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Dealing With A Child's Fear Of The Future

Updated on December 15, 2012

Life In The 50's: Reasons Fear Was Minimal

In general the population experienced family stability, optimism and economic security. Opportunity for employment and career paths was high and gender roles were clearly defined. Life allowed for relaxation and contentment.

Additional Facts:

  • Bread was 14¢
  • Average Salary was $2,992.00
  • Unemployment was 3,288,000
  • The government issued a pamphlet on bomb shelter buildings: You Can Survive
  • Explorer orbited the earth in 1958
  • In 1955, the Salk Polio vaccine was invented, and Rosa Parks made a statement for civil rights.
  • Presidents: 1950 - 52: Harry Truman; 1953 - 1961: Dwight D. Eisenhower

Source: US Census Bureau

Ten years old is quite young to be thinking about death, yet this is exactly what crossed my mind as I looked out the window of my bedroom viewing the blue sky above. Was there anything beyond this world? Suddenly, I had a great fear of dying. I harboured this thought for a few weeks to myself; contemplating the act of dying. Was it painful? I feared the darkness and the shadow of thought that whispered from beyond the veil of uncertainty. What if I died today without ever getting a chance to go to college, to marry, or to have children of my own? It was the 1950's; what was there to fear compared to today's world?

Psychologists state the future is not a major concern for adolescent children ages 9 - 13. As a child ages a few years (15), the future still centers on the "now" and vision is focused on what is relative. Once a child reaches adulthood (18 and beyond), the future seems to take hold and begins to cause some anxiety as one realizes the future path is set by their decisions and outlook. So from a logical view, my thoughts were rare for a child of ten.

In the past few years, I have heard children express fear of the future at an earlier age and it seems to be a common thread as they discuss social issues in the classroom. A young child of ten recently asked me, "Do you think the world will end in nuclear war and will anyone survive?" He shared his fear of losing his family and being all alone in a desolate world.

Fear is an emotional awareness that alerts us to events of significance in our life, even of perceived danger. The normal response it to minimize the fear and to proceed with caution. Courage is the antidote of fear. However, before a child can take courage to move forward, it sometimes helps to gauge the reality of fear. In our present world, there are many reasons for our children to have concerns, but a parent can help a child by guiding them with loving support.

Common Childhood Fears

Age
Fear
0-6 months
Loud noise, sudden movement, loss of support
7 - 12 months
Strangers, heights, falling, sudden and unexpected looming objects
1 year
Separation from parent, injury, toilet
2 years
Loud noises, animals, doctors (pain and intrusiveness), separation from parent
3 - 4 years
Imaginary dangers (monsters, bad dreams), dark, masks, separation from parent
5 - 6 years
Imaginary dangers
7 - 8 years
Supernatural beings ( aliens, spooky things), bodily injury, staying alone, natural disasters, media reports of violence, war, death, dark
9 - 12 years
Tests in school, school performance, bodily injury, physical appearance, thunder and lightning, death, dark
Teens
Fear of failure, social fears, sexuality, death, dark
 
Source: ehealthguild.com/childhood fears
Created by Teaches12345, 2012
Created by Teaches12345, 2012

Signs Of Fear In Children

  • Sleep patterns may be erratic. Often children who are fearful will wake up after an hour of sleep. They may have problems getting to sleep or staying asleep.
  • Nausea and headaches may occur more frequently
  • Stomachaches may also become a common ailment
  • Nervousness, twitching, and sweaty palms
  • Clingy and impulsive actions
  • Heart rate and breathing are accelerated
  • Low energy
  • Appetite change
  • Regressive behavior such as thumb-sucking, aggression, school avoidance
  • Sensitivity to sound, movement and alcohol

