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Living An Addiction-Free Life

Updated on February 25, 2014

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A Little Background

It is hard to understand addiction unless you have experienced it.

Ken Hensley

The title is a bit misleading. I will always be an alcoholic. First I had to come to grips with the knowledge that I was an alcoholic; then I had to accept the fact that there is no cure and my addiction would be with me until my final days on this vessel of life. Those are realities I face daily. The only question, then, is how am I going to live my life knowing what I know and being who I am?

I did not choose to be an alcoholic and yet I am. I did not wake up one day and make a conscious decision to drink my life away, to toss aside twenty years of living for a bottle. When I was a little kid and then a teen, being an alcoholic was not a career choice I settled upon.

But here I am today, sixty-five years of age, with a roadmap of my life littered with empty bottles, broken promises and wasted dreams. But here I am today, sixty-five years of age, with seven years of sobriety and a love of life.

The choices we make; the paths we take.

There are those reading this right now who are addicts/alcoholics. They are reading my words and finding it incomprehensible that someone could be sober for seven days, let along seven years. How is it possible? For you see, addiction is all-encompassing. It really does completely control your life. Every waking moment is consumed by thoughts of using. Lies are told, scams devised, trust broken, all in the name of feeding the Beast and quieting the voices, and God almighty what a horrible way to live.

And yet I sit here today, the writer many of you know, completely enjoying life and no longer giving the Devil his pound of flesh.

How is it possible?

This is what freedom looks like
This is what freedom looks like | Source

It Begins with Willingness

She goes from one addiction to another. All are ways for her to not feel her feelings.

Ellen Burstyn

A decision must be made. At some point in time, if there is to be any hope at all, an alcoholic or addict must decide to stop the addiction. No one else can make that decision. No intervention can do it. No medical cure can do it.

I did not begin my road of recovery because I was afraid of death. I did not end my addictive lifestyle because I was afraid of losing everything that I held dear to me. I chose a different life because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I had experienced the wonders of life at an early age and I wanted to experience it again. It was either that or die and I did not choose to die…I chose life. I had to be willing to go to any lengths to end the cycle of self-destruction.

Easy words to write; not so easy to live.

For those of you with an addictive personality, what I say rings true, doesn’t it? You know! Whether you have an eating addiction, a purging addiction, a sex addiction or an addiction to drugs, you know I speak the truth. We must choose to break the addictive cycle or we will die.

This is what freedom looks like
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Then the Work Begins

All the suffering, stress, and addiction comes from not realizing you already are what you are looking for.

Jon Kabat-Zinn

Once we have declared to ourselves and the world that we are willing, the real fun begins. I say that facetiously by the way. There is no fun in breaking ourselves down, delving into our psyches, and changing our lives. There is no fun involved in tossing aside our best friend (our addiction) and going it on our own without the manufactured support of the bottle or pill. It is extremely hard work and it is frightening, and often times at the first sign of discomfort an addict will chuck it all and return to the safety of addiction.

So we try again.

For me, and I can only share MY experience, strength and hope, it required that I change my behaviors.

Today I live a very structured life. I have a daily schedule and I follow that schedule religiously. Too much down time is bad for me. My mind wanders and old stinking thinking enters it, and once that happens I become as crazy as a squirrel without nuts.

Today I live without secrets. I lived for so long in that secretive world, not allowing anyone to know that I was a very, very flawed human being. I was afraid of chastisement. I was afraid to allow others to know the real me, for if you knew who I really was you would reject me outright, and rejection is painful. Must avoid pain at all costs; must drink to numb the pain; must lie to avoid the pain. So today I tell it all. I do this to help myself; I do this to help others.

Today I love myself, and this is perhaps the greatest transformation of them all in my life. I like who I am. I have forgiven myself and asked forgiveness from those harmed. The knowledge that I am helping others through my writings fills me with the “warms and fuzzies,” and after twenty years of self-destruction, I gladly embrace the “warms and fuzzies.”

Today I live a simple life based on love for others. I find when I treat others with respect that I have a tendency to do the same with myself. I find when I have compassion for others that it is easy for me to look in a mirror. I find when I live a life of love then love comes easily and infiltrates every facet of my being.

And this is what freedom looks like
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And the End Result?

We may think there is willpower involved, but more likely... change is due to want power. Wanting the new addiction more than the old one. Wanting the new me in preference to the person I am now.

George A. Sheehan

Contentment…..peace of mind….happiness….those are the gifts I have received, and because of those gifts I am able, in turn, to give of myself and become a contributing member of society and a loving partner to my wife.

