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How to Make People Happy

Updated on July 1, 2014
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How to Make People Happy

Happiness is a universal goal. We all want to be happy and usually surround ourselves with people who do make us happy, or at least we try. There are several things you can do to make others happy. I have narrowed it down to 4 areas:

  • Listen
  • Be Entertaining
  • Appreciation
  • Acceptance

Listening to people makes them feel important. When you listen to them you are subconsciously telling them that what they have to say makes a difference. It also fosters a sense of intimacy because you get to know them better and if you are good at communicating with another person that intimacy will grow. This is an area that is one of the main complaints of married couples, that one or the other person does not listen. By not listening to someone you are, in fact, telling then that they are not important and that you will not waste your time communicating with them. It's a subtle form of disrespect. No relationship can survive this for very long, so if you want to make someone happy listen to them when they are talking. Make sure to actively participate by asking questions and if you truly value the person you are talking to you will want to know what is going on in their lives anyway.

Everyone wants to feel special and needed, everyone! If you want to make people happy seek out the special qualities, talents and traits that make your friends who they are. Ask them for advice, comment on their special abilities and never take them for granted. These are the areas that make us who we are and by appreciating them in your mates you will help them to further develop these areas. If you want to make people happy you have to help them be the best they can be and this is done through appreciation.

Next, BE ENTERTAINING. Yes, you need to provide pleasure to the people you want to make happy. Pleasure can be in the form of laughter or communication or just by being an interesting person. We all have boring, humdrum lives at times. When you have someone in your life that is uplifting and interesting it makes life a little sweeter. I'm sure we've all had friends that when you talk to them they crack you up, these friends are truly precious, they are the kind of people you want to have in your lives forever because it makes life fun and colorful. This is not to say that you have to be fake or that sometimes you can't be down but even in the dark periods if you can connect with someone through laughter it makes it a little more palatable.

Finally, acceptance is crucial. None of us are perfect, we all have our faults and just as we would want others to accept us through the good, the bad and the ugly we need to accept others even when they are not acting in ways we would like. Unconditional love is a great gift. If you want to truly make others happy give that gift. It's not as easy as it might sound and you might not choose to give that gift to everyone you know but the people that you do give it to will be happier for it and so will you.

Making other people happy is one of the greatest gifts one can bestow. I don't know about you but the people who can make me laugh and in their presence is joy are some of my most treasured friends. It is a priceless quality in these days of difficulty, bad news and gloom. If you can hone these skills for yourself you will never be without a friend and that, my dear, is the greatest thing of all!

Do you try to make others happy?

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      Brie Hoffman 3 years ago from Manhattan

      Yes, Lyn, having a good family makes a huge difference in life!

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      Lyn  3 years ago

      My family is happy everyday why is because that my mother and father did not scold as everyday and we a happy

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      Syarah  3 years ago

      Love and happy what you can do

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      Diduni 5 years ago

      True,thank for commenting....

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      Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks FordeAhern.

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      FordeAhern 5 years ago from Broadford, Co. Limerick. ireland

      Love your hub and all is true in what you say. thank you foe sharing it. voted up and interesting

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      Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks for voting it up Internetgeek.

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      Nizam Khan 5 years ago from Hyderabad, India.

      Wow! How to Make People Happy, this is really interesting and wonderful. You have specified excellent 4 areas to be happy. Thanks for sharing and voted up :)

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      Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks for the kind comments Veggie-mom.

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      veggie-mom 5 years ago

      Beautiful & shared, thanks for the gentle reminders!

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      asooooooooom 5 years ago

      I always try to make happy to my friends and my family and other people ^_^

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      chawla 5 years ago

      helping them makes them really happy

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      Brie Hoffman 5 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks Tonipet

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      Tonette Fornillos 5 years ago from The City of Generals

      Help them! I think it's one that makes people really happy. It makes them feel needed and yes, important too! Lovely hub Brie. Learned something new and great. Thanks.

