Did you plan what age you wanted to have children? Why?

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   momsterposted 11 years ago

   Did you plan what age you wanted to have children? Why?

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   sadie423posted 11 years ago

   We decided that we wanted to start a family and I knew I wanted to be done by the time I was 30. But that was the only age factor.

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   Phil Plasmaposted 11 years ago

   I got married in 1999 at the age of 26 and my wife and I had our first child in 2002.  I didn't exactly plan to become a dad at any age, I just figured I would be ready when the day came.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   No.  When we married, I was 19, he 21.  We both really didn't think we wanted children at all, ever.  When I turned 26 all of that changed in the blink of an eye and I knew I would have children--had to have children.  But it didn't happen for a while.
   
   Had an ectopic (unplanned) pregnancy.  Then started with adoption and was going thru that process when I got pregnant with my oldest child. I was 30 and had my second child when I was 33.  I really needed that time to mature.  The second one was a complete surprise--turned out to be a good one too!

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   edhanposted 11 years ago

   We did not plan on this but now I am teaching my children to plan on the age of having children so they will be equipped with the right instructions.
   
   To us, the right age will be around 23 -28 years old. This means you already have a job and will be able to handle financially when having children.

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   LongTimeMotherposted 11 years ago

   To be honest, I think I spent more time planning what age 'not' to have children - I didn't want to be a young mother and I didn't want to be an 'older mother'.
   Any planning obviously counted for nothing because each of my children are much loved but certainly unplanned in the sense of thinking "now I'm going to try for a baby".
   I was a new mother in my early 20s (earlier than I'd have chosen), in my 30s (when I was ready and financially more secure) and in my 40s (when I thought I was long past falling pregnant). In my 30s I was also a foster mother. There have been definite advantages associated with each age and stage.
   Lots of loving, living and learning has gone into my role as a parent, but planning didn't have much to do with it.

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