking sites.I have discovered these are secret dating sites(Yes I seriously think this). I belong to a few social networking sites and there are also themed ones to attract people with similar interests like say writing. I met my first love actually on a writers website forum hosted by a famous comic book writer. We knew there was one thing in common that we had which was writing. So it was really a perfect set up for you had a group of people with similar interest right? That aside I will mention this again you really do not have to go searching to find love again. I say just be open to the idea to receive it and you maybe blessed with a date for Saturday night, well works for me.

 Incased you missed them:

 Single Motherhood Dating Series Part 1

  Part Two Casual Dating with Serious Intent






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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

Janny, I'm rooting for you to find the right guy! I'm looking forward to reading the hub where you tell us you've met a man who is perfect for you.


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Hey Janny--stopped by to see what was going on ovah here.;)

Speed dating is the strangest thing isn't it? I don't feel that is a good way to meet someone--you ask a few minutes of questions--the questions that you choose are to be the most important. Mine would be--do you love God? Do you cry? Usually it is no-and no...and then I move on...just like regualar dating but quicker weeding out I suppose.

I won't repeat the questions that I have gotten...yikes. I could have stayed home! LOL Love ya girl!

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

LOL!! Thanks Mike!

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thanks Sis!! Yeah speed dating is odd. Its not really my thing. Im leaving it up to the Lord now.

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"Quill" 6 years ago

Through prayer God knows your heart and He will place just the right fella in your life...will be praying for you Janny...


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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you Quill. Bless your heart.

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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hiya, Speed dating? no no no ha ha, I would freeze to the chair, and not say a word! that would be a waste of money! lol I do think that the meeting groups, like knitting or reading, even evening classes on any subject are a great idea, but I am not sure about internet dating. I had a friend who did it once! He turned up at the house, four foot nothing in his high heeled boots, hardly any hair and thick lens glasses! honestly this is the truth! LOL when He drove her to the restaraunt he hunched over the wheel of the car, until he looked like mr magoo! ha ha ha ha ha, oh dear! so I think I will try the evening classes. thanks nell

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thanks for stopping by and sharing that story Nell oh my gosh your poor friend!

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coffeesnob 6 years ago


I like your method....

Speed Dating- I've heard of that before. But it kind of reminds me of fast food. You know what fast food does for your system UGH! Anyway-I'm with Mike and will jump for joy when you tell us it "just happened"

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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Janny, I don't think I would like speed dating but each to their own. I know people who have met and married on E Harmony or one of those types of sites. Then, maybe getting involved in some local organization that you are inhterested in would be a way but I believe the right guy will come along.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thanks Coffee. Glad I could inform you on Speed dating. I didn't mention it in the article but it was invented by Rabbai.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you Pamela. I know what you mean. One of our local news casters got married through So guess it can work just not for me.

Stephen Bass 6 years ago

Thanks for that information. I was not aware of all of it. I hope those dating ideas help people find each other. That would be great!

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Your Welcome Stephen happy to inform. Thank you as well for stopping by.

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Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

I can't imagine putting myself out there like that. You have some intestinal fortitude JannyC. Interesting fact about the speed dating being introduced by a Rabbi. Who knew?!

Again, I wish you the best.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you Duchess. I said the exact same thing to myself when I read that it was created by a Rabbi. He created this to help fellow Jewish woman find husbands in his community then shared it with the world.

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AARON99 6 years ago

A great helpful hub on starting new relationships. Well done. Enjoy.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you stopping By Aaron. I happy you enjoyed it.

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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I hope you have a spirit and ready ts start dating again. So, what are you waiting for? Maybe online dating could help us to find our match. I hope and pray the best for you, my friend.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you prasertio I accept the prayers boy do I need em!

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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

JannyC: the Lord is the best match maker. That's who I used and boy did he answer my prayers. I found him while grocery shopping, I totally ignored him and my MOTHER took it upon herself to give him my phone number. I feel the Lord worked through her, because he was not my type, too much of a "pretty boy", well that was almost 20 years ago.

This is the best relationship of my 50+ years on this earth and the first time I included the Lord in my decision making.

We are very much soul mates, heck we argue and fuss like most couples, but it last for maybe 2 seconds and we're both back on the same plane. Believe it or not our birthdays are 3 days apart . . . go figure. If you leave it to the Lord things will be done right. Peace and blessings to you my friend.

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JannyC 6 years ago Author

Thank you pm that such a sweet story. Maybe I will say a special added prayer tonight.

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Mekenzie 6 years ago from Michigan


The Lord wants you to seek His will, it's true

When you do ..

He'll lead you to the one for you

God gives us an intellect to use in the process of dating and I think you are using yours quite well. I like eharmony and feel it is a wise way to do your homework. As you noted they do a great job of getting tons of information from you and only match you with someone with your values. That's important!! It sure will be fun to read some day ... Janny has found her Soul mate ... you'll have lots of Hubbers celebrating with you for sure. :0)

Love Ya!


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JannyC 6 years ago Author

I cannot wait to write that hub. I have thought I was entrusting the Lord but maybe I have been relying on me too much cause Im a paranoid a bit. If I just relax a bit and let Father steer a bit it might work out. Thanks Mekenzie!

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