How To Help Your Child Cope

  • A parent can help their child best by role modeling coping behavior. Discussing the fear and the associated concern will allow a child to know you care how they feel. Talk about the concern calmly, your child will be watching you for clues on how to react.
  • During the discussion, hug your child and show signs of affection such as rubbing their back.
  • Reassure your child that together you are safe.
  • Discuss your child's fears and feelings about the disaster. Share your thoughts and fears also. Talk in terms your child can understand.
  • Discuss what happened or might happen.
  • Spend extra time with your child at bedtime.
  • Allow your child to grieve about a loss of friends, family, possessions and other important items that may have triggered the fear.
  • Discuss what your child should do if another disaster strikes. Let him or her help in preparing and planning for future disasters.
  • Spend extra time together in family activities to begin replacing fears with pleasant memories.
  • Older children can get involved in community work. Helping others may take their mind off the pain, and the effort and love given to others through service will help them to heal.
  • If your child is in sports or a club, encourage them to slowly participate again.
  • Temporarily reduce expectations of school work.
  • Encourage discussion, but do not force, at family settings such as meal times and devotionals.
  • Pray with them. Quote scriptures that promote healing and strength.

source: fema.gov/pte/children

Words of Comfort

God is a safe place to hide, ready to help when we need him. —Psalms 46:1

Even when the way goes through Death Valley, I'm not afraid when you walk at my side. —Psalm 23:4

God, my strength, my stronghold, my safe retreat when trouble descends. —Jeremiah 16:19

Peace cannot be achieved through violence, it can only be attained through understanding. —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Dear God, please send to me the spirit of Your peace. Then send, dear Lord, the spirit of your peace from me to all the world. Amen. —Marianne Williamson

Peace begins with a smile. —Mother Teresa


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When To Get Professional Help

After a disaster or crisis a child will show concerns and fears over the event happening again. They are afraid of being injured or killed, or that they will be left all alone. Let your child talk openly about the disaster. He most likely will have many questions. If it helps, ask him to write his concerns down and to draw pictures about what happened (or what he fears will happen).

Listen to your child's fears. Even though a child's fears may be imaginary, a parent should take them seriously. A child looks to an adult for comfort and your firm reassurance coupled with love and kindness helps her to realize that life does eventually return to normal after a crisis.

If your child shows signs of fear beyond this, you may have to seek professional counseling. Ask your child's school guidance counselor for advice, they are trained to comfort children in this area. Also, your primary care physician should be consulted and he or she will know if a referral to a psychologist is recommended.

Contact your pastor or clergy for prayer and consultation. Spiritual guidance and support will not only help your child, but the family as well.

Community health organizations may have services helpful in guiding your child. Many organizations promote peer-to-peer group settings. These settings allow your child to discuss openly with children of like-minded concerns and it also helps them to understand they are not alone in their fears.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 4 years ago from KOLKATA

      Typical childhood anxieties come at some point of time. The parents should be adequately prepared to handle these problems. The best course would be to embrace the child and give the clear message that the child is not alone and that they are very much with him or her and that they have also gone through such bad patch in their lives stating clearly that such period is just a passing phase. Thanks for the excellent hub.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Dwachira, thank you for visiting this hub post. Children have fears that are often deeply ingrained. Adults can help them to overcome them through listening and nurturing. Glad it was useful to you. Enjoy your day, friend.

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      [ Danson Wachira ] 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Hi teaches12345,

      Children and especially more young ones can go through a lot of mental agony as they grow up. The types of fear you have listed here are very real to any child as i can relate that to my youngest child. You have also shared here valuable tips to help children cope with such fear. Great article, voted up, useful and shared.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thanks for stopping by to leave a comment, Unknown. Glad you found it interesting and useful. Take care and enjoy your day.

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      IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      Great hub Dianna. I always learned something new new.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      SG, you are so right when you speak of how children are sensitive to what is happening around them. As adults, we need to give them our time so that they can share their thoughts and fears. Great insight on the topic. Thanks. Have a wonderful evening.

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      Sheila Brown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

      Sometimes we don't think about how the news affects our children. We need pay attention and realize that they may be confused and concerned by what they see on tv or hear adults talking about. We need to discuss such things with our children. We need to let them ask questions and give them supportive and caring answers. Childhood should not be a "scary place". This is a very good topic and well written! Up and useful. :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Liz, I can only imagine what the children are thinking. You and I have some idea as to the fears they may be experiencing, but hopefully they are receiving loving support from their families and community. I appreciate your adding value to the topic. Be well and safe.

