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Mother's Best Lesson

Updated on May 6, 2009

Rocking chair moments to live by....

My mother has taught me many things over the years, yet one particular page from her book of wisdom resonates with me the most. It is the "Rocking Chair" lesson. "Live your life by creating moments you want to remember while sitting in your rocking chair as an old woman".

So as I travel through this thing we call life, the rocking chair is ever- present in my mind.

Such was the case when I got up at 4:00 on a cold winter morning because my slightly over-served friends called and said "Let's go grab some breakfast", I told them what they could do with that idea...until I thought of the rocking chair. So I shivered out of bed, threw on my favorite sweats and walked to the all-night diner in two feet of snow. We laughed and ate, then laughed some more. "I can't believe we're doing this! We all have to be at work in 3 hours!" It may have seemed crazy at the time, but it brings a smile to my face each time I recall it.

One for the chair.

I've added several more since then, some of which I wouldn't dare reveal. (These, by the way, make for the best items in your rocking chair catalogue.) Some moments you experience deliberately, like your wedding, the birth of your children, or a vacation. Others come unexpectedly. These are the times you spontaneously throw caution to the wind, defy all logic and practical sense, and just do it. I'm not sure which moments are better, I just know that both are important. So when you feel yourself falling into a schedule-induced rut, let the rocking chair be your guide, and find something remarkable to do. If you find yourself saying "I can't believe I'm doing this!" or "I can't believe I actually tried that!", then you're probably having a "rocking chair moment". Bravo for you!

When you come to a fork in the road, examine where you see your life going from the perspective of that rocker. It's pretty amazing how the answer clearly reveals itself and guides you down the right path. Many of our older, wiser predecessors have said "at the end of your life, you never wish that you'd worked harder. You only wish you had spent more time appreciating the people you love, and the fun moments in your life. You rarely regret what you've done, but instead regret what you haven't. So look for the joy in each moment, because time does run out, and it waits for no one."

Words to live by.

So when you look at your mother or grandmother and see a quiet smile come over her face when she thinks no one's sure she's benefiting from one of her rocking chair moments. This should be the time when you take inventory of the ones you've collected so far. From this day forward, be conscious of the person you'll want to remember yourself as, and how you're going to fill your catalogue.

Teach your children to live their lives with no regrets. Tell them to try everything and to not be afraid of the world, but to embrace it, experience it, and start collecting those rocking chair moments early on. Seeing their future through this window will guide them successfully on their journey. They will have a life decorated with passion, enthusiasm, laughter, and joy. And as they mature into their rocking chairs, they will take with them the memories that will make them smile.

A quiet, gratifying smile, just like Mom's.


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      Lilymasds 2 years ago

      Hi Meghan! As a matter of fact, the foollw-up post to my marketing plan has been rolling around in my head for the past few weeks. It's a long story, but in short, no not quite. No new market, but a new writing experience. Stay tuned for the post. Cheers, M.

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      Cheeky Chick 8 years ago

      I admire your writing talent and your insight. I'm always searching for rocking chair moments. Thanks for sharing yours.


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      Jennifer Maurer 8 years ago from Chicago, IL

      Thank you.

      Laughing Mom, so important to keep the chair rocking all through life....As a mom, myself..I really get how hard it is to find them sometimes, and they are fewer and further between. Glad you liked the hub though..thanks again for your comments!

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      Laughing Mom 8 years ago

      What a great hub!! I have lots of Rocking Chair moments--some I'll never share with anyone. But it makes me realize that I might not have them as often as I should anymore.

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      SEM Pro 8 years ago from North America

      Thank you so much for sharing this pearl of wisdom Jennifer - it's beautiful! I do believe I'll take your advice and start to consider the special and unusual moments as RCMs - lovely :)

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      Jennifer Maurer 8 years ago from Chicago, IL


      I'm sure you do miss them. Funny how we are drawn to those who had such zest for life. In the end, it's all about the laughter, isn't it?

      Thanks for looking in on my hubs. I reallly value your comments!

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      Joanna McKenna 8 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      Never heard it called Rocking Chair Moments, but I had two aunts who must've had quite the collection! Bad health prevented them from spending their Golden Years in side-by-side rockers, but until then they did everything together and if you went to either's house and they weren't on the porch swing laughing their butts off about lordonlyknowswhat, then you knew one or the other was sick. I noticed the older they got, the less talking was required to set them off. They could just look at each other a certain way and bust out laughing. Their husbands were the same way. I miss them all so much.

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      Mara 8 years ago

      Really makes you think. Need more rocking chair moments!

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      Julia B 8 years ago

      I'm smiling.