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Writer's Interview: Martie Coetser

Updated on October 11, 2016
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In an English course at Villanova University in 1981, Maria interviewed her mom, who likened her to Barbara Walters. She never looked back.

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Meet Martie

Martie Coetser is a force to be reckoned with. She is fiercely intelligent, passionate, diligent and endearingly direct.

She writes with a visceral in your face style that leaves many a reader wondering: "Is this chick talking about me"? That, in my humble opinion, takes a talent that is hard to come by, as I am forever amazed at the universality of mankind.

Hope ya'll will enjoy this up close and personal glimpse of Martie:

The times I feel most relaxed are ....

Geezzz, Maria, I just can’t tell you this in public. Let me rather give you my second most relaxed state of being – the zone between being awake and asleep.

{Ooohh, don't go there... at least not on HubPages! Your second answer is soo proper!}

The times I feel saddest are...

During partings, though I am not suffering Separation Anxiety. I am extremely independent, but tend to get too fond of, or too attached to, or simply addicted to people I allow in my personal zone. I find it extremely hard to say goodbye, although I will pretend to be unaffected by goodbyes as I will rather be dead as somebody’s responsibility or object of sympathy.

Something I'd like to teach others...

To understand, accept and love themselves and also their fellow man.

My secret passion ... my dream job....

A performing musician – a pianist able to play many other instruments.

Most hated gift I ever gave someone ...

Total freedom. Just before my son’s 21st birthday he told me that he appreciated my love for him, but it was too much for him to bear - he felt ruled by me. I was devastated - totally unaware of his brooding agitation. So I’ve spent the night alone in the middle of my favorite game reserve and ‘gave birth’ to him, painfully. Until today I believe that the heart of a mother is like her womb. Her babies grow in her womb until they’re ready to be born, and then they grow in her heart until they’re ready to live their lives as independent individuals. I must emphasize: Pushing someone out of my heart, does not in any way mean breaking emotional bonds with him/her. It simply means I no longer carry the person in me; I have given them complete freedom to live their own lives as they wish. (Of course this is the most hated gift I give to others, because if I could have it my way, I would have kept my beloveds locked up in my heart where I could feed, love and protect them without much ado.)

The gift I could have done without ...

A grown cat named Oliver and his gifts to me. Oh, dear! At first he preferred my closet above his sandbox – for doing the bad and the worse. Maria, believe me, nobody wants to know the stinking detail. Because I’ve learned the hard way to keep the doors of my closet closed, he discovered my son’s closet. Oh boy! To make a long story short, on my way to give Oliver as a gift to a friend who was living on a farm plagued with mice, dear Oliver left me his most awful gift on the floor of my car.

Take my word, Maria, for almost ten years, until the day I sold the car, I had tried in vain everything under the sun to get rid of the smelly memory of that gift. (So now everybody knows the profoundness of the cat sh@t in my soapy.)

{Thank you for sharing your FELINES, Sista... I thought something smelled fishy in your soapie!}

If you peeked in my junk drawer, you'd be surprised to find ...

Many manuscripts to be edited according to an editor’s idea of success.

My date from Hades ....

Oh no, don’t let me remember this one….

My worst or funniest vacation story ....

Let me just mention the worse, as the funniest are for many years now the order of the day. My worse vacation stories - oh, one is as worse as the other – happened during the first couple of vacations with my in-laws. It was hard for me to understand and accept their ways and manners – I felt lost and insecure for many years, although I (successfully) pretended to be self-assured. I was not sure whether my too-strict Christian parents had prepared me sufficiently for adulthood.

However, today those many stories simply prove my personal obscurantism, ultra-conservativeness and narrow-mindedness during that era of my life.


A life goal on my bucket list

To die as a person who will always have a positive influence on my descendants.

What I most look for in a friend...

intelligence, astuteness, the quality of being deep, strong and intense, honesty, integrity, unselfishness, open-mindedness, a healthy sense of humor, a positive mentality (even while suffering depression) and most of all the ability to love others as much as they love themselves.

Something I will never part with...

I guess ‘something’ does not mean my children and grandchildren – for only death will make me part with them. A materialistic object would be my piano.


From Martie: "My Legacy: The Final Journey"

A life lesson I will never forget

When I was eleven, I acquired the habit to make up stories in order to impress my friends. I would tell them I’ve been here and there and I’ve done this and that and so forth, until the day I could no longer remember what I’ve told them and what not. The embarrassment I experienced during the very first exposure of my fraud was overwhelming. So I’ve promised myself to never again present lies as the truth.

Of course, in my capacity as a writer of fiction I can, and may, lie like a trooper. After all, stories are the truth with bows and tails.

The worse part of getting older...

Growing wrinkles and saggy muscles. (Besides walking, dancing and wrestling with the man I love, I don’t enjoy physical exercises.)

A writing lesson I learned the hard way...

Never explain your writings to an editor/publisher or even a reader. They are the gods in your writers-world; if you cannot please them, find others you can please or stop writing.

My favorite movie and why...

Wuthering Heights and many others. Why? Oh, Maria, I need a lot of space to explain why certain events and human behavior - whether in reality or in movies - touch the core of my soul. Let me rather answer the ‘why’ with a hub.

What subjects / genres do you enjoy reading/ about?....

I do have a keen interest in everything that exists and even in everything that does not exist. I can honestly not determine a most favorite subject or genre.

What would be a subject/ genre that you would like to read more/ about...

I will never get enough of psychology. Human behavior and even the behavior of animals fascinate me. I am also interested in quantum physics, although I am still struggling to ‘get it’…

Can you take us to a favorite piece of writing on HubPages by you that does not get much traffic...

My writings are like my children and grandchildren. I am not at all able to determine a favorite. Each and every one is a piece of my soul.

But I did my best and decided to acknowledge two travel hubs I've written about South Africa:

South Africa (traveling from Klerksdorp to Pretoria)

South Africa~ North West Province~ (traveling from Klerksdorp to Groot Marico~ Part 1)

As you know I write in most genres, so this is a sampling of my potpourri of hubs.


What song makes you want to pack up and leave the party?

You mean a song I don’t like? I am actually able to like and appreciate all music…

But let me be honest, down here is a specific genre of Afrikaans music that puts me into a blue funk. They are ‘sing-a-longs’ and unbelievable popular among Afrikaans people who live in the rut of work-rugby-barbecue-sleep. Heaven knows I am not judging, I am simply not at all able to appreciate this particular song and others in the same genre…. All my fault – ‘lack of taste’ (And forgive me dear Robbie, you know you are successful and you don’t even need me as a fan. Unfortunately nobody can be everybody’s hero.)

OK, Sista, I listened to some of this for myself... enuff said...!

