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You Can't Deny What You Are: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on April 16, 2013

YOU CAN FOOL ALL OF THE PEOPLE SOME OF THE TIME…..


Why does the rest of the world put up with the hypocrisy, the need to put a happy face on sorrow, the need to keep on keeping on?... I don't know the answer, I know only that I can't.
Elizabeth Wurtzel

….and you can fool some of the people all of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.” I’m going to amend that old quote by saying that you cannot fool yourself all of the time. At the end of the day, you can’t deny what you are.

Yes, I have been known to be a hypocrite at times
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MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT


We are all hypocrites. I know some of you don’t want to read those words. Hell, I don’t want to write them, but they are true. We piss and moan about the state of the environment and yet drive our SUV’s to the grocery store and purchase corporate-grown fruits and vegetables that are wrapped in plastic.

We talk to our kids about morals and character, but we don’t tell the clerk when he gives us back too much change after a purchase.

We stand around the water cooler and decry injustice and yet do nothing to stop it.

We talk about the horrors of racism and yet do we really want our precious white daughter to marry a black man? Or we make snide remarks about writers from India on HubPages because they do not have proper command of the English language.

We talk about the decline of the American family and then allow the television and computer to babysit our kids..

We donate $100 per year to stomp out poverty and then complain about the homeless in the streets.

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WHAT THE HELL ARE WE DOING?


When did hypocrisy become a way of life in the United States, or has it always been so? Some of our greatest moral and political leaders were extremely flawed human beings who certainly did not practice what they preached. Hell, look not at the leaders but look in any church in this country on a Sunday morning and you will find walking, talking hypocritical humanoids on display, wearing their Sunday finest, nodding their heads to the words of Christ and silently making plans to once again break one or more of the Commandments.

And so it goes and where it stops, nobody knows.

To put a happy face on sorrow…..

When did it become accepted behavior to hide our feelings? I’m reminded of a line from Jefferson Airplane that went something like “plastic, fantastic lover.” Why do we put on that brave face and refuse to show our feelings? Is that some kind of sign of bravery I am not aware of? Or is it a sign of fear? If we do not show emotions are we in some way masking a fear that goes marrow deep in many of us?

I’ll say this for the family I grew up in: there was no doubt how they felt about you. There was no slapping you on the back and smiling while hating your guts. If my relatives didn’t like you then you instantly knew it, and I actually respect that. All too often during my lifetime I have been the recipient of that two-faced phoniness and I find it despicable and cowardly. Say what you mean and mean what you say, or do those words have any meaning in today’s world?

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HERE IS MY PROBLEM WITH THE WHOLE SITUATION


Who is real? In a nutshell that is my problem. Who out there is trustworthy and reliable? Who can be counted on to walk their talk? Who can be counted on to reveal the real person inside of them? I’ll tell you truthfully that I would rather talk to a hate-filled racist who is open and honest about their beliefs rather than some lilly-white bigot who preaches the gospel while wearing an invisible white hood. At the very least, with the former I know what I am getting. With the latter I have no clue.

As a society we suffer from constipation. We shove our emotions and our truths so deep inside of us that we are unable to have a liberating bowel movement of real feelings and honesty.

Don’t say that because it might offend someone. Don’t cry in public because people will think you are weak. Don’t show your humanity because someone might take advantage of you. Don’t….Don’t….Don’t….for the love of God, how about DO!

Do show your emotions! Do show your humanity! Do show your empathy and compassion!

Do show the truth that is you!

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THERE IS HOPE…THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE


That is my message. There is always hope. You can’t deny what you are but you can certainly change who you are.

I have told this story before but it bears repeating.

When I was growing up there was a man who lived across the street from us. Mr. Streitz was his name, and a meaner man you have never met. From the time I was five years old to January of my 19th year, I never heard the man say a nice word to anyone. He screamed at his son and he screamed at his wife and he screamed at us neighbor kids if we dared to walk on this lawn. For fourteen years I saw nothing but hate and disgust from the man.

