What Have You Got To Do And What Does It Mean To Get It All?
You can't be all things to all people.
At least that's how the saying goes and as true as this statement is, most of us still persevere to attain to have it all. We want to be great parents and good role models for our children, good housekeepers with spotless homes, reliable friends, amazing lovers and as if that were not enough of a challenge for us, we all so strive to look amazing as well as be super fit. Then of course there is all the effort involved in trying to please the boss at work and cooking for the family at home, to name but a few of our many daily tasks.
To have it all increasingly feels like your have to do it all. You can not please all people all of the time, so why do we continue to put ourselves through the rigmarole, stress and leave ourselves exhausted in the attempt?
Money is far and beyond the biggest barrier that most of us face, paying bills keeping a roof over your head and keeping everyone fed. When you get round to shopping that is and then of course you have to find time to sleep. When if ever do your needs get met? When do you get time for some all important me time?
With so many responsibilities put upon our shoulders it's an ever increasing burden to carry. The inclination to quit is all to tempting but guilt, pressure and expectation will not allow you a justifiable get out clause. Working hard, juggling frantically and suffering mild bouts of resentment can become a frequent occurrence.
Child care can be a major issue as well as general support, maybe you feel that you get sympathy but never empathy, because you may feel that no one else understands your plight and the feeling that everything is just slipping away, it can really knock your confidence.
Delegation is an option but only works to the extent of can and will. Partners, children and co-workers may refuse point blank to help you out or may quite simply be unable to because of commitments and restrictions of their own. If they do help, chances are they will fall pretty short of your usual standard and the expectation that you will do it because you usually do, can lead to them conveniently forgetting.
You start to wonder whats worth fighting for and choosing your battles very carefully, which ones do you stand up to and which do you surrender too? In a bid to keep everyone happy it can come as a consequence that you have to in turn sacrifice your own happiness and no matter how much you give people seem still want more. Where do you draw the line? When do you stop being amiable and easy going? Is it ever to late to implement changes at work and in the home?
If you can identify with any of these issues, know that you are not alone and that this is not the way it has to be. You can make effective beneficial changes and a real difference to your life and the way you feel about yourself. Having it all does not necessarily mean doing it all but I guess the more important question is do you want to have it all anyway?