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      Lizam1 4 years ago from Victoria BC

      I remember becoming very afraid of dying around the age of ten. I had been to visit the Egyptology department at the British Museum and those Mummies gave me the heebie jeebies. I cannot imagine what the children who survived the recent school shootings are going through. Excellent hub as ever teaches12345.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Cathy, we need those secure adults to help our future be all the best for them. Thank you for coming by and adding to the content with such positive hope. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Fpher, I think even adults are fearful of the future. And no wonder with all the violence we hear and see daily. I hope our voice will be heard and that others will begin to help deter the violent reactions n society. Hope your day is going well.

      Nell, I agree, children are easily scared when they hear of these violent and tragic events. Knowing how to discuss the topic helps tremendously in combating fear and helping to face the future with courage. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Ms. Immortal 4 years ago from NJ

      Very impressive and informative, handling childhood fears the right way makes for secure and balanced adults.

      Will share.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      I remember covering something similar in psychology, and thinking how easy it is for a child to get too scared. this was based on a friends little girl who had lost her grandma, she started to get panic attacks at the age of 10, only little things but they were there and luckily me and the friend spotted it early, the girl is fine now, this was about 10 years ago, and like all children the memory faded enough for her to get on with her life, great advice teach, and voted up! nell

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      teach.....I am not at all surprised, when I clicked on "increased Violence," to see that it is in the lead, for concerns. When I speak with other Grandmas, this is a repeated topic.

      Sadly, we have witnessed the increase thus far and feel helpless, as we see and hear the news of so many atrocities inflicted upon our babies in this country.

      Your Hub is superb, Teach. Clear, real and current. I appreciate that you have presented this vital topic. It is a must-read and cause for action, in any manner we find possible to solve these future possible fears for the future. You are a wonderful advocate for the children!...UP+++

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Deborah, prayer, faith and love is the basic needs met as a child from a parent's attention. We must continue to strengthen this attitude in our kids. Thanks much for your added value here.

      Tillsontitan, our world has changed and we are going to have to focus on how to make it a better place for our children. As it is now, the future looks scary! Keep praising and loving those kids!

      Carter, it is sad that our children have anxiety at such a young age. Let us hope that the future problems will be minmized by our actions today in love.

      Seeker, your analysis of the fear fom physical to mind is interesting. As we learn and grow our environment expands, our knowledge of what exists begins to take hold beyond just the physical recognition. I also get upset when I hear parents speak to their children so carelessly -- they just need a little loving attention. Kuddos to those parents who understand how much a little time listening helps a child to mature and grow.

      A big Thank You to each of you for coming by today and supporting the article. So good to hear from people who care about the future of our children. Blessings and have a very Merry Christmas!

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      Helen Murphy Howell 4 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      What a fabulous article this is! I think what I found really interesting was how the fears of the child develop from 'physical' things very early on - separtion etc., but later it is more 'mind' fears. I wonder if some of this has to do with the development of the brain itself and also the developing mind trying to understand and cope with new concepts?

      I loved the tips for parents on comforting a child - especially the part about 'listening'. On a couple of occasions as a nurse, when people and their kids were visiting patients, I did hear parents basically brushing aside a child's concerns and telling them they were 'silly' on one occasion a child was told she was 'stupid' for feeling scared in the hospital. Another parent said to his 11 year old son 'to stop talking nonsense' when the child said he was scared visiting his Gran! Sometimes I couldn't believe my ears the way a few parents just brushed their children's fears away. Of course kids are bound to be scared in a hospital - many adults are as well!

      Yet there are the other parents who take just that little bit of time to not only explain - but to listen, really listen to what their child has to say. It's great to know that there are still wonderful parents out there!

      Loved this fascinating hub!!

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      Mary 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Excellent hub full of insightful helpful useful info - here in Australia 1 in 10 children are diagnosed with anxiety - childhood fear is so prevalent & real for children - your hubs specific info is excellent help for parents & any one working with children - voted UUAI etc etc & shared - thanks

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Timely and comprehensive. The world has changed so much and as a result the problems children deal with have changed too. I'm sure this hub will be very useful to many young parents, especially in light of the things that have been happening in the last few months. Always, always, hug and praise no matter what the situation!!