In January, 1969, my father died. Three months later I was out mowing the lawn when Mr. Streitz walked over to me. He held out his hand and shook mine and told me how sorry he was for my loss, and I could see on his face that he was sincere. I found the words to thank him, and in that moment I came to realize that we can all change. We can all summon goodness and genuine emotions from deep inside of us and yes, we can make it a life-changing event, but we have to be willing.

Mr. Streitz was nice to me for the remaining three years that I lived in my childhood home. It was as though, with my father’s death, the meanness in Mr. Streitz died as well. I learned a profound lesson from Mr. Streitz, and all these years later I am still grateful to him for that lesson.

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SO HOW ABOUT YOU?


Yes, we are all hypocrites in one way or another, but that does not mean we cannot change. We have the ability, right here and right now, to change who we are. We have the ability to be the town crier in our villages and shout out a message of love. We have the ability to be a changed human being. We are not shackled to the ways of the past. We do not have to repeat our mistakes and we do not have to wallow in self-loathing.

Are you willing? That is really the central question now isn’t it? Are you willing to change who you are for the better? Are you capable, like Mr. Streitz, to walk across the street and change reality?

I have said often that we should never underestimate the power of a small group of determined people. I will amend that now to say we should never underestimate the power of one person if they are determined and willing.

How determined are you? How willing are you to finally answer to your higher calling? Are you going to continue to drag your knuckles with your primordial ancestors, or are you going to unfurl those wings and soar with your dreams? Are you going to continue to be part of the problem or are you determined to be part of the solution?

Every single one of us can change for the better today. Are you ready to do so? If so, then walk across the street and shake my hand. I’ll be there, right alongside of you, as you begin your new quest.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dianna, for sure I judge too quickly, and that is something I have to work on. It's always something, right? :) Thank you my friend.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thanks for sharing the story about your neighbor. Yes, people can change and sometimes it's people you would not expect to do so. Guess we all judge others too quickly at times. It is always better to take time to put yourself in the other person's shoes. It helps to bridge the misunderstandings.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, I have no doubt you will approve of who you see. I certainly do. :) Thank you!

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Wow - you told it like it is Bill. We are all hypocrites in one way or another. Powerful hub and now I'm off to look in the mirror. Hopefully I like what I see.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LK, it's always nice to have you stop by my friend. I hope you are well. Thanks for taking the time to read my reflections.

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      LKMore01 4 years ago

      The way you commanded this article, Bill, I could feel how passionate and determined you about this subject. Keep feeling what you feel, negative out, positive in. Been catching up on my HUB reading and I'm fortunate I had the opportunity to read this one.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, we all backslide, sometimes on a daily basis, but we always move towards the goal. Gotta love our determination, right? :) Thank you for visiting my friend.

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Being a better person is something I work on daily...backsliding sometimes, but constantly trying. You give us a lot to think about, Bullybuc!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Love you too, Kindred, and we are all hypocrites. It's just that some of us realize that and try to grow, and others never will. :) Thanks buddy!

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Another great write Bill. Yes, I'm a hypocrite. Yes, I'm willing to change. And yes, I need inspiration sometimes and I always know where to find it. Love ya Kindred.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia. I am so happy that you enjoyed this. Have a wonderful weekend.

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very meaningful and thought-provoking article, Bill, like your other "Moment with Bill" hubs. Thank you for sharing your ideas.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Reba! I shudder when I see the word "preach".....I'm taken back to childhood and the "hell and brimfire" preachers and I sure don't want to be thought of in the same vein. :) Thank you my dear friend and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

      Wow! Beautiful to hear you preaching Bill. It's never be too late for us to change. We have to think over and over again not to be hypocrite. I enjoyed reading this. Thanks for sharing;-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cyndi, believe me, I don't like looking in that mirror any more than the rest of you, but I think it's necessary if we are ever to grow to our full potential. Thank you for a great comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you DDE! We can change things and we must change things.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well then Cat, put those bells on because it is posted. :)

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      Cynthia B Turner 4 years ago from Georgia

      Powerful. Yes, there is hypocrisy and many times the hypocritical don't even realize they are. It would be difficult to change what you don't acknowledge exists. "I'm not a racist," but you cross the street if a group of black males approach walk towards you. "I help the homeless" but you pull your coat tighter and rush past the man with his hand out and never even wonder how he got there. Well, you and all the other talented have made these same comments.

