ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Adoption Picnic

Updated on September 26, 2012
Nina, Anne, May, Ivy, Lea and Celia at the Ca State Fair - Summer '01
Nina, Anne, May, Ivy, Lea and Celia at the Ca State Fair - Summer '01

 

“What keeps you going isn’t some final destination but just the road you’re on and the fact that you know how to drive.” – Barbara Kingsolver

Not long after Mona leaves, Sheila, Nina’s aunt returns and then May, a nine year old girl joins our family. May is in the “adoptions” unit which means the county is actively searching for an adoptive family for her. I am not a candidate because adoption at this point is still on the distant horizon for me. May is to stay with us until a match is found, and I learn about how adoption matches are made. She is a voracious reader, and loves the fact that we have many books. We discover that we share several favorites. Each night, May carries at least a dozen books up to the top bunk to read. Not surprisingly, she is an excellent student, and loves school. May worries about being bored and I give her a little tote to carry books and games when we go somewhere, just in case.

Because May is in the adoptions unit, a professional photographer visits us to take photos of May and her younger brother to send to prospective parents. I let the photographer know that I have five foster children who may not understand why the photographer is only taking pictures of May. She very graciously took beautiful pictures of all of my girls, including Ivy, my birth child. Following the photo session, May is taken to an “adoption picnic” by her county worker. That very day, a nice couple meets May and her brother and will very possibly adopt them following a sort of “courtship” period. Mays’s brother is living at another foster home with our agency. May is a delightful little girl, however her brother has some dangerous behaviors and after an overnight with this couple, it is understood that they will not pursue this adoption. May seems ambivalent and happy to continue living with us. I continue to support the process because that is what I am supposed to do; but the “marketing of children,” leaves me cold.

Shari, my oldest who is pregnant is getting closer to her due date. There is a program sponsored by the CA Highway Patrol that is offering brand-new safety seats for infants and children upon completion of a safety class offered for $20.00. Shari and I sign up for the class and we each get the type of safety seat we need for her new baby and Nina. Our foster care agency also very kindly throws Shari a baby shower and she collects many more items she will need for her baby. As the due date gets closer, I begin thinking about how I can support Shari at delivery and still take care of my responsibilities to my other children. Shari has an older sister who has reached out and we agree that she will be available to take Shari to the hospital when the time comes. I will follow after I get the other girls to my parent’s home or make arrangements for them to pick up the girls at their various schools.

Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • Anne Pettit profile imageAUTHOR

      Anne Pettit 

      8 years ago from North Carolina

      I am sorry, I dont know what happened to her brother.

    • kaltopsyd profile image

      kaltopsyd 

      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that! Do you know what became of May's brother?

    • Anne Pettit profile imageAUTHOR

      Anne Pettit 

      8 years ago from North Carolina

      May actually became adopted when social services allowed them to be split up. I received a call from May about 18 mos after she was moved. She wasnt allowed to call, she called me from a closet or something and had to hang up very fast. That is the last time I heard from her.

    • kaltopsyd profile image

      kaltopsyd 

      8 years ago from Trinidad originally, but now in the USA

      May sounds lovely. I wish Shari all the best and I hope May and her brother finds someone.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)