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Mean Comments on Forums

Updated on October 19, 2016
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Mean Comments from Mean Hubbers

I don't post on forums, I read a few answers on the following question:

  • ''Why are hubbers are mean?''

In regards to the question above, it got me thinking of the topic, and I decided to let my thoughts flow out here.

Certainly, there is a problem with some Hubbers if such a question has already been asked.

So far, I haven't come across these kinds of people on Hubpages.

Some Hubbers can be mean in such kind of harsh comments. I am not in that place to explain the heart feeling on these people.

However, people want to be active on Hubpages on a daily basis.

To communicate with each other, and by chatting online has become the norm.

The forums sounds the good place to start.

  • Do you think Hubbers are Mean?

I have realized that not having any comments from the mean hubbers can make me think differently.

Writers have their rights to comment, and are free to say what is on their minds.

If the other person on the receiving end doesn't agree, or think the hubber is mean for sharing their thoughts.

These issues can lead to cyber abuse.

What one hubber applies doesn't necessarily make every other hubber mean.

Get over it!

Don't take such thoughts to heart, and include everyone else in the issue.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

  • I can also be direct in thought. If I need to but why be so sensitive to something so small?

Individuals are faced with such issues daily online.

If there are mean people here, I have no idea who they really are.

Nobody actually knows the person who comments to upset the other. When you are face to face with the person,

it can make a difference to react in your own way to solve the problem.

Forums are often the place for all sorts of conversations, and it can be hurtful or offensive. People react differently and deal with forum questions in their own way.

Once you realize that then you will know exactly what I mean.

  • Most forums have common issues like disrespectful comments, name calling, and lots of vulgar, but who is going to find the culprit and fix the problem?

The online forums helps many searching the web for specific topics, and if you ask a proper question you will get the answer you deserve.

When you ask the same question more than once, then you deserve what you get from the answers.

Apart from meeting the many people from all backgrounds, you don't even know how to contact them if need to.

As frustrating as that can be, you just got to let go of those nasty comments.

Emotionally, one can be affected by these harsh comments think about it. Most people are affected by forums, and the best in my opinion is to ignore it.

From what I have learned on Hubpages as my best writing site it has a friendly community. I have received only two, not so good comments and ignored it.

Most people want to get their messages across to others and mean what they say.

  • In many cases their opinions matters to them and to you that is the reason for forums is that right?

To be able to argue and find out a true answer is what forums do to you.

The problem begins when an individual fails to understand the meaning of forums.

Anger sets in and things get out of hand.

Depending on how one feels about the topic it can really be argumentative.

The Internet is an open place for many kinds of people. If one is not able to handle these online issues they shouldn't be here.

One has to accept the life of the Internet.

People from just about all parts of the world are connected to the Internet.

The few cases of aggression, or disapproval of comments against forums is not going to solve anything.

People agree to disagree all the time. They face up to challenges and don't sweat the small stuff.

If one is trying to be helpful in forums others can misunderstand their interpretations. It happens when someone speaks out.

The one who speaks up directly to others and who is to the point with comments can make sense of it all.

If you have faith in your words overcoming nasty comments can be easily dealt with.

Anonymous, not everyone wants to be seen or known to others online with their correct identity.

In this way the person doesn't bother about what is said to the other in forums, or in any other online activity.

It is entirely up to the individual on how they react to such responses.

Hubbers here respond gratefully to helping anyone with any questions, and have been very helpful to me.

There are the harsh kinds of people on daily forums, and want to speak out and can be cruel to be kind.

Different characters with different personalities, not everyone can be the same in their responses.

  • Imagine if every person had the same personalities and characters what would the world be?

  • Ever wondered?

To avoid the mean hubbers, if there are any, don't follow every hubber just to gain followers. Think carefully about your choices.

Believe me, I am not the Mean Hubber!

In many forums the questions, and answers are helpful and allows others to find out more about information required.