      You are continually writing and "forcing" us to take a look in the mirror. Voted up and awesome.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      There is no doubt we can't change who are but we change the way things work

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      wooo hooo! I'll be there with bells on! :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well then buckle in, Cat, because tomorrow is my latest rant, and I haven't done one of those in a long time, either. :) You should find it entertaining. :)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      billy,

      Wow, I must've found you as you started toning. Well I like the tone; lovey dovey is great and all but this real and raw stuff gets right to the core. People tend to sit up in their chairs and really listen to what you're saying.

      Cat

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Doc! I hope you are well. You have been a bit quiet of late. Sending you blessings my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat, this was actually my writing style for months here at HP...I finally had to tone it down because it was bringing me down. All I could see were negatives. I needed to turn things around and enjoy the sunshine instead of writing about the darkness. :) I'm glad you enjoyed my brief return to the "dark side." LOL Thank you for you right on comment.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Golly gee! This seems a bit more of an agressive approach for you? You know what, it's needed! I absolutely could not agree with you more. Honestly, I think that people are hypocrites because they are afraid of criticism. I try my best not to be, but I'm sure that I'm guilty from time to time. I think that hypocrisy would decrease if patience and understanding increased. As easy as it is for people to be hypocrites it is as easy to be judgmental. I don't want to be judged for my thoughts and feelings, especially when I am conscious of your feelings in the manner in which I address them. You sneeze funny and you're cast aside. I have to admit, it can be quite challenging to just stand up and be who you are without feeling like you have to look over your shoulder.

      "...we suffer from constipation... we are unable to have a liberating bowel movement...", oh this was one of my favorite moments! Loved it Billy, simply loved it!

      Voted up and Awesome!

      Cat

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Wow! such truth in your words. much food for thought. Great hub with a powerful message.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, we all are, no matter how hard some try to deny it. I guess that falls under the category "only human." However, those who practice it on a much larger scale tend to get my dander up rather quickly. :)

      I try to have a global view my friend. I'm a work in progress. :)

      Thanks, Sis!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      ah, hypocricy - the great pretender!

      I am guilty - along with the rest, but - everything is relative - i adore animals, but - i guess i love a good steak MORE! lol

      this so reminds me of Michael Jackson's 'the man in the mirror', Bill, and you also have his 'global' view~!

      I think you know who's real and who's not better than you let on, my friend!

      Great write on a great topic!

      voting/sharing

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ray, I'm not sure how much help I would be with poetry. Although I appreciate it, it's just not my gig. I try to make my prose poetic at times, but actually writing a poem...sheez, that may be beyond me. :) I do give some directions on poetry from time to time on my new blog and you can find it on this hub. :) Thank you!

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      R A Lovelace 4 years ago from Portland, OR

      Yet another great hub Bill! I would love to hear what you have to say about publishing poetry. I have been saddled with a poets mind, at least recently, so your valuable input would be greatly appreciated. Again, great hub, thanks. Ray

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, I always loved Adlai and that is a great quote. Thanks for sharing that one. You brought a smile to my face.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Vellur! It is surprising, sometimes, where we learn our most important lessons. We just have to be willing to learn.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pearl, you are way too kind, but thank you! I just think it is vital that we all get back to basics, that we mean what we say and that our word is good. Kind of like you as a matter of fact. :)

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      Thanks, Bill, for reminding us of the dangers of hypocrisy. It's never too late to change. Here is my favorite quote about the subject: "A hypocrite is the kind of politician who would cut down a redwood tree, then mount the stump and make a speech for conservation." - Adlai E. Stevenson

      You have to have loved Adlai for that one.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      Yes every single one of us can change for the better. Mr. Streitz had a good heart deep within, it just needed bringing out I guess. Great write. Inspiring and motivating. Voted up.

