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A Tribute To Single Mothers: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on April 22, 2014
The love of my life, Beverly, a single mother for many years.
The love of my life, Beverly, a single mother for many years. | Source

Sorry, Guys, This One Is Not for You

I was a single parent for fifteen years, so I have a certain perspective regarding this subject. Perhaps one day in the future I’ll be self-serving and write about single-parenthood from a guy’s standpoint, but today all I want to do is stand up and applaud for those single mothers out there who do the job, day in and day out, without a hint of praise.

I have known some remarkable women over the years. No, they were not famous. They were not household names. Books were not written about them nor were movies produced about their lives. They lived in relative obscurity, and when they died they were missed by a handful and then their names were tossed upon the scrapheap along with millions of others.

But oh my goodness, they were so important!

As are all of you who are alive now, doing that thing you do in obscurity.

Ladies, this one is for you!

A single mother doing her thing
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The Providers

Those damn bills don’t pay themselves. Put on the work face and prepare to work one or two jobs, whatever it takes, gotta put in the time to make the dime, and stretch that dime as far as it will go because your babies need clothes, your babies need food, and wouldn’t it be nice if this Christmas your babies could have a present or two?

Up early, dress for success, a touch of makeup and a quick shower, get the kids ready and then out the door to the job, eight, ten hours of shuckin’ and jivin’ and then back on the freeway heading for home, or ride the bus, catch a quick nap while the bus man takes you home. No rest for the wicked or the blessed. Take care of business at home, always something to do, get those kids to bed and then maybe, just maybe, an hour to yourself to crash and burn. Allow the tears to flow, the muscles to relax, the headache to subside, then slip into a coma-like sleep and up the next morning, and the next, and the next, and do it all over again.

You signed on for eighteen years from the moment of birth, and it’s your job by God, nobody else’s, can’t call in sick and whining don’t cut it, so buck up, strap on your game face, and smile that smile that your babies count on daily.

The Nurses

Children equal cuts and scrapes and bruises. There is no way around that fact. Kids will get hurt. Kids will get the sniffles and the tummy-aches, and children need that tender, loving care only a mother can provide.

So you mend the wound, put a smiley-face bandage over it, kiss it that sweet kiss that can only come from you, and then you kick back and wait for the next emergency.

Hold them as they sleep and wipe away their tears, telling them that everything will be all right, that everything will work out, that mommy is here and the boogie man will never hurt them.

What’s it like to sleep in a bed alone? You can’t remember, can you, because as sure as the sun will rise in the east, you can count on the little one crawling into bed with you at three a.m. for a little TLC, and one more night is interrupted as you hold your child close and stroke her hair and then slowly fall back to sleep with a smile on your face.

The Cooks and Cleaners

It never ends, does it? The clutter feeds upon itself and breeds, one becomes five becomes ten pieces of whatever that needs to be picked up and put away, and then magically, while you slept fitfully at night, it re-appears in the morning.

And don’t even start talking about kids and food. They are the perfect eating machines, always hungry, always looking for greener pastures in the fridge and the cupboards, threatening to eat non-food items if their hunger is not satisfied.

Wash the dishes and five minutes later the sink is filled once again. Do you want to know where your child is at any given moment? Follow the crumb trail to whichever room they are currently dirtying, cluttering and/or destroying.

And just how hard is it to clean daily, cook daily, pick-up daily, and do it all with gratitude?

The Dispensers of Wisdom

There is no one else, is there? Mommy, I don’t understand boys. Mommy, I don’t understand girls. How come that boy is a bully, Mom, and how come birds have beaks?

Why is Daddy angry all the time when we visit him, Mommy? Why don’t we have new toys like the other kids in our class, and why isn’t our home big and beautiful like Jane’s?

You are the judge, the jury, the prosecutor and the defendant, one at a time or all at once. You are Thoreau and Franklin, Einstein and Buscaglia, called on to pass out words that will somehow answer, somehow mollify, and somehow provide comfort in a confusing and yes, threatening world.

You are the first and last line of defense for your children, the wise sage who knows all, sees all, and is always there when needed. You are mother!

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The Vessels of Love

From that first act of supreme love when you gave that one, last push, ejecting that seven pound bundle of dynamite from your body, to the last days as you breathe your last breaths, you are the ultimate symbol of love for your children.