The unnecessary becomes effective when the uncalled for is the response. In your opinion it is not called for just as you have your way, they too have their own way on forums.

Bare in mind, the Internet is not a place for every personality, or character.

Talent on Hubpages is great, and many hubbers are selective about who they want to have in their circles.

You can't find pleasant people every where.

Speaking for everyone is not the answer to anyone's problems.

Certain people say things as it comes out and they can't take back their words once its out there.

How you react to forum comments changes the way you feel and think of others.

People who are ill-mannered are like that by nature, and can not be as good as you.

It is worth it if you overlook the situation, mean hubbers can be reported.

Rudeness online has been going on for a while, no matter how many rules the criticism continues to pour in.

Occasionally, negative comments can be worth thinking about, and could help you improve on your questions and answers.

Bad comments relies on what the topic is all about and sometimes about who is asking the question.

If it is an argumentative topic, surely there would be lots of aggression. The person asking the question if of a certain culture can affect some people in the forums.

For whatever the reason nasty comments are often the problem in forums.

Be positive about what you read in forums and sites shouldn't allow this sort of behavior.

It is normal to feel bad or down when you come across mean people online.

It will pass, and one day you will sit down and talk about it with laughter, or advise others to ignore these kinds of people.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I stay off of the forums because there are mean people there and I have no time for that kind of behavior. On regular hubs I have only met three or four mean people, and I just thank them for their opinion and move on. There has only been one person that I had to report for their behavior.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello billybuc thanks for the comment I agree with you people with such billybuc should be reported

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      A very good hub. I stay off the forums too.Quoting.. "Everyone says what they have in mind and one is entitled to speak freely." I found this to be one of the most important lines in your hub. I notice that many hubbers react defensively on certain issues more than others and towards others who share different views. I'm glad that you brought these issues. I have also encountered a few mean people here as well. I just don't approve their comment if it's inappropriate.

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      Thomas Silvia 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi DDE great hub, i do the same has billybuc i thank them for their comments and move on, and i never go in the forums .

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      Jackwms 4 years ago

      Hello DDE. This is a good hub and I have enjoyed reading others from you (not all of them yet). I also don't like sharing comments with "mean people", and tend to stay away from forums that drift into emotional insults and/or profanity. If you haven't read "The Journey- A look at Aging", a collaborative effort by 16 hubbers started over a year ago, I hope you will do so now. The 16 participants, from all walks of life, discussed a variety of life experiences, including religion, non religion, poverty, homelessness, and many others. It was all very enlightening and educational, proof that people can share thoughts and experiences without being "mean".

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      rose-the planner 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario-Canada

      I believe that forums are important because it allows individuals to connect and discuss important topics. However, there is a difference between constructive criticism and a pointless, useless and belligerent comment. If an individual does not have anything worthy to contribute to the thread except to spread negativity, then they should stay off of it. I recently visited the Google Adsense forum and was appalled at this one particular individual who was essentially taunting and bullying everyone participating. Needless to say, it turned me off and I exited. Great article! You made some points that needed to be said. Thanks for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lovedoctor926 thanks for commenting always good to read a comment from you and so agree with your point here have an awesome day

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      kashmir56,thanks a lot for taking the time and stopping by at my hubs I so appreciate you coming by

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rose-the planner thanks for the votes, so good to see you at my hubs,

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Jackwms Thanks for stopping by and sharing your views so glad you came by

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this.My oil company has proved - negative is not profitable.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great words here Mhatter99 thanks

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      I stay away from the forums also as I don't have time for all that nonsense. I have had very few mean-spirited comments and I have been here almost 4 years. I never play their game. I only had one very inappropriate comment that I did not publish. I am glad most people are great.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pamela99 so nice of you to stop by I appreciate your kindness thanks

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Well my dear Devika you are one of the most beautiful and intelligent women I have ever met and you certainly don't need to put up with that - some hubbers are even mean in their comments but Epi always tries to keep it on the up and up and I have an old saying - if you have nothing good to say than say nothing at all.

