If your in a relationship with a man for five years and gotten 1 or more abortio

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   Tryn2stayStrongposted 12 years ago

   If your in a relationship with a man for five years and gotten 1 or more abortions for this person.
   
   also he's had a new baby on you and u still went back and then you start wishing you kept the ones you aborted by him cause the new baby looks just like him and is so beautiful, IS A GIRL WRONG FOR SECRETLY GETTING PREGNANT BY HIM?  even though all I want is THE BABY and really dont care if the man stays or leaves.. AM I WRONG??

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   smzclarkposted 12 years ago

   It's never right to trick a man into getting you pregnant!!! It's completely unfair and very selfish. Both the father and the baby would be negatively effected; you may not mind if he walks, but every child is hurt by their father turning their back on them! If the father's wanted you to have an abortion in the past, it's likely to be because he couldn't bare the thought of having it and giving it up. nor could he bare the thought of not being able to be and give it all that he/she needed if it was to be born. At the same time, if you've already had one abortion and he doesn't want children, you'd think he'd have the sense to wear protection!

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   nightwork4posted 12 years ago

   blaming the guy and not both of you for having an abortion was the first mistake. every thing else you said makes me wonder about your mental state. i don't think you and a kid are a good combination and i don't care if i sound rude.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   I don't consider you wrong. But there are a few questions you should ask yourself. Can you afford the baby? You should only bring a baby willingly into this world if you can care for him/her. If you cannot care for him/her, then you are not ready or not focused enough to have a baby of your own. That is being irresponcible and foolish. Do you need the father's support? If you do and he does not want a child, the situation will probably go downhill. And if you don't care if he stay's or leaves, then why abort the others? If you are aborting the baby's just because the father doesn't want a child, that is a horrible reason. He should have kept his sperm to himself instead of giving it freely. Even if you keep making yourself pregnant by him, he is the one who gave you the sperm in the first place. But also why abort the baby's if you make yourself pregnant? If you have gone through all that trouble of getting yourself willingly pregnant in the first place, you should not abort. You are purposefully creating life to destroy it. What is the point of that other than creating stress and wasting time and anxiety?

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