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Teaches.. my concern is all the above.. all we can do is pray and have faith i love the bible verses you choose.. You are right life is a mystery.. but we have to keep the faith.. it is hard to explain to a child when its hard for us too.. like you said just give them love etc..

      God Bless you

      Merry Christmas

      sharing

      Debbie

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jackie, it is a mystery to me as well how one can just live life depending upon fate. Even in death, there is hope and peace when one truly knows God. Thanks for your added insight to the topic. God bless you.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      A subject that does need covered. Death is so much more in a child's face than when we grew up. How on earth could one do it without God, you are right.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Prayer, that is what is most important when raising children: listening and loving them through life's events. Your comment has added to the article content with great interest. Thank you!

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      Prayermadu 4 years ago

      Kids need a safe, secure environment with adults who love and care for them in order to build strong self-esteem. Not only do you need to show your children your love, you also need to tell them. So we compiled some simple loving words and phrases to say to your children to give them a little boost!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      B., the children of our nation have all lost some sense of security through this tragic event. We must work to instill in our children trust and courage in the future. Coping skills will help them get through the initial fear, but then adults must take steps to provide safety nets outside the home in schools, sporting events, etc. I hope this sees some action on the part of government and communities to create new laws that protect our children. I appreciate your valued comment. Enjoy your week.

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      b. Malin 4 years ago

      A really Wonderful and Timely Hub Teacher, considering the times we now live in. How can children Not fear when all their "safe havens" are no longer Safe? The children in Connecticut suffered the worse Trauma imaginable...It will take a Long time for them to recover, and sadly, some might not. You've listed some excellent Coping ideas. Thanks for sharing.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Hi Jerry!

      I am glad that this post will help parents to talk with their children about the events that place fear in their hearts. It's a reality we must help them to understand and to know that the events cannot keep us locked in a prison of hopelessness. Take care, friend.

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      Jerry W Hulse 4 years ago from Kingsport, Tennessee

      Teaches, this is right on time and very up to date with reality. Voted up

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Leah, good to hear. Discussing tragedy is only necessary when you see a child is showing signs of fear. Let's hope it's past him now. Have a restful day.

      Alocsin, fter Friday's event and the lastest coverage on mall shootings, children are a bit scared of the future. We must give our ear to children when they express fear and comfort them with positive guidance. Enjoy your week, friend.

      Terrye, thanks for your feedback. Good to have you stop by here tonight.

      Alicia, thanks for your positive view on the topic. I appreciate your visit and support and always find your words encouraging.

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very useful hub, Dianna, as are all your hubs about children. A child's fear of the future can often be hard to deal with, but you have given some excellent suggestions for helping children to cope with this fear.

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      Terrye Toombs 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      This is awesome, teaches! Voted up and sharing!

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      alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I'm thinking this hub takes particular urgency after that school shooting in Connecticut. I'm sure many kids who heard about that are becoming fearful of their school's future. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Leah Lefler 4 years ago from Western New York

      I really hope none of the other children at school have heard of the tragedy and that they don't talk about it - I am prepared if he comes home with questions, but I sincerely hope it is gone from his mind. He is far too young to worry about these things. My five year old is blissfully unaware - he can't read yet and can't overhear conversations (hearing loss), so he has been protected from the news.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Leah, your quick redirect of the news was good parenting. I would not mention it again unless he brings it up again. Perhaps that was all that was needed on this issue. Keep up the great work! Thanks for your support of this topic.

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      Leah Lefler 4 years ago from Western New York

      I love your table of common fears and the ages when children experience them. My older son is turning seven this month and we were at a pizza parlor for dinner on Friday night. The big-screen TV's were all tuned to CNN, which was extremely unfortunate since he is able to read and asked me, "Why were 20 children killed in a school shooting?" I had wanted to protect him from the incident that occurred at Sandy Hook, but his ability to read thwarted that protection. He is right at the age where fear of being left alone or of violence is emerging. We talked about the helpers that came to save the rest of the children and how the police are there to protect us, etc. It is a very difficult topic to discuss with little ones.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Skye, your thoughts are key in providing a safe environment for our children. There isn't any positive guidance when it comes to ethics and morals. Christianity once provided this safety net within our school walls. Let's pray that our government will discover the reality of this truth and our children will once again walk safely within the walls of educational institutions. I'll take your love and embrace your inspriational attitude. Hugs, love and God bless.

