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My Lover, My Friend

Updated on February 1, 2010


My lover, my friend is a poem about setting “the essence of love” free and allowing it to become what it was destined to be. When you are young you want love to last forever. One never thinks about the possibility of lives and friendships changing. One tends to believe that somehow love causes time to stand still and that everything existing at that moment will not ever change. That somehow you will find yourself mesmerized within a magical bubble that will cause that love one to never want to leave.

But, as one grows older one realizes that ambitions, desires, jobs, long distance, and numerous other things can come between lovers. I’ve learned over the years that sometimes it’s meant for you to fall in love only for a season and then those feelings may change or dissipate without rhyme or reason.

Years ago when we first met, I portrayed the impression of being a freedom loving, untamed spirit that had desires of coming and going with a whim. One day while sharing our love for poetry, I read him Richard Bach’s lyrics that are shown to the right. As our love grew, my friend gave me a beautiful plaque of a flying dove engraved with his own words that said,

“If you really love someone, you must be able to set them free…

If she or he returns to you, then it was meant to be…”

Now years later, I reminisce about a time in my life when I had great fun, great laughs, and great love with my lover, my friend. This is the poem that I wrote for him on the night he left to pursue his dreams; and it is the only evidence that brings to mind the love we both set free…

My Lover, My Friend

Jay, my lover, my friend
try to understand me when
I say, I don’t want to let you go;
because I really need you so.
But, I understand
what life can sometimes demand.
I haven’t written in a while,
but, it’s not my style
to allow a loved one to go,
and never let him know
if I really cared.
Sometimes, you get scared
of what the future holds;
so rather than holding on; you seek other goals.
But, I want us both to remember what we had.
And believe me there was never anything bad.
I will always have…..

Memories of our long conversations
about all of our strange situations.
The things we wanted to last,
of the future, of the past.
About our troubles and strife,
and all the things we wanted from life.

Memories of our laughter
that is here now and thereafter.
The good times we had walking in the park.
Or just talking to each other in the dark.
The quality time we’d spend
attempting to know each other as a friend.

Memories of our love-making;
each of us taking
time to please the other.
I couldn’t ask for a better lover.
You’re always so tender and kind;
as our feverish bodies intertwine.

Good memories of us, is all I have.
I guess you’ve become my best pal.
The good times may have to end.
But, I know we’re everlasting friends.
Jay, in my own way, I love you so;
but, if you must go, you must go.
Go seek your dreams, but be like the wind;
and come back to me soon my lover, my friend.

In order to find new love, you must be willing to allow old relationships to remain in the past.  Goodbye my lover, my friend....

By Meme T.


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      carolinemoon 6 years ago

      Really beautiful poem. That's the true essence of love.

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      Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas

      Great to see you PD! I am honored that an awesome poet like yourself would take the time to view my work and leave such kind words. Thank you! :)

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      Rob Welsh 7 years ago from Tomorrow - In Words & NZ Time.

      Hello there MG... I'm back!!!

      All dressed up and pretending to be.... PD!

      Alright.. alright.. I'm really a fan of James Blunt and I'm really pleased that you have placed his work, so close to an excellent poem and one that made me feel so guilty.. for letting go.. so many.. and then blaming the seagull!

      I have marked you A for Awesome and for And I enjoyed your work. Thank you for this timeless piece. Take Care.

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      Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas

      This poem was about a true love that got away. Unfortunately many have to experience such a love as this, however, remember if it was meant to be then he will come back once he is set free... Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. :)

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      Cheri Taylor 7 years ago from New York, NY

      without rhythm or reason!! love it this was a fantastic poem I am living these feelings today..thanks much, Voted up Great hub and I love the songs NICE!

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      Money Glitch 7 years ago from Texas

      Hi Karanda, Thanks for stopping by and commenting. :)

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      Karen Wilton 7 years ago from Australia

      Loved the writing, the poems and videos just an all round beautiful hub. Thanks for sharing.

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks you! I'm glad you enjoyed the poem. :)

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      nikipa 8 years ago from Eastern Europe

      You did a a beautiful work! Keep it up!

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks so much ppdm67 for stopping by for a read and commenting. Have a great weekend. :)

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      pddm67 8 years ago from Queens, New York

      A beautiful poem that truly touched my heart. May you carry that wonderful and beautiful time in your heart always. Rock on!

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting on My Lover, My Friend! This is a special moment in time of my life that I will always treasure. :)

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      The original Eman 8 years ago from london

      This is some really good work , loving the poem too . check out some of my stuff and let me know what you think thanks

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Hey MOW! Yes, this one might be classified as "the one that got away". No one's fault; we were just destined to go on different pathways. Now that I'm older I've learned that some people you fall in love with are only meant to exist for a short time span, to be enjoyed, and learned from; until it is time to move on. Thanks for stopping by and commenting! :)

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      myownworld 8 years ago from uk

      This hub is so beautifully put together....and the care and love that's gone into it comes through...just as the warmth of your relationship with Jay. I agree....the most wonderful way to love is to let go...and give each other space to be. Thank you for sharing this...I can tell this is a special hub for you :)

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Why thanks callmesplash7 for the compliment. I enjoy your writing as well.:)

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      callmesplash7 8 years ago

      This is awesome :O) I think we may have some similair views :O)

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Happy New Year, Cagsil! Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting :)

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      Cagsil 8 years ago from USA or America

      Hey Money Glitch, I was hubbing about and came across this poem. I am glad to have read it. Thank you so much. :)

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks so much for stopping by ralwus!

      Happy Prosperous New Year to you as well...

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      ralwus 8 years ago

      I don't have time to listen to all the videos but I really like the first one, and the poem is so right on and awesome. So glad to read you and honored you have 'followed' me. A most Happy New year to you. Peace, CC

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience, Mama Sez, how wonderful to be married to your best friend...4 kids, wow, how special now that is a romance story.:)

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      Mama Sez 8 years ago from Canada

      That was soooo romantic MG! I just got lucky having married my best friend. We now have 4 kids (wink). :-)

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      Money Glitch 8 years ago from Texas

      Yes, Laura, it is a great feeling when good loving and true friendship comes within the same package :)

      Crikette, you are right that he was a special kind of love. It was fun being in love with someone who loved poetry, as well...

      Invictus, I agree it is important to recognize that when one door closes you must keep moving forward. Thanks to you all for your kind words. :)

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      I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 8 years ago

      Your poem and messege is so beautiful, MG! I agree with you as well with the season, reason, or life time reasons for people to come into our lives. There is always another door to open when one closes, some way in our lives. We had Richard Bach's saying framed on our wall while I was growing up. I can still rememner my mother explaining the meaning to me when I was young too. I have come to greatly appreciate it. Lovely hub! :)

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      crickette_w 8 years ago

      Your poetry is so real life. Each of your poems just give me a sense of warmth. I love the interlude. The thoughts and experience you wrote down is so true. I don't think I can talk to many people who have a grasp of reality the way you do. If they do, putting it on paper so well is outside their grasp. Your Jay sounds so special, I love the plaque he gave you, such a memory.

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      Laura du Toit 8 years ago from South Africa

      Beautiful poem and beautiful memories of the best kind of lover - your best friend. Thanks for sharing!


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