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      Connie Smith 4 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, my friend, this is a great message for all of us in this selfish, self-centered world. It's all about choices and knowing which is the truly 'right one'. I'm always blown away by your eloquence and wisdom! Voted Way Up

      ;) Pearl

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Fossil, I have known other families like yours, where feelings were not acknowledged and secrets were the name of the game...how very stifling that must have been. But you are free now and that is reason to celebrate.

      Thank you for sharing your own experience.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Rajan, thank you so much and yes, we all needed the lesson. It is too easy to stray off of the only true path.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheri, what a fantastic comment and reflection. I have greater hope for the future because of people like you, quietly going about the business of being compassionate human beings. Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, that's good! I want people worked up about this. There are no excuses that can be made about homelessness. It is a national shame and one we ignore daily.

      Thank you for caring so much. You, and others like you, give me hope.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, it's just a wake up call for all of us. Every one of us can do more, including myself.

      Thank you as always. You are a treasure!

      love,

      bill

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      Kathi 4 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      You have provided us with some of your wisdom, Billy, and it's inspiring. Thank you, much appreciated today. The Lincoln story is amazing, I hadn't realized that happened to him.

      I was brought up very different from you, I must say, where everything was a big secret and you tucked in your emotions. It took me years to undo that and still struggle sometimes.

      So today, "Don't worry, Be happy"! Kathi :O)

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      An awesome and hard hitting hub. And it should touch each one of us to make an effort to change for the better. Well done, my friend! We needed this lesson.

      Voted up.

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      Sheri Dusseault 4 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      Hey Bill, I am such an idealist I find it hard to live up to all my "should be's" but I try....very hard....most of the time. I used to get frustrated at how other people could be so cruel, careless and entitled, but gave that up. I now believe the only person I can change or anserw to is the lady in the mirror. Hypocrite is a hard word, and even though I let myself and my ideals down once in a while, I try to extend kindness to myself and others knowing we are all going through this confusing life the best we can at the moment. And that is all life is, one moment after another. It is not static, but ever changing...are there really rights and wrongs? Is anything black or white? What I was so sure of yesterday, I now doubt. I find humility the kindest of all the emotions, weather applied to myself or others. Your hubs always get me thinking and I thank you for that!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I love your attitude. I taught history and geography and I have learned more about culture from HP than I ever did from the books. This is a great place my friend and I'm having a blast.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Ruby! Great minds think alike. :) At least I hope so, because I like the way you think.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Homelessness, yes above all things America has been so hypocritical about! In America this just should not be. I have had people right her at Hp tell me there is no such thing as homeless children going to school! That is the only way they can keep from starving and no wonder Americans are hypocrites, look at our government, they allow this and lie about it and sweep it under the rug and feed the worlds hungry but not their own. They even want us taking care of the wounded who come back from wars while they spend billions on such idiotic things. OK, I will calm down.

      You really get us worked up, Bill. Good job!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      It is good to get "called on the carpet" every now and then!!! And we need it no doubt, as people are suffering right in the very streets of our Nation. This should not be the case, especially in America. Homelessness should never even be a word we know!!!

      Thanks again, Bill!

      Voted up and sharing

      Blessings and peace, Faith Reaper

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      This is truly beautiful, Billy. You are so right about the guy down the street with the white hood. At least he is in the open, and even though it doesn't make it right, honesty counts for something. Life is too short not to be yourself. I also like the differences in people. I like to learn more about them, especially through their recipes. I have encouraged so many people from other countries to post them, and have found others that are showing me how to cook their cuisine. It doesn't get any better than that!