As your toddlers grow to teens and then adulthood, they will forever equate love with you, and you with love, and from your unselfish giving they will themselves learn the true beauty of life. They will grow to believe in the power of love. They will become dreamers and doers of great things, and they will raise their own families, as the circle of life continues as it has since the beginning of man.

You are love and love is you. Beautiful!

I Bow down Before You

You have my admiration. You have my respect.

There will be times when you doubt yourselves. There will be times when the going is so damn rough, and you don’t think you can make it one more day. When those times come I want you to silently steal into your child’s room at night while they sleep, and look down upon your gift to the world….then say a silent prayers of thanks….and know that what you do is vitally important….know that what you do is the single most important thing in the world.

You are love and love is you.

Pick up the newspaper and read the stories of death and destruction, dishonesty and demoralization. Now imagine that your child grows up to believe in love, as you do, and from your child more messages of love spread out across the land like a tsunami spreads following a massive earthquake. Your act of love started it all, and your daily acts of love serve as reminders to all that in this crazy, mixed-up world, all we need is love.

You are love and love is you.

2014 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm happy with either, Ann, and thank you. It is a fine Sunday so far. I am heading outside now to see what kind of trouble I can get into in the yard. :)

      bill

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      Brilliant when it's funny and way beyond good, lovely when it's about sentiment, feeling and humanity; at least, that's the way I use them!

      Happy Sunday evening, bill!

      Ann

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, for some reason, I much prefer "lovely" to "brilliant." :)

      Bravo to your daughter and thank you for sharing that with us. What a wonderful young woman...and I love that you emphasized the fact that she always provided love. There is the secret no matter what your financial standing in life is...provide love and everything else will fall into place.

      Thank you again my friend. Give that girl a hug for me.

      bill

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      This is one of the few I'd missed; glad I've read it now though! You've summed it up so well. Although I was on my own with my girls for a while, I didn't regard myself as a single mother. My parents and others were there to help. My daughter, on the other hand, was a single mother for some years from the age of 16. It was a bit of a shock for me for a while but in the end proved to be a good thing. She is now happily married and child no.3 is on the way.

      I had and still have nothing but admiration for her because through all her difficulties (and there were many) she always provided for her daughter, always went without to give to her child, always had smiles and laughter even when she was crying inside.

      She had to be provider, money-juggler, mechanic, electrician and plumber unless the task required more than she could manage. She is one of the most practical people I know and still runs the household! Above all, she still gives love and smiles to all her family and I love her to pieces. Her now 13-year old daughter has love and smiles in abundance too!

      This is a great tribute to those who struggle without any recognition and who win through in the end because they have learnt life's lessons along the way. The whole family benefits.

      Lovely!

      Ann

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cheers indeed, John, and thank you for finding this little piece. I hope you are having a great Wednesday.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      I can't understand how I have just come across this hub now Bill, but better late than never. Great tribute to single mothers here. My wife was one for four years before I met her and I know what a difficult but wonderful job she did. So here's cheers for single mothers everywhere.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm sorry, manatita, I did not see it, but I'll go there shortly. Thank you so much.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mothersofnations, you have found some of my favorites. Thank you for reading three of my articles.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Good to see this one again. Even more valid with this second read, and yes, means a lot to me. I have written a poetic tribute to mother's love: My Salutations to Mother's Love. Bev is featured in this one. Have you seen it? Hope you approve.

      Single moms, other mothers and some women in general all make tremendous sacrifices. May the Supreme continue to nourish their internal strength and supernal beauty.

      Much needed Hub! much ..

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      Mothers of Nations 3 years ago

      Touching article. Thank you for sharing! God bless you...

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Deb! I know quite a few kids who are very grateful for their single parents.

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      So very true. SIngle parents really do have a time of it, but the kids always seem to keep them going. Nice work!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Theresa, it was my pleasure. You women are wonderful.

      bill

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      Theresa Ast 3 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Thank you Bill. On behalf of all single (and divorced mothers), thank you Bill. A wonderful hub. Theresa

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      pramodgokhale, thank you for your thoughts my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very true, Dianna. Concentrate on love and get to the dishes when possible. It's all about priorities, as you well know.