Wait, Maria, I do love this song. I just discovered it by destiny's Child. Although the words are not at present applicable, as I have finally met Mr B, it was very applicable during critical stages of my life and it will always be when I have to cope with any adversaries.

Oh my gosh, Sista, how could you know that I, too, can identify with this...?

Beyonce with Destiny's Child: Survivor

Thank you, Martie ....

Sista, it was SUPREMELY SIMPLE for me to select this song for you: "In and Out of Love". Fingers crossed for you and Mr. B... ! I'm willing to revise this song down the pike?!

Thank you for this interview and the joy, friendship and perspectives you bring to my life.

© Maria Jordan (revised July, 2015)



Diana Ross And The Supremes: In And Out Of Love

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      Maria Jordan 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      OMG, I have just been revived from my fainting spell at your suggestion, Effer..........

      .......but seriously, I'm starting up an interview series on my website and believe it or not, Martie is participating down the road...stay tuned (LOL)! Love you both, Maria

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      Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      And I'm back! Hello my lovely lady & friend, Miss Martie.....seeing your smiling face always makes me happy.

      Maria, I suggest you do an interview series again with very different questions......what say you?

      HUH?? Jeez.....OK OK....you don't need to swear!!...........LOLOLOLOLO

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      Maria Jordan 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Peg,

      How wonderful that you have stopped back again to visit Martie's interview - 'evergreen' is such a great word, I totally agree with you.

      Wishing you and yours a blessed and peaceful Easter. Love you, Maria

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      Peg Cole 2 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      Hello dear Maria, I had to stop back in today and review this in depth interview with Martie. She is such a character with her frank and honest, direct approach. This evergreen article is a testament to her spunky style and wisdom in telling it like it is. Loved it.

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Martie,

      YOU are an exception to this as your voice is just as beautiful as your writing...

      It's always lovely when you stop by and hope you are having a lovely and peaceful evening, my sweet Sista. Love you, mar

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      High time for me to visit this interview with me again! Just to appreciate the comments. Yes, voices are the most deceiving human quality. I often listen to the most beautiful voices on the telephone, then form an image of the person. Time and again I get the disappointment of my life when meeting the owner of the voice. The voice in our writings is more reliable, I think.

      Thank you, Svetlana, Audrey, and Mar :)

      Hugs to you all :)

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Lovely to see you, Audrey and hoping that you visit my interviews anytime.

      Just like Martie, there are some cool folks in our community and it's so much fun getting to know them. Hugs, Maria

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      Audrey Howitt 3 years ago from California

      Loved this! I think I need to look up the others interviewed!

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Whether your first time or a repeat visit to my absolute favorite interview of my Sista Martie, I thank you all so much for stopping by.

      Nellieanna, Dana, Car51 and Svetlana - your remarks are beautiful and on target. And, Svetlana, I love listening to Martie every chance I get - I hear her voice when I read her writing as well.

      Hoping you all are having a peaceful week. Love, Maria

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      kallini2010 3 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Maria and Martie - congratulations (again!!!) to both of you for winning the reward and more importantly the hearts of the community.

      We think we remember, but we forget (too soon!) and coming back to this hub was so refreshing to me. I realized that here I heard Martie's voice for the first time and had difficulty putting it all together - my image of Martie's as a writer, her photo and her voice.

      (It always happens - Augustine, Twilight Lawns...

      I think that is about it - three people

      where I actually had a challenge of merging different aspects into a person).

      And there is always a "Coffee Shop Just Around the Corner" (somewhere in Africa) - where we had a conversation and reading this hub again allowed me to revisit it as well. It's like watching the movie you have already seen - now, let me rewind... no, not that moment, this one... yes, yes... here is comes, my favourite!

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      Nellieanna, Dana, Car51,

      I honestly feel honored to have a share in Mar's award. She took the time to interview many of us, women and men, and her sensitive approach gave us the courage to open our hearts. She is a brilliant interviewer :)

      Thank you so much for coming by :)

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      Car51 3 years ago

      Wow, congratulations on this MAY award! A nice surprise!

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      Dana Tate 3 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Marcoujor: I loved this interview. It was a very engaging and exciting read I can see why it won a Golden Award... it is well deserved. Thanks for sharing. Voted Up!

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      Nellieanna Hay 3 years ago from TEXAS

      Dear Maria and Martie. I loved this interview when I first read it and I love it again, reading it again! Hugs.

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Thanks, dear Martie.

      I am so excited, I just tweeted us...! THANKS, Jo and Love ya both, mar

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      Congratulations, marcoujor, for winning a Golden Award with this interview. I am thrilled!

      http://jogoldsmith11.hubpages.com/hub/GC-Publicati...

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      Maria Jordan 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      How wonderful to see Jo and Martie on my favorite interview in my series...!

      It's exciting to make a new friends who quickly feels like a close friend. That friend is you, dear Jo...!

      And I still love you to bits too, Miss Martie :))

      Love to you both, Maria

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      Dear Jo, thanks for this big surprise. You have no idea how much I needed your heart-warming comment.

      So sorry, Mar, I have missed Vellur and Eiddwen's comments. Can't believe 13 months have passed since we had this interview. And I still love you to bits :))

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 3 years ago

      Very humbled and moved reading about you. You are a beautiful person.

      I know God's plan for you will continue to be a blessing for so many. :-)

      Wishing you all the very best! Shared and Up into the arms of Angels.

      Shalom

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Vellur and eddy,

      Many thanks for stopping by this awesome interview. Have a lovely day!

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Wonderful interview.

      Enjoyed and voted up.

      Eddy.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Another great interview introducing a wonderful hubber. Great work. Enjoyed reading.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Sista,

      Hoping that a cheerful message from your 'big' Sista and two very nice gentlemen will make your return to work less traumatic...So wonderful to see all of you here to honor such a lovely lady!

      Happy New Year to y'all and a special hug to Martie!

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Dear Maria, I so love this special corner in your hub-space just for me! I think we must be twins, because we do take turns to be the oldest. So often I am the younger one in need of your guidance and insight. My holiday has come to an end. I am heading for work now @ 7:45am.... Hear me cry! I finally know that I don't like work.

      hawaiianodysseus, so nice to meet you in here!

      epigramman, oh, you will always be my adorable baby - even while you teach me a lot of things I need to know. Have a good year. Keep to the beat and we'll all be fine.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Hello Maria - I sincerely hope all has been well with you my friend and I sit here with my two cats listening to some lovely baroque music and my first cup of coffee after my sleep at 12:14pm and sending you warm wishes for your continued health, happiness and prosperity in 2013 and more of your legendary interviews and wonderful writing .

      p.s. - and you definitely know how I feel about Martie the magnificent -

      she rocks all of our worlds ..... lol

      lake erie time canada 12:15pm

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      HI HO,

      Your visit is so very much appreciated. Yes, I believe the M & M Sisters are pretty cool... We tend to accent each other fairly well. Martie is exceedingly tolerant of her baby cyber-Sista!

