My husband is having a very hard time talking to me about what is going on with

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   Angie111posted 13 years ago

   My husband is having a very hard time talking to me about what is going on with him. What can I do
   
   Iam afraid he I can't get him to talk, it might start hurting our marriage. I have been praying alot, but nothing yet. I feel like Iam stuck. I can see he is hurting, but he says crying to a sign of weakness. I really believe he has depression, but he won't go to the doc. or want my help. what can I do.

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   bushraismailposted 13 years ago

   no one can answer without fully knowing your problem. u know ur husband more than any other person. try to dig out a solution. until then pray and be patient.
   good luck

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   teldemposted 13 years ago

   Dear angie, you can read my blog here. please come to http://www.teldem.socialgo.com
   
   i will be there because i need to ask you a few questions before telling anything.

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   sofsposted 13 years ago

   Just show him you care and that you will support him all the way. Some men find it difficult to speak frankly, but that is the way they are wired. I am sure that there will be cues as to which area his problem lies, help him indirectly if you can.
   The best thing to do still would be to ask him what is troubling him and tell him that it is important to you
   Continue praying, dont give up!

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   wychicposted 13 years ago

   Without knowing him it's hard to say, though he sounds like my husband in many ways. In my case, all I've really been able to do is support him in ways that I know, show him I care at all times, and make myself available to him when he's home. I can't push him at all or he'll just shut down completely and resent the pressure, which makes things worse, but often he'll be willing to share little bits here and there just because he knows I'm willing to listen. Sometimes it takes months to completely decipher what's wrong, but I can pick up clues in many of the things he says and, with patience, it does eventually come out. Most of the time he doesn't mind if I ask a question or two, as long as I accept whatever answer he gives and don't pry for more details. It's not an easy process and takes a lot of experience with your significant other to figure out how to do it in a way that will work, and to figure out what the proper response is once you do know what's wrong.

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   JosephRansethposted 13 years ago

   I started a blog for this exact reason.... check out www.SocialMediaLoveStory.com to see some videos & articles that will be really helpful for both you and him.

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   Clara Njekamposted 13 years ago

   The  best I can tell you is that,  You have been with this man and definitely you know some of his strengths and weaknesses, so my dear you can start working with that . Make him know you love him  and care about him and above all be patient.

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   AMBASSADOR BUTLERposted 13 years ago

   Leave him alone. He will work it at through his own thought process and knowledge of how to solve the problem that he is working on. He and he alone knows what must be done to solve it. Give him the space that he needs and do not nag him about this. He will really appreciate this and will know how much that you really do care about him as an individual and respect his privacy in this matter. It has nothing to do with you and do not think that it is because it is not about you because if it was you would know about it by now. All is well and just continue to love him and let him work it out on his own terms. He will treasure this in his heart for the rest of his life if you will only do this. Thank you. Go in peace.

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