I do not live with regrets, for regrets are self-defeating and really a meaningless undertaking. I cannot change the past. I cannot ask for a mulligan and have a free shot at the flag. What I have done wrong has been done. All I can do is move forward determined to do better the next time; that is all any of us can do whether we be addicts or “normies.”

Today life is good. Today life is worth living. Today in my addiction-free world, life is love.

And it can be for you as well. Are you willing? Will you do the work necessary? Would you like to discover who you really are?

If so then take my hand. I am here to help you. Contact me and I’ll be the shoulder to lean on until you can stand on your own. I am willing to do that for you, as others were willing to do it for me. That is how it works in this life….human beings helping human beings, and each of us growing stronger because of it.

2014 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Bill, I will always commend you for taking control of your life and your addiction, as well as for always trying so hard and passionately to help others who are addicted and in need of the encouragement and help to move past their addictions. Thank you Bill for always just being such a wonderful and caring person. As always wishing you a great day ahead now!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, I am humbled by your words...thank you my friend and I hope your Tuesday is very successful.

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      Author Victoria Sheffield 3 years ago from Georgia

      This is great information!

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      It begins slowly I am sure. I have seen it so many times. Fortunately I like a drink or two and gambling..Controlled...Both I enjoy a lot. However I know how easy it is to give in...and then again and again...It is a spiral I am sure. Anyway today is good for you Bill and you have conquered your demons...I am sure it is a daily choice and the remembering of what happened to your life. My stepson after 25 years is now on the right path...

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      Old Poolman 3 years ago

      Well written as always Bill. You are living proof that nobody needs to live out the remainder of their life with addiction. If this hub helps even one person it will be well worth the time it took you to write it.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I gave up my smoking twelve years ago and I would say I missed it for ten years but I don't any longer, you couldn't pay me to go back, so maybe that day will come for you too. I hope so. You are a winner, don't change! ^

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Victoria!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, it is a daily monitoring but no longer a struggle. Today life is a gift. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for your friendship.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Poolman, I am with you all the way...just help one person to beat the demons. I would be one happy writer if that happened. Thank you my friend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I don't have any addictions very interesting about life another helpful hub from you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jackie! i don't crave it any longer; really I don't even think about it any longer. Life is good today and will continue to be so as long as I want it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm glad to hear that DDE...thank you!

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      This is a very well-written expose, Bill. It takes a lot of courage to do what you have done and even more to make it public. You are a role model in more ways than you realize.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks Sha...just trying to give back and help others. I was raised to just do that and not think it special. :) I appreciate your support my friend.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Bill, once again you have written a powerful and inspiring article on addiction. I admire you so very much for putting it all out there, others can find some hope in your experience and know that it is possible to take back control of their lives.

      Excellent work as always. My very best to you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, thank you my friend. I know you have seen the destruction and pain that addiction can bring. I'm just trying to give back to others what was freely given to me. :) Blessings to you always.

      bill

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      Dejvi Manushi 3 years ago from Albania

      Such a helpful material ...

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      May not have experienced it, but I do think it's really difficult to cope with. You're brave to share your accounts with us.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much dejvimanushi!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Michelle. I don't feel brave; just thankful. :)

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      Sheri Dusseault 3 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      How to write from the heart! Good for you to be so open and honest and I wish you the very best!

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      Karen Silverman 3 years ago

      You have a strength that many do not Bill. To pull yourself up from that hell-hole just because you were 'sick and tired of being sick and tired' - took not only balls, it took commitment and determination - on a daily basis. Nobody did it but YOU - YOUR way! And in return - you write hubs like this to encourage others!

      Whether warranted or not - you pay your self-inflicted penance every day - and every day, the world benefits from it.

      Maybe there IS a reason for everything, eh?

      hugs, Bill-bro!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sheri. I'm a big believer in writers writing from the heart, and I'm a big believer in helping others when I can...and on this topic I can. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hugs Sis and sincerely, thank you! I got myself into that mess; the least I could do was get me out of it. :) I don't know, hon; we all walk through shit sooner or later; some stop to smell the pungent shit longer than others. :)

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      The more I read about addictions, the more I see how addictions start with a longing for something - not necessarily the substance itself - but something to fulfill whatever the person is missing in life. By the way, the brain video is really helpful. I never saw the link between addictive behavior and addictive thinking as clearly delineated until watching the video.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, it was a good video. I had seen a similar one when I was in treatment seven years ago...an eye-opener for sure.

      Thank you dear friend. I hope you are having a wonderful day.

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Billybuc, thanks for an insightful hub based on your own journey. Alcohol addiction is just one of many addictions, as people search for true meaning in their lives.