      Hope your resolve is strong and looking forward to visiting you soon!

      Happy New Year to you and Martie too...!

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      What a tag team--the M & M sistas! Beautifully choreographed, Marie, and refreshingly answered, Martie! I love this genre of hubs because it fleshes out each chosen writer and simultaneously complements and transcends their written words. It's all about connection, and you two dear women certainly connected with me this frosty winter's morning in the Pacific Northwest. Aloha, and we'll be bumping into each other again soon, I'm sure, at the Hubsville town center. Happy New Year to you both!

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Martie, My Sista,

      I love that you , and so many others of us who, know exactly how kindly you were regarded by Dusty. It brings some comfort as we all still miss him so.

      Have a beautiful weekend. Love you, Maria

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Oh Mary!! What a most precious comment from Dusty? Now I am crying my heart out all over again. So hard to accept the fact that we'll never see and read him again. Thank you for drawing my attention to it, and thank you so much for your lovely comment. Lots of love to you, my friend, and to Maria, my adorable sista in C'space.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Mary,

      Thanks for your MEANINGFUL comment. I am glad you enjoyed this one about dear Martie. I am also looking back on Dusty's comments as treasures.

      Hugs to you and Martie, Maria

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I just read the wonderful Hub interview with Martie and enjoyed it. I also enjoyed reading all the comments. Ole Dusty (may he rest in peace) commented beautifully as he always did 2 months ago.

      I also enjoyed the beautifully recorded poem.

      Voted this UP, etc.

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      And I love my MAGNIFICENT Martie... You are a MOST gracious lady with your MEANINGFUL comments.

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      phdast, Sunshine, KDuBarry ~ thank you for attending my awesome interview with Marcoujor. She is a remarkable lady able to bring out the best in others....

      Love you, Mar!

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      Maria Jordan 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Ah, SHUCKS, Sunshine... you are so SWEET!

      You are KIND, Keith.

      Thanks to both of you for stopping by. Hugs, Maria

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      KDuBarry03 4 years ago

      This is such a great interview; you did a fabulous job with this, marcoujor!

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Two of my favorite ladies ... MM and SAA :)

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      I'm so PLEASED you like this, phdast7... it is PERFECTLY lovely to see you here. have a PLEASANT evening. Hugs, Maria

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      Theresa Ast 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      A wonderful interview, great questions which really draw the interviewee out. This is a major project impressive. :) VOTED +++

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Martie, Now that you MENTION it, where the fook are my sunglasses?

      I'll MANAGE to get ready for this world tour yet. My MANTRA is 'keep it blue, less to do'. Always pack in a color theme...MHTCJ

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      I can see us all together, staring at each other, thinking, "WTH, is THIS reality?"

      Reality is like South Africa's sun - too bright and blinding, especially during summer. The screens of our computers, through which we look at each other, are very much like sunglasses.

      But Maria and Svetlana, my gut feeling tells me that we would have a ball of a time touring SA. On the 10th day we will tango in the streets. (Svetlana will teach us how.) And even the elephants will give us an applause :))) (Kidding! You will not see any elephants walking in the streets. But believe me, you will see them...)

      BTW, I, too, say, 'Better bitter than false'.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Svetlana,

      That truly sounds awesome. The shenanigans we could get into...oh my!

      I would honestly love to see more of Canada and Mr Colin is always offering his hospitality.

      Off to get ready for class but catch you soon. Hugs, Teresa

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Well, Teresa, if you only have been to Canada once, maybe next time it will make sense to come to Toronto or to Montreal.

      And would it not be lovely if we have a big get together in the land of Epigramman?

      When I said (a big), I meant what if some people like

      Martie,

      Augustine,

      ...,

      ...,

      I am leaving the blanks for those jumping to said "Pick me! I want to go to a Hub Resort, too!"

      Tango entertainment is guaranteed.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      If truth be told, Svetlana, I am more partial to bitter, salty, tart than the overly-sacchrine...including vodka tonics and dark chocolate. It must be in the name indeed.

      I have only been to Canada once... of all places, Montreal and I loved it... wow, this was 30 years ago.

      Would love to read your book on tango. Until later, Teresa

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Martie, what you have said - I agree with it wholeheartedly.

      Even today when we did not understand each other on the imagination quote - it was me doing a very poor job translating my thought - it did not come out right. The quote is one of my favourite ones because there is nothing more misleading than knowledge. When you know something FOR SURE you are closed for fresh perception. Your mind closes this department. When you DON'T KNOW, you are more alert for new info, clues, hues and et cetera.

      I just remembered that if not for you, I still would not do any single video!!! It was that moment that you asked and I was determined to figure out how to use my camera. I would not have done it otherwise.

      And speaking of South Africa - I started joking around - "We are going to South Africa, when are we leaving for South Africa?", before I knew it, I uncovered yet another safari hat and while Daniel is not quite taken with the idea, my mom said:

      "But it's Ok, we will ALL go - grandpa, I, and your mother and you will stay home!"

      The power of advertising!!! yes, before we all know...

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Teresa:

      Funny enough about being bitter... right before I left for Montreal... (I have lived in Toronto for fifteen years and I have never been to Montreal and it was a real shame - every normal Canadian should visit Montreal at least once in his/her life or anyone who comes close enough to make a trip, you don't have to be a Canadian at all...)

      anyway right before I left on that trip, I met a young woman who was promoting her book about tango - she was driving from city to city, from one social (social means a social dance = milonga) to another and was physically, in person offering the book... I bought it because I wanted to see myself doing the same one day... maybe selling the book, not travelling like that, though...

      and even though I did not have a chance to read the book yet, I had a feeling that the book was SWEET, just like the author.

      But I said "If I ever write a book about tango, it would be BITTER".

      "Why bitter?" someone asked me. I could not put it in words (I need time to formulate things before I sting someone without provocation. I don't hurt someone's feelings without even realizing it).

      But the truth,

      I tend to see things the way they are,

      not the way I want them to be.

      And sometimes having too much light has this bitter aftertaste. Only when you discover, uncover the TRUTH, the ESSENCE, it is worth to have such a vision. At other times, it's just lonely.

      Even chocolate, I like bitter. Better bitter... than false.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Sista,

      You got my number... I am CRAZY FOR YOU as well... Love, Adele

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      @ bravewarrior, you and your cats are welcome on the island, as long as you do your own laundry and take your turn in the kitchen. If you love cooking, you can have my turn as well :))

      @ Marcoujor, I can’t picture you on the island without Aunt Baby. I will bring my own dog and cat AND parrot. I wonder, shall I bring my piano as well?

