What are your opinions of Elliot Rodgers ? Considering his disability and his st

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    Hayley Carterposted 4 years ago

    What are your opinions of Elliot Rodgers ? Considering his disability and his struggles.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    He's one of many twisted souls who expects life to be (easy) for them and when it isn't they choose to inflict pain on others in society.
    I read a large part of is motivation for killing was because he was a 22 year old virgin who had been rejected by beautiful women all of his life. Every man has been rejected by women!
    Maybe he thought he was entitled since he had a black BMW and some Hollywood connections. However none of the sorority girls in Santa Barbara were impressed. There has always been the myth that if a man has money or fame he can have any woman he wants. I suspect the girls he was hitting on also came from well to do families and he lacked the personality to compete with other males for their attention.
    One news story mentioned he hated the star quarterback because girls were throwing themselves at him. He also thought the guy was "no good". This too is a very common complaint "nice guys" have whenever they observe women who are "infatuated" with the "bad boy" type,
    "Nice guys" for the most part are not attracted to "nice girls" and geeks rarely pursue other geeks for relationships. This is especially true of teens and young adults. They measure themselves by who they have as a girlfriend or boyfriend. There's no doubt Elliot Rodgers could have found a girl who would have said "yes"  to him but he set his sights on women who were "out of his league". They saw him as being a quiet (nerd) lacking charisma and personality.
    Most "nice guys" usually have to wait for "hot women" their own age to complete their "bad boy" phase before giving them a chance. Most of these guys in the mean time (settle) for whatever women they can get at the time or pursue older women. Some of these guys become wildly successful in their 30s/40s and beyond and soon they have young women/gold diggers throwing themselves at them. Elliot Rodgers was not willing to wait his turn.

  3. junkseller profile image84
    junksellerposted 4 years ago

    We live in a culture which almost completely ignores the experiences of boys. Puberty hits fast and young boys are thrown into a world that is literally saturated with the female sexual object and they are given very little guidance or tools to understand what they are going through.

    This new and grand object of desire can do anything it wants. It can tease and flaunt, it can be used sexually and put on display, it can be bought for the price of lunch at McDonalds, but the boy isn't supposed to even really notice, isn't supposed to feel anything for it, and if and when he does, he is often rebuked, told that he is a pervert or he just needs to "learn to control it".

    Most boys manage to stumble through it, often because they happen to be lucky enough to find someone who will stumble through it with them, but not all of them. Some are always on the outside. Some are alone in the dark.

    People will for the most part just call Elliot names. An evil monster, or whatnot. They will focus on the anger and rage and violence, but the real root of the problem is pain. The unbearable and unmanageable pain of being completely isolated from the only thing one wants. That of course, doesn't excuse or justify what he ultimately did, but it is important to have a conversation about the root of the real problem. Not for his sake, but for the sake of all the other boys (and men) who are alone in the same darkness.

    We do a relatively good job of understanding the pressures of society that impact girls and women (objectification, body image issues, eating disorders, etc), and rightfully talk about trying to eliminate said pressures without laying blame on those affected by it, but conversely we do a terrible job when it comes to boys.

    Young boys, for instance who are exposed to pornography, we tend to just laugh off and say stupid crap like "boys will be boys," but if there is any part of Elliot's manifesto which should be read, I think it should be the part about his exposure to pornography and what it did to him. He was traumatized by it and that isn't something that he should have had to face.

    As long as we continue to not have this conversation about the experiences of boys and we leave them alone in the dark, and don't give them tools and guidance to properly negotiate their reality, some of them will continue to resort to terrible means to try and close the gap between what they want and don't have.


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