What "lost art" social customs do you miss the most?
Friends and I were discussing the "lost arts" social customs we miss the most - those that were everyday routine when we were kids but which are dying out today. Mentioned were several customs, such as taking time to visit friends and family in person (as opposed to Facebook'in), men opening doors for women, families sitting down to a table for dinner and folks taking the time to know their neighbors by names. So I'd like to ask: what lost art social customs do you miss the most?
Sundays at Grandpa and Grandma's house. The whole extended family would be there every Sunday, all day long from mid-morning till after supper. With nine adult children, all married with large families, there must have been over 60 people milling in and out. Mothers packed sandwiches for lunch because Grandma and Grandpa were in the kitchen all day cooking with alternating help. It was a tradition we never missed.
People you don't know saying "good morning!" Instead of the grumpy "I don't know you, mind your own business look" lol. Some areas have changed over the years.
There are two actually.
1. The art of subtle flirting by women
There appear to be two extremes today. One where women are overtly aggressive in showing their interest in a man or they feel like it's the role of the man to chase them without showing any indication she is interested in him. For her having him jump through hoops to win her over is empowering and meeting him halfway is a sign weakness. "Never let him know you care."
2. Being kind and simply saying thank you.
I can't tell you how many times these days I've reached back to keep a door open and someone walks in without bothering to acknowledge it.
I dropped the expectation of the thanks, or when it happens too much, I just stopped holding the doors. Maybe they didn't want me to hold it for them. If the world has dropped the habit of "thanks" I simply go with the flow. Then we all can be happy.
When we were young in South Africa is was a custom for friends to visit around tea or coffee and cake. Now you have to invite them for lunch!
The lost art of family dinner - talking at the dinner table ... sans electronics.
Family night. When I was a kid, one night a week would be for the whole family to play games and talk about life while having fun together.
Friends/Relatives getting together and sharing Pot Luck dinners...for no special reason, other than to chat about everything and enjoy each others company.
Friends and relatives have relocated throughout the country, due to various reasons, not necessarily with options. Letters and e-mail/phone are not the same and eventually fade out...and as we get up in years, it gets harder to make friends. People these days tend to relocate more frequently than before, or maybe it's just a Florida thing.
Perhaps in the future, someone will come up with the idea and it will be re-kindled...thanks for a thought provoking question...
The Personal Touch in the relations is missing. The art of personal touch would mean a feeling that bonded people for life has gone missing.
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