      You are a world class journalist in my book Miss D and I just arrived home from work to a couple of happy cats, a couple of beers and listening to John Coltrane and as I often do at this time - posting a new one - hope all is well with you my friend and what has your summer been like so far? Sending 3 big Canadian hugs from Colin, Tiffy and Gabriel at lake erie time canada 4:17am

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello epigramman from lovely Croatia so far we have had some fairly hot days, with a slight breeze and windier moments in the day, kind of different to last year. I enjoy reading your kind comments and so pleased to have you as one of my great followers. I enjoy modern day day music and since I grew up with the music of the eighties I sometimes listen to most of the eighties, have a great week, thanks and take care

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      I rarely if ever go on forums...but I have seen some of the remarks made to others that were meanspirited. I do not understand why someone would be cruel to another...it is a kind of bullying I think.

      Angels are on the way to you this evening....ps

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi so glad you stopped by pstraubie48 I don't take part in forums thanks very much for commenting have a great weekend.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      I usually don't participate in the forums. They're often political and I try to avoid politics on this site. Then there are the forums about technical things here on HP or on policy here at HP, and I have noted some people set themselves up as authorities when they really don't know what they're talking about.

      The Learning Center is really the best place, along with the weekly newsletters, to get information about this site. Every once in a while one of the HP elite will write something about a new program or feature that's coming out on HP, but people who have not been designated as a spokes person for HP sometimes get things wrong.

      I have so much to do all the time I have a hard time just keeping up with my comments. I really don't need to get involved with the forums too.

      You make some good points here.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Au fait so true about these forums and glad you stopped by to share your valuable opinion thanks for your continuous support I appreciate you commenting

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Hi Devika, a very interesting topic, and you've done an excellent job!...I think the forum reflects life in a microcosm, there will always be some people who are mean; they are always looking to strike out, I tend to give such people a very wide berth, however; forums can be very informative.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness always good to read a comment from you so glad you stopped by mean comments can hurt others and some can take things the wrong way. Thanks

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      savvydating 4 years ago

      Hi DDE, I enjoyed your hub. I also watched the video, and appreciated how the guy stressed the importance of having manners online. I rarely if ever go near a forum, primarily because too many people fail to back up their opinions with any substantial facts... and there is that thing of some becoming venomous and sarcastic. Having differences of opinion can be a healthy way to learn, but once people get out of hand, I usually let them know it's time to "cut it out." That is not to say they do. Anyway, there will always be mean people. Sometimes it's best to ignore them, but since I am not always one to sit on the sidelines and watch abuse happen, I feel it is appropriate to say something sometimes, and then move on after that.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      savvydating I so agree with your points here thanks for commenting and have good day

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      I am also lucky. I have not been the target of mean comments. I believe in telling how you feel but there are ways to do it without trying to destroy them.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I'm a firm believer that if you have nothing nice to say, just say nothing at all. Unfortunately, not everyone feels that way. I've discovered that many people actually enjoy posting negative comments. I just steer clear of negative vibes. Not worth my time. Not just on HP, but on Facebook and Twitter also.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      KoffeeKlatch Gals so glad to read your comment and thanks for taking the time to stop by and rad my hubs take care

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Sunshine625 I agree with you if someone has nothing to say they shouldn't say any ting thanks for commenting

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Devika, I've had only a couple of mean comments on my hubs and I just ignored them. I am not much into forums, only respond when I have the time or need an answer to something.

      Interesting thoughts but it is best to leave such people alone and be at peace.

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rajan jolly thanks for the votes up and interesting so glad you stopped by and commented have a good day.

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      moonlake 3 years ago from America

      I think I had only one mean comment and that was resently and there was no reason for it. There are mean people on the forums and some of the most popular hubbers are the meanest. I stay clear of them. I can't help but wonder why they can't answer a question kindly instead of being rude. I figure they have an unhappy life. Great hub voted up.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great to read another comment from you Moonlake

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