- Family and Parenting
Parents With Children Out Of Control And The Diagnosis Is ADD, ADHD, Or Is It
A Trip to The Doctor and a New Outlook
After a trip to the doctor I started to understand why there is such an astronomical amount of children in the US being diagnosed or misdiagnosed ADD, and ADHD. I use to blame it mostly on the doctors now I can see their side a little better.
You see I used to blame the doctors, and some of the parents for choosing the easy way out just giving children a label, loading them up on medications, and moving on to the next one Although I still believe that is the case more often than not, I have to admit after thinking about what she said I had to take a closer look
My doctor explained to me, (don’t ask me how we got on the subject, oh yeah I brought it up) that when a parent comes in and explains the symptoms a child is having (which according to the parent) is out of control, could possibly be harmful, along with all the other symptoms unfortunately doctors really don’t have a choice.
Understanding if the family left the office and something happened to where the child injured themselves or someone else, having been seen by a doctor who did nothing, they are often setting themselves up to be sued. That being said if they don’t diagnose them and give them treatment/medication what’s the alternative? Yes, they should send them to a specialist in the mental health field or someone who specializes in ADD, and ADHD, but sometimes insurance or finances will not allow that, so their stuck between a rock and a hard place.
So What Can Be Done?
Ok so now I get it, but now knowing what the problem is what can be done about it? Well that seems to fall on the parents, the schools, friends, pretty much everybody. Why do I say that? Because if we don’t start doing something soon this country is going to be overrun with nothing but people who can’t handle anything without popping a pill, and if it a comes to a point where they can’t get that pill guess where there going to find it? On every drug dealers street corner or home, either that or out of a bottle Either way it’s a dead end (no punt intended)
Right now in the US alone there are over 17,000,000 yes that’s not a typo it’s millions of children are diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder, and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. That does not include the amount of people taking Valium, Xanax, Sobril to calm themselves down, or all the antidepressants Paxil, Zoloft, etc to subdue their emotions or lets just say mind altering medications.
I think what really tops it off though is I went to the doctor mainly because of these excruciating headaches I get which are caused by a large growth in my jaw diagnosed august of last year. In may of this year I went to the hospital (Winter Haven Hospital/ Winter Haven Fl) through the e.r. (had passed out twice) telling them about the growth and the doctors who diagnosed it only to spend 8 days there 7 or more scans, xrays, blood work, specialists, etc, for them to tell me there was no growth Doctor after doctor, nope no growth, nada, but I saw it in the x-rays, I thought it was a miracle. I was finally discharged with over 15 different medications to take, (now I had bronchitis) to find out 2 months later the growth was there the whole time. They just missed it. And yes it’s still there, the size of an egg is what the oral surgeon tells me just eating away at the bone in my jaw.
Sorry for ranting I just wanted you to know why I get a little aggravated when I talk about it, as I did when I was in the doctors office. So what was the next question out of the doctor, “Do you want something to calm you down or an anti depressant?” AAAAAHHHHHH (I didn’t do that in the office) I took the prescription for the antidepressant which I don’t take just so she could feel at ease. I didn’t want to kill myself I was just aggravated.
But you see that’s the thing these days people think that you are out of control or ADD or whatever other label they want to put on you just for being passionate about something or aggravated, expressing yourself.
I, as do we all have a right to express emotions, and be passionate about things. To love something so much it’s all you think about, (well not all but a lot). Since when did that become an illness? Expressing yourself and your opinions about something builds character. It’s why we have debate teams in school, political debates, etc.
Is that what the US is coming to is a country where emotions are a thing of the past? Well I’ll probably be gone by then considering my age which is a good thing since they would have to hog tie me to take a pill to stop.
So parents, teachers, etc. please let these children express themselves. They have so much to give and just want to get it out. Start a drama class after school take them to a martial arts class, play a game of kickball, have them write a story about anything that will let them be expressive.
What A Great Book
Dr. Phil gives advice coinciding with Dr Lawlis who wrote an incredible book The ADD Answer which I highly recommend before the trip to the doctor. He expresses concern for the amount of children on medication right now and the consequences it will bring later, how to get a proper diagnosis, how not all ADD has to be treated with medication, (Hallelujah), and the resources you need to help you get through this. I’ve listed the book below
I wish you the best and if you would like more information or some ideas on how to help to maybe get some respect and control back in your lifeplease click here.
Make it an incredible day! You deserve it.