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      All we can do everyday is be honest with ourselves and others. It dosen't hurt to tell a person you like their story/poem eventhough they have misspelled words, in time they will learn to spell better. To me, there is nothing worse than a hypocrite, esp. one who sits in church and spews hate against anything/ anyone who is different. Another great hub Bill. Thank you..

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Annie, I am guilty of ego massaging on HubPages. I think it is so important for writers not to be crushed by negative comments. This is such a tough gig, and for the most part it is a solitary venture...so I try to be encouraging whenever possible. I have been known to send an email making suggestions, but I don't have it in me to possibly discourage a writer. :)

      Thank you for your kind words and great reflection.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      khmazz, I'm glad you liked this so much. Thank you for being the person that you are.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm trying, Chris! All I can do is try to get the word out, right?

      Thank you my friend. I hope the weather in Hawaii is better than it is here. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Livingsta, thank you so much for sharing this message. I want millions to read this; maybe then we will see this world change. :)

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      Annie Miller 4 years ago from Wichita Falls, Texas

      I haven't read any of the other comments, so I may be repeating. On that note ...

      The older I get the less likely I am to try to spare the feelings of others. It doesn't help anyone if you are dishonest in your feelings. But, there are many other ways, some of which you mention in this stirring Hub, Bill, in which I am a total hypocrite - and most of them involve my physical comfort.

      This Hub also called to mind thoughts I had recently, specifically about comments. How many people comment positively when in truth they are just doing some ego massaging , I wonder. NOT that there's anything wrong with that. We were taught from my earliest memory to be nice, don't offend, etc - to the point I sometimes got my own feelings bruised by the very person I was trying to spare!

      I must say I love that you added, 'THERE IS HOPE…THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE,' for I truly believe that.

      Bravo again ... great Hub, Bill!

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      Kristen Mazzola 4 years ago from South Florida

      "Every single one of us can change for the better today" ... so true, so powerful! I loved this hub, like always!! Voted up!

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      chrisinhawaii 4 years ago

      Preach it, Bill!

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Wow, this is a great article Bill. Yes, there is nothing that we cannot change except "being good". It is all about what we want to be and who we wish to be. I am willing to change too!

      Thank you for sharing such a wonderful hub with us. I am sharing, pinning and tweeting and I am sure many will benefit.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alan....LOL....the tiny prick reference had me laughing out loud. Yes, diplomacy is called for in that instance I would think.

      I have become diplomatic with silence. If what I want to say is not going to make matters better I just keep my mouth shut. I may kick myself later for having done that, but it makes the here and now much more pleasant for all concerned.

      Thanks, Alan! Great comment!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vix, I keep reminding myself of the good things. :) Most of the time I write these hubs as a reminder for myself....there is just too much crap in the world. For now I choose to only see the beauty, and stomp out the crap whenever it looks like it will get stuck on my shoes. :)

      Thank you my friend...you are appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Beckie, I have lost a few "friends" because they didn't like my answers when they asked me a question....well then don't ask! LOL I only hang with people who have no filters....at least that way I know what they mean when they are talking.

      You can hang with me any day my Irish friend.

      love,

      bill

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      Alan R Lancaster 4 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

      This one's pulled a fair bit of traffic already, so I'll keep this brief (that'd make a change!).

      We sometimes have to 'turn hypocrite' to keep the peace. There are times to ruffle feathers, and there are times to smoothe them down. Hypocrisy is sometimes called 'diplomacy', and highly educated and well-placed people are paid well to be hypocritical to others who might be totally tactless - like the manic midget in charge of North Korea who thinks he's a god.

      I used to be tactless (not threatening anyone, just telling people what I thought of them) and got away with it often enough. But I was 'got at' by those who knew better, the 'diplomats'. We have to be 'diplomatic' to a large extent when living in big cities, or else life would be a permanent riot.

