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Parents With Children Out Of Control And The Diagnosis Is ADD, ADHD, Or Is It

Updated on May 3, 2011
Isn't This What It's All About
Isn't This What It's All About

A Trip to The Doctor and a New Outlook

After a trip to the doctor I started to understand why there is such an astronomical amount of children in the US being diagnosed or misdiagnosed ADD, and ADHD. I use to blame it mostly on the doctors now I can see their side a little better.

You see I used to blame the doctors, and some of the parents for choosing the easy way out just giving children a label, loading them up on medications, and moving on to the next one Although I still believe that is the case more often than not, I have to admit after thinking about what she said I had to take a closer look

My doctor explained to me, (don’t ask me how we got on the subject, oh yeah I brought it up) that when a parent comes in and explains the symptoms a child is having (which according to the parent) is out of control, could possibly be harmful, along with all the other symptoms unfortunately doctors really don’t have a choice.

Understanding if the family left the office and something happened to where the child injured themselves or someone else, having been seen by a doctor who did nothing, they are often setting themselves up to be sued. That being said if they don’t diagnose them and give them treatment/medication what’s the alternative? Yes, they should send them to a specialist in the mental health field or someone who specializes in ADD, and ADHD, but sometimes insurance or finances will not allow that, so their stuck between a rock and a hard place.

So What Can Be Done?

Ok so now I get it, but now knowing what the problem is what can be done about it? Well that seems to fall on the parents, the schools, friends, pretty much everybody. Why do I say that? Because if we don’t start doing something soon this country is going to be overrun with nothing but people who can’t handle anything without popping a pill, and if it a comes to a point where they can’t get that pill guess where there going to find it? On every drug dealers street corner or home, either that or out of a bottle Either way it’s a dead end (no punt intended)

Right now in the US alone there are over 17,000,000 yes that’s not a typo it’s millions of children are diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder, and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. That does not include the amount of people taking Valium, Xanax, Sobril to calm themselves down, or all the antidepressants Paxil, Zoloft, etc to subdue their emotions or lets just say mind altering medications.

I think what really tops it off though is I went to the doctor mainly because of these excruciating headaches I get which are caused by a large growth in my jaw diagnosed august of last year. In may of this year I went to the hospital (Winter Haven Hospital/ Winter Haven Fl) through the e.r. (had passed out twice) telling them about the growth and the doctors who diagnosed it only to spend 8 days there 7 or more scans, xrays, blood work, specialists, etc, for them to tell me there was no growth Doctor after doctor, nope no growth, nada, but I saw it in the x-rays, I thought it was a miracle. I was finally discharged with over 15 different medications to take, (now I had bronchitis) to find out 2 months later the growth was there the whole time. They just missed it. And yes it’s still there, the size of an egg is what the oral surgeon tells me just eating away at the bone in my jaw.

Sorry for ranting I just wanted you to know why I get a little aggravated when I talk about it, as I did when I was in the doctors office. So what was the next question out of the doctor, “Do you want something to calm you down or an anti depressant?” AAAAAHHHHHH (I didn’t do that in the office) I took the prescription for the antidepressant which I don’t take just so she could feel at ease. I didn’t want to kill myself I was just aggravated.

But you see that’s the thing these days people think that you are out of control or ADD or whatever other label they want to put on you just for being passionate about something or aggravated, expressing yourself.

I, as do we all have a right to express emotions, and be passionate about things. To love something so much it’s all you think about, (well not all but a lot). Since when did that become an illness? Expressing yourself and your opinions about something builds character. It’s why we have debate teams in school, political debates, etc.

Is that what the US is coming to is a country where emotions are a thing of the past? Well I’ll probably be gone by then considering my age which is a good thing since they would have to hog tie me to take a pill to stop.

So parents, teachers, etc. please let these children express themselves. They have so much to give and just want to get it out. Start a drama class after school take them to a martial arts class, play a game of kickball, have them write a story about anything that will let them be expressive.


What A Great Book

Dr. Phil gives advice coinciding with Dr Lawlis who wrote an incredible book The ADD Answer which I highly recommend before the trip to the doctor. He expresses concern for the amount of children on medication right now and the consequences it will bring later, how to get a proper diagnosis, how not all ADD has to be treated with medication, (Hallelujah), and the resources you need to help you get through this. I’ve listed the book below

I wish you the best and if you would like more information or some ideas on how to help to maybe get some respect and control  back in your lifeplease click here.

Make it an incredible day! You deserve it.

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    • Charlu profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Moonlake Thanks so much for your suggestions There is a clinic and also a county health care program and neither do oral surgeries. It really makes me a little crazy sometimes

      You are so right about the meds and what kills me is the government giving more money to parents with kids on the meds so that's what they go in looking for. They have no idea of the destruction they are causing.

      Thank you so much for taking the time to share, comment and vote, along with your caring support. Take care and Happy Easter

    • moonlake profile image


      6 years ago from America

      Sorry about the tumor hope you find some help. Remember all hospitals and clinics have community care that may help you some. You have to ask them for it, they won't tell you about it.

      To many meds are given out for nerves. We have had some emergency medical sickness through the years. I'm strong but I cry easy. I have never seen so many doctors and nurses get their panties in a wad if you shed a tear. Right away they want to give you meds.

      I think most kids don't have ADD or whatever. Their just brats and never told NO. Some need the meds but I don't think as many as you see now days.

      Good Hub Voted up.

    • Charlu profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Peggy So sweet of you to drop by. It's crazy and I've never seen the extent of how doctors anymore just have to cover their ass. It's just nuts.

      I still have the tumor and there are times it is a nightmare but unfortunately after the hospital and surgeons the insurance co. dropped me. But everything happens for a reason and I have been perusing other avenues but to no avail yet:)

      Thank you for comments, support, and votes. Take care and Happy Easter to you too. Talk to you soon

    • Peggy W profile image

      Peggy Woods 

      6 years ago from Houston, Texas

      What you wrote is so true. The same can be said about all of the tests, xrays, etc. that are done that might not be necessary in all cases. It is just that IF something is missed, the all to happy to sue public forces doctors to practice defensive medicine. Too bad it has come to this.

      So what about your tumor in your jaw? Was it removed and are you OK now? I truly hope so and that there was no residual damage to nerves in your face.

      Voted up and useful. Happy Easter tomorrow.

    • Charlu profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Florida

      Thanks for the comment and the worst part is it's a doubled edged sword. I think what bothers me the most is when I see them over medicated and living life in a daze without emotion or excitement.

      By the way I loved your hub and look forward to reading more.

      Have an incredible day

    • proudmamma profile image


      7 years ago from Parkersburg

      Enjoyed the read. I feel doctor's overmedicate too many times, more than any of us can even imagine. When I was growing up, it was very rare to have someone taking medication for ADD or ADHD. It is an indicator, as you pointed out, how times have changed over the years. Everyone is sue happy. I look forward to reading more of your hubs.


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