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You always have a choice

Updated on December 1, 2014

You can blame your family. You can blame your environment. You can even blame yourself.

What you shouldn't do is put the blame on anyone and should just let go.

How can you do this? Just remember that you always have a choice.

It sounds simple, but this short piece of advice is more helpful than anything you can know in life, I believe.

It's undeniable that your environment and ancestry will affect your life and circumstances. However, you have the power to decide how it will affect you and to what extent.

You can change your life if you want to. You just have to make sure that you're ready to change. You have to want it, be willing to try something different and give up things that you've been accustomed to for a long time. You can analyze your dreams to discover things about yourself you never before noticed to help in your decision.

Be willing to take a look at your life and decide if you are happy with your life and the way it is headed. Determine what you like and dislike about yourself and your life. What are the consequences of the action you plan to take? Will your life last long the way it is going?

One thing you can change is your perspective. Be willing to take on different beliefs and consider other spiritualities.

Choose to relax. Find things about yourself that you're happy with and don't let anyone tell you that's not okay. Find your own definition of love. Take a look at how recreation and work fit into your life and decide if you're fine with the roles they play. Do you want to be more productive or do you want to rid stress from your life?

Don't be afraid to deal with your fears. Be willing to establish trust with people you might not have considered doing so with before. Be direct with yourself and others. Listen to others and your own feelings. Keep a journal to keep track of your goals and thoughts. And avoid self-fulfilling prophecies; don't set yourself up to fail.

Make sure your life has meaning in it; choose a goal and stick with it. Many people get pleasure from helping others.

It's time to take your life out of the hands of others and into your own. Take responsibility for your future and you might find yourself happy with the result. The more control your take of your life, the less it is at the will of others. Take pleasure in your strength and power.


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