      If we get drunk the diplomat in us gets lost. Then we really get going,

      'I've got nothing against you, mate, but why have you got such a tiny prick?' That sort of thing, y'know? How do you answer that sort of thing - with flailing fists or a smirk and a wry remark? 'I didn't know you were on prick-watch!'

      More suggestions on a postcard addressed to: The Diplomatic Corps, UN.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hendrika, I have the feeling a great many people would agree with your comment. We are talking about changing a lifetime of behavior and yes, that is hard....but it can be done. :) Best wishes to you and thank you for visiting.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jo, that was an interesting observation...happiness when a loved one dies. I'm not sure why someone would, but I know it's not in me to do so.

      Thank you as always, Jo. I hope spring has finally arrived in the UK.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Lurana! I have enjoyed getting to know a little bit about you, and hopefully more in the future. I have the feeling there is quite story there.

      As for standing beside me, it is a pleasure. I know you care deeply about this world and that's what we need....an army of people just like you.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      vkwok, we might as well accept our imperfections and do the same for others. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...Beckie, you are indeed the Queen of PMP! :)

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Billy, Interesting... yes many of us pretend to have certain virtues and principles which we do not actually have, hopefully; what we believe can become self perpetuating.

      I just do not get why people would want to pretend to be happy when a loved one dies. I don't get it!!.. but maybe it is their way of coping.

      Another brilliant write, my friend.

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      Hendrika 4 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

      Changing how we react is the really hard one. You react instinctively and then it is the wrong reaction and you have to find a way to change these "instinctive" reactions that has become part of you and sends out the completely wrong message. I find that people sometimes think I am upset and then it is not the case. This is the hard part of changing who I am for me.

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      Powerful writing! "Yes, we are all hypocrites in one way or another, but that does not mean we cannot change." I completely agree. Seeing that line next to the image of the mirror made me think of Michael Jackson's song "Man in the Mirror".

      I have made this choice too, to step out of the false life and take a chance on the callings that were always in the back of my mind. The risk have already proved worthwhile taking because I am interacting for "real" with others.

      Thank you for this message and for so many others. Your work is truly important and I am proud to stand beside you! :-)

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      There is no denying that no one is an exception to having the same human nature. Not even superheroes.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      And there "ain't no denyin who I am"! I am the queen of the PMP's and proud of it!!!!!! XOXO

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      poetvix 4 years ago from Gone from Texas but still in the south. Surrounded by God's country.

      I'm behind and very glad I jumped back in on this one. It's a good message I need to remember. I can't change others and I can't control what they do, but I can control how I respond to it. Thanks for the reminder. It's most timely. I'm going to take a deep breath and think about this while composing my third letter any attorney this morning, ugh. God bless you, Bill. You keep us reminded of the good things.

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Great addition to HOW. I often tell my friends when asking my advice "Make sure the decisions you make are ones you can sleep with at night."

      I, for one have that awful condition where my mouth speaks the blatant truth, sometimes forgetting to FILTER, but at least people know where I stand.

      So glad to be reading these fabulous Hub's again!

      Love, Beckie XO

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cleaner, don't get me started on human trafficking. I have cried too many times over those atrocities, and outside of HubPages I sense nobody is listening. My hope, buddy, is that we can slowly change things, but it will take writers like you, and me, and others to keep speaking the truth as we know it.

      Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jim, speaking your mind will always get you in trouble in this world. LOL But it is so important that we do so. We used to call it "getting real"....when did we decide that wasn't a good idea?

      Sad day indeed, Jim, but we move forward from here, hopefully more united.

      Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, if you realized that yesterday then you are well on the road to self-discovery. I have the feeling there are millions who do not reflect at all and that frightens me a bit.