      Linda, I just heard from parents today as to how their child is having to deal with Friday's tragedy. They are fearful and needing comfort. Parents who listen and nurture them through this time will see their children bounce back quicker and stronger.

      Molly, prayers for peace are needed for our nation, and only then will we see a turn around from the evil that is trying to take root in our hearts.

      Troy, I appreciate your reflection of the article and agree that new parents will definitely benefit from practicing these methods of counsel with their child.

      Thanks to each of you for your visit here today and for adding positive content to the subject. I hope your week goes well and pray you remain safe and strong.

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      Troyangeluk 4 years ago from UK

      this is fantastic for a new parent, this subject is over looked by many parents.

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      Mary Strain 4 years ago from The Shire

      Teaches, thank you for this important reminder of how to cope with fear. It is sadly needed right now...especially the part about finding comfort and peace in the Lord. Prayers for all those who were impacted by this senseless tragedy.

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      lindacee 4 years ago from Arizona

      This topic hits really close to home given the recent tragedy in CT. Sometimes we forget how impressionable children are. It is so important to allow them to discuss their fears, so events like these don't overshadow their everyday life. Well done.

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      skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      teaches oops spent to much time on comment. tee hee

      To continue. Please get yourself into a church that teaches Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior and Bible based. Take your children. The Lord born on Christmas day is the one true hope and promise. Merry Christmas precious sister.

      Voted way up and linked out from my hub. 'Bricks falling. Love love love you keep going. You will Phil 4:13 Hugs Galore. Skye

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      skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      teaches My sister what a wonderful writing. I am so grateful that God is the theme, Amen. I love the scriptures you put up for us. I really like your tips on loving up your child to make him or her feel safe. In these most perilious times parents need to take extra care and responsibility to comfort their children and teach them in the way to go.

      I pray our nation would come back to God and at home in the forefront number one. Since HE has been taken out of the schools how are children to hear. If the parents do not teach them how will they know how to deal. If parents do not deal the kids will pick up their own means for security, comfort or escape. God is the answer. The answer is in front of our faces God is shaking the nation and world but many continue to deny Him or shun and blame Him. May God's Holy Spirit pour out on our childeren. The enemy can take a hike off of a hill to hell where he is doomed. He is not in the lake of fire yet and God has certainly given us His promises to stand on. Moms, Dads, Grandparents

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Denise, signals are usually given before an act of this magnitude is taken. People either ignore them or think they will adjust. Sadly, events like Last Friday are results of lack of concern.

      Ignugent, a listening ear will always show a child they are important. It goes a long way in developing a good person.

      Rebecca, I agree with you on the video games and movies. They feed minds on the "good" of violence. They must be monitored by parents to prevent the patterns of vengeance that can come as z result.

      I thank each of you for contributing to the topic with insightful thoughts. Enjoy your week and keep safe.

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      Rebecca Mealey 4 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Wow, teaches. What a timely article. I am glad you were inspired to write this last week before the horror of Friday the 14th. I personally think violence in movies and video games are not good for some kids. Maybe they don't effect all, but I have no use for them. This article will help lots of parents out there.

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      ignugent17 4 years ago

      This is really true and we have to take care of the feelings of these young ones. Show them that they are important.

      Voted up and useful.

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      Denise Handlon 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Dianna-I read that you had been working on this hub prior to the latest school shooting, but what perfect timing. The information you offer here is so important-even as 'simple' as understanding the concern per the child's age. I remember learning about that in my child dev. and psychology classes.

      As others have previously mentioned, life was much simpler in the 50's. And, as you have mentioned, at age ten-that is amazing that you contemplated the meaning of death at the level you did. It definitely reflects your sensitivity to the deeper essence of life.

      I voted for 'violence' as my main concern. Being a mother and grandmother I cannot fathom losing a loved one via a 'random act of violence'. It is so heartbreaking. And, I must say that I agree with you that there was something within that home that was missed. This boy surely was sending out signals way before this...the rest is a series of just the right elements to go off the cliff.