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      Ruchira 3 years ago from United States

      I am happy that you are living a life in FULL awareness cause that means you are living in the present my friend!

      I am kinda getting addicted to FB and this awareness is kinda killing me...but ought to restrict my time over there.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Congratulations on meeting this difficult test in life head-on. You are a triumphant inspiration for others The first step is often the most difficult. I hope that those who need the benefit of your generous offer with reach out.

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      kerlund74 3 years ago from Sweden

      So strong, fantastic work! And a touching story you are telling us, thank you for sharing:)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Purpose Embraced, thank you for stopping by and for your acceptance.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...Ruchira, there are much worse addictions. I think you'll be alright. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I hope that as well, Flourish. If one person is helped then it is all worth it. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      kerlund, you are very kind. Thank you my new friend.

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      My heart is so filled with joy just knowing you are "free" from those demons and you know the key to staying free is to take one day at a time and enjoy this one present day ...living, loving and helping others. I know of this terrible disease of addiction as it had a grip on some of my close family members. My son has been sober since the age of 19 ...seven years now too! I now have the son back I used to know before this disease because he took the necessary steps, too, to change his life, plus a lot of prayer on my part! Hugs and much love to you always, Faith Reaper

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      Jamie Lee Hamann 3 years ago from Reno NV

      Your words are important to share. I still have addictions that I battle with but I was able to overcome Alchohol and Cigarrettes those were very hard. These addictions had gone on so long and become so ingrained in my behaviour that I nearly had to reinvent myself to quite. Now I am working on chocolate, my tendency to overeat, and a few others. Thank you for this hub. Jamie

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      You have shown great bravery and a great strength of will to be able to control your addiction and I for one am full of admiration. I've never had to do that but I can imagine how difficult it must have been, must still be from time to time. I've had one family member die through alcoholism but did not have to deal with him myself. I know how it affected his wife.

      You do indeed help others in so many ways and you come across as a tolerant, just person, willing to do his bit to make this world a better place.

      I love these words of yours, 'I find when I treat others with respect that I have a tendency to do the same with myself. I find when I have compassion for others that it is easy for me to look in a mirror. I find when I live a life of love then love comes easily and infiltrates every facet of my being.' They are words that others would do well to heed as they are the core of life.

      You have my admiration, my support and my friendship. May you continue to spread your unique message for a long, long time.

      Hope your week is going well. Ann

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, if I have your admiration, support and friendship, then I am a rich man. Thank you sincerely. Relationships mean a great deal to me...making a connection with another human being, whether it be here in Olympia or across the Pond online, is at the core of our human experience. I gratefully accept your admiration, support and friendship, and I send the same to you my friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jamie, you know as well as I do...one step at a time...although I have to tell you, giving up chocolate might be more than I am willing to do. LOL Thanks my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Happy Lunch Faith. This was better than purple dog poop for lunch, right? LOL I am so happy for you and your son; what a miracle that he found himself at an early age. I love it!

      blessings and thanks always

      bill

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      Thanks, bill; I'm honoured that you reciprocate. Ann

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann....:)

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      sheilamyers 3 years ago

      Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help some people at least start thinking about getting headed in the right direction. When it comes to hard drugs or alcohol I'm clueless as to how that feels and how hard it must be to stop. My addiction is to cigarettes and I'm having a hard time quitting. But with inspirational stories like yours, although different from my own addiction, I get inspired to do something positive in my own life.

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Bill, thanks for sharing. I know all about alcohol addiction. And you're right, you've gotta want it. I've been in meetings where a new guy walks in thinking that AA alone is a magic pill. It's never that easy. I could go on and on here, but you know the deal. Congratulations on the sober life.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheila, I have no doubt that nicotine is just as hard to give up. It's that damn craving that takes forever to go away. Good luck to you and thanks for sharing your experience.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I do know the deal, Brian, as do you. Thanks for sharing your experience, strength and hope with us.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Truth!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thanks buddy!

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      Mary McShane 3 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

      Both my parents were alcoholics, so living with it in my house was commonplace, even normal if you will. They never stopped drinking until the day they died. Because of alcoholic parents, none of us kids drink - not even a glass of wine. We know it is inherent in our genes, so we are mindful of that. All too often in my profession, I have seen many people make a decision to quit drinking, only to fall victim to it again, for whatever reasons. I say that with sincerity because many alcoholics are victims ... victims of their environment, of the actual process of addiction, and victims of their friend base. The lure is strong and it takes an even stronger person to keep turning away from it. I am thankful that you have been able to not only quit and never turned back to it, but also that you are an inspiration to everyone you meet - whether it is in person or on the internet - it shows through your writing that you are strong. I think writing about it also makes you stronger too and helps to keep it more at bay. One day at a time, one foot in front of the other - truer words were never spoken.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Cool, really cool, and an ideal partner to share this conviction. Much Mehta ..

