What makes some parents contend that their children should be exact replicas of

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   What makes some parents contend that their children should be exact replicas of them, refusing to
   
   recognize & even denigrating children who WILL NOT conform to the particular parents' beliefs & lifestyles? There are parents who simply view their children as exact replicas of them. Such parents aim to inculcate, even brainwash,their children that their particular sociocultural environment is the only legitimate ones. Such parents want their children to believe in the religion that they do,have the job/careers that they do,& even have the same outlook as they do To such parents the idea that their children will have individual lives & beliefs different from theirs is totally abhorrent.
   
   

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   LoisRyan13903posted 10 years ago

   Maybe it is the parent may have had some unfulfilled childhood dream.  I remember a book I read many moons ago where the mother had a lifelong dream to be a gymnast in the Olympics.  When she got hurt she couldn't go through with her dream and pushed it on to her daughter.  The daughter, while she liked gymnastics, also wanted a different dream to become a journalist.  At the end of the book the daughter confided with the mother about this and it did have a happy ending because the mother accepted her daughter's desire.

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   UnnamedHaraldposted 10 years ago

   They could be control freaks. Or they think they can derive their self-worth through their children. They might be afraid their children won't take care of them in their old age. Maybe they think they own their children. Some parents imagine they have or are creating a dynasty, a tribe. All of these, some of these-- what the kids want doesn't really count.

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