      Rated up/U/I and will share.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Glimmer, your daughter is blessed to have parents who listen and care about her well being. Keep loving her through this ordeal, she will gain strength to face the future. Thanks for the support.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      Thank you for this hub teaches. My husband and I had to speak to our 10 year old daughter yesterday about the horrific events that happened in Connecticut on Friday. While she did not have much to say, I am sure sure is, and will be, thinking of it. I'm guessing it will be spoken about at school on Monday. Your table was really informative too. Thanks again. Shared!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Pavlo, interesting thoughts about fear in children. I believe the common fears of childhood can be overcome through positive guidance and reflection. Knowing these fears can be conquered helps us to face our life with courage.

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      Pavlo Badovskyi 4 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

      I had fears in my childhood too. I was afraid of death, I was afraid of darkness. I may suppose that these fears are genetically implemented in our body to prepare children into their future life. As an adult they will face much bigger challenges and stress. Would you agree?

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Thanks for visiting and for your review of the topic. It is good to have feedback from supporters such as yourself who value the goodness in life. Sleep well and be safe. Blessings.

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      lovedoctor926 4 years ago

      Useful information & good coping mechanisms for parents to help their child overcome fear.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Mary, I imagine many of us are fearful of venturing out and cautious of our surroundings as we mingle in society. I believe we must reintroduce values and faith to our children in order to reduce the harm to future generations.

      Whonu, cousel will help the children who survived to move forward. It is the adults who must remain strong making the difference in how they proceed. Hopefully, families will take time to listen and help each other.

      TeacherJoe, we must always listen to our kids when they have something to share. It is our role to make things better, even if we just listen.

      CrisSp, you have hit the nail on the head: prayer in school would help to strengthen our walls and prevent intruders from breaking through to our children. Let's pray that it will be reintroduced once again as a banner over our kids.

      Vellur, listening is needed when children share their ideas, no matter how trivial we think they are. It will help them to heal in crisis situations such as Friday's event.

      Rajan, so true: addressing fears in the young life will make the adult face life with courage. Great insight, friend.

      Justateacher, I believe the fears of this age are more intenses then even five years ago. We see random killings and violence happening in places that take us by surprise, such as Friday's event. We must change our world today to make it better for our children and grandchildren tomorrow.

      Thanks to each of you for visiting and supporting this topic. You have added wisdom and value to this article. Enjoy your weekend. God bless.

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      LaDena Campbell 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

      Perfect timing for this hub. Every generation has had things to fear, but today's fears are more real than ever.

      Voted up and shared.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Very useful hub! Allaying fears in a child is very important so that it is not carried over to the adult life. A very important message, teaches.

      Voted up and useful.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      A very important and useful hub. As you say, we should listen to our children's fears even if they are imaginary. Only then will they open about all their fears. Great hub, voted up.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Perfect hub for what is happening around us. I was just stating my thoughts on the other hub that maybe, it's time to put back prayers at home and at school. In line with your statement: "Spiritual guidance and support will not only help your child, but the family as well." ---very important message.

      Voted up, useful and absolutely passing along. Thank you.

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      teacherjoe52 4 years ago

      Good morning teaches.

      Another great article full of very good suggestions.

      I believe it best that the child have someone the feel loved and secure talking with share their fears. We should never just brush them off as just a part of being a child.

      God bless you with the wisdom, patience and gentleness to always guide your cares through their troubling times.

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      whonunuwho 4 years ago from United States

      This is certainly good information you have shared, teaches, and well appreciated. Our children need counseling and reassurance , especially in taxing situations such as recently having occurred in Connecticut. Thanks again. whonu

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      I enjoyed this Hub very much. Not only are our children fearful nowadays, but adults are, too. I, for one, am fearful when I see all that is going on around me. I fear for my children and grandchildren. I won't be around, but they will have to live in this mess WE have created.

      Excellent Hub, I voted it UP, etc. and will share.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Ruchira, our kids need lots of hugs and attention after this ordeal. Love them well and listen to their fears.

      Midget, children have these fears whenever they hear of tragedy such as Friday's school shooting. Knowing how to comfort them will help them to face life with courage.