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      pramodgokhale 3 years ago from Pune( India)

      sIR,

      Your topic is gaining wide acceptance by hub members. Frankly speaking we men do not understand woman and her individual life struggle and problems

      Woman's man dependency is hundred percent, you may differ.India's situation is like that only. I take my heart to you for writing such important topic and social issues

      pramodgokhale

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      I have a few friends who are single moms and I admire their determination and ability to maintain a good home for their children. I have to say that dirty dishes are a constant in these homes, as you mention, but they can wait while homes center around the important moments of life. Great tribute to these beautiful people!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, thank you my friend. Give me a job any old day over being a 24/7 parent....at least I can sneak a nap at the job. Not so being a mother.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Though moms have a harrowing time with the all pressing ever insistent demands of their children on their time they do a job that is hardly ever praised.

      Being a mother is 24/7 job and one that needs to present a smiling face to the kids no matter what.

      Excellent as ever, Bill and I love this tribute to single moms who deserve it all the more.

      Have a wonderful weekend my friend!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, you changed your profile picture. Very nice! I loved being a parent. I was often terrified that I would mess it up, but I did love it. :)

      Have a wonderful weekend my friend.

      bill

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      Anna Haven 3 years ago from Scotland

      You can tell you are a parent Bill. I hear your memories. Little people making big messes, eating their own body weight in food and running moonlight bed flits! They are worth it though. :)

      Well encapsulated. I totally agree single parents have an incredibly hard job and deserve a huge amount of credit for it.

      Anna

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzanne, bravo to you my friend. The job you do as a single mom will pay dividends for decades....your kids are your legacy to the world and I think that is a remarkable and wondrous thing.

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      Suzanne Day 3 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      Yep, all of these things describe my day. I get up at 5am to hub, go to my day job after dropping kids at school, come home and help with homework. Then dinner, washing etc. Then take care of my small business. Then do other work as well. At about 9.30pm I finally get time to relax and I often find myself falling asleep! Still very grateful not to have to do 9-5 though as I wouldn't be able to handle it...I have part time work that fits in with school hours and it is sooooo much easier than the grind. Would rather do 4 jobs a day than one looooong job. Thank you for the appreciation of being a single mum! Voted useful.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      ChitrangadaSharan, it is my pleasure. They are special people and deserve a little recognition.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It sure is, vkwok! Thank you!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      What a wonderful tribute to single mothers from you!

      Thanks for pointing out the hardships and challenges they face and how skillfully they manage their lives without the emotional or financial support.

      Hats off to them and thanks to you for this thoughtful gesture!

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      Single motherhood is definitely filled with challenges.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoebe, well done young lady, and thank you! Your love for your son is obvious in your words.

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      Phoebe Pike 3 years ago

      Beautifully written. I was a single mother for a while when my fiancé left me for another person. But it never dimmed my love for my son and I have never regretted, even for an instant, having him.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You and me both, Liz! You and me both. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, no apologies necessary. You are a busy lady and I appreciate any visit you give me no matter the time. Blessings to you my friend, and bravo for the job you have done as a mother.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you sujaya!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hats off indeed, vellur. They have my utmost respect. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      pramodgokhale, thank you for sharing your knowledge of your nation's customs. That is how we bridge cultures, through comments like yours.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Flourish!

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      I am amazed at how single mothers handle it all. They truly do deserve a tribute!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Truly a beautiful tribute and, as a mom, I appreciate your wonderful words (although not single). I am reminded also of my beautiful mother who sacrificed much, although not single either. Yes, a mother is indeed love. What would the world look like without mothers! I cannot even imagine?

      I am sorry for being off "the grid" yesterday : ) ... and just now getting here.

      Hope you have a lovely day.

      Blessings and love always.

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      sujaya venkatesh 3 years ago

      a fitting one bil

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Single mothers are awesome and you have written about them so well. They work wonders and weave magic everyday to get everything done for their children. Hats off to them, great hub.

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      pramodgokhale 3 years ago from Pune( India)

      Sir,

      In India we are traditional and orthodox but situation is changing. Single mother or parent is not a respect worthy here but now i found many women due to some personal problems( Remained unmarried) adopt orphans or children from orphan house and groom them well and convert them into standard citizens otherwise neglected children are

      being used in illegal activities.

