What are the methods that parents can use to create children who are self-starters & self-motivated?
motivated? How do parents create children who are winners?
* Reward them for acting based on their goals in a positive manner.
* Celebrate when they devise a plan, follow it and succeed - even if a science fair project that doesn't win or project they complete. Celebrate completion.
* Do NOT simply praise for having ideas. The brilliant underacheiver who has many ideas but does nothing about them is not just a trope but real life tragedy.
* When they do work around the house or homework, don't go back and correct everything. It undermines both their belief they can do it themselves and desire to do so.
Hello Grace,It's been a while since I've commented on 1 of UR questions. Since this involves an accomplishment I've met quite some time ago, I can comfortably offer a reasonably acceptable response,
Every responsible,dedicated parent knows their own child best & from that awareness of the child's aptitudes, behavior & cooperation, comes the natural process of teaching/guiding each child.
Every single moment is an opportunity 4 our children 2 learn, grow, try & succeed or fail & try again. Helping a child become familiar w/ his/her needs & their environment, guides them toward the ways & means 2 fulfill those needs.
Judging a child's motor skills, reflexes, intelligence level & ability 2 communicate (verbally & non-verbally) will indicate how much & how far a parent can encourage their child 2 "do 4 themselves." To specify, when a child can hold a spoon, it is time 2 allow that child 2 feed him/her self..(cleaning the mess comes later.) Can they hold a toothbrush? Brush their own teeth...in time, we teach them the health reasons "why" we brush our teeth..picking up their own toys & putting them away, they learn eventually the reasons R: responsibility, respect 4 belongings, safety precautions 2 avoid accidents, ...&this goes 4 each & every daily activity of living, until a child comes 2B more agile, punctual, independent & self-sufficient.
Soon, these practices become 2nd nature 4 both child & parent & you learn together as the child grows, the activities become more complex. A vital part of all of this is allowing the child freedom 2 experiment w/ completing a task in their own way....even when it's not perfect. A parent needs 2 answer all questions as simply & clearly as possible. Speaking of questions: By the time a child is 4 or 5 & fully able 2 communicate verbally, parents can offer a child's question right back 2 them. Example?
"Mommy, should I put my pants inside my boots or outside?" (sounds like a simple thing, but this teaches independent decision-making) Mother: "Which do U think would B better? more comfortable? warmer? What would U like to do about this?"
Well, I think I've made my case..at least 2 age 5....from there it's just more of the same with the changing activities, questions & moments that coincide w/ a growing child.
If U have done UR job well, by the time they're off 2 college or trade school or Broadway Stage They ARE good 2 go ~~to include SELF-MOTIVATION! (and BOY, am I glad it's all behind me!!) Paula
I have a grandson or age two from my daughter. I am really gaining a good lot of experience in parenting by babysitting him while my daughter goes to work at a nearby bank.
I feel the best way is to keep a silent watch on the toddler without interfering with his pranks every now and then. It helps them to gain their own experience at things. Being overprotective may make the child unfit to face real life situations and always dependent on the parents.
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