"Success is not something you chase or pursue. Success is something you attract by the person you become." - Jim Rohn.
The words of a network marketing and prosperity legend. Those of us in home business arena are probably familiar with the man, and almost certainly familiar with the concept he teaches.
One of the most important lessons anyone in direct sales learns at the early stages is that it isn't your title, or your position, or your pitch, or any of the external features that people gravitate towards...
It's You. If you're an attractive person, happy, excited and full of life force, people will move toward you.
Same is true in reverse. The strength of your advertising, or product, or marketing plan doesn't matter if people aren't attracted to you.
We know this, and most of us commit to living it.
So how come most of us aren't passing the same message along to our kids?
Having moved in both the worlds of public education (as a high school guidance counselor) and personal coaching for the past few years, I become involved in a lot of conversations with MLM families who have school age kids.
The number of famiies who want to know about the "right college" or the "right major" to enter is amazing. The clear message they send is that if they start out their careers with The Magic Diploma from the school with the right name, things will line up the right way for them.
Nearly all guidance counselors can help a kid get into college, tell them how to do all the right things, get a degree and maybe even a fancy title.
But how do we help our kids become, happy, healthy prosperous citizens in the local and global marketplace?
For too long the idea has been to get our kids into the "right" college. Public and even private schools still buy into this model.
It's a broken model. Sadly, they either don't know it or are powerless before the idea.
In truth the idea of "go to the right college, get a good job is an industrial age holdover for parents who wanted something better for themselves than the factory job they had alongside their own parents.
And it's a phenomenon schools don't care about. They're not evaluated on the success and prosperity their graduates manifest. They're judeged by test scores, what percentage go to colleges, and less formally, the names of the places they go.
Those of us who were well schooled in the principles that make network marketers successful should be looking at things just a little bit differently for our kids.
What can we do to help our kids become more than just another rodent in "The Rat Race?" Here are a few starting points.
1. SIT DOWN with your high school age child and determine what they might like their lives to look like in a few years. Don't worry about what occupation they might pursue. Just see if they can develop a vision of a successful lifeSTYLE.
2. WORK BACKWARD. Talk with them about some of the things they will need to achieve in order to fulfill that vision. For some it may be a traditional college education. For others, it may be a different path altogether.
3. BUILD THE PERSON, NOT JUST THE RESUME. Many parents put a huge amount of pressure on their kids to perform their best in school. While good grades never hurt anyone, there are so many things are kids can do to become happy, forward thinking prosperous individuals NOW. Help them to cultivate a hobby or some other passion. Help them to start their own part time business, or charitable cause.
4. LIVE BY YOUR WORDS. It's not enough to preach prosperity and success. SHOW them success by being a role model of it. It doesn't matter your position in your company. Role model the kind of behavior you want them to take on for themselves.
There's an extraordinary opportunity for home business parents to help their kids participate in lifetimes of prosperity on their own terms.
If you can use the same desire for change that got you into the home business field in the first place, then instill that passion and courage in your children, the possibilities are unlimited!
I agree with every letter of your message. 'Success' is defined differently by different people. First, it is important that our child's understanding of success is not something that matches with the expectations of others while it leaves a vacuum within. Success ias that which gives fulfilment. The earlier our children understand this, the happier they will be.So will we be.
To help kids to be successful, we must instill in there mind at an early age that they should study hard to reach their dreams practice equality or fairness never put others at risk just to gain selfish rewards. Also keep on learning don't stop discovering new things A certain degree of it is always necessary in order to get ahead in the world. The more intelligent a child is, the more chances he has of having a better future. And so, it is very important for parents to ensure that their child is gifted with a certain degree of intelligence. Or, at the very least, the opportunity to maximize the potential he or she has. More often than not, the task of developing the child’s intelligence is mainly heaped upon a parent’s shoulders. Schools are there to supplement what a parent has given the child. But ultimately, whether or not the child will be intelligent will depend on the child himself.
I am shocked that there are MLM / networkmarketing parents who still teach their children "study hard, get good grades, go to a good college, get a good job, etc...." Surely they have read Robert Kiyosaki's "rich Dad, Poor Dad"?
The best thing we can do for our kids is to instill in them the success mindset; to let them know we believe in them, and that they can do anything that they set their minds to. Also that it is of the utmost importance to to be constantly involved in personal development by attending lectures and seminars and taking courses. Today there are so many opportunities on the internet for personal development, that there is no longer any validity to excuses like "it's too time consuming", or "I can't afford a baby sitter", or it's "too expensive" etc....
So how do we teach them these values? Simple! By setting an example! Or to use the MLM jargon "Walk your Talk"
By-the-way there is no such thing as ADD - there are only boring subjects or teaches! Just look at a child (who has been diagnosed as ADD) playing a computer game and tell me if he is ADD then! So, IMHO, if he isn't getting along in the school system - get him out as soon as possible, and let him study whatever it is that his heart is into. Then you'll see the ADD disappear, you'll have a happy, contented child whose self esteem will skyrocket, and his success will be natural and fast.
Teach your kids business skills, and they will be set for life - I was just overseas for three weeks, and in my absence, both my 12-year-olds started new businesses (and they already had existing online ones!)
Here are their online businesses:
That Internet Girl
The new ones are offline businesses that they are running with friends - not just my own kids are doing this, it seems they are set on educating their peers as well!
Jenny: I had little chills! You have every right to be proud of your kids; you are doing a great Mom job! I love a positive and empowering attitude in everyone, and instilling this on children so young is a gift to them and to the world. I will share your links with my friends!
Thanks, Violet Sun!
The girls will be happy for the traffic, I'm sure.
Wow, checked it out, very impressive!
Your daughter has a "Genuine Witchcraft" site. Has she checked out Salem, Massachusetts mostly known for the Salem witchcraft trials of 1692. I bet she would enjoy reading about this town. A great place to visit, especially on HALLOWEEN!
You deserve to be proud, Jenny!!!! I know I was!!!!!
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