      I appreciate you to bring out important single mother community and

      their service to society.

      pramodgokhale

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Beautifully done, Bill.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beautifully said Michael my friend....beautifully said. There is nothing for me to add to your words.

      Have a wonderful week, Michael.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Good evening Bill.

      Awesome article for both genders.

      Provoking guys by saying not for them, failed, my friend !- This hub is for every man who plans to make babies and every father who entertains a bubble to leave family . Every child deserves both parents, mom and dad . Original design by the Creator wasn't " single mom" raising children. There was a time when counseling future couples, my advice was to future husband, if you think leaving your family after making babies, don't get married or even better ,cease to live. We had our god-daughter left living with single mom from her very birth and though the rest of the family was giving all support needed, my daughter grow up hurt and with different outlook of her future…. The single mom's ought to be treated as princesses as well as married moms just for the reason that upon them depends the existence of the humanity- Healthy and sane.

      Beautiful and useful.

      Good night.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bill! Tell your wife good job from me, and I hope the rest of your week is a successful one.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Manatita! If you had a single mother then you definitely understand and appreciate this tribute. Good night to you my friend.

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      Bill De Giulio 3 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Bill. What a wonderful tribute to single mothers everywhere. My wife was a single mother before we met so I can certainly second your sentiments. Another winner. Have a great week.

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      manatita44 3 years ago from london

      Great One Bill.

      They have my admiration too.

      Single women make unparalleled sacrifices. I know. I came from a single mom just gone 17!

      One day in the UK many moons ago, it just dawned on me how hard that women worked. Married ones, too. I felt empathetic since then, and have encouraged men to play their part ever since.

      So good you highlight this, Bro. Needs to be said. Good night.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Ann! I appreciate you taking the time to comment.

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      Ann1Az2 3 years ago from Orange, Texas

      A very fitting and heartfelt tribute, my friend and truer words were never spoken! Well done.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Wiccan. I appreciate your kind words.

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      Mackenzie Sage Wright 3 years ago

      Billy, how beautiful and touching. Single motherhood is tough and they get so much flack. Absolutely lovely salute to women who deserve it so much.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      rdsparrowriter, you have an incredible mother, and I have no doubt she knows how much you love her. Give her a hug for me, and thank you for telling her story.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Audrey, it is an endless job and at times thankless, but as you say, there are many wonderful moments. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, thank you so much. I happen to agree with you... Bev is a beauty! :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I agree completely, Jaye! Love is the single ingredient that cannot be substituted. With it there is hope. Without it all bets are off.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Rebecca, for sharing your experience and reflections. I appreciate it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glenn, I appreciate you passing it on to her. Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My pleasure, Alicia. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      rdsparrowriter 3 years ago

      Beautiful and so true Bill. You have described my mom. My father was sick for a long time and she became a widow by the age of 35 years with 3 young kids who were not even teens. She had lost all her money on my father's medical expenses. But thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ and her caring thoughtful friends came and helped her in so many ways. In difficult times you know who is there with you. Since most of the relatives cut us from their lives as we were financially down. She built a place to live with God's grace, she did all the laundry, cooking, marketing, cleaning, sewing our school uniforms, baking cake to earn extra money to provide us a good education after coming home from work... I sometimes wonder whether I could do even half of the things she had done. She worries about all our physical aches and pains more than we do. It's a wonderful article about mother's unconditional love.

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      Audrey Howitt 3 years ago from California

      I was there for a long time--I felt like I went on send shift when I got to work and on third shift when I picked up the kids from daycare---you brought a lot of that back--but also the wonderful moments!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Bill, a most deserving tribute to the mothers, including mine and an applause to you for your respect and compassion toward them. It's all good, but I especially like the "Vessel of Love" section. Your wife is beautiful. Cheers to both of you!

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      Jaye Denman 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Bill - What a grand tribute to single mothers everywhere! I experienced the effects of single motherhood, both as the child of a divorced, then widowed, mother and later, as a divorced mom with three children of my own.

      No, it's not easy. Many years after the fact, I looked back and recognized the sacrifices Mom made to give me clothes that a teenage girl wants. When it was my turn, I don't feel I did the single motherhood thing as well as she did, but my kids knew how much I loved them.

