Which birth order is the MOST JEALOUS, CRITICAL, JUDGMENTAL, & conversely, EXTRE

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   Which birth order is the MOST JEALOUS, CRITICAL, JUDGMENTAL, & conversely, EXTREMELY
   
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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   I'm not sure if birth order has as much to do with it as the parents clearly having their "favorites" among their children.
   Immaturity of a child also plays a major part.
   In the beginning it's natural for the first born to be jealous of the second born because at one time they got all the attention but then much of it shifts to the "newborn".
   Sharing attention is a tough concept to sell in early childhood.
   However ultimately if a child witnesses his/her parents treat them "one way" while treating another sibling "differently" under the same or similar circumstances it's likely to create some animosity.
   Eventually with maturity he/she comes to understand it was the (parents) who created the "unfairness" and not their sibling.
   It becomes one of those "Don't hate the player, hate the game."
   Having said that some people never reach that enlightenment.

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   Oldest children are the most jealous because they were once the center of their parents' universe.  However, they were soon dethroned or rather displaced by younger siblings.  This makes oldest children to believe that they weren't enough in their parents' eyes.  They view the younger siblings as usurpers to what they believe was rightfully theirs.  They see  younger siblings as their competitors for parental time, resources, and attention. 
   
   Since oldest children are displaced, many become the perfect child in order to be in their parents' graces once again.  They become the responsible one, the overachiever, and other positive roles in order to be perceived as positive by their parents.  They also use that perfect child role to gain power over their younger siblings.  They will show younger siblings how above par they are so they will look better than their younger siblings.  They may even use the role of the perfect child to dominate and bend younger siblings to their will.
   
   In this role of perfect child, oldest children can be judgmental of younger siblings because the former feel that the latter have not or can never reach the former's standards.  It is not unusual for oldest children to proclaim how much superior they are to their younger siblings.  In a way, it is their way to gain revenge for being dethroned by their parents.
   
   Because oldest children are displaced, they feel disposable.  They are oftentimes considered by their parents as not needing them as much.  So the least attention is paid to the oldest child by parents.  As a result of this lack of attention, many oldest children adopt a highly self-congratulatory attitude towards themselves.  They give themselves the attention which was not afforded to them by their parents.  It is not unusual for oldest children to resort to one-upmanship to assure that no one will ever take attention from them ever again.

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