      @ Svetlana, so we learn – not through theories and instruction, but personal experiences. Life is our best educator. Our own thoughts and attitudes are our best healers (or destroyers). So often in my life I’ve faced the fact that people – especially decent people – bite their tongues when somebody displays emotion. Simply because they feel uncomfortable; they don’t really know how to handle emotion – not even their own. According to the Rule of Nature – only the strong survive - one declare himself as weak and vulnerable when exposing emotions. So people rather pretend to be strong and in control. I’ve seen myself in you – and still do - and I simply do what I would love others to do to/for me.

      Praise ‘rings untrue’, because we know our shortcomings and everything not praiseworthy in us. But so does critic ‘rings untrue’. Accepting compliments and praise is as difficult as accepting insults and critic. This is an ‘art’ to be mastered.

      Re coming to SA – consider these quotes:

      "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls" - Joseph Campbell.

      "When you really want something, and you couple that with an understanding of your nature, of your spiritual being, and the laws that govern you, you will keep going, regardless of what's happened. Nothing will stop you." - Bob Proctor

      “Life is all about timing... the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable... attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It's all about timing.” - Stacey Charter

      “Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.” - Karen Ravn

      THANKS for posting the link to your videos. I LOVE them and I think you look too sexy for your hat with your hair like that. Thank you also for the interesting information about Hell-Hellen-Hello…. WTH, as long as Maria don’t call herself Prunello.

      I’m also grabbing this opportunity to post a link to the video you’ve recorded especially for me on my request.

      http://youtu.be/wXJC9QrSFjk

      Take care, Svetlana. Enjoy Daniel as hard as you can. Before you know where you are, he will be an adult with a girlfriend/wife as his first priority. (A mother never (very seldom) loses her daughter, while her son has to go to be what he should be).

      @ Pamela99, my dear friend, interviews create and strengthen esprit de corps – As a team of writers we can achieve so much more to the benefit of HubPages and all his members. You know I regard you as the best writer of health and medical matters. I always appreciate your comments on my hubs.

      @ Dear Marcoujor, why ‘Helen’? For me you are ‘Adele’ ~~~ http://youtu.be/fjQJz_8rQkY

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Svetlana,

      Double light meeting Bitter light...thank you for the referral.

      The fact that you want the best for your son makes me even more convinced. Our insecurities can indeed be our strengths.

      Have a peaceful day.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Now, Maria, is Helen your other name? I am missing something here -

      Helen means "LIGHT" as does "SVET-LANA",

      where "svet" is the Russian word for light and "Lana" is derivative from Helen. So, "DOUBLE LIGHT" is painful as Hel.l..en.

      Hell is actually the name of the Goddess, I think, and the heaviest part of the word "HELL-o!"

      You see? You give a word, I'll give you a thousand... I should have been in linguistics. Or Gymnastics. Or linguistical gymnastics, majoring "Torture others with knowledge and tolerance".

      You might like one of my translated articles (I am not an author, but only a translator. It was funnier in Russian, but I did my best).

      https://hubpages.com/literature/Tolerance-Based-on...

      Thank you for saying that I am a good mother - I certainly don't feel like one - the list of my insecurities is 42 items long. Not doing the best for my son is in the top five.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Svetlana,

      I have always thought your name was beautiful. Thank you for inviting me to call you in this manner. You may call me 'Helen' should you ever have a bodily pain imposed by me and I will get it as you do withDolores. I happen to adore the carefree and sweet banter between you and your son. These are your memory makers, ones he will cherish for a lifetime. You are a wonderful Mother, good foundations.

      Pam, Thanks for PERUSING Martie's interview. It made me PONDER as well.

      Martie, Cannot forget to MENTION my SA Sista... Hope you are having a MARVELOUS day.

      Hugs to y'all, Maria

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      Pamela Oglesby 5 years ago from United States

      It has been such fun to read Martie's hubs as you never know what you are going to get. She is such a versatile writer and I enjoyed your interview with her very much. These interviews are such a wonderful idea as we get to know a bit more about the people that we have grown to respect and love. Hugs for you Maria and the wonderful job you are doing.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Maria:

      I just want to make a little correction, my nickname is Kall-I-ni (sounds almost like FELLINI, it should sound like kahl-leenie, eenie, meanie),

      but you can call me Svetlana or Dolores (and Dolores I usually point out is for me being the pain in certain areas (you pick which one)), because

      in Italian/Spanish "dolor" means pain, "dolores" = pains, sorrows.

      Suits me quite well. Even though my son no longer thinks I am a witch. He said for this Halloween I should be a CLOWN. A clowness more like. And here he is:

      I hope to finally make that hub, I'll try to do some more planning tomorrow to fit at least one hub into my schedule.

      Have fun, if it is funny, or skip it if it's crap. Martie knows, I'd rather know the truth than be force-fed sugary treats.

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Speaking of HATS:

      We made a video yesterday and it is a trial, of course. Daniel says "F--k",

      and notice the colours of a BLUE PERSON:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37Sf_x3rpV4

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Martie:

      Funny thing - I'll try to make it short

      you are right about "High Tide" - but I am not breaking down this time, so, yes, I have learned my lesson - my happiness (whatever happened to me at tango, El Congreso last October) brought on "the breaking down wave", so this time I caught it in time. Everybody usually says I am a fast learner, it is one of my defining characteristics and it only tells you how hard it is to learn to control moods with the device (the brain, the mind) that is affected.

      That is why my time is devoted to certain things that were not done for ages, the reason that I cannot spend time on HP (reading, writing, interacting is not that I DON'T CARE about you or my friends), the reason is simple - I have a responsibility towards my family - my son and my parents. The money thing, career and overall (1042 things) have to be addressed.

      To say "I love you" is not difficult to me, but you know me

      I never say it unless I MEAN IT.

      That was a bit of a problem with our friend - what he told me was sweet but it rang so untrue and I don't understand flowery praise. I get offended. But I never thought he did it to offend me, I simply asked him not to do it and then I was upset that he would't listen.

      So, I do love you (for many reasons), but one of the most memorable moments was when you were the only one to support me when my mind was breaking and when I did not get support anywhere. I was simply angry (understandably), but most people get so scared by words. I know that for a partner (as in a relationship, or in a friendship) I need someone who is completely cool and reasonable and not easily disturbed. These people have a wonderful soothing effect on me when I am agitated.

      But enough of this.

      The hat I do have, the walking shoes I was trying to buy today, spent the day in vain, came home tired and believe it or not, I have not used my computer for the whole day. Now I turn it off if I don't use it - they say it is a good idea to save energy like this (I am saving the earth now), not my electricity bill.

