Advice Needed

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  1. Elizabeth le Roux profile image61
    Elizabeth le Rouxposted 12 years ago

    I need advice on a colleague. This individual has no authority whatsoever (and is the youngest in the office), yet speaks to everyone else asif he is the boss and asif we are dogs. He sucks up all the time to authority figures and I am quite new in the company. No one addresses this attitude with him - what do I do?

    1. zichii profile image60
      zichiiposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Not minding him might be a good idea. Just do your work and communicate with your other colleagues just not him. Treat him as if he doesn't exist and you'll be fine. You wont gain anything if you tried to address his attitude so its better to just focus on your job. I know that karma will kick him in the butt someday so just be patient.

      1. Elizabeth le Roux profile image61
        Elizabeth le Rouxposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks very much!

        1. noenhulk profile image60
          noenhulkposted 11 years agoin reply to this

          Agree. They all say so.. nice advices here.

    2. profile image48
      Wilbart26posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If you know how to play the game in the corporate world, then play with him, but if you're not good at it or doesn't have an experience playing with such situations, then focus yourself on your work and just do what you think is right. I cannot advice you to leave your work, you are lucky you have one, other people are having a hard time looking for it that is why you need to keep it and love it. If you really wanted to stay then study everything, learn everything, and observe. It's you are in a war, study your opponents behavior before doing your move. Make it sure that he/she will feel or believe that you can be close friends, so that in the end, you can do your move freely and attack him. Always remember, it's already part of the corporate world, it's like a game of who will become the best and greatest. What he/she is doing right now is making himself/herself visible in the eyes of the company and making his way to the top. He is just pumping up his career. You can do it also, it's not illegal, however it just depend on how you will do it. Imagine your in a contest, and you must be competitive enough to be on the top. Don't mind them, be yourself and lift your own to the top. Scenarios like that are already unavoidable, it's part of the corporate world. Trust me, I've been there, and I've done that. Now I already have my own business to manage, I see my staff doing their own style of me noticing them as the best. Remember, the more active you are in the eyes of your boss, the more you will become the best for them. Bosses do not mind what somebody's personality is in some cases, what important to them is that their employee is doing their best to help the company and that is final. As long as the company/organization benefits, bosses will go with it. I hope this helps.

  2. Dame Scribe profile image58
    Dame Scribeposted 12 years ago

    and if he comes over trying to hustle you about, just smile and say, 'sorry, I'm busy right now, got to get this done'. wink

  3. profile image52
    jay111187posted 11 years ago

    Take a moment to collect your thoughts, then when the time is right pull him off to the side and explain to him that he is not boss and that his actions are reducing your personal productivity and that he is wrecking the team.  Then drop your pen, as he picks it up, kick him in the ass and tell him to grow up..........

  4. pofdawn profile image60
    pofdawnposted 11 years ago

    My 2 cents: Mind your own business, be the best that you can be and don't give him any reason/excuse to step over you. There is only so much you can do to influence your external conditions. Most important thing is that you do not let your external environment affect you. If he negatively affects your work, talk to your boss. Otherwise, I would say steer clear of the negative energy in the office. Do not feed into it either. The more you feed into it, the more you participate in the complaints, the more you get sucked into it, the more you are bothered by it. If you are not careful, it could grow to become the main reason why you want to quit your company. Diplomacy and tact is the key.

    When your car is broken, you got upset.
    How many problems are there? 2
    Problem 1: Car breakdown
    Problem 2: You got upset

    Problem 1 has no emotional reaction and can easily be fixed by a mechanic.
    Problem 2 - your emotional reaction to problem 1. That is what is bothering you.

    Your colleague is like problem 1. He can be whatever he wants to be as he is his own individual. Not to say he can be fixed but what I am saying here is that he is not stabbing you or burning your hair.
    Problem 2 here is your emotional reaction to his behavior. Is that your emotional reaction or was that reaction influenced by your other colleagues?
    A little tweaking of problem 2 or change of mindset can affect your mood and go a long way. You hear a lot of things in the office but you can choose to take in some, ignore some, brush away some or take some seriously.

    Try to take a fresh look. You don't have to be his friend. You just don't need to let it bother you. It can be a choice.

  5. Rafini profile image82
    Rafiniposted 11 years ago

    my advice is to find a new job.  if he's sucking up to the boss then he just might become the 'new best friend' and you'll be outta luck.  either way, it sounds like a stressful situation that you'd be better off not sticking around to play in.


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