Any habits you started with your children that you wish you hadn't?

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  1. FreezeFrame34 profile image74
    FreezeFrame34posted 6 years ago

    Any habits you started with your children that you wish you hadn't?

    Sleeping with a bottle, sleeping in bed with you,....... what advice would you give to parents on habits that you started that you wished you never had?

  2. Lisa HW profile image65
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    There aren't any habits I ever regretted.  (My kids are grown now.)  The thing with such habits is this:  Children outgrow them.  They either outgrow them on their own, and sooner than parents had thought they would; or else, they get to be an age when they're old enough to understand words like, "Now, you're kind of big to be doing this, so let's think of something else to do."     When they're at one age and really in need of one thing or another, they actually do need whatever the habit is.  Then, they get a year or two older and no longer need it.  That's when it's not needed but just a habit, and that's when they're most often more ready to change the habit.

    One example I have is my son, who used to ask me to leave the bedroom light on until he fell asleep.  I didn't see it as a big deal, so I did.  Since I didn't want to go to sleep, myself, with a lamp on in his room, I'd shut it off before going to bed.  One night I went to say  "goodnight" to him.  As I started to leave he said, "Would you shut off the light?"  I said, "You don't want it on?"  He said, "No.  I want it off."  So, while he'd needed the light on when he was five, he no longer needed it on when he was seven.  As far as I was concerned, if he wanted the light on until he was thirty it was his business.  MOST of the time (I'd say pretty much all of the time), kids just outgrow things and decide they don't want to do them any more.

    I guess the advice I'd give is for parents to pay attention to when it is the child seems beyond his/her need for whatever the habit is, and "capitalize on it"  (or on some change in routine that may offer a good excuse for a change in the habit).  When my kids were little I'd let them fall asleep on the couch in the living room, and then I'd carry them to bed.  When preschool and/or kindergarten came around I said, "Now that you're going to school you have to go to sleep in your bed every night."  I was effortless to get them to stop expecting to "do the couch thing".  I think too many parents worry that little kids will do whatever they're doing "until they're 30".  They don't.  Each year they mature, and their needs, fears, and insecurities change as they do.  Something parents might want to do is read up on the different needs, fears, and insecurities of each stage of development.

  3. KathyH profile image94
    KathyHposted 6 years ago

    Letting them open and eat fruit snacks on the way home from the grocery store. Shopping with twins, I needed a few minutes of QUIET in the car!  We laugh about it today since they are now 25 years old, but I wish I hadn't been so lenient when it came to things like that! Good question!

  4. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 6 years ago

    Start buying a new house with more rooms. Stop your child from sleeping with you when he is 3 years old. My son still sleep with us because we don't have enough bedrooms. Stop saying "NO" when he ask for something because he will give you a "NO" when you ask for something.

 
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