      I have the hat, not the shoes, but I might start making contributions to "I am going to South Africa adventure".

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Now I hope y'all know that I don't normally mix up my comments like this but it MUST be the MAGIC of Martie...

      Kalleni, Your comment as Martie's buddy was so sweet to me as well.

      Sha, my buddy...you wanna come and play with us and make new friends... I say cool...the island is big enough if someone is not jiggy with cats... I will need to bring Baby.

      Martie, your MANNERISMs and METHODs bring us all together and I am MENTALLY calculating that I will need to get a hat...you know I have the flats.

      OK, hugs to y'all and, remember you have to play to win. Jackpots for all!

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      Shauna L Bowling 5 years ago from Central Florida

      I want to come to the island, too! Can I bring my cats?

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Oops, I did not finish my sentence -

      Svetlana, now you need a good pair of walking shoes.... to go with the hat....

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Dear Svetlana, first of all, thank you for making me laugh out loud. I could see you so clearly waving your Safari hat. Well, everything has a starting point and why not start with the hat? The sun is quite dangerous down here and a hat is actually the most important paraphernalia you should bring along, or buy as soon as you set foot on SA's shore.

      Priorities to be categorized -

      1. Urgent / important

      2. Urgent / unimportant

      3. Not urgent / important

      4. Not urgent / not important

      By the time I get to #4, it is already #1 for hours. I guess this is called living.

      Svetlana, since I've met you last year about November you've grown tremendously. (And BTW, so did I.) I've seen you swing high and I've seen you fall low. I've seen you 'unconscious' for how long, and I've seen you rise again and grow to where you are today, so much higher as before. I am actually holding my breath because it seems to me you are still growing higher. Where are you going to end? Life is like a pendulum - the higher we go, the lower we fall. But the good news is, we can handle it - as long as we don't lose our grip. So exiting!

      I've recently seen for the umpteenth time in my life a few of my dreams came true. In fact, I see them realizing all the time. So keep on dreaming!

      Thank you, Svetlana, for being one of my most favorite friends. I always enjoy interactions with you. You, too, are a gift to me.

      Love you too!

      BTW, only a few months ago - actually weeks ago - you would not said 'love you' to anyone in HP... Now what better proof of growing (and trusting others) can one see in another person?

      Maria, you are the witness! 3:30pm down here - high time for a quick nap :))) Thank you for the cozy chatroom you've created in here and for giving me an opportunity to kick out my shoes in your corner.

      Svetlana

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Dear Martie and Maria:

      thank you for your warm and kind words. I wanted to respond properly, the way I would normally respond with a comment 42 km long -

      but my timing is rather awful these days and I have my "priorities" and then it is bedtime and every day is like this, "the priorities" and the end.

      At least it shows I made some progress from the last year. Not the monetary one, but I have grown.

      I would love to come on a tour to South Africa - I don't have the money yet, but I have the SAFARI hat ready.

      I hope to make a hub with videos (I am already waving this hat in the air... but again (a new development) - I will not make any promises.

      Thank you again for being here for me, for us, for all those who make up the HP community. The friendship is the most important treasure for me. You are a gift to me.

      Love you guys,

      Svetlana

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dear Kalleni and Martie,

      I consider myself the third party on these types of interviews and your exchange with each other is beautiful. I love when friends connect and new friends are made.

      Yes, Martie and a few very close Hubber friends have seen me in quite a video, one that I may be brave enough to share with all one day.

      I was impressed with your video, Kalleni. Your voice is lovely and so, actually are you. You have smiles and an authentic humor in your style that is undeniable. I can easily see how you and Martie have connected.

      Thank you both and have a lovely day. Hugs, Maria

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      @ MickeySr –

      Oh boy, MickeySr is a poet!

      We did not even know it

      We are truly so glad

      We’ll never be sad

      He’ll be our entertainer

      The only maintainer

      Of our sanity…

      What a lovely specimen he is of humanity!

      @ kallini2010 – You’ve made my Sunday with that video of yours. It is so authentic you! I love your voice and also the message you give with so much natural flair. Your video brought you so much closer to me!

      Well, I am also not comfortable being in front of a camera. Who the hell is except professional actors? We are all victims of Vanity and Endless Inferior Complexes – we have an urge to be better, more beautiful, perfect. Some people convince themselves that they are perfect while others – like us – just accept (eventually) the fact that we are not so we might as well be just our true selves and enjoy life to its full.

      Have I told you that I’ve decided to organize (in partnership with Barend) two 10-day tours of SA – one in April-May (Fall) and one in Sept-October (Spring). From Johannesburg to Cape Town. Because it will be ‘private’ tours, we will ignore all the tourist-traps and therefor cut the costs in half. We will be able to guide groups of minimum 10 people with ease – more would be ‘work’ and not ‘play’, and of course we don’t want to regard these tours as ‘work’. So if you start saving your pennies – and even buy lottery tickets and win the jackpot – we might meet in person before long. Itineraries will be available soon.

      Now let me go back to your video to watch it for a second time. It is absolutely awesome! And I am putting a link to it right here, because, Svetlana, I am PROUD to be your friend. You and I initially connected like lightning in mid-air on Augustine’s FB-wall, remember. You challenged everybody to praise each other the way Epigramman praises us, and I, under the impression you were attacking my dear friend Epi, jumped out of my space to protect him. Then you explained your intention and I realized you were my kind of friend. I truly adore you and believe that the two of us would have been formidable business partners and friends.

      http://youtu.be/Rh0_7M-aSME

      Tons of love to you and Daniel…

      @ marcoujor, my dearest sista in CyberSpace, always keeping me in line, always encouraging me to be me, always treating my wounds with empathy and love, you were the first hubber I saw in a video. But I loved you even before that. For you I will surely kill a lion with my bare hands AFTER I’ve fed him with that hippie MickeySr. Oh-wee, am I brave or am I brave?

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      kallini2010 5 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you, marcoujor, for the interview with my friend Martie. There is very little I can say - maybe because it's a hub of a third party, but I have said so many times - the only thing that is left for Martie and me to do is to meet in person. I really want this - and I asked her to share a video, not just a voice recording and Martie said (quite reasonably) "Why don't you do it first?"

      I am not comfortable being in front of the camera, never was, that was the reason I PROHIBITED my X from recording our wedding (I did not want my memories to be ruined by looking at it the way it was and not the way I processed everything through the beautifying lenses of my imagination and internal auditing).

      Today, however, I decided - that it is enough - things are the way they are and if I look like crap, so be it, so there it is the first recording. It was not premeditated... not planned, not rehearsed, not edited in any way.

      Augustine has survived watching it - I always test things on him first, so if he survived, the rest can do, too (not that they have to).

      So, dear Martie, from a rare day, when the sun was shining and the rain was raining and Daniel was recording "an earthquake" on our balcony.