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, I write these articles for others and, like you said, I write them for me. Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your experience with alcohol. It is a killer and the only thing I know to do, as a writer, is to raise awareness about the dangers and the hope.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you manatita......I appreciate your kind words.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      A wonderful honest hub Bill. I was addicted to cigarettes for years. I quit in 2004. It was really difficult, now the odor of smoke is appalling. I know your words will help others. Thank you...

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Ruby! Addiction of any kind is ruthless. I'm so happy your are smoke free now.

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      Kudos to you! I've never known addiction myself but cheer on those trying to beat it in their own lives.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Victoria. I appreciate your support.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very supportive hub with a very generous offer to help others, Bill. Thank you.

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      Barbara Kay Badder 3 years ago from USA

      You gave me an idea about quitting smoking this time. Keeping to a busy schedule will help. That is half the problem. When I get bored I think about them, then I go out and have one. Half of the time I could have done without one. Thanks for the idea.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia. That's what I was hoping to hear.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Barbara Kay, you are very welcome. Good luck with that; boredom does make it so much harder.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Very inspirational. Congratulations on your sobriety! You are such a great example on so many levels of what progress means in a purposeful life. All the best going forward!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, thank you so much. I'm just trying to make up for lost time.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Yours is a great testimony Bill that with will power and positive thinking anyone can change their life around. I have never been addicted to anything. No I take that back, I did have a gambling addiction for awhile years ago, but fortunately got over that. Now I can bet on horse races occasionally but only a couple of dollars and can go months between bets. Once it would be every race meeting. Thanks for being so open and a good example for us all.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for sharing your experience, John, and I'm glad you can lay off the ponies...I have a fondness for them as well. :)

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      Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

      You have inspired thousands with your testimony billybuc. I printed this one out too...Every day I agonize over my son not responding to my invites to take him to dinner....and his wife telling me 'he is a wonderful father regardless of his childhood' ...I have no idea what she is talking about. It is a torment I carry with me every single day. I have not seen his children in 2 years. This is the greatest burden to carry...not knowing where I messed up. I have good days and bad days...today I am humpty dumpty. There. I cried on your shoulder. Thanks a lot for the invitation. God bless, Sparklea :)

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      Christy Birmingham 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Excellent, dear friend. Your ability to open up here with your writing is helping people every day. Blessings, so many blessings xx

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, that must be horrible and I'm sending a hug your way. Who knows what he is carrying around in him? If he is not willing to share how he feels there is little you can do. Stay strong and my shoulder is here any old time you need it.

      blessings and love on this beautiful Wednesday

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Christy, what a doll you are. Thank you! One day Bev and I are going to head north for the weekend and I very much hope we can meet you. Thank you!

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      MizBejabbers 3 years ago

      Bravo to you, friend Bill! You are showing your strength and grace by writing so candidly about your past. Alcoholism runs in my family. I lost a beloved aunt and her husband to alcoholism in their 50s. I divorced my first husband because of his alcoholism. It hurts those who love them when they fail. You have kicked your demons in the butt, and I’m sure they’ll stay licked. I send light and love to you. Voted up and beautiful!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      MizB, thank you. My past cannot hurt me. It is there for me to learn from and to use as an example so that I can help others. That is what I believe and that is what I will act upon. I'm sorry for your losses.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Crystal Tatum 3 years ago from Georgia

      Bill, you are a true inspiration and strong example of hope for those who struggle with addiction. I am so glad you have a life worth living today.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Crystal, thank you so much, and so am I my friend. Take care of you.

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      Andy Aitch 3 years ago from UK & South East Asian Region

      Great opening line that BillyBuc: “It is hard to understand addiction unless you have experienced it.”

      Many "non-addictive" types will say the only thing lacking with addicts is will power. But they don't have to use will power because when they put certain kinds of food, beverage, or substances into their system, they simply don't "crave" for more of the same. It is only when someone can experience a true and relentless physical craving, coupled with an obsession of the mind, which keeps whispering: "more, more, more, and to hell with the consequences", that non-addictive types can comment with any real authority.

      I don't say this as a cop-out for addicts, but just an accurate observation.

      Andy Aitch

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      This is truly inspirational hub and you have inspired many with your writings.

      Thanks for sharing this engaging hub!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Andy, you said it perfectly. I know that many think that is a cop-out but it is right on....thank you for sharing that my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Chitrangada, thank you very much. I'm just trying to give back knowledge and experience that I was given freely.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Hi Bill.