      Genna, I agree that some families ignore their children's plea for help and understanding. It is sadly the reason why we see things escalate to a point of no return. It is a very deep sorrow we all feel over Friday's event.

      Carol, it is a fear parents face today. Life was not so intense when my son was a teen, let's hope parents today can navigate these storms to help present day children to be strong.

      Thundermama, I remember those disaster drills. As a director, you wanted to make sure children knew what to do in case of danger... never really expected it to be used. However, we must remain strong and model hope and positive courage to our children.

      Thanks for stopping by everyone. I so appreciate your valued opinions and discussions on this topic. Let's hope and pray we will continue to make inroads to a peaceful future and as we build children who can face it with courage.

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      Catherine Taylor 4 years ago from Canada

      Teaches, thank you for such a well written hub. This week my thirteen year old daughter had to practice a "code red,"drill at school. She explained it's when you hide in your classroom with your head down and be very quiet in case someone with a gun is in the school. These are scary times we live in. Your words are a great help in easing her anxiety.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I have to say that I am happy not to have young kids in today's landscape. My childhood was easy and fun and relatively no fear...that I can remember. You did an excellent job here on telling the story as it is. Voting UP and sharing.

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      Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Wonderful coping mechanisms and excellent advice on how, when and where to get help. I think this is missing in certain families, today. They don’t seem to recognize or deal with problems proactively. Perhaps it’s denial, or the inability to connect or communicate with their children. This hub is very timely given what happened yesterday in Connecticut…I’m still deeply saddened by this senseless and horrific tragedy.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Dianna, these are excellent suggestions for helping a child to cope with the insecurities he or anyone is bound to have from time to time. Will definitely share to help raise the awareness among parents.

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      Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

      Wow...this is such a timely hub, Dianna.

      Today kids all over the US needed this hug and cajoling and what better way than follow your path of guidelines. I tried some of them but took notes on doing the other tips tomorrow with my kid.

      Thanks Dianna. Sharing it across and voting is as useful/interesting

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Bill, I started writing this article last week due to the increase of student concerns about crisis in our world. I hate that we even have to think of crisis interventions. Friday's event, just put the cap on this for me. Let's hope people begin to take violence against others as an evil to conquer.

      KDeus, I appreciate your support on this topic. Hopefully, it will help others to address the concerns of their children.

      Dr BJ, I can't help but think that the parent's of the shooter in Friday's event may have missed some "cry" in his life that made him snap. Yes, children need the listening ear of their adults to help them face the future with courage.

      Janine, it is a subject that we all wish was not needed; however, it is reality and will not go away overnight. Thanks for your concern and valued comment here.

      Michele, I heard a parent express concern over the increased violence in today's video games that affect children. The movies also are depicting killings as nothing more than wiping a bug from the windshield of life. It is no wonder our children are becoming hostile and snapping under pressure. Our world is different today, indeed. Let's hope and pray we pull together as a nation to solve this growing concern.

      Mhatter, bless those (such as Mr. Tucker) that care and work with young children and teens to overcome fears and hardships in life.

      Thank you to everyone for visiting and contributing to this topic. I always appreciate your feedback, especially when it hits close to the heart of many readers.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. How the world is changing. When I worked with kids (under 18) my greatest boon was the now retired Duane Tucker. He was a lawyer with full access to groups to aid in all sorts of youth challenges.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      I have been very busy and have not been on hub pages very much. This is the first one I have read for a while. But, it is perfect, considering what happened today. No wonder our children are afraid younger and younger. The fact that 20 children were shot to death ( from the age of 5-10) also adults, in their classroom.

      The news is full of reports about violence, and murder, and wars.

      When I was a child it was not like this at all.

      This hub is perfect.

      Voted up.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Now more than ever such a wonderful article that I am sure will help many (wish I didn't, but the reality here is that it will be needed). Have of course voted up and shared all over!!

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      You have done a masterful, I mean mistressful job, Dianna, with this difficult subject. Most importantly you have stressed that parents should spend time with their children and LISTEN to their fears in order to comfort them.

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      Keely Deuschle 4 years ago from Florida

      Excellent article on a topic that is very important. Thank you for sharing. Voted up!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      A very important message today my friend. Thank you for this important article, and bless you for caring as much as you do.