      From Toronto, Canada,

      with tons of love,

      Svetlana

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      "I just adore a penthouse view... Darlin, I love you but give me Park Avenue..."

      OK, wrong sit com but you get the idea...You know Sista will make me "Mrs Thurston Howell"... We all know what a "lovey" I am!

      Oh lands, this sounds like quite a soapie...!

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      Oh boy!

      Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale

      A tale of a fateful trip

      That started from this very hub

      Aboard a rockin' ship

      The gang wanted peace and quiet

      But keeping entertained would be tricky,

      So they rearranged all their plans

      They all knew they needed their Mickey

      The weather started getting rough

      The rockin' ship was tossed

      If not for the courage of fearless Mickey

      All their dreams would be lost, their dreams would be lost.

      . . . cool, so, we all of course know who I would be, now we just have to figure which one of you is Ginger and which one is Mary Ann . . . and you all know which of those I fell for.

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Oh my goodness, Mickey, you're such a treat! I am crawling on the floor laughing (never mind rolling). What is Pixie feeding you that makes you such a delight?

      Maria, I know we have decided to buy an island where only the two of us can live in peace and harmony forever after. But we better reconsider our initial plan. We've GOT to make room for Mickey too. Just figure! Such a delightful & pretty clown to amuse us 24/7 :)

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      It's a mystery to me why you two are always so cruel to me when I only and abundantly heap flattery and praise on you again and again . . ? I don't know what makes me such a favorite target of your brutal unkindness, but it hurts me deeply . . . I guess some people are just vile and dreadful, like you two, and some people are just sweet and good looking (and smart) like me. Whatever the case, I will continue to try to befriend you, I will bend over backwards to make myself easier for you guys to tolerate . . . and let me start that now, with a genuine apology; I am sorry you two are so mean & ugly and I am so delightful & pretty.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Now this has the MAKINGS of a MONSTER hit:

      To Kill a MOCKINGBIRD-- The Sequel: Mickey MEETS his MAKER

      {Of course, I'm talkin' comedy...}

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Well, Mickey reminds me of a parrot - One I will never kill, because he delights me with his verbal skills. But I will certainly chuck him in the trash bin when my friends turn up for tea. Oh, and if he accidentally dies in the trash, I will stuff him with silicone and keep him as a souvenir in my showcase.

      So there, Mickey, you can say whatever you want, you ARE cute and adorable.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      In two short hours the MERRIMENT and MOCKERY that has been MUTTERED between Mickey and my darling Sista Martie. This MAN is MINDLESSLY MEANDERING as if this were his MOUNTAIN. Oh Sista, does he not realize this is your MAGNIFICENT MANTLE that he is MASTICATING on....MERCY, MERCY ME!

      Never MIND, let's have a MIXED drink and shake him like dandruff... Like 'he' would know!!

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      . . . but I said she presents a warm yet thorough effort, a welcoming while near-scholarly approach, the best an idea can be articulated as well - so, can I get one burping dog instead?

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Okay, Mickey, calling my sista a giant goof means you deserve a couple of farting cats on your lap....

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Epigramman, I KNOW everything you say come straight out of your heart and that is why you are so adorable. You are not a faker, Epi; you carry your heart on your sleeve. (Just like I do.) I hope you are going to have a lovely weekend up there on the banks of Lake Eri :)

      Lucky Cats, I just admitted that I carry my heart on my sleeve, and here you are confirming that it is clearly visible for all to see! I ENVY silent and secretive people. Really. But then, I do have a little locked room for my own secrets and quite a larger firmly locked room for the secrets of others. Kathy, since the beginning your wisdom and compassion, independent and courageous nature and your ability to identify the core of an issue impressed me. YOU are a lady I would love to have as a neighbor, best friend and fellow-fighter for justice and fairness. I appreciate your support and friendship – and this lovely comment you’ve left me - with all my heart and wish you the best of happiness every day of your life. BFF – Best Friend Forever. I thought BFB meant ‘Best Friend-Buddy’. It just crossed my mind that it could have been ‘Best Friendly B@tch’.... LOL! From you I only – and always - get positive vibes, Kathy!

      MickeySr, well, MQW could also mean ‘MICKEY’s Quality Words’ :)

      Marcoujor, I’ve read somewhere that interviewers and interviewees are considered to be Attention Seekers by some hubbers in Hubville. I just want to assure you that I do need attention, always, in order to achieve my goals. I hate to be ignored, but you know I can handle even scorn and pooh in my face with dignity. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to get the attention of some of the most brilliant writers in HubPages. I feel honored and grateful. Being recognized and acknowledged IS the most awesome thing that can happen to any human being. Thank you, Maria!

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      . . . no mocking at all and not the least bit moderately sarcastic - I can be sincere as well, sometimes, a little bit, on just the right occasion and for just the right people . . . so, up yours you giant goof.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Afternoon, Y'all,

      What a MARVELOUS MIX from the MACABRE to the MAGICAL... in the line of comments today... MERCY ME, Martie, this is MY MIRTH for the day!

      snakeslane, You have STARTED us with SENTIMENTAL and SINCERE SALUTATIONS and STATEMENTS.

      epi, You were EXAGGERATING about my EXCELLENT avatar...EEEWWW...!!!

      Lucky, You are a LADY of the LOVELIEST LINEAGE. I know Martie and you are LIKE my 'reality barometers' many a day!

      Mickey, Here I thought you were MOCKING my 'Mighty Quaint Wording'... thanks for your MODERATELY sarcastic MUMBLINGS!

      Lucky, I thought I was outta the LOOP... or maybe just LOOPY about that BFB thang... thanks for stopping back to straighten me out, girlfriend! Now YOU I believe about my profile pic...thanks!

      Love y'all...yes, Mickey, even you! Hugs, Maria

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      Kathy 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

      PS,,,,,Mar.....I love your new profile pic...just great! and that's BFF!!! (X 2, btw) (BFB???) LOLOLO...

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      "I'm running out of adjectives to describe the amazing work you do"

      We need to promote a new bit of internet jargon ~

      MQW - denoting a warm yet thorough effort, a welcoming while near-scholarly approach, the best an idea can be articulated.

      . . . MQW = 'Maria Quality Work'

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      Kathy 5 years ago from The beautiful Napa Valley, California

      WOW!!! Maria and Martie! Maria..I'm running out of adjectives to describe the amazing work you do with these interview "getting to know" series. Why? Because, through you, we DO get to know the fabulous writers you are showcasing.

