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Which birth order is considered to be THE MOST SELFISH birth order? Why?

  1. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

    Which birth order is considered to be THE MOST SELFISH birth order?  Why?

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  2. Jonas Rodrigo profile image80
    Jonas Rodrigoposted 2 years ago

    Definitely the youngest sibling. They have a feeling of entitlement because of all the attention given to them.

  3. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 21 months ago

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    Youngest children are the most selfish of all birth orders.  They have been catered to all their lives by their parents.  If not their parents, then their older siblings cater to them.  In multichild families, particularly in larger families, youngest children are pampered, indulged, & assume little or no responsibility. 

    Youngest children also are treated the most preferentially in all birth orders.  They are allowed to get away with things that their older, particularly oldest, siblings would be chastised, even punished for.  It isn't unusual for youngest children to do things yet the oldest/older siblings are blamed for what youngest children do.  They are adept at the art of manipulation, playing the innocent part.  Of course, they are believed because they are the baby of the family.

    Because youngest children are catered to, they don't have to learn the art of giving.  They expect the world to come to them.  They also don't know how to be empathetic to others because they were always on the receiving end in the sibling relationship.  They never had to adopt the proactive or sacrificing role as their older siblings have done.  They will always be the center of the family universe & will never be dethroned as their older siblings were.  Yes, many youngest children are what one would deem insufferable, even bratty.  It is THEIR way or NO WAY.  They aren't good at reciprocating when it comes to relationships.  In sibling relationships, youngest children are, on average, takers but seldom or never givers. It is THEIR universe so to speak.  They are the GIMME, ME, ME, ME birth order par excellence.

    In many adult sibling relationships, it is the youngest sibling who never have to make sacrifices & have the easiest life.  For example in larger families, youngest siblings are the ones who can attend college as they have older siblings oftentimes foregoing education in order to work to supplement family income.  Youngest siblings have it the easiest in multichild families, particularly larger families as opposed to older siblings who had it much harder.

  4. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 10 days ago

    Youngest children do have ENTITLEMENT issues.  They are catered to by parents & older siblings.  They also have more opportunities & less responsibility than their older siblings at similar ages.  In many families, youngest children are the most affluent, having things that their older siblings never had..

    Because youngest children were catered to, they develop a selfish mindset.  They feel that the world rises & sets w/them.  They contend that others exist for their pleasure.  Since parents & older siblings gave to & sacrificed for them, they don't have a concept of sharing.  They want what they want w/o any regard for others. 

    As adults, youngest children are the least giving to their siblings & parents.  They are also the ones who aren't there for their aging parents.  They contribute THE LEAST or NOTHING AT ALL regarding their family of origin.  I have seen this in my extended family.  In my extended family, it is the OLDEST who are always there for the family while the YOUNGEST simply......AREN'T.

    Youngest children, for the most part, are spoiled brats.  They want others to do things for them.  Youngest children seldom have chores even at the age when they could do chores.   They have childhoods & adolescence comparable to that of the summer solstice while oldest children have childhoods & adolescence comparable to that of the winter solstice.

    Youngest children, because of their preferential treatment, are oftentimes resented by older siblings who had a much harder childhood & adolescence.  Youngest children were allowed to do anything they wanted w/o little or no consequence.  They know this & act upon it.  Youngest children are the most likely to get away w/things & use their birth order to this effect. 

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    Youngest children can resort to manipulations to get............THEIR WAY.....

 
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