      As you made clear, the love is what counts the most. There aren't enough hours in the day, but single mothers somehow manage to do it all--or most of it, anyway. Everything they do to rear their children the best they can is done with love. And children recognize that fact. When they're in those stages where they want all the trendy tech toys that their friends have (but Mom can't afford), they may not recognize what she does for them at the time. But they will as they mature and learn how to measure the strength of their mother's love.

      Voted Up and Awesome/Shared

      Jaye

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      Rebecca Furtado 3 years ago from Anderson, Indiana

      ! I was a single mother off and on over the years. I had some great help from partners, friends, and occasionally family. Helping a single mom is a really good thing to do. If you are a man it is a gift, because all kids need male influence.

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      Glenn Stok 3 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Your hub is a wonderful tribute to all single mothers and you have also given a great explanation of what their life is like.

      I know a single mom and she is always busy with her child. She feels that some of her friends don't understand why she is not available most of the time to hang out with friends. I'm going to pass this hub on to her to read. I know she'll appreciate it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      BNadyn, thank you for those kind words. Give your sister a hug for me. She deserves it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Cecile! There are truly some very special women out there.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a beautiful tribute to single mothers and their hard work, Bill. They have a difficult but vital job. Thank you for honoring them.

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      Bernadyn 3 years ago from Jacksonville, Florida

      Beautifully written - single mothers are true super heroes. My sister is a single parent and I see how difficult it can be at times for her. The job of parent is already a tough one as it is so I have great admiration for those who can do it on their own! That was a sweet but realistic documentary, too. Nice work and I know all single mothers can appreciate this. :)

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      Cecile Portilla 3 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      This is a beautiful tribute to single mothers. I know so many single mothers who are struggling. The videos are encouraging and a great reminder to single mothers that they are not alone. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      No doubt about it, Eric! Look at what your mother managed to raise. :)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wrongo - Badongo, This one is special for us guys who were raised by such heroins. We were so lucky to have them.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      No doubt about it, Sha! Love can right many mistakes we make along the way. Well done my friend. You raised a winner.

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Thank you for this Bill. Now that my son is grown, I often look back on the days from the time I divorced his dad (at the age of 6) and wonder how in the hell I did it. Love is the driving force. You want the best for your child(ren) and put them first. Then one day you realize your child is now an adult and you both made it through. We had each other and that's what matters. Raising a child as a single mom is a tough job, especially if they have issues (my son was ADHD as a child). But love is what gets us through.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Ruby! I've known a few and they will always be super heroes in my book. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bobbi and I'm glad you had the mother and grandmother you had....some kids aren't as lucky as we were my friend.

      blessings to you always

      bill

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I smiled all the way through this wonderful write. I was not a single mom, but i know many who were and are today. I applaud them and you for honoring them. Thank you...

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      PurvisBobbi44 3 years ago from Florida

      Bill,

      I voted up, beautiful and awesome. How you can write from any point of view is so amazing. Bev is beautiful in the photo, and I am sure she was a great mother.

      My mother was a single parent with me for five years, but I had my Grandmother Knight to kiss away any boo-boos and to teach me right from wrong.. My mother worked during the day and got up early to milk the five cows on the farms where we lived.

      It was difficult for her, but she had parents to support her. We were blessed in so many ways, even though Mama wanted a place of her own. And, she finally remarried two days before I was five years old.

      Thanks for sharing this---I praise all the single mothers and wish them many blessing.

      Bobbi Purvis

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, really, this is for all mothers....so I'm glad you enjoyed it and it brought a smile to your face. Have a wonderful day my friend.

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Absolutely beautiful reflections here today Bill and love this message so much. As a mom (not a single mom though), I truly cant help, but smile reading your words. Thank you Bill for your words of wisdom on the topic of single mothers today and couldn't have said it better if I tried. Have a wonderful day, now as always!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Carol, for sharing your experience. No, it is not easy, and that's if you have cooperative kids....and what are the chances of that happening? LOL Have a great week my friend.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      I was reading this and had to take a minute of reflection for those women who had 24/7 non stop days. ...just to feed their kids. Regardless of why the single parent thing happened it has to be a challenging situation even with helpful and cooperative kids..what happens if they are problems--plus having to work...Actually I have to say I had it really easy. Even though divorce called at the front door I always had enough money and resources to survive quite well. Excellent BIll as always.