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Adopted: Through the Eyes of an Adoptee

Updated on September 17, 2012

When Love Takes You In

Even though I have worked in child protective services I cannot imagine what it must be like to be in foster care. Even though I am an adoptive parent, I cannot even begin to understand what it must be like to be an adoptee. Only children who have experienced life in foster care or life as an adoptee can explain what it means for them. Each child’s experiences and feelings are different. For some, the outcome has not been good. For others, the outcome is the best of what had been a bad situation. Either way their situation is unique.

I have asked my twins to help me understand, from their viewpoint, how it feels to be adopted. We have had many discussions over the past 5 years about this topic, and even though they are twins their viewpoints have been different. Their feelings have varied along this journey, but this past Mother’s Day my daughter wrote me a poem to share how she was feeling.


My Beautiful Daughter Yolanda
My Beautiful Daughter Yolanda

Adopted

How do I feel about being adopted?

My puzzled life changed into a loving, marvelous life.

I feel a new and loving family is going

to grab me and hold me tight

for the rest of my life

like a toddler being scared of a thunderstorm

while the mother is holding and comforting her.

It’s a curious life I have.

I feel that I am going to enjoy life

with my new family.

But sooner or later,

my mother leader will teach me which road to take –

the best one to take

if I do something wrong.

Being adopted is a wonderful gift.

Before my life changed, I was in a dark hole.

I am thankful that I am adopted.

© Copyright 2012 by Yolanda Tanner

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    • heartexpressions profile imageAUTHOR

      heartexpressions 

      5 years ago

      Thanks Nell Rose, she is something special.

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      Nell Rose 

      5 years ago from England

      What a lovely tribute and proof of how adoption can work with a loving family, the poem was amazing and said it all, wonderful!

    • heartexpressions profile imageAUTHOR

      heartexpressions 

      5 years ago

      Thanks rcrumple for your comments and your kind words. They are greatly appreciated.

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      Rich 

      5 years ago from Kentucky

      What a glorious tribute to the success of you and your family to reach out and give this youngster an opportunity to live a normal life. To come from a dark hole into a home of love is a true testimony as to how the love you've given is being received. Great Hub, but more importantly, great job in accepting this child so much into your family and hearts!

    • heartexpressions profile imageAUTHOR

      heartexpressions 

      5 years ago

      Jools99 your response brought tears to my eyes, and you gave me a fresh way to look at what she was saying - many thanks!!

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      Jools99 

      5 years ago from North-East UK

      Interesting and moving hub - I imagine it is a very difficult or puzzling thing to articulate what adoption means because you have had a life completely outside of the one you are now living and you are made of all of your experiences, both good and bad. Yolanda's second last line is very telling I think. She begins her poem on a positive note, only revealing the 'dark hole' of her old life in the last stanza. Adoption for her is above all a good thing, it shines like a beacon through the whole poem - the solving of a puzzle, the happiness grows and is understood; the dark hole will hopefully diminish more and more over the years.

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