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      saira khalid 5 years ago

      I always try to make happy to my friends and my family and

      other people who always be angry i like all people who's

      muslim's and non mulim's because god make all people not me

      and other...so be happy life is not long but try to make it

      slime!(:(:

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      stef 5 years ago

      @mini: i have that same problem, but what i learnt is to make yourself happy first. forget the bullshit and the opinions of others because the only opinion that matters is yours!!! love yourself for who u r and not what others want u to be! give it ur all: 100%!! hope this helped and ur not alone ;)

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      mini: Try to ignore your family and make your friends your family.

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      mini 6 years ago

      wat if someone asks about my grades how will he feel i hate my parents n school n my life i hate evrythin xcept my friends my teachers ask my sisters y is she dull in studies n then my sis tells mom how does she feel i wish i wasn't even born my fathers also ignore me sometimes like he is fed up 4m me plz help me

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      mini 6 years ago

      i really feel unlucy all of my sisters r intelligent xept me yyyyy///?// that's really bad iwanna die

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      That's so true. Also, having low expectations helps :)

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      be happy 6 years ago

      I think the biggest of the 4 is acceptance. I believe that you have to be able to accept negative things in life. If you don't you're going to be disappointed.

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      True, thanks for commenting.

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      lea86 6 years ago

      Yeah, I think to make people happy is actually make us happy in return, because the result will make people like us; and when we are among the people that 'make them happy', we usually will make more friends.Thanks.

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      lk 6 years ago

      hopw to make person i love to happy

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      Toto 6 years ago

      Very good to make people happy

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      declan 6 years ago

      i wish i could make evri1 in the world happy but i don't know how to do that.....+2348066071984

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      dragonsin 6 years ago

      thx...

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      Well that's another situation. If your friend is really your friend then you will never really be able to keep him/her happy without your own happiness.

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      dragonsin 6 years ago

      nice hub and nice article.... but i wondering how to make my friend happy if i'm not happy?

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      Can you go somewhere else like a Starbucks or one of your friends houses? Sit down and talk with your mother and tell her what you just told me, offer to pick up after your friends have left so that your mother doesn't have to worry about a messy house. Also, is there a basement or attic area where you could hang out?

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      Sam Scott 6 years ago

      i want to make my friends feel welcome but my mom yells and says we need to go outside and not mess up the house

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      merry 6 years ago

      how to make my family happy is my goal

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      Debbie Bills 6 years ago

      When we really listen to some one it does make them feel special. Happiness is about building relationships.

      Debbie

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      Brie Hoffman 6 years ago from Manhattan

      It's good business to keep your employees happy, that way you wont have to constantly be searching for new ones. I worked for a company once and it was the best company I ever worked for. They were very affirming, we had picnics with the whole group of us, on Fridays (once a month) we had wine and sort of a mini party, the bosses door was always open and as long as we got our work done they didn't care if we came in a few minutes late every once in awhile. In other words we were treated with respect and I will never forget it. That is what I would do if I were an owner of a company. A little kindness as an owner goes a long long way (especially in today's job climate).

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      stephanie vest 6 years ago

      I don't understand things and why they happen to me. I have been working so hard in the resturant bussiness. Just bartending, but i do very well, people love me. Know that i am 35. and doing this for a long time. i am where i want to be. but it seems that know matter what. things come up. My manager wants me to come up with how we make are employess happy. i just tought about my self. If i am happy and the guest are happy. why worrie about the emp. so does any one know what i should do

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      We should always try to make others happy. What goes around, comes around.

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      Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks for the compliments tweetter.

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      tweetter 7 years ago

      Really nice hub, every one want to listen them............. Means every one wanna talk........ Thanx for the advice@@@@

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      Brie Hoffman 7 years ago from Manhattan

      I don't understand your question Soniya?

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      SONIYA 7 years ago

      BUT WHY DON'T DO THE SAME THING WHAT EVER NICE THING YOU HAVE DONE FOR THEM?

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      mike 7 years ago

      make yourselves happy.

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      james 7 years ago

      thanks for the advice

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      james 7 years ago

      thanks for the advice

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      Brie Hoffman 8 years ago from Manhattan

      Thanks for the nice comment, it really is just common sense but that seems lacking today!

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      sean.rutger 8 years ago from USA

      Great hub... I try to make my friends laugh every day. Why don't more people know this? Thanks for giving everyone a crash course in being social.


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