      Thanks my Dunedin Dynamo. Smile today...hug your daughter today....and keep moving forward. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, I'm just spouting off this morning....felt the need to shout from the pulpit. LOL I'm glad you liked and approved and seriously, thank you for the kind words. If I am helping to bring about positive change in this world then I am grateful.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I think I've seen you out doing yardwork from time to time. Nice to meet you. Come on over for a cup of tea any old time. Bring your mower; ours broke down. :)

      love you,

      bill

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      cleaner3 4 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Bill great hub my friend .. your writing is spot on .. most americans don't care about anything unless it specifically affects them . take I phones as one .. made by slave labor .. but used by the majority of People all over the world .. Human traffickers .. being railed against , but some of the worst are the people who do it taking the latin people and bringing them to america.

      very good writing my friend

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      Powerful stuff here, Bill. You are so right about the "all hypocrites" thing. I have been in trouble many times, though, for speaking my mind when my opinions were unpopular. This hub is a great reminder for us all to be real, be kind and to be the change we want to see in our world. It comes on a meaningful day too, after that despicable act in Boston.

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      We are a society that's focused on self-perfection: perfect body, perfect face, perfect intelligence, and of course, perfect control over who we are and how we feel. We can put on masks and give everyone we meet the whole "I don't care what you think of me" attitude so it looks like we have perfect control over our minds. I realized yesterday that my fears can be more powerful than my compassion, and that makes me a hypocrite. But being honest with yourself is the first step on the path to change, and there's power in that. Know thyself: true that.

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Wow!! If writing does not work out for you, you might consider becoming a preacher. A better sermon, I have not heard in a long time.

      And, I do not mean that in a bad way.

      You are 'truth' right down to your core. You are a man of many talents,

      but I would bet that Bev never has to worry which Bill will come walking through the door.

      Thank you for your astute observations and willingness to share your

      wisdom. Thank you for putting challenges before us, and then leading

      the way.

      Bill you are changing the world, one kind act at a time.

      Thank you,

      DJ.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Hi Bill. I'm Shauna and I live across the street. Welcome to Happiness Avenue! I'd like you to know I will always be here for you and look forward to a long friendship. Let me know if there's anything you need. That offer stands as long as I am able.

      I look forward to many more 'Moments with Bill'. Have a wonderful day! Say 'hi' to the family for me!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, you always have time for me and I appreciate you greatly. Glad you enjoyed this one; I haven't written a piece like this in quite some time. Thank you, Sir!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, we are a mixed bag indeed, and I agree that with age some of our thinking changes. I just thought I would toss out a wake-up call to think about over coffee. :) Thank you, Carol.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Joe, and I gladly take your hand my friend. Since you haven't known me very long....this is the type of writing I did early on here at HP, but then it became too heavy doing it all the time and I realized I needed to lighten up a bit and get away from the doom and gloom and message-making...so now I just do it occasionally and try to stay upbeat with a message of hope and love.

      Anyway, I hope you have a great day in WW, and I'll catch you down the road.

      Aloha,

      bill

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wonderful article, I did not have the time to read it this morning. Then I checked my attitude and decided, I did not have the time not to read it. I was right, the article changed my attitude for the better. Thank you.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I think we all know we are hypocritical...about many things. We humans are a mixed bag. We can change..And I think just growing older offers many changes in our thinking and way we live. I think this political correctness is a huge joke...... this is a real message here today..and one I hope everyone reads and reads once again. I am certainly thinking about this now. Going to share around..

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Hi, Bill!

      I am walking across the street, and I am shaking your hand. I am taking this message to heart. and I am all about changing for the better. Thank you for your gut-level honesty, Bill, a significant reason why I respect you so much.

      Love from the SE corner,

      Joe

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, I am a hypocrite too but at least I have minimized my damage. :) I'll proudly stand with you and that great smile.

      Thank you my friend!

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Yes, Bill I am totally willing and I might be a hypocrite from time to time, but do feel that I truly do try my best and do try to live my life accordingly. I hope someday that even the smile I have on my face daily will make a small difference in the lives of others. Thanks for sharing and always just being you!!