Is it bad to want to totally disown family members that you really don't get along with or admire?
I have 2 sisters that are everything I try NOT to be...selfish, conceited, and all-around fake. Recently we had a falling out, and I decided that I don't HAVE to keep them in my life just because they're family. They bring me down more than anything, so why does everyone tell me it's so wrong?
I'm a firm believer in the fact that sharing blood means next to nothing. I have a few family members I don't get along with, just can't stand how they think the world revolves around them. And even more friends that I consider family. There's no point in surrounding yourself with people you don't like, life's too short for that. You can try your best to get along with family, but there comes a point where you've did all you can.
I think that you should work at getting along with everyone, especially your family members. Most of your family members have their own side to the story for every disagreement, and it might help you to step inside your shoes to see things from their point of view. Besides, you learn patience and the fine art of dealing with difficult people by practicing on your family members.
You've just had a falling out, just give it time, and then forgive and forget. It certainly doesn't look like you have a good reason to completely get them out of your life.
A family member who I love so dearly wounded and hurt me so badly that I almost died (emotionally) in pursuit of her selfish desire. Then, we weren't in speaking terms for quite some time. I let it be despite the pain, I surrendered her to the universe and release my soul free. Since then, I prayed every night that the Almighty continue to give me the strength I need and that she in return be blessed and enlightened. Did I ever think of disowning her? Well, much as I wouldn't want to condone what she did, I also didn't want to condemn her. So, no but I also do not have anything to do with her now. Hopefully in time, she'll realize what she did wrong and be sorry. If not, I'll bury the pain with me.
I have two sisters as you have described. They tell lies about me about me even though they are in their fifties. I have tried staying away for a number of years in the hope they will grow up but they have not and now I cannot be around them. I have no other family other than my children. I believe in family and needed mine but now know that I am never going to have the family I wanted so its sad. My honesty disturbs them and I cannot live any other way other than to be honest with people. When they found out I had suspected heart attack they were no where to be seen even though they live a mile away. they do not even know if I survived. Sometimes loving someone is not enough to have them in your life and I will always love my sisters. I hope that one day you sort it out with your sisters but I if not dont feel so bad. You have to do the best for yourself and if being around them disturbs you, you dont need it. All the best. Louise.
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