      Uplifting, perfectly astonishing. Only a expert writer can explain it the way you have introduced a process living person lived through, never known to me, however now "experienced "it through your experience as well those of commenting. One part though isn't clear to me- due to cultural background (?)- perhaps; how come you say that you are what you have been and now you're not there anymore. .. To my understanding YOU ARE NOT an alcoholic . If that would be possible I would like to erase damaging statement " I will always be an alcoholic." God forbid.

      Up,useful, beautiful and interesting.

      Peace with us, my friend.

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      Lisa VanVorst 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Congratulations on your sobriety. Addiction is a sickness and once started it is a never ending battle of will power. This was a great article. I look forward to reading more of your hubs.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lisa, thank you so much for your kind words and your following. I appreciate it greatly.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hello Michael!

      I am an alcoholic and always will be. The term alcoholic refers to the fact that I have a chemical imbalance in my brain that does not allow me to drink normally. That will always remain. The correct phrasing would be "I am a recovering alcoholic." Good question my friend.

      blessings always

      bill

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      suraj punjabi 3 years ago from jakarta

      wow! This article is very well written and inspiring. I personally am not an addict. My cousin was a drug addict, he lives with his parents. He would do everything he could to get his hands on it. He would sell the tv and furniture in the living room to get drugs, his mom and dad would wonder where did the tv in the living room went! It got real bad and his family sent him to rehab. He is fine now and very productive and earning a very good living for himself. It was a good thing that he went to rehab early. Although I am sure its never too late to turn your life around.

      I can only imagine what people like you and my cousin went through in those days. I have great people for people like you and my cousins who had the strength and courage to take matters in their own hands and turn their lives around. Congratulations and Keep up the good work!

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Amazing hub, Bill! This is very inspirational!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suraj, thank you so much. I am happy that your cousin turned his life around. Thank you for sharing your own personal experience.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      vkwok, that's what I was hoping for. Thank you!

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      You know you are our shinning star. I am cigarette free for three months, something I never thought would happen. Long story, but I did it. It was tough! I cannot even imagine what you went through.

      I have an addictive personality and as a result there are many things I stay away from. Yes, I've been to Vegas and Atlantic City but fortunately do not live close enough to get there often. No, I do not drink at all, partly from fear of liking it and partly because I haven't found a drink I like.

      Keep up your inspiration Bill as you are leading the way for so many!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting, shared and pinned.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well Mary, thank you for sharing your experience as well. Every time one of us writes about this addiction thing, it de-mystifies it and helps someone else...so thank you my friend.

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      georgescifo 3 years ago from India

      addiction is something that you cannot get rid overnight, rather you need to adjust your mind, increase your will power and also have enough patience to get rid of addictions in the long run.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your thoughts on addiction, georgescifo!

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Your last sentence is the most potent. I commend you for your fight, your willingness to always help others, and your new life after your 'former' struggle. In some ways, it will always be a struggle, but you have found the road to control it. YOU will always be my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, that means a great deal to me and I thank you for your friendship. Yes, the struggle will always be there, but it is a manageable one for me and life is good.

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      David Warren 3 years ago from Nevada

      Your words are inspiring indeed. Ironically as I was reading this I was also having a text conversation with the daughter of a deceased drinking buddy from what now seems like another lifetime. Coincidental? Unlikely. Thank you.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      David, thank you my friend. Good to see you again. I hope all is well in your world.

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      Mark Bruno 2 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Wow Bill, this is an excellent article, and boy does it hit home with me. You are a strong person Bill and I am honored to have you as one of my sober friends! It sure is hard to say goodbye to our demons, BUT the life we now live Bill is far more brighter than any addicted life. I love sobriety, and to tell you truth, I never thought I could do it Bill, But (WE) did it!!! Stay strong and stay sober as I will no matter what happens in our lives. BTW the Pic of your family is so beautiful. You are Blessed my friend :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey, Mark, I gotta tell you, buddy, I never dreamed I'd be alive today....what a miracle my friend. We've got it good and we damned well better hold onto the good life.

      blessings my friend

      bill

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      M. Toni 2 years ago from Central NY

      Ah, my bf's dad is an alcoholic. Very sad situation. Always tried to understand it from his dad's point of view.. not to justify him, just to understand why he does what he does.

      Glad you turned your life around! Definitely an inspiring (an eye-opening) read.

      Voted up among other things!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you seriouslystressed...slipping into the mind of an alcoholic or drug addict is not a fun excursion, but it is necessary in order to understand them and possibly get them help.

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