      MARTIE!! Oh, my sweet, among my very favorite, wonderful, caring, bright, sensitive, sensible (well...let me think about this one for a moment....LO), intuitive, exceptional woman and friend!!! You heart is on your sleeve and your honesty is palpable! This is exactly the friend I've come to revere, respect, admire, pay GREAT attentionto her every word, and love...Martie! One in a million and a treasure...a fantastic friend and loyal, true supporter of those for whom she cares..MARTIE! I love this interview...and I know this kind woman and I call her a forever friend.

      BFB!!! A new friend whom I feel I have known an entire lifetime...maybe more...spiritually evolved yet sensitive and earth bound by an understanding of we, mere, mortals.

      Martie is a wonderful writer who caught my attention long ago on Colin's pages....her words, ability to delve into and understand the writing of others, and her intelligent comments caused me to know she was one I wanted to know better as a dear compadre' and confidant. her writing and mastery of a second language, English..is beyond compare!

      Believe me when I say that I am one who, for the most part, keeps more "apart" than one who 'joins' the crowd.....so, the praise and recognition I have for Martie comes from a real affection for her..she is a kind and wonderful human being...and it doesn't get ANY BETTER than that!!! Love ya Mar and Martie.. "M& M's"....sweet !!!!!

      Your friend, Kathy

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ....it's true Martie and Maria - I do exaggerate BUT FOR EVERYONE ELSE ....... for Martie I just tell it like it is.

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Good evening, Maria. Our first summer rain and last winter cold came down on us in one basket.... messing with my hormones! So the Epigramman's generous - always so generous - compliments actually pulled my tears.

      Dear Epigramman, although your words of praise and homage are so often exaggerated, I always appreciate them. Like walking in pouring rain, getting soaked, refreshed and purified. Thank you so much for being so adorable.

      snakeslane, I was - and still is - a keen gardener. I've created and maintained a beautiful garden while I was married. I had to leave it when I finally decided to divorce my husband after we've been married for 20 years. It took me a year to say goodbye to my garden; that poem was the outcry of my soul in words. I've mourned the what could-and-should have been for many-many years. But that is all part of the past now - a previous life. In the meantime I've created a new garden and for me everything had turned out for the very best. Thank you so much for your lovely comment.

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      snakeslane 5 years ago from Canada

      Mar, Thank you for your introduction to Martie Coetser. I love the intimacy you establish from the get go. And there are precious lovely insights all the way through. "Fiercely independent" would sum it up for me, and I admire that quality very much. Martie wins my heart with her beautiful recitation. The whole process involved in bringing this poem to us is fascinating to me, and demonstrates Martie' sophistication and worldliness: A Spanish poem translated into Afrikaan (and English), recited in both languages is just awesome, not to mention that it is her favorite poem (and a lovely, touching poem it is). To hear Martie recite 'My Legacy..." is such a pleasure. Thank you both. Regards, snakeslane

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Morning, Y'all,

      Martie, thank you for MAKING time to check in on 'mar'. You are one of the few my MIND will listen to... as I am now.

      Colin, you have CREATED quite a COLLECTION of COMPLIMENTS for one of the CLASSIEST ladies of HubPages and I totally CONCUR!

      Hugs to you both, Maria

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ah Martie the Magnificent!!!!! (Maria by the way your new profile picture rocks my 'manly' world inside and out)

      a top ten from epi-man why Martie rocks my world

      (in no particular order)

      10. Mister B you lucky man!!!!

      9. She is solid and that's why she is my rock.

      8. No bullshit - I cannot BS Martie - even with my vivid imagination - no can do!

      7. She tells me like it is - the truth - she doesen't hold back

      6. Martie is just plain hot! what can I say - this man has eyes - he sees it everyday - I can't wait until tomorrow to see her again.

      5. She is a writer's writer

      4. Femininity - she makes it an art form!

      3. love her voice - I have heard it - and WILL NEVER FORGET IT!

      2. I write because of her - she is a muse.

      1. She supports me and loves me and encourages me even though I have many shortcomings - that is a true friend - some people take several lifetimes and never meet a beautiful angel like this - Martie you are an angel to me - God bless your parents and South Africa.

      lake erie time 10:09pm

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Maria, 'yourselves' was not a typo. YOU must take care of Maria the Teacher, Maria the Writer, Maria the Mamma of Aunt Baby, Maria the Sista of Many, Maria the And-so-forth....

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Vinaya Ghimire - Your hubs always fascinate me. You are a born writer able to enlighten and delight many readers. You've got a fan in me.

      MickeySr, I suggest you increase your intake of HMTRT - (Help-Me-To-Remember-Tablets), and you need a stronger set of glasses. I am NOT a gentleman - I don't even behave like one, you son of a Neanderthal!

      ROFL!

      Have a lovely day, Maria! Take care of yourselves!

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Afternoon, Y'all,

      Rosemay, thanks for stopping back... a REPEAT visit from you is one to be RELISHED...

      now, Mickey, what the heck brings you back? What did you forget to MENTION this 'first' time to Martie... a 'perspective'...??

      Martie, you are a MAGNET for the GOOD, the BAD and the MICKEY... on this interview of yours... and I would expect nothing less from my dear Sista...!! Your energy and pizzazz is utterly infectious!

      Faith, it is FABULOUS to FIND you here, dear lady!

      Vinaya, thank you so VERY much for your support and VENERABLE wisdom.

      Mickey, what are you MUTTERING about, MAN??

      Hope y'all have a lovely day, even you, Mickey. Hugs, Maria

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      "you have seen my ugly side – the rude raw b@tch making her appearance"

      I have no clue what you are referring to, you have always and only ever conducted yourself as a true gentleman - and I'm not a "smart-ass"!

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      Vinaya Ghimire 5 years ago from Nepal

      Martie is one of many writers I admire very much. I just love her creative writings hubs, she is a wonderful storyteller. I wish her all the success in life.

      Maria, thank you very much for including Martie in the interview series. I will link this interview with the interview I have done with Martie.

      Regards

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Good morning my lovely sista, marcoujor. Down here it is the beginning of Spring and according to the clouds we’re about to have our first summer rain – purification and regeneration we always look forward to.

      Thank you, Vincent, for the link. I will always love you as my big brother. You were such a solid support, thanks – yes, thanks - to the insight and wisdom you’ve painfully obtained during your child- and adulthood. We are apparently not born to mean something for ourselves, but to mean something for others. Therefor we just have to suffer the essential procedure to become what we’re supposed to be. It is so good to know you and to reap the benefits of being your friend.

      MickeySr, you adorable smart-ass hippie! Now you’ve destroyed ALL my inferior complexes and my head is swelling into a Big Bo…. Ba….. Balloon. How am I going to get myself outa here without breaking some walls? It is so good to know you, Mickey! Your sense of humor keeps me ROFL. But you have seen my ugly side – the rude raw b@tch making her appearance in certain situations. I will always remember that you’ve explained her doings sufficiently. I don’t like her, you know, but I have to live with her. Bloody B—ch! I wonder what could all be perspectives on Impulsive Rudeness… Primordial Human Behaviour….. [Lots of hugs from your living doll :)]

      Thank you, Rosemay50. You may always, anytime, push my button.

