I would like to start a discussion on how do the people feel about being judged?

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   Kengerald Thomasposted 10 years ago

   I would like to start a discussion on how do the people feel about being judged?
   
   being bullied or being judged over the way you talk the way you walk or in my situation my skin color. How do we deal with society or deal with the ones you care about tell you something is wrong with you?
   
   

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   In most instances with age comes wisdom.
   Once you learn to accept the fact that you have no control over what someone else thinks or says then you are free to ignore them and focus on your goals in life.
   Caring about what others think and feel about you gives them power. Not caring leads to freedom and self-empowerment.
   It's also important to adopt a "global approach" to life. It's so easy to become mired or get caught up in every challenge life throws our way. Oftentimes what is needed is to step outside of the situation and look at the "big picture". Odds are whatever one is dealing with is NOT an end of the world scenario!
   There are over 7 Billion people on the planet and you only need a handful to have a healthy and well balanced life. Unfortunately the immaturity of teens keeps them from knowing this.
   It doesn't pay to think small or limit one's options in a world with infinite possibilities. No one has to "stay" where they are.
   Life is a personal journey.
   The world may not owe you anything but you owe yourself the world!

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      Kengerald Thomasposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I personally feel that was a great answer. Most of the time ignoring is the way to go. However  how do you stop your feelings from being hurt when the one judging you is the one your closest too.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
      Even if this person is a family member it may be in one's best interest to create some distance and choose to associate with positive people who appreciate them. We get to say "yes" or "no"

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   CreeVikingposted 10 years ago

   No one has the right to judge anyone else. 
   I believe the above statement to be true of everybody everywhere.
   
   Having said that - Racism (for example) is simply a deception game to keep regular people fighting each other. It keeps us from having too much time to focus on how badly our societies are managed. I do not display racism in any way as to do so means you are simply being tricked and played for a sucker.
   
   Having said THAT ... in the end the ONLY thing on the face of this planet you control is yourself, all other forms of control are an illusion. You do not control your children, your job, your spouse or anyone else near or far from you. So while I do not judge, I fully expect that most, if not all the other people I run into, will judge.
   
   Don't respond to any form of judgment either verbally or otherwise. Most of the ones who like to express their 'opinions and judgments' on others do so because they are petty and want to get a reaction out of you, it makes them feel better about themselves. If you don't give them that, it defeats the purpose of them making a statement to begin with and eventually they will either stop or stop telling you about it. Either way seems to be an improvement.

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      Kengerald Thomasposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      you are so right I wrote tis because recently I was told I Wasn't good enough because I was "Light skin" when did  being light justify who I am as a person and I write this for all the women and  men out there who are being judged.

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   Rayne123posted 10 years ago

   Wow your question is so heartfelt. I can almost feel the hurt you had inside of you.
   
   All these answers are so good and all speak the truth. I could have not said it better myself.
   
   I know that when you are a teen, its hard to ignore, because your only life is your friends, bf's or bff's whatever they are called today, at the time anyway. However if ignored, it eventually goes away.
   
   The thing is it passes, you grow up and it becomes less hurtful to a point, or maybe we just can handle it better. Bullying affects adults too, maybe in a different way but it does and its sad. Like someone said, the ones that bully or mock, for whatever reason, are the ones who want power/control because they really fear instead. Remember that maybe they have something in their life that they are ranting on and they need the attention.
   
   Sometimes it stems from jealousy. But it passes.
   The person being bullied could even just say with a smile thank you and move on. Sort of ignoring them with a smile.
   
   Good question
   Blessings

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      Kengerald Thomasposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      it does hurt but as I grow more and more everyday I get stronger as a aunt of beautiful young ladies I can not let them be victims of bullying and go through life feeling their not good enough or something is wrong with them.

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      Rayne123posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Kengerald for selecting my answer as the best.

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   Ian Mooneposted 10 years ago

   Expect it mate then work out the reason why people do it, & at the same time train yourself to realise the solution which is within you (how you think)..Something happened to me when young, & I went from a handsome guy to a disfigured guy..If I had a pound for every name that I was called when I entered secondary school, i would have been a millionaire in a couple of years..So I learned how to be a good fighter, & extremely good at getting out of difficult situations that i couldn't handle..I also learned how to be a bully, & so I started to bully other people but found after a year or so that I didn't like it & so stopped doing it..So I've been very very hurtfully bullied in my youth, & I know for a fact that i went on at times to cause the same pain I felt to others....Anyway I learned & eventually realised that any person out there that bullies another person is for a 100% fact, having a miserable life themselves or a low self esteem or have picked it up like a bad habit..I mean if you don't bully people yourself your a lot closer to the truth of life than the people who bully you, & those people will have to learn or they won't make it to ascension..So your training is to find a way of not letting other people's words or actions manifest negative emotions feelings or thoughts inside of you, because although you might think it's their "Words or actions" that cause your unwanted emotions/feelings/thoughts it isn't it's "how your reacting" to their words or actions which can be worked on & eliminated forever..(The full time cure). :-)

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   Kengerald Thomasposted 10 years ago

   That was a very good answer I like that you were Honest and real.

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