      Faith Reaper, I love your hubs and comments. Our grandchildren always-always come first and that’s that. So there! God bless you too :–)

      Thanks, Maria! Hopping out of here under my swollen Big-Bo-Ba-Balloon head….. :)) Just see my legs swinging….

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      Faith Reaper 5 years ago from southern USA

      What a truly awesome interview of a truly awesome woman to say the least. Martie is a fabulous lady full of life and very special no doubt. I am so sorry I somehow missed this one, and I believe it was this weekend when my granddaughters were up. I was so busy and distracted. But I am glad I found it!!!! So glad to know Martie a little better, and I am going to go back and read her special hub that is close to her heart that deserves more attention. God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      d'oh! I was going to say that Martie had such a great 'perspective' but I forgot . . . I am wiping egg off my face.

      . . . sweet dreams.

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      Rosemary Sadler 5 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      I just came back to thank Martie for the sweet rply to my comment.

      'My dear friend, Rosemay50, you are one of my special friends. When you are unhappy, I feel like sending you anything under the sun that can make you happy again.'

      It is friends like you that make all the difference on a bad day. Thank you. I hope too that I can bring a smile to you.

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Sista, All I hafta say to you about your comment is "YA CAN'T TOUCH THIS..." (from your "MC" Hammer...!)

      Vincent, I feel like a 'bird on a wire' eavesdropping on you and Sista... but your poem and your VOICE are worth checking out y'all.

      Speaking of which, Mickey... what the fook are you MUMBLING about? It took you long enough to get here and give us your inept and fumbling perspective. Now, come here and lemme wipe that egg off your face.

      Have a wonderful night, even you Mickey. Hugs, Maria

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      MickeySr 5 years ago from Hershey, Pa.

      Meeting and carrying on a relationship with someone online, someone you don't share a history with, someone you can't get to know better through mannerism and tone, etc, is an odd, new world, kind of thing. Some folks you just bump into and move along, some folks you only really duel over ideas with, with some folks your interactions are only antagonistic when in real life you might get along with, and with some folks you think you know them and then have the rug pulled-out from under you. Martie is one of those rare folks who you genuinely get to know.

      In real life we often interact with others over all manner of living life . . . we go to lunch, we might work together, we see them in their homes, with their children, etc, etc - online we just about only interact with each other over ideas, and frequently over very significant and consequential ideas. So, the people we meet online and genuinely get to know and enjoy long-lasting relationships with, are people with big ideas who know how to articulate them.

      Martie has been good to me. She very graciously invited me to contribute to her already very well received "Hubville" soap opera series, she has from the beginning been very encouraging to me regarding my writing, and she has been very patient with any difficulties I may have inserted into our online friendship.

      Martie is one of those people you meet online, that you genuinely come to know and you earnestly like, I hope many get to know her better through Maria's inept and fumbling interview . . . oh yes, and Martie is a living doll.

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      Vincent Moore 5 years ago

      Oops I forgot to send you the link. I had a Guinness in my typing hand, cheers. http://vincentmoore.hubpages.com/hub/A-Bird-On-The...

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      Vincent Moore 5 years ago

      Martie I am pleased to send you the link to a poem I wrote especially with you in mind. I will soon be reading this work in Soundcloud and hope you tune in for a listen. It will be recited with conviction from my soul, the same way I felt as I penned it. Hugs to you my beautiful and brilliant friend. I love your voice BTW it's magical.

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      Martie Coetser 5 years ago from South Africa

      Hi femmeflashpoint, thank you for you lovely inspiring comment. I appreciate your support and interest in my country with all my heart.

      Augustine, "if I was (had) a hammer, I'd hammer in the morning, I'd hammer in the evening, all over this world, I'd hammer out danger, I'd hammer out a warning, I'd hammer out love between my brothers and my sisters all over this world....." Thank you so much for your smile-provoking comment.

      Maria, I LOVE your replies on comments. If I am a hammer, you, too, are a hammer for sure :)

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Good Afternoon, y'all,

      Martie, Hope you are MARVELOUS and feeling MIGHTY and fit as a fiddle...! These after-parties are not for the MEEK, as you know!

      Audrey, You are an AMAZING lady and it is ALWAYS so good to see you. I am overdue for a visit and will be by...

      Brenda, Your comments are BEAUTIFUL, like you.

      Annette, As Muskateers go, we are AWARE of what we need from each other and ALIKE in so many ways. ALWAYS our Irish Sista!

      femme, You are no FOOL when it comes to FINDING great FRIENDS and FABULOUS writers...

      Augustine Zavala, As I live and breathe, you really do understand a good woman. Praise the heavens... AMEN!

      Hoping y'all have a lovely day. Hugs, Maria

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      Augustine A Zavala 5 years ago from Texas

      They don't call her the Klerksdrop Hammer for nothing (actually, I'm the only one her calls her that).

      Martie is obstinate, fierce, tough. She's a fighter, lover, mother, and grandmother. If Martie is enamoured with you, then she will give you the attention you need. If you have her scorn, then you will feel the brunt of her anger and disdain. Solution? Just stay on her good side. Works for me...

      An outstanding author and friend.

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      femmeflashpoint 5 years ago

      Mar,

      You were absolutely perfect in your description of Martie as a writer who is "visceral" and "in your face." That's it, exactly!

      Martie's allowed herself to stretch in all sorts of directions with her work, and, she makes it look so easy, lol. However, I believe that's an ability many writers either don't have, or aren't willing to even try.

      Whatever she's feeling when she's writing, she'll have the reader feeling it too. I think I've experienced nearly every emotion possible when reading Martie's work.

      Something she's done here on the Hub that I've enjoyed a great deal, is that she's shared with us, what it's like in her neck of the woods. From her language(s) to the terraine, flora and fauna, music and culture of her country, and even neighboring countries, Martie has graciously introduced us and included us, in her life in South Africa, and I've found the whole bit about getting to know the country through Martie's eyes to be quite fascinating.

      She is a gifted lady that I admire much. And, her zeal for life, adventure and learning, is infectious. It's hard to read most of Martie's work without feeling fired up about something, or feeling the need to get up, get out and go do something physical, lol.

      I loved that you included the audio of Martie as well. The first time I heard it my reaction was, "Awww .... " with a big smile spread on my face. I listened to it twice the first time, and I listened to it again today, and had the same reaction, lol.

      I love leaving with a smile, and you've managed to put yet another one on my face with this piece, Mar.

      Great job!

      femme